No Clue What The Fuck I Should Do

I wind up cutting all contact after she called me for the first time in years and just hearing her voice killed me inside. A couple of months later some shit happens and were talking again. She apparently did some soul searching and discovered that she's loved me all along but has just been in denial about it. We both admit our feeling for each other are still pretty strong and hit it off again. The dilemma I've run into is that before ex and I started talking again I met someone on OKC and have gone on a few dates with them and we hit it off really well, we both love horror, anime, just various nerdy shit and she's really cute and sweet I just don't know what I should do because I refuse to string either of them along. A little more background, since my ex fiance I've had issues emotionally connecting in relationships and I eventually emotionally shut down and break things off resulting in broken hearts and self hatred. A big concern with my ex is that I'm scared she's going to cheat. She's a solid 9/10+ and can have anyone she wants and I'm maybe a 5/10? It doesn't help that she has a super high sex drive and the fact that we're half a country away from each other for another year. The chick I started seeing prior to talking to my ex though is local, a virgin(surprisingly) and pretty straightforward from everything I can see my only issues are she works quite a bit so we don't get to talk much and that she's a virgin, whereas I'm heavily into bdsm and would be terrified on introducing her to that later on down the line. I'm realizing how insignificant this must seem but it's a big deal for me because really want the best outcome for myself and all parties involved and I don't make decisions like this lightly.

Feel free to ask for more info from me as needed, I hit key points for the most part but there's a bit more to it.

>>18484798
No problem is worth three chapters. You can sum up your novel as "On-and-off relationship with ex. Some guilt on both sides. Should we try again?"

>>18484865
The devil's in the details

>>18484798
I'm not one to advise going back to an ex. After 3 years, a lot has usually happened. Most of all, a lot of maturing. Things won't be the same as they were before. Since you're a 1/2 country away, have you even seen her? You have this whole idea of what this relationship is going to be like in your mind which may or may not be true. It's up to you obviously but make sure you're not doing it because it's familiar. It's so easy to revert back to what's comfortable than to explore what might actually be better.

>>18484922
That seems to be general consensus between my friends, I felt maybe they had a bit of a bias trying to keep me from getting hurt but you make a very good put and add merit to their arguments. Thank you for the input!

Date both of them like in a harem anime.

>>18485508
Protagonist never date any of them in a harem anime, you don't even get to see who they pick once the anime is over :'(

I'd say go for the new one, no baggage, no trust problems, etc