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Self-control.

Considering that it's a personal virtue outside of serious psychotherapy there's nothing any of us can do through the glass to advise you on how to do this.

>>16438242
By stop being a faggot.

consider a desire as an offer, you either accept, or reject. and don't dwell on it.

why is entertaining yourself the goal? everyone today is so entrenched in hedonism, it's just all about video games and funny videos.

how about reading some non-fiction books, finding an interest that way? you'll find it much more fulfilling in the longterm to develop intellectual interests.

let me tell you something about video games: they're pathetic. you're buying into and feeding an industry that is made purely to make your life stagnate, lost in unreal fantasies that have no real life application. they make video games to appeal to the masses of children and manchilds who would rather engage themselves in fantasy living rather than facing the brutal emptiness of their own lives. you're distracting yourself and wasting your life. by relying on games to "entertain yourself" you are literally setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery because the moment you don't have some pathetic, petty, childish distraction you will be LOST. you need to learn how to just BE with yourself without some mindless entertainment and you need to learn how to activate your intelligence and use it for something worthwhile. seriously, grow up before it's too late and your brain finishes its development wired up to be a lifelong manchild.

>>16438202
Well I should be on this website either way, you probably have the mindset that I'm over 18 which is wrong but that is a good reply. And I don't find anything entertaining in books, it's just boring to read them and it's a waste of time for me, I realize that playing video games is wasting my life basically but I'm young and I have nothing else to do. But thanks again.

>>16438194
Video games are great to use once in a while. For instance, I will never be a professional soccor player, so it's nice to play a soccor game. I'm never going to be in a desolate wasteland, and wouldn't want to be, but creating a story is fun.
But you really should get out more. I went to this Ren fest theatre dinner, and it was pretty silly. I work with kids, so I spend some of my free time concocting learning games for them, testing some of them out on my family on Sundays, when we all have the day off.
I work on my artwork, which is homework for me, but is still fun.
But if you really must do something on the computer, why not learn to make games? Even tiny simple ones could excite you. I loved making my first game, even if it was pitiful.

Op should licky bum bum

Lol no. I will fuck ass, but no licky or receive licky

Sexuality isn't some black-and-white bullshit where you have to fall into a category 100%.
Why does it fucking matter?
You're not 100% straight but you aren't gay enough to be bi either.

Yeah, dude. Also, here is a money saving tip: if you use a condom, just wash it out and wrap it back up and you can use it again.

No, that's not safe. Throw it out and get a new one.

...

No.

Why are you risking fucking with teen pregnancy? (I assume you're underage--otherwise, why would you ask this when condoms only cost a couple cents/free and are available basically everywhere?)

Women, how do you take your coffee? Just polling.

>>16438185
I don't like coffee. It tastes awful and it's highly addictive. You'd have to be a literal moron.
>inb4 tea lovers pls go.

>>16438185

Black. Like my men.

I guess that depends on why you were snooping to begin with. Is it a usual habit? If not, what prompted it? if it can be explained, it can be used. share with me OP

>>16438071
you should go back in time and not look through her phone.

>>16438077
I don't usually do this. I was looking at our own conversation and saw her message to a girl about "repaying" her, so I opened the conversation. They seem to be very into each other and the girl makes lots of sex jokes. Not sure if something happened or not. But that's what made me look.

Work over 30 to 20 hours per week overtime. Hate my job studied SEO/SEM and web dev all those job are done by flips at company I act as a account manager. Another account manager was let go a month ago. I'm doing both her work and mine only at home 34,000 after taxes.

I apologize for poor spelling I'm drunk.

>>16437982
Stop wasting time piston shit threads, quit your job if it's a dead end and go and do what makes you happy on a regular basis.

>>16437975
Shamfull selfbump.

OP I'm not even kidding you probably have autism

Why do you get pets if you can't even love them. Just get a rock and go see a psychiatrist before you end up in jail because you clearly have some serious issues. But it might actually be better if you end up in jail, people like you disgust me

>>16437952
no

Online = women in control, that is a losing game. Yes, you can get poon if you are attractive, but you would get it anyway with much less hassle offline, so you are still sucking. That said, 5 minutes of Tinder a day might get you laid. Or if you bold enough just add random qts on facebook and start chatting.

School and work is obviously the go to place as you spend most of your time there. Don't listen to stupid shit who says not to date coworkers because it could backfire at some point. That is a very negative approach.

The best candidates are come the same way as the best job offers, through friends. If one of your friends landed a qt, ask her whether she has a hot single friend she can introduce you to.

>>16438016
Well, I'm not a total loser, wen I say successful in my op I don't mean financially lol I'm still in school, and I'll get back to that in a sec.

1st of all believe me I rock the online options like a mofo. I have all the apps. I'm starting to notice the online scene around here is kinda dry. I live in NY, and not the city lol, so shit seems like a small and pathetic pool of less than great women. Tinder never matches me with peeps anymore, all fake accounts. And this is with the humble opinion that I'm not ugly, and at least a 7. That said, I go to a community college, and it's not for lack of trying (I have met and or hung out with a few girls in my classes or randos in the parking lot) but they never seem to go anywhere. As a matter of fact I have stories about all of them and most are just pretty cold and not interested. There wasn't any spaghetti spilled don't worry, I've slept with a number of chicks I honestly can't keep solid track of (12-17?) so I at least sort of know what I'm doing.

There's not too many parties by me, went to one on Halloween that honestly blew me away considering the area. My old college had a thriving social scene and I'd probably be continuing the trend back there - but even then not too many of those girls were dating material.


Seriously it just seems hopeless, try going to my CC and hit on some randos and let me know how it goes for you - they're cold bitches there dude. At most if you shoot them a conversation starter you get a nice quick thanks with a smile. This post wasn't made in lack of trying

>>16438027
never said you are not trying

If the best you can say you are not ugly, you are not a 7, sorry mate. Females perceive attractiveness by height. How tall are you? At 6'4 with a healthy BMI chicks usually flock, under that you are shit out of luck.

Do you like anime? Then the answer is yes.

I'm in the same boat as op, and I do like anime...but I'd mostly just be there for the sluts. I don't know how that wouldn't become apparent. I've SEEN some animes, mostly the 20-something ep adaptations, but it's all about hooking up for me.

Also, while we're on the topic, why is it nerdy girls are extremely prone to being too annoying and way past any level of cute half the time?

From what I've seen in footage of these cons, both the girls and guys at such places are all equipped with mangled and broken social antennae.

But I could have just been watching the wrong videos. I have had some experience with a local MLP group however, and I am inclined to believe that the same people who goes to that group, go to anime groups. And if that is true, I would never ever go to an anime con. Jesus Christ what a bunch of social cripples and autists.

time to break up, anon.

>>16437864
Nah, it's been great otherwise

help me motherfuckers

What sort of pain is it? A dull ache? A sharp pain? Does the pain spread up to your abdomen? Please detail as much as possible.

>>16437776
When I touch it.... It feels like someone just kicked my balls then it goes away and no I don't feel it spread to my abdomen when I touch it.
However, when I wake up at night to try and urinate I feel pain in the bottom left of my stomach. I usually have to wait till morning to try peeing again. I only have problems urinating when I wake up from bed at night.

Doctor will not make fun of you. Testicular pain that goes on for more than two hours is serious. Go to the doctor now or lose both balls instead of one. Considering you still have pain is a good thing, you probably have testicular torsion. Get it fixed now or lose it entirely.

>Europe
Good, so you dont have to worry about all that stupid 'murrican >no drinks below 21 bullshit. Going for a few drinks somewhere nice, is always a good option. Since you both seem equally "weird", and you seem to get along in chat, just continue your conversation face to face. compliments probably help too.
And then ,well, uh… see at the bottom of my post

The only real two advices I can give you:
Meet somewhere in public! If she is a catfish or something else, you'll be safer that way, and if she isnt, she will feel safer, since she has now way of knowing that you are indeed who you are.

Just try it, and dont give up, if that one wont work out! I managed to extend the kissless virgin phase for almost ten years more than you, and that was one of the worst "ideas" I ever had. Stuff gets even harder when you are 30, and interact with "girls" who already had all kinds of experiences with men, and you are a clueless 4chan nerd.

Oh, and I forgot to add:

>>16437787
>She's not a party girl but she does enjoy drinking, she's pretty damn smart and a bookworm.

How about inviting her to a museum with you? You can still go drinking afterwards. As said above, I am not exactly the perfect guy for advice, but so far, and invitation to a museum always was received very well with intelligent girls, and you are not the 10th guy, going like >ay grll, wanna get drunk?

Shift your perspective. Instead of worrying about this date, worry about your next one. This is a mental task that will teach you to hopefully relax, but never relax enough so that you don't give up.

She'll invite you somewhere where a couple of guys will be waiting to beat you senseless and take everything on you

It was a dare...my sisters do this to ugly guys.

>>16437762 is wrong.
They'll just steal your kidney, in a very professional manner.
Nothing to worry about.

You'd be stupid not to break up with her
Don't be a kek

There'g great chances she's actually telling the truth desu

>>16437738
damn man i know but...

she says she thought shes dying (im not even fucking sure this can happen from a weed cookie, shes not a smoker but i am and never had a problem like this) and literally was unable to do anything

shes not the super flirty type and i dont think shed generally be prone to cheating...

fuck...