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>are first major argument

You mean 'our'?

I would've kicked that girls ass if you were my boyfriend and I was right there. If you didn't say anything to the girl that did it I'd be pretty pissed at you too. How hot do you have to be to have a random girl in line do that to you? I had an ex that was extremely good looking and a girl grabbed his crotch while I was in the car watching he literally shoved her off and told her she was disgusting and to never contact him again. Then he got in the car apologized profusely and I just laughed then kissed him. He handled it the best way possible imo. It really depends if you told that girl off or not. If you didn't I'd be pissed too.

>>16572129

Yeah and wouldn't you have potential to go to jail and messing up your pretty face lol.

I understand why she's mad but she said a lot of nasty things about my parents and friends. I do intend to have a calm discussion about it when she comes to but i don't want to let her off too easy. Like i said i didn't tell that girl to do that, i shouldn't be getting yelled at. I guess she's confronting me as if i'm the girl i guess but that's not fair to me.

>>16572149
Did you just call me pretty? (:

But you didn't say anything to that girl when she did it? You could've at least told her off and embarrassed the other girl instead of letting her get away with it. And yeah it's pretty shitty she said bad things about your parents and friends. She owes you an apology for that maybe once she's calmed down. But don't play games and punish her. That's just going to make her question your relationship and feelings more. Leads to more insecurities and more fights like this one.

>>16572083
Get over it learn for the next one

Calm down bro. If she said "see you next time" then it's clear she enjoyed spending time with you and wants to go on another date.
That means you did a good job and she is interested.

Go to a restaurant or something more romantic next time, be well dressed, compliment her but don't overdo it, don't be desperate to kiss her, at the right moment your eyes will meet and you will know it's the time to move in.

You're fine, you will have another chance, just don't sperg out again or she will be let down by your lack of assertiveness.

>>16572095
You think it's over then?

>>16572058
gout?

>>16572065
What is gout?

>>16572067
Gout looks like that foot.
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Gout/Pages/Introduction.aspx

>>16572042
confusing

>>16572042
failure

>>16572042

Stable, :).

I'm struggling at certain points but I'm happy.

Fast forward to tonight. We always talk on the phone or text before her or I go to bed. I couldn't talk since I was out with some friends celebrating my buddy coming home from the navy for the holidays. I only had two beers as I was the designated driver tonight.

So I texted her and still the one or two word answer bull shit. So I ask her if shes upset with me or if somethings wrong. What the hell is the elephant in the room.

She than drops a bomb shell on me. Tells me that she thinks we're rushing things and we're moving to quickly. And cancels our date for tomorrow that we had planned.

Tells me that with work, the holidays and other stuff she has a lot on her plate and wants to pause things and not rush.

Rush things? All we do is talk we haven't even had the chance to meet up and let things blossom. Everything seemed organic like when a relationship may begin. I never said I loved her aka scare her. Never was pushy. Never pushed anything sexual on her. Granted we had phone sex on night when she called me after she got drunk at her work Christmas party and was horney. And everything was fine the next day we even laughed and joked about it.

In the past she did tell me that she has a bad cycle of pushing away guys before anything develops. So wereb texting and she's damn near crying over texts apologIzing that she's pushing me away and huring me.

I than call her out and say if you really like me and care about me you wont let me be another guy in that destructive cycle. She never responded back.

I'm torn I really like this girl, I'm crazy about her and I'm hurting. What the fuck do I do?

Do I give her space and let her crawl back to me?

Do I fight for her cause that's what I wanna do, and have her in my life and let it become a serious relationship.

Or do I say screw it and walk away, before I become more attached and hurt.

Thanks for the read, I know it was long and any advice or help is greatly appreciated. Thanks /adv/

>>16572023
Shameless bump

How much do you want it?
The road you're looking at isn't easy, but it's possible

What do you look like ?

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>>16572012
Literally the worst thing you could ever do.

I wish I never had mine. I've spent my life as a social outcast, and only the past 6 years I've turned it around.

For a short moment I felt accepted, and it feels strange, it felt nice, but I can't accept it, its too alien, it made me feel a bit sick.


Expose yourself slowly I'd say.
I remember watching a documentary of people who had spent 25+ years in jail.
The Fresh air gave them headaches, the food was so rich and nutritious it made him nauseous, he spent 4 months eating bread exclusively until he acclimatized.

Its a similar feeling, Godspeed anon.

Nah it'll be a clear invitation from you if you ask him out. Just bring up past conversation about him asking to meet and say that you know a good place to hangout at.

>>16572172
Oh ok. So I shouldn't worry about him misunderstanding that I have feelings for him when I don't?

>>16571985
Out of curiosity which country are you from?

>>16571926
Procreation.

Finding out the proper vagina to put your sperm in and then raising your kids to be better persons than you.
This should be the meaning of life for every man.

>>16571926
control

take a look around

>>16571935

That is on my list. But what else would I do with my time?

Also I'd like to add that I am quite confident. I have good hygiene and do take care of myself. I like fashion and always try to look my best.
He has also said, that he does feel attracted to me.

>>16571804
You seem pretty confident that he isn't cheating and that everything is going alright. As you mentioned, the sex is good when it does happen. Relationships are always a little rocky, it's normal to have your ups and downs. If you're pretty confident and you haven't seen any signs of disinterest in you then I think it might just be stress. What's his work?

>>16571823
Thanks so much for your answer - it's comforting!
I really hope it's just that. Like I said things have been rocky .. He too said he's not sure why this is - but I felt a little let down at all the negative advice that came up when I googled it.

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stop being autistic

had the same problem, no fap is the answer

>can only view women as sexual objects

Right. And the reason you came here is?

>>16571780
Masturbate beforehand

>>16571780
It kind of depends on how big he is, but you can do the following:
Get your ass clean (you don't have to do a full enema but you must make sure there won't be any poop disaster)
Ask him to use plenty of lube
Have a dildo ready so he can prepare your ass, especially if he's big

>>16571792
lmao shoulda clarified that I'm a guy. And I'm gonna fuck a girl

>>16571776
This is why they say age gaps aren't a good idea. You're at different points in your lives - he'll want to settle down and get married and have kids within a year or two, while you're probably still finishing off school or just getting started on your career.

As far as advice goes, I think this is something you need to talk to him about, not skirt around the issue forever. Let him know you're not ready and perhaps give him a timeframe of when you will be

>>16571779
>while you're probably still finishing off school or just getting started on your career

yep, this is exactly me... i haven't even gotten the chance to live on my own yet.

i'm also well-aware of how it's harder to get married off by the time you're in your late 20s/early 30s as a woman... so i realize i have a time limit too.

i guess i could talk to him, but the thing is, i think it's my personal issue; i can't help but think of how miserable i might end up because of how my mom and dad's marriage was. they ended in a messy divorce that involved the police. both were miserable through all my childhood. (they met through an arranged marriage though)

i don't want to end up like that, but i can't help but find similarities to him with my dad; though he is very sweet, thoughtful and loving to me. i'm so scared and stressed holy shit

>>16571815
>i have a time limit too.
Well that's rubbish, people of all ages get married.

It sounds like you don't even want to get married. Is he aware of this? I still think you should talk to him, it'll help you get things sorted. It's not fair on him if he assumes you want the same things as he does, and it's not fair on you that this relationship is causing you this much stress.

My 20 year old brother and I (23) hug a fair bit. My family in general is big on hugs

personally i dont ever say i love you to my siblings

nor do we cuddle

>>16571755
Idk OP. Could you give me a detailed description on how these nights usually go so i could give you a better answer?

women play the dating game on easy mode

I'll stick it in your butt for a fee

>>16571668
No you shouldn't. There is someone out there right now who is wondering what it's like to meet someone like you.

I was asked out, I said yes, the end.

I made here laugh
I chatted with her about a common interest
I invited her to a event I was attending
She said yes
After said event I texted her casually
Made a agreement to attend another event together
>repeat 2-4 times
eventually there was a mutual agreement of dating.

> chat
> chat
> chat
> hug
> hug
> hug
> hug
> romantic hug
> kiss
> kiss
> kiss
> propose going steady