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Try to think like this
- He's the last person on earth so you will appreciate his presence.
- He's the one who stood and said his feeling when others hurt your feeling. So u will grateful for his love.
- U r the example of someone who got hurt so much it doesn't matter if you hurt someone back just by not caring bout their existence. So will you love him enough to change it so that u won't hurt him and turn him into exactly like you in the future .
Think like that and see if his image in your mind change ?

>>18485565
>How to overcome my issues?
If I were you, I would try to identify said "issues" clearer and more concretely.

>>18485680
Thank you, this is could be very effective. Will try that.

>>18485701
True. I have been working on that for a while now. I mostly have problems with guys wanting sex too much (I find that repulsive), always expecting them to leave anyway, a bit of an inferiority/superiority complex (it alternates) and being a push-over. There are more I am sure, still trying to pinpoint them though.

I'll fuck you

Go read the book of pook. That should help you.

I don't want to be the 27 year old virgin, rather be dead. Only thing stopping me right now is the grandparents, don't what to do it while their still alive.

>>18485371
I don't

>>18485371
Generally I don't, I'm a weird eccentric that people think is weird off the bat or they like me and I think I'm dull. I associate with people trying to find the rare people that like me and that I like, because when you find them they take away a large part of the loneliness and sadness that I feel. And maybe I'll find a partner that actually loves me eventually that I love back.

I found a sewing/knitting/crafty group locally that I started going to regularly. It feels so nice to talk to people with similar interests.
Recently I went out to lunch one on one with a group member. It makes me feel like a regular person

Sorry for greentext copy/pasted whole thing accidentally from other thread since I got no response

>>18485362
>What are the chances it explodes

close to 0

>>18485402
I thought you're never supposed to rapidly heat up cold glass with heat?

Gr8 b8 m8

Not really though, fuck off.

>>18485335
if you're really 7 inches (like you measured it properly with a ruler) then don't worry. if you show it to a girl who likes you she would probably say it's 10 inches. bitches are stupid and they can't actually tell how long your dick is or how tall you are.

>>18485340
I'm not b8ing you dumb ass, I genuinely have insecurities about my dick size.

>>18485322
If you both like each other still ask him to forgive you and take him back.

>>18485322
Exes are exes for a reason. They should stay exes. He fucked up, so find someone better.

Generally I say don't redo a flop. What are you exactly talking about when you say miscommunication and over how long a time period?

Really bad, because it sounds like anything would do.

Correct answer is "You"

>>18485256

this. but in addition to that, it sounds really fucking shallow. shes not going to think 'OH WOW ANON HAS SUCH A FRUITFUL AND AMAZING LIFE AND ALL HE IS MISSING IS A GF TO MAKE IT COMPLETE' she is going to think 'WOW ANON IS A REAL FUCKING LOSER WHO IS SO DESPERATE FOR A GIRLFRIEND THAT ANYTHING WOULD DO'

at least when you say 'you' it comes with the idea that you are being flirty, that realistically you would take something else, but you are trying to let her know you're into her.

>>18485264
What if she's not into me the least bit, how bad will "you" seem. Or can she laugh it off?

>>18485188
Selfishness is a good thing.
It's altruism that people should get rid of

>>18485188

why do you think it's bad for you?

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>>18485188
Selfishness in oneself or in others?

Sounds like she's quite clingy and needy. Maybe you should talk to her about this and how you need more space.

>>18485141
Tell her that you want to sit at home smoking pot, playing video games and see your friends, tell her that you feel like she is stopping you from doing those things.
If you approach the topic of wanting space, it will make her upset (thinking you don't want to be with her) or even more clingy.

Failing that, try the approach of double dating with a friend or having her there, or see if you get limit the amount of weekends she visits, or even have her come over in the evening on Saturday/on Sunday for the day after you see your friends.

>>18485141
It sounds shitty, but most people need a little bit of conflict & drama to stay interested in a relationship. It needs to feel like a challenge sometimes. The good parts of a relationship get boring if there aren't a few fights to balance them out.

It sounds like the challenge is gone from your relationship. She loves you, she dotes on you, she wants to please you & be with you all the time. You're cool with her family, there's no conflict there either. It's all settled and sweet.

So you're bored. You've beaten the game. How many people keep playing a video game after they've won every single level? I know it sounds shitty to compare it that way, but the concept is essentially the same. She's made it all too easy for you, and you can't help but get bored.

>>18485111

its not a mental problem if its not even as bad as in that pic. people need to stop thinking that anything they arent perfect at is suddenly a 'mental problem'.

get a friend to help you organize and promise that they are the ones who decide what stays and what goes. you can argue the point like 'oh i need this because of X reason' and if they agree you can keep it, and if not it goes in the charity box, the trash box, or the storage box.

but yeah putting all your stuff in some rental garage might help you out OP

>>18485119
>its not a mental problem if its not even as bad as in that pic. people need to stop thinking that anything they arent perfect at is suddenly a 'mental problem'.

I disagree. The mentality OP described is how most hoarders begin to have an issue. Hoarding doesn't start out buried neck-deep in shit, it starts with emotional attachment to objects that are otherwise not considered to be of sentimental value.

I had a serious hoarding problem when I was younger. Mine stemmed from depression, and it was so bad that I was actually defecating in my room for years. It became a biohazard with all the moldy shit, old food caked on dishes, etc.

I'm better now, years later, still depressed but no longer living in my own filth. I strongly urge OP and anyone else itt with hoarding tendencies to get help as early as possible.

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i did this at the start of the year and it felt great, having too much shit around is just bad for your mindstate (call it Feng shui or w/e)

i wouldnt call it a mental problem unless it's extreme hoarding where you don't even bother to take out the trash

trust me, your whole vibe will change once you wake up in a tidy bedroom with white walls, natural light and plants around

Treat them like kids

Professionally

>>18484903
Talk to them as little as possible and. Avoid being in the same room as them.

I wind up cutting all contact after she called me for the first time in years and just hearing her voice killed me inside. A couple of months later some shit happens and were talking again. She apparently did some soul searching and discovered that she's loved me all along but has just been in denial about it. We both admit our feeling for each other are still pretty strong and hit it off again. The dilemma I've run into is that before ex and I started talking again I met someone on OKC and have gone on a few dates with them and we hit it off really well, we both love horror, anime, just various nerdy shit and she's really cute and sweet I just don't know what I should do because I refuse to string either of them along. A little more background, since my ex fiance I've had issues emotionally connecting in relationships and I eventually emotionally shut down and break things off resulting in broken hearts and self hatred. A big concern with my ex is that I'm scared she's going to cheat. She's a solid 9/10+ and can have anyone she wants and I'm maybe a 5/10? It doesn't help that she has a super high sex drive and the fact that we're half a country away from each other for another year. The chick I started seeing prior to talking to my ex though is local, a virgin(surprisingly) and pretty straightforward from everything I can see my only issues are she works quite a bit so we don't get to talk much and that she's a virgin, whereas I'm heavily into bdsm and would be terrified on introducing her to that later on down the line. I'm realizing how insignificant this must seem but it's a big deal for me because really want the best outcome for myself and all parties involved and I don't make decisions like this lightly.

Feel free to ask for more info from me as needed, I hit key points for the most part but there's a bit more to it.

>>18484798
No problem is worth three chapters. You can sum up your novel as "On-and-off relationship with ex. Some guilt on both sides. Should we try again?"

>>18484761
>I don't have any friends

So get some.

Leave her out of the discussion for a moment. With or without her, having no social circle of your own is not a good thing.

Don't go looking for friends. Go looking for things to do that don't involve sitting at your computer. Force yourself to get out of the house and be among people. Get a job. Join a gym. Join a club. Take a class. Do volunteer work. Hang out at the comic book store.

You'll be among others doing the same thing, so chatting about what you're all doing will come naturally. Some of those people will turn into friends, and some will have other friends you'll meet. That's how it happens.

Meanwhile, all this new activity might help you discover that you don't have a girlfriend. You have a horny girl-friend who uses you for an occasional booty call.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

>>18484761
> drink by myself
Stop this before it makes all your other problems insurmountable.

>>18484786
I go to planet fitness and hardly ever see the same people there. I'll try the comic book store, that's not a bad idea

>>18484808
Not going to do that, my whole family are highly functioning alcoholics and so am I.

dude unless you're at risk of severe withdrawals don't worry about it. I went off sertraline 'cold turkey' multiple times and didn't suffer any sides. This was for OCD mind you, not depression. But because it was for OCD I was on a really high dose, something like 150mg. I was just very irritable, but I'd have a leash on it when I was at school it's not uncontrollable (unless you're anger management i guess.

Don't worry.

>>18484671
Take CBD pills while you ween off.
I wasnt withdrawing from anti-depressants but I was withdrawing and it made things loads easier.
I was actually able to quit faster because of it. CBD oil is better imo, but it should all work the same.
A little costly tho maybe...

>>18485363
The fuck.

I had to take 150mg for depression my first time. My aunt and mom only had to take 25mg or less and they still do.

I felt no pain but it also gave 10 hour Erections and unconsciois insomnia.

I'm noticing that this is prescribed a lot for various/misc.

Did it help at all for the ocd?

>>18484646
You might call it absence-of-external-goal. When school is on, there are lots of things forcing you to look forward, keep up with deadlines, have goals, etc.

Without those external forces you have to come up with your own reasons for getting up in the morning or planning ahead. That's not all that hard to do - just decide on something you want or need to do and set out doing it - but it can be confusing until you realize that it is up to you to do it.

It sounds to me that you're stressed out, due to the fact that you have nothing to do over the summer. Is this the case? Anyhow, I'd suggest finding a hobby or something to keep you busy. who knows maybe you'll meet someone interesting in your journey

Pour yourself into a hobby