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were you bullied in the past? I behave this way also but I'm a softie inside

>>18685272
I was, yeah. I'm supposing my behavior is a direct result of that.

I was the same all the way to age 23 until my partner pushed me to be more social. It just came with practice. I had to lower my defenses around other people and relax my tone and learn to allow my emotions to come out instead of sounding blocked off all the time. It just comes with practice.

First learn proper grammar.

How can I be brilliant /adv?

>>18685051
I did my driving test high. It's a bad idea anon.

>>18685051
I wouldn't. But if you really want to you should be fine within 4 hours. If you don't feel fine just tell him you got diarrhea or something.

another factor, we have the fact that she does not give me all the treatment she gives her, but I understand that she is going through a lot, I'm afraid of being very angry and end up hurting her, but she has a lot of head, I do not know what to do actually,

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ohh dear

Walk away. You're being used as her validation dispenser machine/emotional tampon. She's not really interested on you since she's been flaking for more than two times in your story.

Realize that there'll be always people who behave like this, and have some respect to your own time and cut away your investment and loss. Just saying.

>>18684999

She's probably lied to you about something and meeting you would mean she gets caught. Walk away and never look back.

>>18685013
She's actually cancelled on me over 5 times. Keeps telling me she really does want to see me but she's scared. Surly if you really want to see someone you would face that silly fear like I do.
Maybe you are right and she's just using me as an emotional tampon.

Quit being a beta male faggot and go get her number now Anon.

>>18685003
Helpful as ever. But you're right. I need to stop being a fucking beta faggot. I'll ask her as soon as I see her next. Time to man the fuck up.

Nah, youre just honest with yourself, and above frivolus bullshit. Nothin wrong with singleplayer mode.

Sounds like a good situation to me. I personally would like to have a girlfriend, but I'm trying to not let it bother me too much and just go on with life and hope that maybe one day I'll meet someone I could actually fall in love with. It does scare me a bit that it'll never happen, so I envy you. Wish I could also just not give a single shit, but maybe someday I'llreach that state. Not like there aren't more important things, I wouldn't trade my friends for a girlfriend and I'm hopeful about my career. Can't always get the cream on the cake, doesn't mean the cake can't still be good. You keep doing you buddy, as long as you're happy with your life you're doing it right.

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>>18684980
>>18684994
Thanks anons.

>>18684933

>Hey, what's up?
>How's it going?

If you know of anything going on in their life, ask about that.

>Is your mom still doing okay?
>How's that new car working out for you?

People like talking about themselves. I learned this working customer service.

Most importantly:

>Hey, wanna get together sometime?

Don't just spend all your time with your friends on VC playing vidya. Go out and do things with them.

>Anyone wanna go see the new ________ movie?

>>18684933
I used to play Planetside 2 with one of my closest friends. We talked pretty much all the time. Most of the time, or at least as we start we talk about the game, what strategies we should use, what we did wrong last time, how we can improve. It makes both parts think and engage in the conversation. It's really just a kickstarter, because after an hour the conversation goes from game-related to real life related and back again seamlessly without thinking about it.

Then we didn't play for 2 years. We tried to play another game and I experienced what you explained. Remember this is one of my real life friends I've gone to school with and stuff, but still the conversation was dead as fuck which kind of surprised me. But once again I found that focusing on the game initially works as lube for the conversation. It's simply about establishing a rhythm between you. As soon as the gears of communication are oiled up, segwaying into other casual talk is quite easy.

>>18684933
Just say whatever man, it's just game chat it's not like anything you say on there will actually matter.

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I was thinking about something in a lab, like a biologist. What you guys think?

Post ads in the personals on Craigslist with their phone number or just nut up and knock one out.

>>18685002
They're girls, I can't beat them neither compete with their socialness.

Shut up.
Life is literally a dice role.
You could've been pajeet shitting designated street.
Oh fuck.... Are you pajeet that shits in street? That explains the bad English

Oh god...
LOL

No, not me. Though when I started work I went through periods of having money then not. Now I'm poor but I get along just about. It's not easy.

Well OP you're clearly a faggot that isn't grateful for the bare minimum.
Are you physically handicapped? Mentally handicap in a way wear you can't provide for yourself?

Well seems like you're able bodied so stop crying and deal with it.

Had none of the actors, musicians, entrepreneurs etc. Have some form of need to improve their lives we wouldn't have what they provide.

I'm not saying you're gonna do any good with your life but to hate your family for it is stupid and childish.

Fucking fool. So what if yoir family home leaked?

There's people drowning in some jungle thing near, in India due to flood.
The same in Texas.

There's kids born with cancer.

And all you manage to do is cry because you weren't given money on your graduation?

Know what?

You're worse than pajeet who shits in designated shitting streets.

Social anxiety you should probably visit a therapist. Hobbies, try and find something more creative or good for your well being, there must be something. As far as business maybe sort out your other problems first, you'll find it easier afterwards. You need to be able to get in the habit of self discipline , like studying or practice. Maybe learn book keeping?

Quit vidya and replace with gym. Its full of people who have goals and achieve.

>>18684872
No.

Reduce vidya, add gym.

I think the idea is that if you look at her and she smiles its a go signal. From there you approach her make some small chat, dance around like chimps and then you make out with her.
Take this with a grain of salt since this comes from my observation of what of how other people do it in nigt clubs.

Im no expert but i hookup with girls at clubs 80% of the time i go with mates.

Its pretty easy, everyones drunk so assume girls that smile/GRIND on you like you.

This is what i do, i dance around etc with friends and mingle around looking for a qte girl that smiles/dances with me. Once i find her, i dance with her, then grab her hips while smirking and staring into het eyes. She will smile back, i slowly move my face close to hers and damce with our bodies grinding each other. lastly i pull my face back then smirk more at her and eye fuck her eyes, by this point i go in and makeout with her because her body language says "kiss me!".

Sometimes i get too drunk and after i hookup i leave the girl for my mates to tell them. Then i lose her cause silly drunk me left her lol.

Also, fuck me for not being able to spell "socialize."

Stop working from home, get an office job or something just so you can socialize with people. I used to work from home for a little bit, trust me, it's not something you want to do.

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>>18684704
>How are you?
I'm doing okay. I hope you are too.

>What's the latest in the world of anon?
Went out last night and ended up hooking up with my ex-girlfriend. It was really nice but now I'm tired and I'm realising I've missed the intimacy.

>What are the positive aspects of your life as of late?
I'm working a job that I really like and I still have enough free time to do the things I want to do. I could be making more money but life isn't bad.

>What are the negative aspects of your life as of late?
Hm. I lead a decent life. I wish I had my own place but it's not that big of a deal at this point in my life. I'm an emotionally switched off person. I have trouble genuinely connecting with people. That's why I'm feeling a little blue right; hooking up with someone I did share something with. It's always going to mean something, you know?

>How do they compare with the past?
I think our problems differ from year to year. We're always in a flux of positive of negative.

>What can you do to remedy these troubles?
That's just life, brother. Can't win 'em all.

Hey man.

Positives
>Doing well in my IT diploma
>Getting really good at drumming
>Just generally doing well metally

Negitive
>I've caught feelings for a girl and I'm terrified of how it will work out. I think she's going to lose interest in me bc i come off clingy but I'm just really affectionate. Idk man I just
Idk

>>18684704


>>18684704

Yeah you can but your carer will get the money

Hi Lauren, wrong board