Help me /adv/, I'm riddled with guilt and don't know if I should tell my gf I cheated.
So I got drunk and high one night and sent some risqué pics back and forth with a girl i met on some app, it was a stupid mistake and I regret it every second. I did it again some time later because my fucked up horny brain loves bad decisions. I've since deleted the app and haven't looked back but the guilt just eats away at me. This is my first real relationship and I keep telling myself it's ok because I'm not yet accustomed to being in a relationship. We've been together a while since this and I absolutely love her but feel like telling her now would only ruin the good thing we have going. But it's not fair to not tell her, right? I don't know what to do and it's really messing with me in an unbearable way. Every time we say "I love you" it hurts my heart because I know I betrayed her trust. What do I do? Do I face the music and lose the greatest thing that's ever happened to me? Or try to forgive Myself and remember that I'm only human?
Fuck that, I'm a female and if I found out you did it TWICE and the second time was out of impulse I would've left your ass in 2.5 seconds. Even though you didn't physically touch this chick, I still would have lost my shit. Tell her the truth. Now.
>>16567444
>it was a stupid mistake and I regret it every second
So you do it twice. Riiight.
>This is my first real relationship and I keep telling myself it's ok because I'm not yet accustomed to being in a relationship.
That's bullshit. You make bad decisions because you don't really care about her, and you're going to keep making excuses for yourself. I'm in a relationship well over a decade long, it was my first real relationship, and I've never done anything like that because I love and respect the person I'm with. Love is when you don't allow yourself to give into temptation, insecurity, loneliness, etc. because you fear hurting the most important person in your life. It's an active decision to treat their feelings responsibly.
>We've been together a while since this and I absolutely love her but feel like telling her now would only ruin the good thing we have going.
>But it's not fair to not tell her, right?
You're right, it's not fair. But given that it was far in the past, it wasn't an emotional attachment, and you're being upfront about what happened, there's a good chance she'll overlook it. Your trust will be damaged for some time, and you'll have to bust your ass to make her trust you again. But you'll have peace of mind. You'll stop hating yourself.
>>16567467
It wasn't the same chick both times, but I don't think that really matters. You're right, but damn I wish you weren't. Time to reap what I've sown.
I've got a loaded 7.63 sitting on the table, should I blow my brains out all over my white ceiling?
>hes to much of a beta pussy to kill himself
>he has to come get support for killing himself on 4chan
just do it already you little bitch
>>16567435
Record it and work it to post right afterwards. We can use your suicide as a sticky.
take a picture of the gun and you smiling next to it please and then post a video of the bullet going through your head
and why can't they be nice?
people like to trash on "hugboxes" and i've never even seen one. seems like it would be kinda nice if there was a place online where people could post things and then everyone would be like, "hey, it's okay! you're great and you should be the best person you can because that's the right thing to do."
but i doubt it exists. like a place for self-improvement and support in living life.
anyway fuck you you're all shit and i hate you :(
>>16567419
>seems like it would be kinda nice if there was a place online where people could post things and then everyone would be like, "hey, it's okay! you're great and you should be the best person you can because that's the right thing to do."
>>>/tumblr/ That's exactly what you're looking for
>>16567419
>anyway fuck you you're all shit and i hate you
The Internet is like international waters. Everyone only knows that place because you can get away with absolutely anything while being out in international waters. Much like the internet you can do and get and watch anything you want. So 90% have numbed this down to calling people faggots.
>Much like Op is a fucking faggot.
Hey /adv/ I have an odd problem, I decided to ask about licking this girls boots(on an anonymous website) and she was entirely down with it, she even told me to text her and talk to her, is this her being okay with this or is she going to tell everyone I'm a freak? I assume the later but if she's serious that would be a dream come true, I would attempt to use an anonymous messaging system so that if she tries to leak my number nothing happens but I honestly don't know what do you think /adv/? Should I trust her? Any guesses on her motives(I understand it's impossible to mind read but please guess what you think she's doing or what you would do in her situation)
Just do it you're being paranoid
>>16567359
I know but she could ruin my reputation so easily
Self bump of shame
Note: I am talking about NON-AMERICAN countries where you can major in Medicine, Law, etc as an UNDERGRADUATE)
Some high school students who got extremely good grades in their finals (i.e. good enough for Medicine in non-American countries) decide to major in stuff such as Physics, Anthropology, Linguistics, Chemistry, etc. in the hope of doing research in the future. Why would they pick that?
>If you don't have anything published, your funding will be cut and you will have no income
>There is no guarantee that you will like research and most people hate if over time
>Jobs are meant to be monotonous, not fun
>They can easily major in Medicine, Law, Actuarial Science, Dentistry science, etc and switch to research later on or do a Master's degree in their area of interest
>The market for researchers is very bad at the moment - it is 100+ people competing for a tenured professorship post and it will not be you getting that job
>Being an adjunct professor sucks as all the contracts are short-termed
>It is hard to even secure a mortgage with such unstable employment
>If you can't find any professorship job, it is hard to find anyone else to hire you as they know that you will go back to academia as soon as you find another professorship job, so chances are you will either end up unemployed or working at McDonalds during this time
>>16567311
Usually just because they want to.
>>16567320
Who the fuck will want to do research though? The points I have listed are already bad enough.
>>16567311
Oh, it's you again.
Well, my grades came in and I just found out I failed college(3rd semester) my parents hate me and I'm 30,000 in debt. I could scrape together everything and beg to be put back at school, or I could take a different route. What should I do?
The only thing keeping me from killing myself is the fact that I have a girlfriend at college, and I don't want to leave her. Should I go back? Or go to a different college? I'm at a crossroads and every direction is bad.
>>16567230
Sounds like the war's lost, OP. Time to surrender. Beg for more tuition from your parents and promise absolute contingency on your success. If they say yes, great. Don't fuck up this time, you have a second chance. If they don't, it's time to an hero on cam.
But that's the problem, they won't fund me, they stopped second semester, and I had to get my grandfather to cosign. I know I can do it, I just need everyone else to see it.
Win the lottery maybe?
>in class on my phone
>10/10 goddess waifu oneitis asks if i have food out of nowhere
>tell normie sister about this
>she says she was probably looking for an excuse to talk to me
What do you think, guys?
I'm not even ugly either. Girls have said I'm cute and have even grabbed my ass and shit.
>>16567228
>10/10 goddess waifu oneitis
I kek'd too hard at that.
But ya your normie sis is right.
>>16567228
Bump.
>>16567228
hahahahaha oh man opie you blew it big time on this one. i mean you REALLY dropped some spaghetti (pun intended)
why in the fuck would a random girl ask a random guy if he has food? like you just carry a spicy chicken sandwhich around in your backpack just in case? no nigga, she was hoping you would smile and laugh and say no, and then you're supposed to turn it around and say you're hungry too wanna get some food with me?
bam date.
then you pay the bill, and fill her with your babies
What are good ways to help move on from an abusive/shitty ex?
>had a long-distance partner who groomed me to allow for worse and worse treatment over the course of almost a year in a time of my life where I was very low, vulnerable, and lonely
>they abused insecurities I had and made me feel dependent on them
>when I visited them in another state, they strangled me in a hotel room and I was afraid for my life. I still ended up staying with them after that because they managed to manipulate me into doing so.
>confided in me they had homicidal urges and frequently fantasized about murdering their co-workers, friends, etc.
>always knew they were most likely fucking other people behind my back all the time, tried very hard to ignore it/deny it (they wouldn't add a relationship status to their facebook and I found posts from around Valentine's day where they gave very romantic gifts to a co-worker, pathological liar, etc)
>blackmailed me with nude photos including my face to send a gift they gave me back to their address when I let them know I was done with their shit
>they ended up breaking up with me, but afterwards acted like I was the one leaving them and in some weird way treating me like shit like it would make me want to stay with them
>still begged to stay friends afterwards because I was the "only person who understood them"
They really fucked me up. I've had nightmares about them before, but they seem to be gone now. I've been away from them for over a year and a half, and I've been with a partner who's better than I could ever ask for for over a year now, as well. We're both entirely satisfied with one another and NOTHING abusive goes on. We rarely even have little arguments. However, I just can't get this ex out of my head. Sometimes they just pop back up out of nowhere and I hate it. It's not even an "I want them back" type of thing. It's like some curse that keeps gently reminding me that it's here.
>tl;dr how to forget an abusive ex for good
Sounds like you're suffering from Stockholm's syndrome man, seek professional help from a licensed psychiatrist, but know that you made the right choice and move on towards a better future.
>>16567223
I just looked up Stockholm Syndrome, and I in no way am sympathetic towards my ex. I think they're the worst kind of person and really hate them. Thinking about them makes me nauseous. I just want their memory to stop coming up and seemingly random intervals. I don't even want to cope by imagining horrible things happening to them or anything, I just want to move on and pretend they never existed.
I do have a therapist, but I'm living the poor life right now and trying to save up money, so I really can't afford to see them more than once every several months. And even then, I see them mostly for another issue I have that they specialize in, so I don't know how much they could help me with this other than "focus on what you have now" and other generic advice.
I am very happy I'm moving on. Thank you for that.
>>16567238
I don't think Stockholm's syndrome necessarily means that you are sympathetic of your ex, but that you're still in some way dependent on him.
My gf said I was just like her ex but with money to her friend.
I was a coward and pretended I didn't know. After a few months I confronted her and she said she changed her opinion. I chose to believe her.
Am I stupid?
Depends on what she means with "like ex"
I mean if the ex was an abusive cunt and trashed the house 24/7 then maybe you should get help.
Maybe you're just her rebound since you remind her of what she lost, and it worked out for many months.
Let's evaluate the gold digging situation though.
What's an average day look like for you two?
Who pays for bills/rent/utilities?
Who pays for rent?
How much do you make?
How much does your GF make?
>>16567162
What opinion did she change? That you're not like her ex, or that she isn't with you because of your money?
>>16567172
That im not like her ex. She never said she was with me because of money, that is just a "bonus" in her head ( I suppose)
>>16567171
She means it in the sense of a loser who can't achieve anything in life.
>What's an average day look like for you two?
She arrives and cook while i read next to her then we eat while watching anime or shitty reality shows. We bath together then fuck. After that I take her home.
>Who pays for bills/rent/utilities?
We don't live together so I pay all of the house expenses. When we have restaurant bills she often pays for me.
>Who pays for rent?
Me
>How much do you make?
6.000 shitty 3° world currency
>How much does your GF make?
1800 shitty 3° world currency
So i recently became a security guard and i work graveyard shift, its pretty horrendous. Its like 45 degrees farenheit outside, i walk for 8 hours non stop, and i daydream a lot.
First what can i do to minimize the effects of the cold, it really fucks me up hard. At about 4 am in the morning i am shivering even though i have 2 jackets a beanie and some gloves.
Next what are good pair of walking shoes that wont make my feet feel like they are broken, it literally hurts to walk and my right foot is fucked up right now because i have shoes with no padding.
Next what can i do to pass the time.
How good are your gloves/beanie/jackets? There are some jackets that trap your heat and work wonders. Have you tried wearing a Ski Mask?
As for the shoe thing, I'd suggest getting something with memory foam padding. Go into a shoe store (not foot locker) but like Payless or Shoe Company.
Spending time? You could always watch Netflix or listen to music. Podcasts?
its gonna b ok, op
layer up. get long underwear/underarmour to go under your pants. this is essential to keeping you warm. make sure you have some nice heavy socks too. if your chest is cold you arent wearing enough there. get long sleeve shirt, 2 if you have to. are your hands cold? gloves arent thick enough. get new ones.
as for walking shoes, i like the Clarke Wallabees. if youre looking for something more... tough, get Timberland boots.
>>16567149
i dont think a security guard can do music
also, OP you should try meditation during your shifts
Is lack of success on tinder indicative of lack of success in real life? I basically have never approached a woman because I'm not particularly attractive and I'm incapable of making conversation or flirting with women. So instead I've tried okcupid and tinder with little to no success over the years. This just leads me to believe that if I did actually try to approach them in real life I would have the same nonexistent success rate. Is there truth to this?
Probably. I've never had sex or a gf before but tons of girls want to meet me on tinder. So far I met 3 hot ones. no sex though since I'm an autist who doesn't know what to do next.
No. You just want an excuse to not try.
>>16567133
In a sense yes, the virtual world is often more open to free expression, so if you have no luck online then i guess you would have no luck offline. However, maybe that's because of your own outlook, there will always be a women for you.
Before you read, yes, I know shoplifting is wrong, I have decided to NEVER do it again I have learned my lesson.
Okay so, I just went to whole foods to get some groceries. I usually steal things like protein powder and oils and cosmetics with an older bag and then just walk out of the store.
This time, a manager watched me put the things in the bag, and walk OUTSIDE of the store towards my car. He then confronted me and I told him that he can't stop me outside of the store but felt like a dick so I handed the bag over but he still wouldn't leave. He kept following me and I realized I couldn't get into my car because then he could easily catch my plates. He then phoned for the cops and started describing me.
I booked it and started running. I ran as fast as I could towards the train tracks and up into some neighborhood. As I ran I heard him say on the phone, "he's now fleeing towards the railroad tracks". I hid in some backyard of a house and witnessed police officers walking around with flashlights trying to find me! I kept silent and at one point I think one officer may have spotted me and I ran further and hid longer. I then took a detour and made it back into the parking lot because my car was still there.
As I was about to pull out and leave, there the manager was and he taps on my window and says "we got you!" I then back out as fast as I could in hopes that he may not pick up my plate and leave.
I think the store may have cameras and has me on file (I don't know if they are always on since it's a slow monday). The vehicle registration is in my mothers name and it shows her old address where she doesn't live anymore.
>>16567078
continued:
Since the police were already involved, what are the chances of them showing up at my door, is it possible they even show up? this whole foods is also in a county and I live in a different city - do they still have jurisdiction to come to me?
Since I handed the items over, do you think the police would further investigate? I feel like since they were on a whole lookout for me, they will feel the incentive to look for me and find me.
>>16567078
Enjoy prison.
First of all, chances are that the carpark was also part of the property so he could stop you outside of the store. Second of all, there's going to be a car left in the carpark overnight, so even if you get away with stealing, you've lost a car. Thirdly, if the car has any shred of evidence as to your identity, they know who you are, and they have your description and the manager can identify you, if that even becomes necessary. Lastly, it doesn't matter that you returned the items, you still stole them in the first place.
Is cheating bad if they never find out?
Discuss.
They will eventually
>>16567071
Yes.
/thread
As long as you don't think it is
I want to be a director. I'm a young female living in a middle class family in Australia. I'll soon have a good camera and stuff but in all honesty, I need a guide. I have no FuCkIng idea where to start. Im passionate af about movies, so I have an understanding on cinematograohy, screenplay, etc plus I do Film in school, but dat shit is basic. Like should I start a YouTube channel to get my name out there or someshit? I really want to get started early too but yeh idk THIS ALL SOUNDS UNREALISTIC U KNOW getting successful and shit but fuck it. I'm anyways still gonna go uni so I dont dissapoint my wog parents lol but yeah I'm just confused at this point so I probably sound retarded. thx
>>16567026
Film class is basic because you need to start with basic shit. Emulate everything you learn and put it onto film. Learn how shots and lighting work, then do them yourself; record them, watch them, and then do them better. Apply to be a grip or gaffer if anyone is hiring for that near you.
>>16567032
Yeah, everything I learn I find ways to apply to the situation so I know I'll be able to grasp all those basics and use them accordingly. I'll have to do some searching for opportunities around my area but like in the meantime to become a name I've gotta get my name OUT so how should I approach that?
>>16567055
Im in a similar situation. Except i dont really want to go to film school.
The common thing i hear from other people is anyway you can really. Film festivals, social networking sites or forums where you can meet people of similar interests, write screenplays and get people to look at them, etc. The more the better. You may meet someone who may look at something you have and hand it over to a friend who happens to be an agent or producer or director. You never know.
The girl I'm seeing is wearing a mini skirt going out, I knew she was a cheating whore to begin with, I don't have proof yet, but I think this is the final straw. What makes her think this is acceptable behavior in a relationship? One wrong step and her pussy and ass are on display for the world.
you sound like a white kid who reaches in their bag for 10 seconds before shooting everyone in the class
You should wear one in public to show her the risks and consequences. Maybe she'll learn from your mistakes
>>16566956
Put chocolate stains on the back of her dress so it looks like she shits herself.