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>>16437714
>never had an orgasm
Imagine finally peeling after a long time of peeing. Now, amplify that joyous sensation by a factor of 10, add a bit more for the dirty, naughty feeling, and extend it by being the most relaxed you'll ever be. That's a good orgasm.
Orgasms are good for you, but not required. Try it for yourself or find someone to give you one

It's the best way to relieve stress, at least for me. Better than comfort food and a massage combined. You can live without one, but I think life is much, much better with orgasms.

>>16437721
I've been trying, I've tried a dildo and a vibrator and everything, looked up all the instructions and all, and I still don't get what I do wrong.

>>16437684
you're not alone, smoke some weed it helps

Weed does help. Also, what kind of person would you be if you let the shitheads get the best of you? I mean I really hope you are joking about killing yourself because of the fucking abominations that plaque this world. They're everywhere. Get used to that shit.

You should try telling someone to fuck off sometime too. Anger is an underrated and necessary emotion. You'll feel better too I promise. Just be prepared to have to defend yourself if necessary

I can relate except for the suicide bit. If others piss you off you will have to tell them. They might not listen to you but at least you won't be holding in your anger and stress.
When someone is giving you a hard time, open your mouth right then and there.

>>16437652
For a year? God no.

>>16437656
How is it different than chatting for a month?

Depends on the context. Is "she" from a poor country that wants money? Or someone who claims to be 15 and wants to have sex with you?

>>16437565
Sorry to say, but your life stopped mattering the moment the pregnancy test was positive. Having separated parents can destroy a child's self esteem, as they'll often blame themselves for the spilt. Or your little girl will grow up to hate you for not being there and resent her mom for trying too hard, and end up doing interracial creampie gangbangs on Pornhub or something

If you love your child, you'll man up, stay, and try to work out your problems with the wife

>>16437577
Yeah, because growing up in a toxic, poisonous environment is so much more better.
My parents divorced. Calmly, found their next partners and I grew up in a healthy family. Sometimes I lived with my mom. Sometimes with my dad. Mostly mom, though.

My gf's parents "divorced" when she was little as well, but they actually stayed together. They lived in the same house for years on end. The parents would sleep in separate bedrooms and date other people. Whenever they talked, it was nuclear. The father didn't respect the mother at all and my gf with her siblings heard it all. It was the most emotionally toxic environment you can think of. The father was/is weak shit, not exactly a role model either. This left a bad mark on my gf and her brothers. They've kinda gotten trough it, but it leaves issues.

OP, do whatever feels healthy to you. Read a book on love or rekindling relationships or something. If you can't wake your wife up by talking with her, do whatever feels healthy to you.

Personally I think it's more detrimental to the child to have parents who stay together but argue like hell and clearly don't love each other. The younger you divorce the more time the child has to adjust. If it's something that hasn't been resolved for 3 years it's time to go.

Obviously u mentioned she has a personal space issue.

Talk to her about that....

We cant really be seeing each other in every minute to death..

>>16437567
But I don't want to solve the problems anymore, I just want to be free.

>>16437561
Man i wish i had a needy gf suffocating me with her boobies

>>16437544
No , continue with your life dont be a beta orbiter of the crazy.

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>obvious troll thread on /adv/
>350+ replies, 275 images omitted

>real thread about complex emotions and real problems
>not one reply

Figures

It's never too late for forgiveness anon.

>>16437461
Kill yourself. Isn't that what old guys do eventually?

You might have some old fashioned mannerisms or speech. It's nothing to be ashamed of, some people find it endearing. Or maybe they think you're a bit prudish. Which also isn't really a bad thing. At 21, I think it's much more useful to avoid being considered immature than too mature.

>>16437461
You might be boring or overly responsible, so at 21 they're calling you an old man.

>>16437408
>same song and dance?

you're the drama queen yes?

>>16437415
no, I just have a lot of baggage and angst, I cant help it

I just wish women would leave me alone, there's nothing in me but pain and the only thing they can do is give me false hope

>>16437393
>triggers
>instant fights

Neither of those are healthy or indicative of a good relationship. I've never fought with my partner.

I've noticed my partner has some triggers that get them really angry but I'm pretty sure that stuff would piss them off coming from anyone and not just me, only with me we're open enough that we can communicate about it and they don't have to hide that it's pissing them off so much. And the same goes for me, pretty much, though I don't like to think about mine. But we never use these things even when we disagree about something and are arguing because we don't like hurting eachother's feelings and pushing buttons like that is a low blow. Also it's not any way to win a serious argument. If these things ever come up it's almost always by accident and then we have to apologize shortly after.

My partner doesn't like being called "idiot" and generally being treated as incompetent.

being cavalier or flippant about safety usually trips her, but aside from that, we were best friends for four years prior to our relationship so we typically have a hard time truly upsetting one another

>>16437375
It depends on where you live

>>16437378
WA, USA.

>>16437380
Take a trip on down to Nevada (but not Clark County).

I can't remember the last time I was in a social setting in conversation and thinking "boy, this shit is even more intensely trivial, frivolous, meaningless, trite, shallow, etc than usualy conversation!"

Every one of my close friends is intelligent and enjoys learning. Having some drinks and talking geopolitics isn't at all uncommon. Theology and economics, either.

But even when I go to house parties with my homies, I don't end up viewing the conversation as asinine drivel. It isn't that everyone there is talking about exactly what I'd love to talk about- conspiracy, ideals, imagination, etc. But these people have shit THEY are excited about just the same as I am! It really does take effort to be interested in a decent scope of things- it is a good skill.

If I can suggest something; maybe you're not easily interested enough? You can find humor or beauty in nearly anything.

I concede it is entirely possible that you're an objectively interesting and intelligent individual unfortunately brought up in an anti-intellectual wasteland.

But shit man, I live in fucking Georgia. We're not exactly known for...well, literacy for one.

I just ask people about themselves. EVERYBODY loves to talk about whatever bullshit about their lives.

You learn so much about them and they learn almost nothing about you. Knowledge is power padawan.

>>16437405

Not OP, and not to be an ass, but...

>Geopolitics is boring AF for my taste, and more oft than not leads to a fight, however small
>Theology...It's a wonder I'm still alive today
>I don't understand economics at all, only that coins are shinier than bills and thus prettier

The few interesting talks I have with my few interesting friends are usually about things like whether avant garde is good or bad, or wether we should finish GoT or just think everyone lived happily ever after. I guess more 'artsy' stuff.
Don't want to put down your own preferences, just felt like sharing something of my own

I don't really know shit about kids, but maybe you could try to talk with his school's counselor and see if you can hook him up with some kind of program to straighten him out. If your parents cared or if you had the money I'd say send his ass to boarding school.

>>16437311
If your parents don't care enough to do something, there's really not much you can do. All I'll say is, he knows better. He just doesn't give a shit because he gets what he wants. He may be acting out due to stress, bullying, etc. or he may have some sort of personality disorder in the works. I certainly didn't behave like that when I was that age without good reason.

i am not sure how you are going to solve this but the way i see it is that something happened to him in school. either bad company or some serious bullying.

i don't know anything about him but i think that he is spoiled a lot and from what i have seen so far when you spoil someone a lot he will start going astray. especially if he doesn't get punished his mistakes. which is the case in your brother

first of all, try to learn about your brother. From what you said he is not willing to talk and your parents don't care. but there are ways to know about him. try asking the teachers of his school about him. if you knew someone who used to spend time with him try to contact him since they will be more reliable than his friend and most likely will not cover for him.

2nd,after you discovered something. try talking to him and get more details, since your brother will most likely to lie you need to try indirect approach.How will you do that? I don't know but i will tell you a story of mine that might help you

one time i had a fight with my someone who i used to call friend lets call him X. Basically i didn't tell anyone about it. but my father noticed that there is something wrong between me and X . so one day out of the blue he told me that X and his father are outside of my house. maybe i don't know X so much but i know that his father doesn't care about him enough to go and solve a problem between him and his friend. Still i didn't think that my father will make such a lie. so i told him that i fought with X and had a talk with him. YES he was lying and there wasn't anyone outside.

you might get of how to get the info from him. probably some threatening him using the little info you know will do the trick

3rd, solving the problem and talking to him (depends on the problem)

i know its different but i was brought up in an environment which kids respect the adults. and if a child doesn't respect his parents the parents can hit him and by law its legal.

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>Do girls ever really turn down getting eaten out?

Ever? Yes.

Unfortunately girls (and a good amount of men) really don't go for the ultra direct approach of walking up to a stranger and proposing a sexual encounter. You have to at least go through some of the motions and pretend to want to talk to them and shit. The only people that would actually use or go for that direct approach are probably unclean or scumbags.

Remember to have a dental dam.

You're going to cockblock yourself like that. Really you are. If you want to have sex or do sexy things with a girl you're going to need to set the tone. That means flirting with her and eventually heading somewhere private. If you go in with your plan you're going to spoil the mood completely. Being too forward is a bad thing.

>>16437283
Is not bad at all. Don't treat it any differently. She's just a girl who wants to have a good time with a boy. That is it. Dont over complicate shit, treat her the same as any girl

tell me a bit about yourself?

height, body type, basic personality type, in college or working?

all these help as you have to cater your approach to women and what type of women you are aiming for.

if you basically look like a teen boy, you got for 'motherly' women who will dote on you like a kid but still sleep with you.

if you are a big successful muscle guy, then you might as well be 26 and its nbd.

i was a qt little boy so its easier for me to attract older women who DONT have children cuz you fill that needi n them, but i was also mature enough that our interests (basically just chilling while watching TV, really relaxed after work type stuff) lined up (as opposed to trying to drag a milf to a crazy club)

>>16437290
5 foot 11 inches.
chubby
I'm a bit of a sperg when I'm nervous and when I meet new people, but If I know you, I'll act fine, the better I know a person the more comfortable I am with being around said person.

I am in college, technically not working, interning for a job.

I don't look like a qt teen, I guess a good comparison is Judah Friedlander, or seth rogan
complete with glasses and such.

>>16437267
I know, little babbies fresh outta HS don't know shit and their counselors don't help them at all and tell them to go STEM or do "what their heart desires (ends up as arts/humanities 90% of the time)" and they end up missing a bunch of great careers without too much work.

Wish I knew that when I was in school, then maybe I would've done something I could handle instead of trying engineering, getting stressed and drinking till I dropped out.

Oh well, I'm doing alright with my 2 year IT degree now. $23\hr isn't so bad at all.

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We live in a society that is relatively post-scarcity, at least in the West. Pursuits like studying Humanities in an academic setting used to be strictly the purview of the wealthy. Dishonest advertising, willful blindness and relative ease of acquiring wealth have made the pursuit of non-renumerative skills and studies more accessible.
The plain fact is that most trades and pursuits don't require university education- in that vein, education becomes a participation trophy. However, the market is slow to respond to that- there's a very valid reason why there are more college graduates, percentage-wise, working at Starbucks as compared to Boeing or NASA.

Most kids don't think about pragmatic issues when choosing a degree field. Infantilized adults are the fault of the parents, for the most part. Their parents rightly don't want the kids to struggle through the same issues the parents did. but for some reason, don't make the connection between their children's shitty career choices and the relatively protected life of ease that they made for their kids.

>>16437267
>Why doesn't everyone think just like me?
Gee, it's almost as if people have different priorities in life and are willing to sacrifice a comfortable living and risk failure to pursue something that makes them fulfilled with their life. I'm sorry, but this is the fundamental error that everyone makes, and can never seem to get over: you assume everyone else shares your values, and when others make different decisions on what to do with their lives, it's attributed to their "lack of intellect" or "lack of thinking things through." Yes, there are people who don't think through their decisions, but you'd be surprised how many people within these risky fields actually know more about it than you do, yet still accept the risks and challenges of entering it.