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>>18683888
1) ditch the girl and purchase online (darknet obv) using BTC/MON, it's cheaper and safer
2) don't host big parties
3) keep your pieces out of the open / in a safe
4) ???
5) profit

t. Living in Utah and used to smoke a shit ton of weed

>>18684029
I don't want to get fucking shit on by weed scammers, plus I'm underage I'm not trying
to get bags full of weed and sell them.

>>18683886
I just started community college myself. And it is a hard thing to get into initially, because it really makes you think what you want out of life. You have fi strive for the thing that will make you happy, but you have to also do the work required to achieve it. Do you really want a degree? Do you want to make your parents happy? Or do you just want to join the navy? I'd say try community college for a bit and if you cant find any reason to continue, you have to explain to your parents that joining the navy is what you want, and that it is a good substitute for academia. Afterall, wouldnt the military pay for your college after you're done serving?

In any case, stay true to youself and follow the path to do what youbwant to. But ultimately, dont give up on that path if you think getting there will be too hard. The reward is always worth it.

>>18683884
Girl don't let him play you! He came back because he needed the comfort of familiarity. You need to tell him to leave you alone so your mourning period won't last too long, then get on with your life. You existed before him, and you will continue to now.

>>18683884
>I feel lost without him

No you don't. You are lonely. We all feel lonely. Give your time to a homeless shelter or something like that, put work in.

>>18683884
Where did you get this pic anon? Could've sworn I took it. Though I imagine its a common shot.

So, how does someone become good? Or, how does someone use their powers for good rather than evil? Being an asshole is too popular now. The world has way too many assholes around. The truth is, I really hate evil people, even common, everyday evil. Is there a way to start being good? It's not as easy as simply going to church, not for someone without a herd mentality.

>>18683859
You have to look inside yourself, and truly settle with who you want to be. When you know the answer, focus on it. Make sure you're following the right path, and always resist urges. I assume you to be very intelligent, so you will know what is right, and what is wrong, and how to act on things. But remember. In the long run, only you can help yourself. Because you will constantly need to be thinking about yourself and your choices, if you actually want to change yourself.

>>18683879
Maybe it's best to judge people by their actions, and to not call them good or evil, but I feel guilty for having this disposition at all. The condemnation I have received hasn't helped, and neither have my encounters with other...special personalities. In fact, encounters with other troubled people have been the absolute worst influence on my self-image.

It's like I am in the sicko club and don't know the way out. Sometimes I feel that guilt is preventing me. I feel guilty when children are interested in me, or when someone compliments me, like they wouldn't be so friendly if they knew what I was really like. I have been forced by circumstance to befriend people who's actions I don't approve of at all. I want to burst out of this old skin.

Put yourself in social situations that are neither binding or that really matter as frequenty as possible. Examples; get a part time retail job and try and start up a conversation with anyone you can. Try and be clever, funny, and smooth. If you fuck up it won't matter, you just learn from your mistakes and move on to the next customer. Another thing is go to bars and clubs and try and speak to women with no expectations rather than to work on your game. You'll get better and better the more you do it. Essentially practice makes perfect. Also going to the gym and wearing fshionable, yet age appropriate clothes help. Good luck.

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>>18683762
Maybe you didn't catch my drift-- I'm out of shape, and sex didn't go so great-- two years out of dating/relationship wasn't good for me, and frankly, my ex and me was a dead bedroom anyway... so the point is that I CAN date and get women, but need to get fit again so I am not feeling embarassed in bed. I'm not really an exercise kind of guy, and have no idea what I should be doing to improve in this way.

>>18683781
I hate to say it, but you need to get in better shape. Even if you start out small, starting to work out and get in better shape will go a long way. It will help with sex as well. Try masturbating wtith condoms as well; it will increase you arousal to less stimulation and will also help you last longer. Also, it is 2017 and apps like tinder make it easy to find practice girls that are willing to sleep with you. At the very least you can work on your technique. Hopefully that helps more.

I feel the same. I am in a high-paid job and have a 8/10 gf. I think we are chemically depressed my man.

I feel empty 99% of the time. Nothing interests me anymore. I'm going to make an appointment sometime soon. I don't particularly enjoy this constant feeling

Staying in the present moment is a skill you can train.

Try meditation

Bump. I just want a few responses.

invest yourself in a community? whether it's offline, or online.

i don't know your interests, but you're on 4chan.

plenty of people escape into pen and paper or MMOs.

>>18683815
Oh I have. Don't worry about that. Am I doing the right thing by not dating?

Forgot to say it could become pretty awkward because we partly have the same friends and could happen to hang out more often in our group

>>18683648
The answer is ALWAYS no if you don't ask.

>>18683775
Yeah but when it comes to girls I like I'm becoming a shy person who's too stupid to ask without making it kinda awkward

Most people don't either, they just force themselves into a particular identity or aesthetic that they like. This particular identity or aesthetic also changes over time.

People are constantly curating the history of their own lives.

I definitely feel this way, going beyond even male and female, but animals, fictional forms, and viscous or amoeba like entities.

>>18683601
Here's my story. I'll try to be brief:

>Earlier this year, I dated this qt3.14 kinda nerdy girl I've found in a dating app.
>She divorced from her husband two years ago.
>She's messed up by the divorce, to the point of taking pills because of it.
>We dated 6 times in total, in about 1 1/2 month. She claimed I was the first guy she dated repeated times since her divorce.
>We also used to talk 1-2 hours everyday. I have 200+ pages of dialogue with her.
>I know she liked me, but I also know I was more into her than the other way around.
>She made clear she didn't want a proper boyfriend, because she still had strong feelings which she was trying to deal with, and she wanted to do certain things (like traveling) without having to report to anyone.
>But I was blinded by stupidity and ignored it.
>One day, she said she had a fight with her mother. After this day, she gradually stopped talking to me the way she used to.
>We had a last date after this, in which we barely kissed. She kept saying "Good morning" everyday in the next week, but refused to engage in a proper conversation.
>I asked her on another date, but she refused.
>Then I stopped talking to her and began dating other girl.

After this, she stopped going out to clubs the way she used to do, as far as I know. She didn't do the travel she was planning to do. And she started to use depressive quotes as whatsapp status messages. Everything seems to point out that she had a relapse in depression.

As for me, I dated two other girls for about 1 1/2 month each, but they weren't satisfying.

I know it is probably not a good idea, since she has serious issues and didn't want to keep the relationship up. But I want to give it another try. In this case, what would be the best approach? Should I text her? Call her? Should I wait to meet her in person? (We like to go to the same places, so I know I'll eventually meet her one day or another). What do you guys think?

Nope. I tried "dating" my first gf again after breaking up and being separated for a month. She invited to her apartment for dinner and to talk. there was no dinner and little talking, but about 3-hours of sex which was way better then any of the sex we had when we were together. We got into a fight literally the next day and were reminded why we broke up in the first place. the end.

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Don't do it.

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>>18683534
>I'm still incredibly in love with her and want her back, but have done nocontact for 9 months.
I know that feel bro

Stop. You're putting them on a pedestal and ignoring their bad qualities. Think about them. They're there. You know they are.

t. guy who was broken up about his ex for a long time

>>18684108
I'm not doing that at all. I'm fully cognizant of her bad qualities, but there weren't very many and the relationship ended because of my own stupidity. I was in the depths of total unconditional love with her and I lost her without warning in less than a week after three years, and have barely spoken to her in 8 months, and it's absolute torture.

>>18683531
>Is it possible for someone with only two years of retail work experience and little education to get a well paying, satisfying, career?
Well it's not just going to fucking land in your lap if that's what you're hoping. If you want to improve your life, you're going to have to crawl out of your mother's basement and do something, it's not just going to 'work itself out'

And cut the 'oh I don't like working retail' bullshit. You have literally nothing going for you, you're not in a position to be picky about what you do for a living.

>>18683543

I know it's not going to 'land in my lap', that's why I'm inquiring of possibilities for me to pursue.

>>18683531
You can get tons of good paying jobs without formal education but you're going to be working your ass off.

You don't need to work retail, cable companies always need field techs and train on the job so no previous experience is required. Instead of looking at pay look for 'no experience needed' jobs, Craigslist job postings are full of those types of jobs, the last 4 jobs Ive had were from there and all of them were new fields to me.

>>18683416
Stop drinking lol

>>18683424
I wish it was that easy, I really do. I always thought I have strong will. I've tried many drugs and never got addicted, smoked weed everyday for a year and then dropped it just because I moved out of the city and changed friends. But with alcohol it's different.

selfbump.

>>18683408
>Another thing that is weird to me is that she went through this with me, and every now and then mentions her dad, since he has children with several different women and I'm not sure if he's married and its just a weird situation.

I forgot the point i was trying to make here was that she is always shit talking cheating since her dad does it a lot.

Heh, my ex told me she wanted me when she was still dating another guy. Said she was going to break up with him either way. I told her I would not engage her further until she did so out of respect for him. But I noted that she would do something like that to a boy.

Fast forward a couple years. She left me a month ago and I still wonder if there was another guy towards the end of our relationship.

Very few women behave ethically in dating.

>>18683403
Darknet