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ITT: Write a letter to someone who may or may not read it

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>guy I am dating asks me out on Monday for today
>say yes
>next day get plans to see other guy and cancel
>he seems irritated even though I didn't tell him it was with another guy
>invite him to my birthday the same day
>he says maybe I'll think about it
>the next day he asks me to get coffee with him saying "we should talk about some stuff, it won't take long"

Is he going to break up with me? I don't want that, I actually like him. I haven't responded to that message yet, what can I do?

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Why do some people major in stuff such as Physics, Music, Anthropology, etc when their grades are good enough for medicine? (I am not talking about countries in America where you have to do pre-Med/Law courses, but countries where you must do these degrees as an undergraduate.)

Anyone with common sense can tell you that the job markets for people with these majors are shit, and if you go to grad school, the job market isn't necessarily any better. You can try to transfer back into Law or Medicine, but it will be very competitive.

Sure someone will end up with a stable job which pays nicely, but chances are it will not be you. Work is not meant to be fun, every job has its own terrible aspects, money is important and a person can always learn to love his job.

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Hey, so here's the thing. Me and my gf have been together for ia little over a year and a half and we haven't had sex. That kinda bothers me, yeah, but the worst part is I haven't even like touched her butt or anything, I mean, I have, but she asked me to stop and when we talked about it later she said we weren't in the right place (we were on a bench, in a park, very ocasionally someone would pass by). sooo what should I do? this kinda bothers me and I want to solve it but I don't wanna pressure her or anything, so I haven't talked to her about it.

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You know the drill

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

Avoid asking these common questions:

>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking

>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.

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Old one hit the bump limit

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Would you or wouldn't you and why? Do you believe in the "Once a cheater always a cheater" phrase?

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I'm convinced that the drives to survive and reproduce are the most basic form of genetic programming in life, and every other more complex behaviour in life derides from these drives in some form.

After all these are the core of what Freud, and Nietzsche said, and are the crux of entire fields of study in psychology and biology.

Anyway, yesterday I had a debate with some monkeys before being censored and shut up by a PR mod, and they countered by stating asexuality as a sexual orientation.

I disagreed, stating that all sexual orientations (homo/hetero/bi), still function on those basic needs for human interaction and physical intimacy. Asexuality, is literally the opposite of that. And I asked them what could lead a biologically sexual being to reject the need for sexuality. Concluding that in the end it must either be a form of mental illness (in the form depression), or some physiological or genetic deficiency that prevents the basic drive from manifesting. I even accepted that for people that CHOOSE to be asexual, that sex drive is still manifesting in some higher for of CREATIVITY, see inventora, writers, poets, etc... one way or another, the human being has a NEED to leave information behind, be it as ideas or genes.

Ofc, this pissed everohe off, and I got banned. So this morning I did some reading on the matter, and OF COURSE, there is a "special snowflake" social justice movement here too. I read some articles claiming that asexuality was an orientation, but they were just polls with no actual studies being done, and funny enough, the asexual community claims that asexuality is different from celibacy... which, would make it an illness or deficiency 100% of the time according to them.

So, for the sake of hearing different opinions, was I wrong in anything I said? And if so, how?

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Do girls like quiet guys?

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I mean think about it /adv/... DUDES HAVE SHOT AND KILLED PEOPLE IN A SPREE SHOOTING FASHION because they couldn't get girlfriends. How could not having a girlfriend be so detrimental to society? Its crazy to think that one kiss or hug could have STOPPED so many spree shootings.

I am a male and have never had a girlfriend and I am 25. I feel terrible like all the time. Primarily because it feels like the world is shit and most people in it are shit and the women in it don't understand anything deep or meaningful. That obviously probably isn't true but its how my mind feels. I just really REALLY dislike how most women don't understand remotely what its like to be a male in todays society.

An average male in todays society is considered shit. Just imagine if you are a BELOW average male or if you lack something all the other males have? Like for example, a car. You can't be a man in todays society without some fucking wheels. Its a terrible world we live in. All these fucking sunk costs. Help me...

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>fem, 19

So a little while ago I was with this group of friends, and there was this one guy I sort of fancied.
>a bit of a lumberjack but in a good way.
Well, a few months into knowing him, I see him with this girl from the group on his lap, and they're hugging.
I was all, "Oh, okay. He has a girlfriend. Well at least I know now. sweet!" and I get on with my life.
A few days in they're still like that. I sit next to them reading a book. (I got used to the rather innocent PDA.) the girl was sitting on his lap as usual so her back was facing me; her arms still around his neck.
We're all having a good time talking when I feel something warm on my hand. It's the guy's finger gently stroking my hand from under the table. I glance from my book up to him; he's looking at me with a rather coy expression. I was quickly filled with disgust.
>How can you have the audacity to flirt with me when your girlfriend is literally right on top of you?!
Instead of making a scene, however, I simply kept reading my book, calmly took hold of his finger, and bent it back as far as it'll go without breaking it. He quietly grunted and slunk his hand away. that got the message across for sure.

But here's the twist. the next day I was talking with some other friends from the group, who knew the guy much longer than did, when I mentioned those two as a couple. they clarified that they weren't actually dating and that they're just very touchy-feely sometimes.... Oh you've got to be kidding...

I feel like such an asshole.... but at the same time... Augh! I'm just so confused.

I need help processing this.

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hey i'm a girl and I don't get why there is a problem with abortion

like I don't want a kid right now I'm not going have a kid into poverty I don't want. cus that how criminals become, from broken familys

Like I don't have to save every fucking sperm cell, every time a guy jizzes.

like the seed fell into the ground, It doesn't have to grow if its a poison tree

Whats the REAL reason why religions people are so angry about your fucking unborn collection of cells

What the big deal, I should be able to do it safely by state, not have conservatives try to make me wait months with these new laws. I'll just punch myself in the stomach. But again I shouldn't have to hurt myself to get something done like that because some weirdos have problems

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>I get horny when I'm drunk

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I live alone with my older brother. I love him a lot, we're really close. We've lived alone together since I was 16, I had problems with our mom so I moved in with him. We've been nothing but happy since.

He has been seeing this girl for about a year now. She hates me guts, why? No idea but from the day we've met she's hated my guts even though I've been nothing but polite to her. I don't think my brother realizes it though. She's always being condescending and sassy towards me. She glares at me all the time. She hates it when my brother does anything with me. To put it simply, she's a C-word.

She's been staying over here a lot more often. Since my big brother works, I'm the one that cooks and cleans in the house. Whether it's cooking or cleaning, she'll try to find some way to one up me or undermine what I'm doing. For example I wake up at 5AM everyday to make breakfast for my brother so he can eat something nice before going to work. My brother wakes up at 6 so the breakfast will be ready and fresh for him by the time he wakes up. She'll wake up at 4AM just to one up me. It's not like I'm controlling about it, she could tell me she wants to cook but she purposely doesn't just to make me wake up and see that she has "beat" me to the punch. Whenever I make dinner she always has to have a comment like "I could make this so much better."

If I'm vacuuming the floor and she'll start criticizing for every little speck of dust I miss. If I'm folding the laundry she'll say I don't fold it right. If I make the bed she'll say I don't do it right. She finds any reason to put me down. I really dislike her. The worst part is whenever my brother wants to do anything alone with me she always finds a reason to get upset at him. She hates when he gives me attention even though she's already nabbing most of it.

I feel so sad. I've been trying my best to get along with her for my brother's sake but it's impossible. Why does she hate me so much? What do I do?