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Do psychiatrists/therapists actually help for what they charge? Or do they just tell you what you already know. I feel like it would be a shame to see one for all that cash and have nothing out of it but an open, expensive ear to talk to.
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sometimes.
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>>16573650
I tried my college's free counseling sessions and it was a fucking nightmare. It was so awkward I lied about my mood so that I didn't have to go back. I'm too fucked up for professional help anyway
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Some people genuinely need answers about what's going on in their head, treatment or medication. Some people find it very helpful to vent and talk through their life issues with another person, and they'd rather do it with a professional than unload on their friends and loved ones and partners or whatever. Some people expect a therapist to be a witch doctor, and they're desperately trying to "fix" things that can't be fixed or aren't actually broken. It's different for everyone.
It really helps if you can clearly say what you hope to get out of the experience. And find a doctor that has specific knowledge and/or experience on that topic.
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I'm unsatisfied with my boyfriend's performance in bed and am trying to figure out how to make him get better.
>been together two years; I'm 21, he's 25
>he was a virgin before me, he's my 4th
>he was OK enough at first, but I've realized he has a low libido and sucks at sex
>lasts 5 minutes tops
>always wants to do either doggy or missionary
>just GOES SANIC FAST even though I plead with him to try going slower sometimes and changing up his pace to maybe fucking last longer
>went through a period of losing erections due to anxiety, kind of OK now but still has trouble keeping it up
>initiates sex by dropping his pants and just showing me his dick like it's supposed to turn me on- just makes me resent him for being lazy and unromantic, but I take what I can fucking get
I've asked him- are you still attracted to me? He is, so it's not that. so wtf. I've been kind of overlooking the sex thing because he eats pussy like a champ, but it's starting to grate on me that I can't ever enjoy PIV sex with him. I've never had a vaginal orgasm, but once with him he was hitting the right spot and I felt I could've almost reached it.. but of course he came in under 3 fucking minutes so fat chance I'd get that. I don't know, can this shit be fixed if I have tried to tell him over and over and he makes no changes? I don't want to break up over sex but I'm feeling like I should.
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that pic is like tamagotchi 2.0
WHERE TO COP?
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If he's not even going to attempt to make any changes (like you saying to go slower during sex) then it might be best to just let him go. He doesn't seem very willing to work on the problems for you.
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Go fuck someone else, he's just not up to snuff.
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I met a guy at a campus party three months ago. At first he was really cool and I enjoyed hooking up with him every now and then but lately he's getting really obsessed with me. We sometimes get in arguments about it and I keep reminding him that I'm not his girlfriend. Two weeks ago he asked me to be his girlfriend but I told him that I don't want to be in a relationship right now and if he wants that he should be dating girls who would be interested in relationships. It hasn't changed his behavior and he still calls me cute names and sometimes tells people I'm his girlfriend when we're out together. Aside from this he's a nice guy but I want him to move on. At the same time it's fun when we're together, I like going out with him and talking to him about things because we share a lot of the same interests.
What do I do?
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Stop leading him on
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>>16573508
How am I leading him on? I told him I don't want a relationship
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You can't do too much. He caught the feels. Fwb usually end with one catching feels.
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How do you find a goal in life if you have no passion for anything?
I don't want to spend my life working at a job I don't like just to relax during my free time and then work again. But at the same time I have no passion for anything. I am not one of these guys that early found something (productive) that he really enjoyed, continuously got better at it and later made it his profession. You may say I should just try out different things but I believe that it's not possible to say if you will like something or not without getting in-depth into it. Are people like me doomed to a dull, mediocre, joyless life?
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So no one knows?
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try random things
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You can't find interest in anything if you don't try, idk what you want us to tell you...
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Is it worth it to get a bachelor's in medical technology?
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>>16573147
If its what makes you happy.
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>>16573155
But I don't know if it is worth it or if I should major in something else. I don't have any real interests or talents. I think helping people would be nice though.
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>>16573180
Medical sales makes mad dosh fampai
My parents want me to finish this year of university before getting a job. They want me to focus on studying 100%. I want to get a job now since I'm 23. They are a couple of psychos that can't be reasoned with and threaten to leave me or kick me out if I don't do what they want.
What should I do?
I want to set them on fire in their sleep. They are freaking me out.
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>>16572800
Call their bluff and leave
Be like ok well I am getting a job then, bye.
They'll be like "OK OK WAIT WAIT NO YOU CAN HAVE A JOB NOW PLS JUST STAY IN SCHOOL :-:"
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Boo fucking hoo, your parents who are supporting you financially don't want you to work while attending school.
Real bunch of psychos.
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Finish what, your degree? Your general-ed? Either sounds like a remarkably good idea.
If money is the reason why you can't save the world right this fucking second, then put ten pounds of your most valuable possessions in a sack and carry it out with you while you hit the road so you can get a job. Otherwise, ace those tests tomorrow and find your lucrative career the day following.
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How do I prevent loneliness from making me a bitter asshole?
>inb4 delete ur emotions
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Make friends in your head.
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>>16572646
I have lots of friends but they don't usually make me feel any better about anything. Maybe I'm more pussy-deprived than lonely. I can't seem to keep female friends around because of my implicit desperation.
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>>16572645
An hero
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Girlfriend too touchy feely with friends. Male friends. There's one in particular she always mentions, that she hangs around a lot, greets him sometimes by saying ''hi handsome/pretty/cutie'', play games with him(and me together), but in some games for example where you can interact, she does things like ''hey it's like you're slapping my butt!'' (as an example). She's touchy-feely with a lot of friends which happen to be mutual friends of mine. She's been like this for some time, even before me, but now with this particular guy(who is also a friend of mine, dude sometimes doens't even notice her shit) she's playing around. I'm getting pissed at this. Why doesn't she notice her ''jokes''? She knows i'm jealous as fuck too. I've told her sometime ago that i thought she had interest in him (before we started to date), and she said she couldn't imagine herself with him. Still, she mentions him a fucklot. She doesn't havemuch friends and likes attentions, and most of her friends are my friends longer than hers. What do? Shit is getting on my nerves.
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Alex, My final answer is "What is a cuckold"
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>>16572415
She's doing it on purpose, confront her about it and/or dump her.
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>>16572415
You're just making the situation worse OP. Just go out with a good female friend of yours and do the same, see how she responds. Then a valuable lesson will be learned
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
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Girls what do you think the most of when asked out, that makes you decide whether or not to agree?
The person asking you? The date activity/setting itself? How much potential for fun the date has? How much relationship material the person is?
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>>16569364
You know, you could have just picked another picture instead of distorting this one
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Girls, if you had to cancel a date because you caught the flu, would you already set a replacement date or wait until you get better?
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Hey /adv/, I do not need help or your opinion of AA or NA.
I have been sober for a year, I no longer desire liquor and I am actively sponsoring two newcomers.
That said,
Im still a huge liar. I tell everyone god or a higher power has kept me sober and sane this long, but when i pray i feel nothing and its been like that since the beginning. I am scared to tell my sponsor about this because I talk about how important it is to have a higher power in order to stay sober to everyone.
Im scared because i do not want to go back and i know how important it is to have a power greater than yourself in order to achieve long term (lifelong) sobriety.
hopefully that makes sense, thank you for your input.
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Many of the greatest feats in history have been done without the belief in a higher power. And I feel confident that you are plenty strong enough to stay sober for your whole life. Good luck
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>>16573425
You need no power greater than yourself, expecting a higher power to save you sets you up for failure.
If you never found god, you never needed it from the get go.
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Plenty of atheists believe in higher powers than themselves. I do. I just believe in powers that are actually real. Country, community, society, even family. Maybe you couldn't have gotten sober yourself (and maybe you could have, I don't know; there's no shame in needing help, of course) but the AA community, and perhaps your friends and family, are the ones who really helped you. Not God. He didn't do shit.
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Positive Thinking Thread
There can be no positive result through negative attitude. Think positive. Live positive.
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Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.
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Don’t cry because it’s over, SMILE because it happened.
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>>16573430
I was raped kill yourself.
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What do I get the girl I like for christmas?
I'm not allowed to spend money on it apparently
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spend money on it
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>>16573267
Spend money on it. Women always lie when they say they don't want anything.
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>>16573267
steal something
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Hi /adv/ I´m a sucker for deep relationships most of the time,
so I need advice on how to develop strong relationships,
or how to grow the ones I have,
I´m not a shy person but I´m starting to see although that I talk to many people I never feel really connected to them as a friend or something like that.
So, what tips should I follow into building these strongs bonds with people around me basically?
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>>16573266
I know the feeling.
I've found, that for me personally, being yourself and being there are the two key factors in making real, long-lasting friendships. It's through shared memories that people become friends, so make time to do things with other people.
Also, being a generous person helps.
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>>16573294
>b urself
I hate this board.
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>>16573295
Unless you're a terrible, shitty person, in which case, don't be yourself, instead seek some perspective for your shitty worldview.
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So this neighborhood cat usually chills near our backdoor on our deck. She was pretty skinny in any case. She had been doing okay.
But this morning i found her in the small forest behind my house unable to walk. Every time she tries to use her back legs she stumbles.
She would meow all the time too, but now only makes quiet whimpers.
Any ideas? Do raccoons or squirrels attack cats?
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I can't take it to the vet, I have a final exam in like two hours. Also it's not really my cat. :/
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Can't you take her after the final?
Unfortunately miracle cat cures fall outside this board's expertise. I realize that vet bills are expensive, but she's clearly sick or injured, and if you do nothing she might die -- quickly or slowly, I can't say, since I don't know what's wrong with her. If you simply can't deal with the responsibility and expense of taking care of her right now, which I do understand, you could at least contact a local shelter (if there are any reputable ones near you), animal control, or possibly a nearby rehabilitator. You can easily google for any of those and even if they can't provide treatment, then might be able to point you towards someone who can, or give you a better idea of what to do next.
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As the former owner of countless amounts of cats there is a really good chance she was attacked by a stray dog, another cat, or in some cases a coyote.( all of which have happened to my cats). What I also know is that stray cats that hang around usually have several other homes they hit up for food and stuff. Try putting a pic of the cat on Facebook or something and maybe someone will recognize it. Good luck on the final exam
I'm new to 4chan and was just wondering why some people on this site seem so angry, or at the very least, so willing to offend others. Especially over on /b/. You all think it's just bravado or are people on here really like that?
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We're all a bunch of grumps around here.
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/b/ is literally just 4chan's kindergarten, you go there when you're first interested in the site then realize it has other boards, usually /v/ or /a/ are the first ones they go to
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If you don't want people to be angry, a good start would be posting on the correct board. This isn't advice and doesn't belong here.
That said, as a courtesy, I'll answer you briefly. One, anonymity has a freeing effect everywhere; people say shit in YouTube comments they never would in real life. Two, historically, anyway, 4chan has attracted many social misfits or other people who are for whatever reason unhappy and likely to lash out. Three, as a result of point two, this site's culture has always been fairly abrasive, and this tends to self-reinforce; some new people adopt a snarkier style as a way of fitting in. There's nothing mysterious about it. Certain boards (/b/, /pol/) tend to be much harsher than others (most of the highly specialized ones.)
Now, you should really post this elsewhere if you want an extended discussion.