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Depends on the ex. Where's she?

>>16571613
She lives in the same city in her own apartment.

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>>16571623
So, he has custody?

>Anyway, do you see where this is going? You have to figure out how much extra hassle and baggage this kids will be, and weigh that against the value of the guy to you. We can't know all that, only you can.

Bump

Halp

I'm no expert, I feel like I'm borderline porn addicted myself. Trying to cut it out as well.

Basically, you're brain is desensitized and needs time to readjust. Give it a bit of time and you will get turned on by minor stuff you didn't before.

Another thing is that looking at porn constantly and then getting a hardon in reaction to that is not your sex drive.
Your sex drive is a constant baseline. If it gets satisfied (or in your case glutted with too much) you won't notice it. But if it doesn't you'll end up getting distracted by the merest hint of a woman.

>>16571742
What kind of signs should I be looking for to know when I'm cured?

Do you get a hardon when you see a hot girl on the street for example?

Are prostitutes going to help? I'm legitimately scared of working all my way with a gf only to find out I don't feel anything special about sex and she just leaves me for that.

How about this precum leaking? Sometimes I get lazy with the washing machine and I have to go commando, a precum stain on my crotch sure won't look too good...

>>16571568
I missed an appointment with the psychatrist recently (had accomodation issues, so I had to find another place to stay REALLY quick). Spoke to him over the phone today and he was REALLY annoyed, he kept mentioning stuff like the contract we signed, a cancellation fee, that he wasn't interested in apologies, etc. He kept using phrases like "you knew what you were getting into when you signed it" and "it's part of your contract to pay me a cancellation fee if you miss an appointment".

I didn't even get a chance to explain because he interrupted me mid-sentence when I tried. He only calmed down and agreed to schedule another appointment with me when I told him I would pay the cancellation fee, but refused to give me another script till the appointment several months later, citing it as a legal requirement (fair enough).

I'm kind of put off about all this and would like to know if this is pretty typical?

I can't easily switch psychatrists either, because the one i'm seeing is at the university clinic which is one of the only places that my insurance will cover at a 100% rate (bulk billing system in Australia for those familiar with it). There's only one other psychatrist there, and the one time I saw her to get a second opinion on something, she spent most of the appointment making me recount the whole story starting from when I was diagnosed with ADD, and then spent the remaining time shrugging and saying "I don't know" to every question...

>>16571571
Jesus christ. Wtf is this shit?
I live in Norway, but I don't see anyone anymore. I text when I need a new prescription. It was like that for about a year. Then I met him after a year and now I can't remember last time I met him.

But it might be differences because of country or whatever. Dunno.

>>16571571

Some psychiatrists are good people who actually care about their patients and prioritize your well-being. Some psychiatrists are assholes who really just want to wring money out of you and don't give a fuck about you. Go with your gut.

>>16571531
>Do you have any advice for a very intelligent yet lazy 23 year old who hasn't accomplished anything in his life?
Get your shit together. You don't have much time.

>>16571531
I'm 31 for what it's worth
I regret that I've only had one girlfriend. I've only had sex with one pussy, and I've ever only lived with her. I have nothing to compare to so I'm happy, but I always wonder what other girls are like.

Asside from not fucking around, literaly, I also regret that it took me so long to understand how to be a man. I had no fatherfigure in greater part of life.

1. Yes, i should have gone for the older one.

2. Get car licence, dare yourself, read that book thats on your mind, fuckit go ask that girl your like for a coffee, be helpfull and for gods sake, relax.

this is the most depressing website ive ever been to
sometimes i think its a good idea until i feel bad for 100 people within under 2 minutes

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Jeez, she's thinking about fucking you, and this teasing is her idea of flirting.

>>16571490
Lmao, she's just being a nasty mean bitch. She's not a guy to pull op's pigtails

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I used to be like that. Lemme think on why I changed.....

>>16571435

ok..

I have it too man, it's not jealousy so much as resentment. I can't really articulate it either but it's like a lot of the tenets of beta/r9k virgin rage (it's easier for girls to get laid, slut/stud double standard etc.)
Try to squash it.

>>16571366
My policy on this is usually yes. If you ever think you are texting first too much, I always prefer to back off and see if she is as interested in talking to me as I am her. If not just stop texting/talking all together

>>16571379
i tried this as well as the common advice of acting disinterested in girls and it got me nowhere

I hardly ever message first unless it's something I need to say/ask, because I constantly feel like I'm bothering people and am not worth their time.

It drives my bf mad because 80% of the time it's him who's initiating conversation, but I just hate the thought of bothering people.

How often do you text her? How long is it between replies from both of you?

I'd say leave it for a few hours and see if she messages first. If she doesn't, leave it for another couple hours then message her.

How close are you? Discussing this with her could help, I didn't even realise that I never message first until my bf told me.

Just pretend your a radio host when you talk to her

>>16571334

in what context?

generally speaking i tell guys to think of it this way
>thats not a girl or potential gf
>its just a cool guy you know that you feel drawn to be friends with

like when you meet a guy in class and he mentions he likes the original planet of the apes series and you say you do too and you guys give each other a look like
>fuck yeah, marathon man

just do that. girls are not that different from guys. if you treat them like they are normal people, not objects of worship or things to be feared, then you realize its literally just conversation.

there is no how.

>>16571348
Here's the context:
My best friend is trying to get with her best friend, and I started hanging out with them this week. They are always talking and I have no clue what to say because it feels kind they're having their own conversation and I really don't want to but in.

first, post them here so we can judge whether she's too hot to break up with

>>16571390

Somebody has already posted her on /s/. Will give you that much.

Looks like a train of feels has hit me tonight. I've never had this happen before. I've never felt distrust towards somebody.

>>16571405
You've been dating a whore, bro.
Fuck her, get the nut out. Dump her. Get over it.

why are you asking this question?

what advice are you looking for?

>>16571232
I'm trying to gauge whether or not I deserve to die.

naw.
unless you fap to kids i think you are good

Bump.

Women please answer instead of spamming the SJW troll threads

>>16571400

As long as it's clean, it's fine. My first boyfriend had a lava lamp and Simpsons posters. That's not the greatest, but I didn't give too much of a shit. I don't think girls care too much.

>>16571172
Nothing organic growing mold, pretty please?

What do you usually do all day?

>>16571143
It's o.k.

I've been mostly sober for almost a month (used it twice since then)
Overall I find that my motivation has increased a lot. I was using weed to escape from my problems and emotions, and now I'm forced to face them. It's alright

By drugs do you mean caffeine?

Drink more water

exercise more often

So they can do something different in a new place.

>>16571147
I don't think working in retail in country X is that different from working in retail in your home country.

it makes them happy?

>>16570965
She's relapsing because of her abuse. She needs you now more than ever. You two really need to talk about this; without ultimatums, without judgment.
You said for better or worse. Buddy, this is your worse.

Considering divorce because of something like this is pretty extreme.

talk to her, explain how you feel about religion etc
dont jump straight to divorce at the first sign of potential trouble you fucking mong