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Recently I was diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) which has really opened my eyes about my life, but its so fucking hard to actually live with. If any of you have BPD is there any advice on living with it?
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I need an advice tho. I'm a girl and I have BPD, recently in a relationship and I feel like I'm becoming an obsessive gf.
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i recently was diagnosed with adhd and just think i should probably go ahead and end my life.
Not bpd, but I can empathize
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>>18472897
Nah, famalam. This shit is horrible. You'll try to kys until you make it into that 10% group of BPD sufferers who finally succeed to commit suicide despite their efforts to only do it 4 attention.
Please help.
I'm extremely close friends with this girl, but I often feel like I'm not as close to her as she is to me. I wonder a lot if I mean that much to her, even though I've helped her with a lot of her anxieties and whatnot.
It's summer right now, and she's on vacation with her family. It seems like she hasn't made much of an effort to talk to me. She is extremely sociable and outgoing, though, and she seems to cycle through friends a lot. It seems like she's forgotten about me. Then again, it may just be her personality.
I think I might love her, but I don't know. What if I just love the idea of her? I don't think that's quite it, as I've become so close to her over the past year and have come to known her very intimately as an individual. God, these are just thoughts that run through my head frequently. I don't know how I feel. Maybe I just care about her deeply as a friend who has gotten me through depression, insecurity about my sexuality (bi, not homo), etc.
Should I talk to her about these feelings? Should I figure out what they truly are first? I have no idea.
I don't want to lose her as a friend.
I don't want to be alone. She means so much to me.
PLEASE
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>>18473124
That is not helpful.
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>>18472786
You are a fucking lame motherfucker. She will never fuck you because of this weepy shit you just posted. You will always be a friend because that is how you started out.
The goal of dating is going out with eachother. if she saw you like that, she would be contacting you. Also, summer vacation with her family? What are you, fucking 12?
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My girlfriend has this best guy friend in grad school with her (He lives in NY this summer and my GF lives with me in Chicago). Now my GF says this guy friend is in love with her but she has never had feeling for him...they are just best friends.
Anyway about two weeks ago my GF and I got into a fight, however since making up I got to see the texts she had been sending this guy during our fight...some examples
>"I miss you so much and have been wishing you were in Chicago."
>"I wish we could go see a movie together, no one will go with me."
>"I'm thinking about going to London for the spring semester, will you go with me?"
>Random "Hi" to him in the middle of the work day.
Now since we've made up she hasn't texted him, and right now we are on vacation together for the weekend. However today she tried to send him a snapchat and she couldn't because he deactivated his account and she has been worried all day that he deactivated his snapchat account because she thinks for some reason he is mad at her.
...so yeah I'm really angry that shes wasting her vacation with me worrying about why some dude deleted his snapchat account. Also I'm getting tired of her saying this guy has a job making 180-200k out of school and I only making about 85k.
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>>18472777
cuckd
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Bang her all summer and before school starts break up with her before she goes to Europe and cheats on you.
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It's over, fuck her as long as you can and then YOU break up with her.
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>be me
>24
>met a girl recently at a wedding
>talked for a good bit
>had drinks, danced, made out
>exchanged numbers / snap
>she lives far away
Okay so to start off, everything was going smooth for a few weeks until a week ago. We usually go about texting or snapping each other often but then it just suddenly died down. I was beginning to think "oh well this is it the initial spark or whatever is starting to fade away" and we didn't really talk as much. However, recently she's been hitting me up randomly with the occasional nude pic. I tend to wait a while before responding because I feel like she's using me to seek external validation and I'm just giving her what she wants. If she does reply back at all it's usually very vague. Am I wrong here or can she tell that I really like her and she's manipulating my emotions?
Thoughts?
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selfless bump...
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>>18472535
clearly she want you to be in a relationship quite badly. Tell her that you are ready for commitment
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>>18472715
what?
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Will weightlifting, pursuing money and a good carreer help any guy (who isn't handsome) get with women ?
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>>18472453
Yes
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>>18472453
Short answer: Yes and No.
Long answer: Just been "not handsome" is not excuse for having no luck with women. In reality, you need to be poor, ugly, have a bad personality AND have a bad reputation to have 0% chance with women.
So while you can always up your chances, having high standards and other shitty practices diminishes them. Ask yourself if you are really trying or if you want a long term solution so you can keep busy and ignore the problems you have (and can fix) right now.
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>>18472471
The thing is that I'm honestly just looking for a pretty girl.
I guess it sounds shallow, but I think I'd be more than satisfied with her as long as she grabs my attention with her looks.
The is that I just don't know what to say to these girls.
Most of them are just random girls I meet when I'm out and about.
I think I keep getting rejected because I just don't know how to keep them interested.
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So I've been dating this girl for months now and she has some strange traits.
>Loves stuffed animals and kids toys
>Upset easily
>Depressed 50% of the time
>Loves Happy meals
>Playful in both a silly and sexual manner
>Very difficult time in social situations, has fainted in public before
Guys, what do you think is up with her? I want to say Asperger's but I may be wrong.
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Does she watch anime? It might explain everything.
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Sounds just a bit immature desu. She probably will grow out of it.
You posting anime pics probably need some growing up, too.
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>>18472419
I'm not even joking
I don't know what to do.
>22 yrs old
>been with gf for about 2 yrs and a half
>together thoughout uni
>we get along great, same values, sense of humor, great chemistry
>only thing is that we don't actually have much in common interests wise other than our degree and that we like to read
>we see eachother about twice a week usually due to travel etc
>recently feel like sex isn't as satisfying anymore
>not as interested in it, or feeling as strong towards her as before
>try to change things up but it doesn't really work, its only momentary
>start noticing other girls when out and about
>feel like shit because she's done nothing wrong, she's perfect and an amazing gf
>don't know what to do about this
Advice?
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Start getting interested in her hobbies and vise versa.
Or try finding a new hobby together with her (Even hiking)
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>>18472414
How is hobbies the issue? Surely this is more an issue of my attraction to her?
Besides, she doesn't really have hobbies besides reading, going to the movies and stuff. Maybe yoga but she doesn't really go to that anymore. Plus, she lives an hr away in a hard to reach area and I haven't got a car yet.
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Help pls
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I've lived in Morganton and Asheville, which have both been shitty, but in different ways. While Morganton has practically no jobs except those at the chicken plant, Asheville has plenty, but at the expense of a high cost of living. The real problem I encountered in Asheville, though, was the fact that nearly everyone I tried to mingle with seemed either pretentious or sketchy as fuck.
I'm not 100% sure what I'm looking for other than a place where I'll have an easy time finding work, won't get mugged, and won't have to put up with too many rednecks or hipsters.
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come to knoxville
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I grew up in Winston Salem. Actually the suburb, Clemmons.
Winston has a charm. I can't explain it. I haven't lived there for 8 years. But something within it resonated with me. Maybe it's just that it's home. Maybe because I'm in Florida now and it's so different. I would go back to Winston given the chance. I have no prospects there. Most of the people I knew in high school that still live there are junkies or have kids or otherwise shit. But the city is something.
Anyway, go to Greensboro.
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I lived outside of Raleigh in Knightdale.
It was pretty chill but very spaced out.
On that note Raleigh isn't so bad but it's been a few years since I've lived in NC so the housing market might have gone south since then.
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So I'm with a girl that I really love and see a future with but I've got a problem that I need to come to terms with and I'd like some help.
We've been together for over a year now and I plan on eventually marrying her but our sex life has pretty much ground to a halt. Some context so you understand why; growing up she was sexually abused by her father, heavy touching, fingered her, that kind of shit. That was what she went through for the last couple of years she lived at home.
I met her shortly after her mother and her fled that home and state and moved to my state. We started dating and after a couple of months we were each others first (consensual) sex partners. Fast forward another month after we first had sex and her dad finally killed himself because his family had finally abandoned him. For financial reasons she and her mother had to go back to their home in their home state to set their affairs in order. She was gone for about two months, we just continued the relationship long distance.
After everything was taken care of I flew in to her home state and drove her and all of her stuff back to my state to have her live with me. However, since the time she spent back in that home where all that shit happened to her our sex life has been bad. Sex about once a week and when we do it I'm constantly keeping an eye on her for any sign that she's upset or uncomfortable. I'm 23 and she's 21 so you guys have age context as well.
To be clear I don't believe this will always be like this. I believe that our sex life will eventually get better when she sees a therapist and gets everything dealt with emotionally. When we first started dating it was great. I'm not going to leave her because I love her, so that's off the table. If told it would be like this always I would just accept it. What I want from this thread is just ideas about how to deal with this while it's an issue.
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You sound like a great guy. Really.
If you're dissatisfied with the amount of sex, you'll need to get used to fapping. Or try to lower the degree of the sexual acts - instead of a lot of normal sex, do sex once in a while and a lot of oral or any less "heavy" acts you can think of. It might get her engines going too.
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>>18472334
Oral and even fingering stresses her out. Catholic upbringing so even before she went back home oral was something we were kind of getting used to slowly, and fingering since she's come back freaks her out because it's like her dad all over again.
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>>18472322
>What I want from this thread is just ideas about how to deal with this while it's an issue.
Immediate therapy is really the only solution to this problem. She has experienced sexual trauma and there is not home remedy for it. There is no "waiting it out". She needs professional help.
If you honestly believe that you can sustain a long term, sexless relationship with an untreated sexual trauma victim you need just as much help as she does.
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Me and my crush are friends but it's not going anywhere. She doesn't have feelings for me and I have accepted that. Is it wrong that I don't want to be friends with her anymore?
I have made a couple of moves on her and to which she has declined. We get along great though, but it's tough knowing that feelings for one another aren't mutual. I get hurt every time we hang out because I know she doesn't like me in that way, and spending time with her reminds me of that.
What do I do in this situation? I'm thinking about sending a text explaining why I don't want to be friends. How do I word the text? How bitter is this all sounding? She is literally my only friend and the only person I spend time with.
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It's not wrong to stop being friends with her. It's actually the right thing to do.
Try and distance yourself slowly
"Wanna hang out"
"sorry cant today"
over and over with different excuse every time until she stops thinking of asking.
Or you could go with a "big bang"
A text message (or face to face, which is better i m o ) telling her how you feel and how it hurts and you'd prefer not being close to her anymore.
Good luck man. Find other friends, cus it'll fuck you up.
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>>18472321
Alright, cool, i'll think about it. It's becoming more of a better option.
It's just finding new friends for me is hard. I don't know anybody else that I can just hang out with.
It's a catch 22. Be a cuck or be alone with no friends.
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>>18472353
Can't you find friends at work, or any other social gathering you're in?
(And if you don't have a job, find one)
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ex's new gf turned him into a crackhead within their one month relationship. I was with him for over a decade. I've missed him so much and it just kills me that he won't stop using drugs, please slap some sense into me, I cannot afford to give a shit about this man anymore.
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>>18472289
haha you cuck, he was probably using while you were together you just didn't see the signs.
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>>18472299
No he was just using different drugs. We spent almost every day together. The problem is just that they're all he gives a shit about.
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Tell the police & cut ties afterwards. They'll force him into rehabilitation and you could cut ties knowing you did the right thing and won't need to bother him more to help.
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How do you edit which people you have as fb friends are visible to which other people on your friends list. like, if i wanted to make it so some people on my friends list couldn't see certain other people on there. Or, if different people could only see certain groups of friends? I can't find the button to do it
thanks
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Go to your profile page, click the friends list, then click the edit button in the corner.
Not sure if you can hide individual friends from others, you can hide your whole friends list though so only you can see it.
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>>18472257
*manage button, rather. Right next to "Find Friends"
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>deletes everything
>girl's name still visible in address bar
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Naive college brat here trying to find my own apartment for the first time (with one friend). Realistically, what mentality should I have towards finding housing? My budget is around $2700 in Boston, but paying 4 months of rent as a deposit up front seems ridiculous to me. Is that something I just need to accept in getting a place? There was also one agent who tried to pressure me into putting down a $500 deposit that would lock me in, and gave me 30 minutes to decide with my friend.
Are there any ways to play this smart this late in the summer, or do I just have to work with this?
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>>18472226
>do I just have to work with this?
Not from where you're from so I can't help you with the rest, but when you're renting as a student, it's basically the landlord's game.
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Try Allston. You're at a disadvantage this late into the summer, but the 30 minute bit seems like cruel tactics, and the four months deposit seems a bit much. The 500 also sounds like a broker fee, which not all places will ask for. As a grad student, I got first and last month for a deposit on a one bedroom more than 1k less than your budget.
Again, Allston. Maybe check out some places farther down the red line, in the UMass area?
The summer can be a tough time to look. Good luck!
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>>18472940
Unfortunately, Allston is terribly inconvenient location wise for me, since I'd have to take the B line and then transfer to E just to get to my school, Northeastern University. Thanks though.
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What is it like to be attractive? 2017-06-30 09:21:22 Post No.18472225
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What is it like to be attractive?
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I am trying to live vicariously through people on 4chan.
What is it like to be attractive? I feel like I have never attracted a female. It's a sad feeling when you take into consideration how much of a males worth rides on being able to attract females.
I don't have that masculine spark that seems to make women do retarded things like date a meth addict or stay in a abusive relationship.
What the fuck is it that those dudes have that entice women so easily?! God damn!
What is it like to be attractive and actually get to go on dates and have person not pity you or be appalled or play games with your heart? What does it feel like to have a person actually want to be around you?
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>>18472225
>I don't have that masculine spark that seems to make women do retarded things like date a meth addict or stay in a abusive relationship.
It's not something about the guy that makes women do that, it's a weakness in that particular woman. If you're willing to date a woman who has significant flaws, then you can land one just as easily as those guys do.
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>>18472225
>What the fuck is it that those dudes have that entice women so easily?!
Pick one or more:
-confidence
-social status
-money
-looks
-a 'dangerous' personality
You can cultivate all of those to a degree.
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Being attractive on the outside doesn't help when you're still fucked in the head. And you will only feel used and deprived when no one gives a shit about you and only wants to fuck you once and that's it.
The grass is always greener on the other side.
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Lately I've been sad.
Like, really really sad.
This isn't depression. It's more like a weird state of insanity. Sleep basically doesn't exist for me and eating is a varying battle. I twitch and shutter and pull my hair. I want to scream at the top of my lungs and cry my eyes out. I started feeling like this recently and am sort of confused.
This might sound stupid, but I'm serious.
I can keep you updated if you wish. I don't mind. Maybe I can get help.
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>>18472213
Get help immediately. This isn't a matter for /adv/, seek out a psychiatrist.
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You can call emergency numbers, and don't be afraid of a psych ward. They just want to help you to get better and be functional again.
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A psych ward? I... I can't do that. I just can't. I'm having a breakdown just thinking about that. Electronic shock therapy. Medication turns my brain to putty. I couldn't go through that.