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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

Avoid asking these common questions:

>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking

>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.

>Frog
Also piss off.
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Girls what do you think the most of when asked out, that makes you decide whether or not to agree?
The person asking you? The date activity/setting itself? How much potential for fun the date has? How much relationship material the person is?
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>>16569364
You know, you could have just picked another picture instead of distorting this one
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Girls, if you had to cancel a date because you caught the flu, would you already set a replacement date or wait until you get better?
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>>16569372
The person, obviously. Both who they are and whether they're relationship material

>>16569374
If I have the flu, I won't be feeling well enough to plan shit in the future.
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>>16569374
i'd most likely to wait until i get better because no way of knowing how long i'd be sick for
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If you are both in your 20s, would you date a currently unemployed guy?
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>>16569372
the person, are they an asshole or are they nice, how attracted to them i am
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>>16569386
Probably not.
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>>16569374
I'd cancel and then go back to being a big baby. I hate being sick and will be in no mood to make future plans.

>>16569372
The person and quite honestly if I'd ever sleep with them. I don't want to lead someone on. Not that I plan on sleeping with them on a first date but just if I ever would.
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>>16569386
I don't care much about money so if I really liked him and he was a great guy then yeah I would. As long as he didn't plan on never working.
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>>16569386
depends, a degree or employment doesn't make anyone great though it's a big sign that he's a degenerate
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>>16569404
I see. I don't mean a NEET, just someone who's studying but not currently working, but wants to get a job soon enough if possible.
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>>16569412
I'm not that girl, but I don't accept studying as an excuse for not having a job.
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>>16569417
You sound like his mom not a girlfriend
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>>16569421
Well I'm not his girlfriend, am I? You know, because I don't think being a student is an excuse for being unemployed
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>>16569417
What would be a valid excuse?
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>>16569377
>>16569384
>>16569392
So the only thing left to be done is wait and wish her a good recovery?

Anything else to do, or would it get cringy quite quickly?
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>>16569429
Just tell her you hope she feels better and to text you if she gets bored and wants some company.
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>>16569427
Honestly? I can't really think of one except something serious like disability or looking after a sick family member (which is basically a job in itself anyway).
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>>16569372
The person asking me out matters the most.
The activity doesn't really matter if I like the guy but if i'm not into him and he proposed a really interesting activity, I'd consider going as friends.

People have different ideas of fun, but "fun potential" is essential for every social gathering/meeting. Why would I even meet people that I don't consider fun?

I personally don't care for "relationship material" because I'm pretty open minded about that and I also do a lot of casual dating and sex.
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>>16569423
Why not? I worked through highschool and college to support myself and it was tough. I wish I had the opportunity to just focus on being a student I could have done so much better. And I hope one day I'm able to support my kids so they don't have to work while going to school.
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What are your fantasies?
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>>16569448
Not the others but I think your situation is generally considered more attractive than "doing the right thing" (focusing on studying).
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If he quit messaging me (left them Read, but no responses in 3weeks). Its ok to assume we're done?
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>>16569448
Because only the weakest students I know have had to focus on one thing at a time. Most people I know are able to handle a part time job, even if it's a shitty wageslave one, alongside their studies. This isn't just liberal arts students, this includes STEM, law and medicine majors. It really isn't that hard to have a job on the side, and to be honest, I tend to think people are a lazy if they don't.
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For girls or guys.

My gf and I are long distance right now. We'll be seeing each other in February and march. We've been dating since april. She was extremely passive aggressive the other day, and it really turned me off to wanting to communicate. She apologized etc but this wasn't the first time this has happened. Then, after I told her how this turned me off completely to talking, she went to confide in her aunt. I dislike this greatly because in any long term relationship you need to deal with your SO's family.

Told her I didn't want to talk today, and I got really emotional while texting her that I didn't want to talk.

Am I blowing this out of proportion? Any help? I just feel shitty and on one hand I love this girl and on the other this situation is making me feel like absolute shit.
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Girls:
Is depression a huge turn off? I mean someone who's been through depression or is currently suffering from depression.
I assume it isn't for women who've had depression though. But it probably is for the rest.
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>>16569453
3 weeks? Yeah girl.
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>>16569471
I was in a relationship with a guy who was somewhat aggressive, it got worse when I moved in.

Just explain to her you don't like her aggressive like that, it hurts you.

Or fuck it all and leave the relationship

Chances of her changing her behavior is low
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>>16569372
The person. Specifically, both how attracted I am to them on first sight - not just how good they look to me but also whether they seem like people I could know, people I have someting in common with - and a quick estimate of how much shit they'd give me for rejecting them later on.
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>>16569374
If I was already getting better I'd set a replacement date, but if I just got ill and had no idea when I'd get better I'd just wait.

>>16569386
Yes, but if he eventually showed undesireable behavior I'd just break up with him.

>>16569429
just wish her a good recovery, write something like "text me if there's anything I can do for you" and if she hasn't contacted you after a week ask her if she's ok, but only once.
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>>16569479
Yeah, I explained to her that her being passive aggressive just shuts me down. Because I have the mentality that I simply don't need to take someone else's shit. So I'll stop responding, which isn't healthy either.

How do you know the relationship is worth it when you're in an emotional state?
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Has anyone been dissapointed by dating someone online and they looked worse than their pictures?
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>>16569499
No, this has never happened to anyone in the history of humanity.
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>>16569496
Honestly if they don't make effort to change for the better, it isn't worth it.

Its difficult to know whether or not it will be worth it. All you can do is try to understand eachother, it takes two people to have a relationship

Also in the long run, if she continues to be aggressive you'll probably leave her anyway. So why waste your time trying to fix the unfixable?
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>>16569503
Ok
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Met a girl this past Friday at an event I was at, and she was there for something different. We really hit it off, she was totally falling for me and I ended up going back to her place. We wake up the next day, she takes me back, all is good, then we spend the rest of the weekend doing our own thing. I learned some things about her, like how she doesn't date because she just doesn't like guys at all and isnt attracted to women, but she really liked me. She's acting really distant ever since she told me that it's freaking her out.

What do I do? I like her enough to make this an issue. With most other girls I'd just drop it without thinking twice.
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Girls:

I've been dating my girlfriend for three months. We've had a sexual relationship for most of that. She told me recently she's never came. Not just with me, but in her entire life. I'm the first boyfriend she's had sex with and she told me she has never pleasured herself, either.

I care about her a lot, I've never had sex before her either but I'm a 21-year-old man, I had orgasmed countless times. While sex was a new experience for me, cumming wasn't. She has literally never came before in her entire life, and I want to make her cum.

Can some girls give me some perspective on this? Is there anyone who was the girl in this kind of situation? What do I have to do to encourage her to cum? Again she never has before, ever.
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>>16569450
>getting fucked while I am very pregnant and we have to work around my belly with positions and everything, works great in combination with lactation play with heavy swollen breasts
>watching a (preferably older than me) couple have sex, the woman does not realize I can see them but the man does and teases me with being a pervert afterwards
>basically all "nurturing" acts towards a man paired up with sex (like washing him, soaping him up, drying him off and ultimately shaving him) but primarily cooking for him, watching him (over)eat and sexually pamper him to satisfy him in yet another way
>your regular public teasing things; being at a formal dinner and rubbing each other's thighs, remote control bullet vibrators, flashing him (naked bodypart or new sexy lingerie) when there's a short moment of being alone together, just the entire build up idea
>having a sexual marathon day where you alternate between penetrative and oral sex and mutual masturbation to both get off as many times as possible, having to come up with new attempts to turn each other on once more etc
>foursome with two couples where you don't really interact much but kind of use each other as real life porn for the orgy feel of having another couple's moans (might not actually be hot in real life at all but I enjoy the idea)
>a vague version of a sort of animal market idea (as fantasy-fantasy that obviously does not really have a real life equivalent) where a man is feeling me all over, how my fles/fat/bones proportions are, whether I seem young and healthy, how my body is shaped, kind of detached from my person while I'm just naked and wet
>catching someone while masturbating or being caught masturbating, I enjoy pretty much all varieties, being cockily invited in or scolded for just standing there and not making myself useful, or the guy being very flustered and ashamed and me first reassuring him only to make it sexual and start helping him out and the equivalent scenarios on me
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How would you feel about someone that turned down enough of your invites for you to get a bit angry at them? Further down the line, I mean. Would you just accept a friendship role or pretend you were never interested to begin with or hold out a bit of hope while continuing your life? Trying to discern the thinking behind this girls attitude to me since turning down invites.
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>>16569525
I saw this yesterday and saved it. Try this!
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>>16569514
She said she would stop doing that because she saw how it negatively affected me. I believe that.

I agree with trying to fix the unfixable, it's just difficult I guess. She's a great person, truly understanding and very loving. I'm just having second thoughts because things like this + the fact that where I moved has a lot of attractive people makes the effort seem not as worth it. But then everytime I think of the breakup scenario I get extremely sad.
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>>16569471
I don't think you're necessarily blowing it out of proportion, but you need to realize that you are not exactly helping to diffuse the situation. It sounds like you try hard to communicate well, but still fuck up. The way I see it; you can't stop her from confiding in her family. Obviously all of this changes if she's painting a one sided picture, but if not, that's how life is. Who else should she confide in? You're going to need to deal with her friends as well. You'll just have to assure that she is actually sharing what is happening and not making you out to be the bad guy by omitting crucial things, make sure to remind her to also mention the good things and not make for a lop-sided image of your relationship, and other than that suck it up and trust that in the long term they will see this as the kind of issues every couple has at some point. Your girlfriend should normally also be invested in making sure her family does not have a negative image of you. Talk to her about this and express your concern without being accusative, just let her know that you both understand and are worried about the possible consequences.

As for what I feel you could've done better... if you don't feel up for communicating, it's better to just don't do it at all. Send a short text that you (still) need some space and will get back to her. Think about it this way: if after that space you're still just as angry, you can sit her down and express that. If not, you did your future self a solid by not ruining things more than was necessary. Having said that passion agression is really bad and no sane person would put up with that childish crap. Everyone has things they need to grow out of, I think the most important thing is not whether or not she never does it to begin with but whether or not she sincerely realizes that and why/how she was wrong to behave that way.
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>>16569525
Buy her a vibrator. While I enjoy sex and all that, I have never orgasmed except for at the hand of a vibrator.
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>>16569525
This is going to be a long ass post but yeah I can shed light on this from personal experience.

I was in this situation until I was ~eighteen. For me the issue was that I tried to masturbate before I really felt any urge, because my older sister's magazines told me it was something everyone did that was healthy and felt great. Surprise surprise, I did not know what actually turned me on, did not realize what lust felt like at all, had no idea where my clitoris was other than "somewhere near the top". So I went into it way wrong, thought it was something akin to tickling, touched way too soft and not on my clitoris. Then I thought that I was broken because I could not get myself to be turned on and it became loaded for me to attempt it because I'd feel like a broken sexual being afterwards (no experience with someone else either so that didn't help).

For me the first step was that I realized I had a specific fetish (because I realized it was a fetish in the first place and suddenly understood why I had always enjoyed it so much without being able to explain it, and why I felt so much shame surrounding it) and that apparently what that made me feel was a sexual feeling. In the meantime someone had tried to finger me and while that was no success because he was clumsy and a bit rough, I remembered how "hard" he seemed to do it and tried again and actually pushed down and thought about those things etc. It took me another couple of months to work my way up to climaxing because my body would shut down (nerves I guess) as soon as I felt it building. I fixed this by doing it in the shower and forcing myself to not move the hand holding the showerhead (easier than forcing yourself to keep going at the same pace when it doesn't feel good anymore) and forced it out of me. After that I kind of knew what was coming and what I was aiming for and I learned to understand my body and my sexual psychology.
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>>16569573
Either way, I don't think the specifics are of particular interest for her because I don't think this is a universal cheat code. Just wanted to include them in case you wanted practical suggestions/insight. But I think the most important thing is to realize that it will be easier for her to have her first time masturbating (no need to impress anyone, just you focussing on what just you are feeling etc) than with you. Likely a big part of the problem is that she does not realize what it feels like to have that raw feeling of physical and mental lust WITHOUT affection, tenderness, loving feelings towards someone else etc. While in order to incorporate that properly in your sexual life, it sure does help to know what that feels like and how you can achieve that for your body in the most stripped down form.

If she does not like masturbating, you could try to encourage her by making it more of a team effort in a number of ways. Tell her how hot you find the thought of her discovering her body, to keep you updated on what's going through her head or stuff like that. Stress that it is less about the end result than about learning more about herself. Too much pressure on "scoring" is only going to make her less likely to cum, just like a guy won't get a boner when he's too nervous. Of course it doesn't have to be limited to "assignment masturbation" either - watch porn together (sooooft stuff, look up stuff like lustcinema, they have a couple of free vids online and it's not jackhammering and with kissing in between and more normal looking people), have fun intimate conversations about your fantasies and what you would like to try together, make it into a fun game to enjoy.

Furthermore, you can motivate her by telling that it will help her to enjoy sex more and understand herself better. I know for me a whole world went open and I felt so much more in touch with myself, what I was attracted to and so on. It is simply part of your development and your identity.
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>>16569583
Also for your understanding of this. The thing with human emotions is that they are pretty elusive and often do not come to us in concrete verbal terms. It is something intuitive and actually having those words helps you to make explicit not just to others but also to yourself what moves you. I know it might sound weird to someone without this experience, but before I knew how to masturbate etc I just did not realize at all when I was turned on. I'd have those feelings and realize I felt "funny" or "good in an odd way" but it blended with other things and was impossible for me to pin down. Your brain is also crazily good at coming up with rationalizations based on the things you DO know (eg "I enjoy that because I think he's a sweet person" vs "I enjoy that because I find him attractive").
I don't think for your girlfriend it will be quite as extreme given that having had sexual experience she no doubt knows what arousal feels like. Still I would reckon that without knowing what kind of thing the arousal naturally leads up to and all, her sexual feelings are still a bit jumbled and all over the place. This could also discourage her from being curious and wanting to try things because she feels no pressing urge and has gotten to know sexual feelings as a more mellow pleasant feeling without the kind of hunger with which people can lust for an orgasm after getting turned on. If her body shuts down the way mine used to, her feelings of excitement might dissolve with it without any kind of conclusion to them which only makes them more elusive.

I have never written down this much awkward personal shit in one monstermessage so I sure as fuck hope there's some stuff in here that gives you insight or ideas in how to handle this. Sorry about the graphic details, kind of felt it would be quite vague otherwise, and good luck with encouraging her!!
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Girls:

I'm friends with this girl; we decided to hang out one day and after the end of the day I gave her flowers and told her I would call her. Called her a week later but she didnt pick up. Been 2 days and she hasnt returned my call. She be mad? Would you be mad if a close friend did this?
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>>16569548
That was a very well thought out response, I really appreciate it. I told her I didn't want to talk earlier in the day (and she tried to turn it into a guilt trip "I would have forgiven you immediately") so I'll just roll with that decision.

If you have anymore thoughts or questions let me know, you've been really helpful
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Girls:

Would you ever fall for a long distance friend you see once a year? What sort of signals would you send if you were interested? Would you ever try to make a guy you're interested in jealous? Personal opinion on long distance relationships?
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How much affection would you show to an FWB and what would be definitely off limits?
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Ladies:
What are the kind of responses you expect to hear from dating websites? I get blocked so quickly and am confused.
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>>16569661
What kind of responses are you giving?

>>16569535
This is amazing. A must read on how to eat a girl out.
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My wife's sister is super annoying and I'm always irritated when she's around. However, I can't stop wondering what she looks like naked and how she is in bed. She doesn't like me much either, from what I can tell, so I'm wondering what I should do about these feelings?
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>>16569712
I saw it in another thread and was like wow this fantastic. So I saved it. So we can all forward it to significant others ha!

>>16569641
I'd try long distance if I really liked someone but I'm a very patient person. I like to take time between dating like a year off. I'm in no rush to have sex unless I am with someone and care about them. So I wouldn't mind waiting with distance. I can't say that would be the same for most girls though.
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>>16569573
>>16569583
>>16569594
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm awfully similar to you. I can especially relate with the part about coaxing myself past the part where it seemed like "too much" to actually get results.
It's wonderful to hear this. I still struggle with a lot of this and wonder if I'm a grey shade of asexual. So it's nice to not feel alone in this.
The 'broken' bit really hit home too.
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>>16569727
You direct those feelings towards jerking off and you tell no one.
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>>16569471
Bumping for any thoughts or help
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>>16569712
I'll usually see something from her profile that I can comment or question on. So I do so.

So I'll see she's avid about piano playing. I've varied things like simply asking "How long have you played piano for?" or, lets say this is another profile "Do you find it annoying that american pop music uses the same chord progressions over and over?"

Or just any shit that would ideally illicit a response
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A massage for a 3rd date, good idea or creepy?
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This doesn't deserve a thread of its own.

This girl has stopped putting any effort into 'us'. She gives off every signal that she's no longer interested, and I'd actually believe it if it hadn't been for her excuses being legit and her personal circumstances being special. Anyway, let's not get into that, I want advice, not judgment.

I shot her a call. About a dozen hours later she texted me a simple "You rang?" and her next replies after I explained were even shorter. I got sick of her one-word responses and simply said "yeah" too. A few hours passed since then. She checked her phone, left my message unread and that's it. No more effort for the moment, though she'd have read it if she wasn't at least thinking about it.

Thing is, I still have something I wanted to ask her. It's no big deal, but I still wanted to sort it out today. At the same time, I don't want to back down and accept her lack of effort once more.
What should I do?
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>>16569806
you mean like a friendly massage where she's chilling watching tv and you start casually rubbing her shoulders?

or like a spa date? because the latter is kind of weird, the former is acceptable
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>>16569735
Got distracted and just noticed your comment, it's no problem at all and I am very happy to hear someone could relate and feel good about that! You are most definitely not alone, it's just that people tend to find it easier to talk about what works out than their struggles with something so personal. Best of luck figuring out what works (or does not work, for that matter) for you!
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>>16569364
Guys, scenario:
Casual sex. It's about to happen. You want girl. Girl wants you but won't have sex because XYZ. How would you want her to suggest a blowjob instead? Like without sounding tacky or like a wannabe pornstar?
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>>16569810
What do you want to know? This influences the answer. Also who is she? Girlfriend, established mutual crush, someone you went on a date with, someone you just know?
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>>16569843
I'd just be upfront about it. You're adults, just talk it over. You can get each other off without penetration. Definitely offer to go down her it's usually a huge plus depending on the girl. If she says no, tough. Get a handy.
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>>16569843
Meaning the girl initiating the blowjob? My technique is usually tugging at his belt, looking up for eye contact and approval. He usually starts undoing his belt himself at that point and I just go at it.
If he tries to go further than that, I just put my hand over his, shake my head, and keep going.
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>>16569843
have you fingered her already?

in my experience girls are pretty easy to convince if you slip your hand down her pants and make her squirm around for awhile.

but generally blowjobs are pretty ehhh. like some girls will do them and some girls just don't unless you practically beg. they normally come along with sex and not by themselves for most people
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>>16569875
Just to clarify, I'm the girl, asking how to suggest a blowjob to a guy without sounding tacky? What do guys want to hear? Does shit like "put it in my mouth" really work in that situation or is it going to make them burst out laughing? He doesn't even need to finger me, I don't want to have sex with him, I just want it in my mouth.
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>>16569847
We're dating (or used to, seeing as she's given excuses for a month straight) and we're classmates so we still see each other regularly.

She skipped our class for a dental appointment and asked me beforehand to send her my notes. I called her to ask if I could drop by and catch her up on class (and see her, but that goes unsaid)
She didn't pick up and her phone went unused all day, though.
What I wanted to ask was if she still wanted those notes. I like to keep my promises, but I don't like being a lackey who gets zero respect.
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>>16569909
>Kiss
>Kiss neck
>Kiss as low down as his clothes allow
>Drop to knees
Done. You don't even need to speak. Just drop to your knees during the making out and it's a done deal. Odds are, after blowing his load, he won't even be up for sex.
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>>16569910
Either send them or wait for her to ask for them if she finds them so important. If you go out of your way to actually ask her when you could just assume she wants them like she asked, will make you seem like you're just using it as an excuse to talk to her. Which is not what you want after her treatment.
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>>16569834
Really? I'd think giving her a massage would be creepy. I meant going somewhere. You think that'd be a bad idea?
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>>16569921
"Asking" is kind of pushing it, honestly. It's not what I meant. I meant it more as a "catch her up on what happened and send those notes", rather than ask her permission to send or whatever.
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Why do women do things like this

>tag my gf in the comments of a Facebook video
>Its a HowTo Basic video where the guy makes loads of mess
>Know she doesnt like them that much because she always gets annoyed about who is going to clean all the mess up
>Talking to her on Whatsapp the same time as I tagged her
>She throws a tantrum about me tagging her in the video
>Goes off on one
>Deletes me from Facebook because I didnt instantly de-tag her

I just really didnt understand why she got so annoyed. I know she doesnt like the videos, but its not an angry dislike, more of a funny dislike that we have joked about. Except this time she lost her shit.
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>>16569936
k
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>>16569930
Why do you need to tell her over the phone? You can include it in an email right?

>>16569936
Stop dating immature brats and thinking they represent half the population. She obviously felt that it was more hostile than you intended it to be, but this is some next level drama shit, this would be unbecoming for a sixteen year old.
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>>16569982
We don't do email. We do that over text. Usually if something like this happens, I text a photo of the notes for her to copy.

Besides, we're distant enough already. No need to devolve to email-based communication and have that stick.
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>>16570014
I feel that you need to make a choice here. If you want to be closer to her, tell her point blank that you feel that regardless of what's going on in her life she is being extremely distant, and whether/how you can work through that. Or you can keep your distance because of how she acted towards you and leave her to it. The impression I get at least is that you're trying to find some ideal compromise that actually consists of not taking a stance and failing at both trying to get closer to her or trying to make your point that you don't like the way she treats you now.
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guys can you give your opinions on this?
>bf suddenly acts distant for two days
>ends the relationship the next day
>haven't talked to him since (this is about a week ago. no bitter feelings it just hurts)
>he keeps asking mutual friends if they've talked to me
>got upset at a (male) friend because he felt bad for me and wanted to apparently give me a "big hug"
>this is because his ex gf dated his best friend and issues with that
>saw him today and he was unusually quiet, friend told me about his shady behaviour

we're all pretty confused and i'm a little worried about him.
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Need a unique date idea for a third date. She likes nature, were in florida
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>>16570033
>Acts distant
Trying to think of how to break up.
>Asks about you
Wants to make sure you're okay.
>Go upset at a friend for wanting to cheer you up and "give you a big hug"
Thinks the friend is being a disrespectful, slippy little rat that's trying to weasel himself in for you to bang him on the rebound.
>Unusually quiet around you
He just broke up with you. He's hardly going to come in as if nothing has changed.
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>>16570044
Why does it have to be unique?
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>>16570045
he seemed so confident when he did end it though
i don't know
i'm overthinking things most likely.
thank you anon!
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>>16570051
Then a not unique one
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Girls

How i should talk with a girl that is of my interest, but never spoke to her before in my life?
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>>16570059
Of course he seemed confident when he did it. He spent two days making sure that he would. If you go into a breakup without confidence, you can very easily be talked (cried) out of it.

>>16570061
Bowling is GOAT.
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>>16570067
Bowling is boring
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>>16570078
Shut your whore mouth. Bowling is hilarious, ever so slightly competitive and affords plenty of time for teasing banter and regular conversation. It's the GOAT date.
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>>16570084
few things sound more boring or unappealing than bowling. plus the shoes are disgusting
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>>16570096
>I've never been bowling
Just say that then.
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How do I start a conversation with a girl of her interest, I need help ASAP, gonna ask a girl out but gotta start a conversation and cant think of anything?? help?
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>>16570262
>can't think of conversation
>want to ask her out

lol the date is gonna be a disaster if you're floundering on even making contact with her..
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>>16569471
Final bump
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Its been a day so far, what do i do........
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>>16570348
why the fuck would you say that

what could that possibly do besides make you look like a complete tool
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Hey a girl I met a long time back goes out of her way to talk to me at the club to introduce herself. she end up admitting she finds me attractive. end up having phone calls and start sexting and stuff for a few weeks.she said she cant hang out until after her exams which were on the 12th. I end up messaging her a few times since then but she hasnt responded at all. think shes just that busy or should I just count my losses despite how promising it sounded and how interested she was at first.
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Womenfolk,
I play a lot of tabletop games and role playing games like D&D. I've asked this question to /tg/ a lot of times, but I'm curious as to what you'd have to say. Two questions:
>1.Provided you had never played before, would you ever be interested in playing D&D with people if you thought they seemed friendly and fun? Why or why not?
>2. How can I get my girlfriend interested in tabletop gaming? Because of my line of work, this hobby is really important to me, and I'd like to share it with her. She's always been supportive of this hobby, but she's expressed that "It doesn't seem like something she's in to".

Typing this up... I just realized I don't really think she has hobbies. Unless you could count watching Netflix.
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>>16570599
>Because of my line of work, this hobby is really important to me
What's your work?
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I tried to make plans to go out with a roommate of a friend last week (our schedules didn't match up so I told her id hit her up next week). It's now next week, we haven't talked for a week. I'm trying to go on a "first date" of sorts with this girl, I know she thinks I'm cute because her roommate is my friend/told me/gave me the green light.
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>>16570599
Yes, I played a few games in my highschool creative writing club because my friend, the president, was also an avid DM. It was really fun but I'm horrible at it.

I'm not sure how you could convince her if she's so against it honestly.
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Why would a decent man date a woman in her 30s?
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>>16570655
because he likes her
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>>16570650
The thing /tg/ always says as a response to this question is, "You can't force a hobby on someone. It has to be something that they want for themselves."

I guess I should be happy that she's not going out of her way to do something she doesn't like to make me happy. It's weird, because she like acting and storytelling, but she doesn't think she'd like this.

I'm secretly jealous that when I go over to my friends houses, their significant others all join in and have a blast.

It's a hobby that you NEED other people for, but they are hard to find for some reason. It would be handy to always have at least one other person around that would be up for a game. (LOL maybe one day, when I have kids.)
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Girls:

Can you tell when one of your friends develops feelings for you? Have you ever developed feelings for a friend?
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>>16569364
Girls, my problem is that I always put you into a place where we're never in a relationship which is the reason why I have no girlfriend. I have no idea how I could get closer to one of you and wonder if that is possible. How could I make this work with another girl I know? Do girls just want someone who will talk to them no matter what? I would really appreciate any information about how girls would want to be treated other than being completely ignored or brushed off to the side.
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As an Asian, how can I tell if a non-Asian guy who is into me has yellow fever or not? I don't want to date some guy who just wants to fuck Asian sex dolls.
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>>16570723
You can tell by how serious he actually takes you. A purely sexual relationship has no intellectual substance
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>>16570715
I'm 28 and I've had 3 boyfriends. All of them were friends for awhile before we dated. All of them were long term. But no I don't always know if they like me. Sometimes I'll think it and then I doubt myself because insecurities.
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>>16570731
>28
>had bfs
Have fun finding a decent guy when you are so old.
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>>16570742
Thanks anon
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>>16570723
Is there a distinction between a guy with yellow fever and a guy who is looking for an Asian girlfriend? (I'm asking seriously)

>I once made a dating profile on a website specifically for plus sized women.
>Whenever I would go out to meet the girls, one of their first questions would be, "So, are you a chubby chaser?"
>Followed with an awkward two minutes of me trying to assess what that even means.
>"No, I just happen to be attracted to women with fuller figures and more womanly bodies."
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>>16570723

Does he listen to what you say, make an effort to actually get to know you as a person? Or does he treat you like an anime character and go off about how "cute" it is when you mis-pronounce English words?

It's possible that he's got a "type," but that's not really a bad thing as long as he's treating you like a person and not just a sex object. Don't be too oversensitive about issues like race if it's not actually causing a problem, life's too short for that shit
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>>16570655
Because he likes her? I mean there's a chance he's just trying to get in your pants, but that exists regardless of your age.

>>16570045
Going with this. In my experience usually when a guy tries to squeeze in to "comfort" a girl after a breakup he's just trying to get laid.
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>>1657076
>Is there a distinction between a guy with yellow fever and a guy who is looking for an Asian girlfriend? (I'm asking seriously)

no


>"No, I just happen to be attracted to women with fuller figures and more womanly bodies."

that's being a chubby chaser
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>>16570731
My first 2 relationships were like that; still best friends with one of my exes, broke off all contact with the other. Was it hard to stay friends after the breakups?
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>>16570792
Oh.
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>>16570796
Yeah unfortunately none of them and I are still friends but with exes I think it's for the best. I miss them as friends but I don't regret dating them.
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>>16570792
But everyone has a personal preference for the physical appearance of their sexual partner. It's the first thing we notice about them.

Before we have even heard a word out of their mouth, we begin making assessments on whether we would fuck them. And if you say you don't, then you're lying.
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how can celebs maintain such a nice post baby body? is it photoshop or what?
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>>16570811
you seem to be arguing with yourself, i only answered your questions.
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>>16570812
They can afford to pay personal trainers, nutritionists and nannies so they can work out, and do it as efficiently as possible. They also have more pressure on them to lose the weight too
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>>16569364
Do men just like to poke fun about having a gf and spending money on her?

My boyfriend always likes to sarcastically joke about how having me makes him spend more money...

But like, his friends girlfriends and I, we're all a pretty tight clique. His friend's girlfriends demand like 10x what I demand. I'm super low maintenance. Like, if bf buys me a meal, I order the cheapest thing. Never ask for gifts other than birthday or christmas, but I buy bf gifts for his birthday and christmas too.

And I know he sees his friend's girlfriends' demands. Like his friends buy their girlfriends fake titties, trips to vegas, etc. I never ask for that.

Is it just a thing for guys to complain about this? It kinda makes me feel weird, because I do not demand anything from my boyfriend financially, he always offers to take me out, then complains about it later. I'm wondering if its an issue or a male social norm.
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>>16570840
He sounds like he's keeping you around just so he's not alone.
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>>16570829
Sneaky shit! The second quote you cited from my post wasn't a question. You made a comment on it, to which I responded.

Can you explain your responses to the quotes you copied from my post?
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>>16570857
how? its been several years and we are extremely close. I just notice he likes to complain about this to his male friends. I kinda thought it was a tactic to make it seem like he has more money than he does.
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>>16570840
>Like his friends buy their girlfriends fake titties
wat
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>>16570876
Breast implants
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>>16570891
It just seems to me that you, your boyfriend, and your whole circle of friends might just be stupid.
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>>16570900
I've thought that on occasion. Well, I think that under the influence of his bros, he is kind of stupid. You know how people act different around different people? It's like my boyfriend has this peacock behavior around his male friends. Keeping up with the Jones's, big baller, "I'm better at you than life." "I had 12 beers nig, can you handle 13 nig?" Kinda attitude if you know what I mean. It gets annoying at times, but it doesn't really have any affect on our intimate relationship, so I let it pass.
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>>16570900
Fuck you cunt, you're the stupid one
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For some reason my "i want to have sex" and "I wanna jack off" feelings are totally unlinked.
Why and is it fixable?
For emample: I want to get fucked right now but the idea of jacking off sounds like the opposite of fun
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>>16570910
You're dating a frat boy.

The only way to improve this behaviour is to get pregnant with his child and make him into a man

right now
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>>16570861
>Can you explain your responses to the quotes you copied from my post?

you seemed to be under the impression that because you "just happen to be attracted to women with fuller figures and more womanly bodies" you weren't a chubby chaser, when it fact it is precisely that which makes you a chubby chaser.

i was using it as a parallel to illustrate my answer to your question about yellow fever.
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>>16570715
My boyfriend and I were best friends for years before we became a couple. I could kind of tell beforehand how he felt, but I wasn't sure.
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>>16570891
I know what they are. That just strikes me as absurdly stupid for a number of reasons.
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>>16570939
If you don't mind my asking, did you also feel the same way or did he win you over somehow?
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>>16570958
I said no when he asked initially, but then a few years after that I became ready to take the next step and I couldn't help but fall for him as my feelings grew. He melted the ice queen.
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How can I express to this girl I am seeing/fucking that I miss her without coming off as clingy? I just starting fucking/hanging out with this girl like a month ago but now I have to go on my 3 week winter break and we can't be together.

I want to express to her that I miss hanging out with her, how do I do this?
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>>16569739
That is exactly what I'm doing currently. But it's becoming an obsession, forever looking for opportunities to look down her top, find a way to "accidentally" brush against her, etc. It's so hard, pun intended.
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>>16570066
this.
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I know 4chan is generally racist but, I've been fucking this girl that is black and now my friends have been giving me so much shit for it. It doesn't really make me mad because I find this girl really hot but I do find it annoying and petty. Why are they doing this?
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>>16571041
Gross
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>>16571080
Why do you say that?
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>>16571065
Because it's sort of like a legal bestiality
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Should you choose between two guys based on how much they earn?
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Girl asked for my number

when do I respond to their text/call if ever
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>>16571140
If everything else is equal, why not?
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Would you be put off by a boyfriend/girlfriend holding onto something they got from their ex? To be more specific, today I jokingly told my friend to look for his wallet in his backpack because he walked out of my car (jokingly) at a red light, and when she did she found a large block of wood in the front pocket with his name and another name on it and a date from three years ago. She thought it was from one of his sisters' but he'd told me before the name of his ex. I'm not the jealous type at all but I am a little put off, because he always carries a backpack and it was a large piece of wood, not like a slice but a whole block of it. When I brought up her name for another reason, nothing intrusive, he got kind of defensive and asked how I knew about her even though he told me about her himself. I feel bad that we invaded his privacy like that but I'm also just wondering what's going on.
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>>16571166
Something like that, yes, I do think I would be put off. Especially since he's still carrying it around with him.

>>16571149
When you feel like it.

>>16571140
If the difference is between an income and no income, generally it is safer to pick the guy that makes money.

>>16571065
Your friends are racist. Black women are gorgeous.

>>16571038
Sometime during your break you can text her with "such and such thing made me think of you, want to do some activity when I get back?"

>>16570723
As an Asian, I find that when people call me cute, they're seeing me as my race, not as who I am.
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>>16571204
When both have an income and it's not like one is flipping burgers at McDonalds.
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>>16571209
*Well
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Girls

Earlier today, a girl at work who I've only somewhat talked too told me that I smelled good. It was kind of random. Do you think it was just a normal compliment or that maybe she was hitting on me?
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How did you know you needed to break up with someone and how did you confront the feeling of having to hurt them?
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>>16571236
Jesus crist you aspie ask her the fuck out. If she gave that kind of compliment and expect nothing. She is a little retarded.
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>>16571204
Are you hot or what. Maybe you really do look cute
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To the Ladies and Gents: What are your thoughts on Open Relationships/Marriages?

Is Monogamy truly diminishing these days?

>Inb4 Sharing is Caring, etc...
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This might be better suited for a stand along thread, I don't post to /adv/ that often so I am not too familiar with the norms.

Background info: 19, m, people say I look good, even my roommate commented that he wished he had my body "because then he'd be able to pull more" (if I had to say myself, maybe 7/10, workout everyday and know how to dress myself) despite this until last week be kissless virgin.

its a somewhat long story

Part 1)
A couple of weeks ago, I was going out with a girl from my Chemistry class. My first real date. She asked if I wanted to do something, I agreed, and we set a date. The date went pretty well, but the event turned out not to be what we had originally thought it would be, so we just walked around town and talked. The last thing that we talked about how she liked movies. After I got back to my room she sent me a text asking if I would like to watch a QT movie with her sometime. Later that night she sent me a pretty forward text saying that she liked me and that she was pretty tired and was wondering if I wanted to take a nap with her. I, my roommate, and another friend (all of whom know about my kissless virgin status and wanted me to hook up with a girl) took this to mean sex. I was really nervous but walked to her dorm, it turn out all she wanted to do was cuddle and talk. I still had a good time that night.

After this I went back to my routine. We set up a time to watch a movie. When the day came I was pretty nervous but at the same time felt ready.

Continued in part 2)
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>>16571336
They're a minority. A somewhat vocal minority. Don't let 4chan delude you into thinking it's commonplace.

>>16571341
You shouldn't need more than one post to explain your problem, and if you do, you need to make your own thread. No one's going to bother reading long posts, especially in threads like this
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Part 2)

My first mistake that night was drinking ~ 5 deers. I thought that alcohol would calm my nerves, unfortunately I am light weight, so I got pretty tipsy (not drunk). We only watched about 30 min before we started cuddling, I was still pretty buzzed and started asking if she wanted to go further, I admitted that I have never kissed a girl before and that I didn't know how. She showed me how and we started making out. Feeling confident because of the alcohol and just kissing a girl for the first time I ask if she wanted to go further. Nothing really happened, still talked. At one point she took her shirt off, I honestly forget when this happened. Along with this she also mentioned that she was fine with taking off her shirt, but nothing below the waist. I said that's fine and left it at that. Later, I asked why she was so adamant on cuddling, she thought for a while, and said something happened to her when she was young which is why she likes to takes things slow. After talking about that for a while, she looks up at me and ask if I like to have sex with her (phrased differently but same idea). I agred, but admited that I would most certainly get whisky dick. So things started getting h&h, at one point during some mutual groping she mentioned that this would be easier if our pants where off. Long story short despite her grinding on me, whisky dick was too much. We ended up cuddling for around 20 more minutes and she left.

The next day I texted saying that I had fun and asked if she wanted to hang out again soon. She said she "wasn't super comfortable" and "I don't really want to hook up". In my room I noticed that there was a note on the floor with her handwriting saying she thought I was a very positive person and that it would be nice to get to know me.
Question: Is there any salvaging this?
When she says "I don't really want to hook up" does that mean she doesn't want to see me again?
How should I move forward? advice would be appreciated.
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>>16571347
I guess, the events span over multiple days.
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>>16571304
I look about 14 years old and I'm 5'0". People that are interested in me are either into lolis or into asians. The poor fucks that approach me first don't realize how much of a cunt I am.

>>16571236
I find that girls are generally pretty attracted to men based on how they smell.

>>16571336
Not for me. Might be fine for you.

>>16571209
Pick the one you have better chemistry with.
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Femanon in my mid-30s here. What is the best way to give up on myself? I recently divourced and I get the sense that finding another decent one is very tough/very improbable.
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>>16571245
I don't know if I'd ever ask another co-worker out, though I guess if I really liked her and thought she liked me back I'd consider it. I just don't want to risk, have her say no and it end up possibly awkward.

If you can't tell, I over think things.
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>>16571359
How old are you really?
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>>16571373
21.
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Guys:

Do you call your gf 'babe' in front of other guys to assert dominance and/or make it known that she's your gf?
Or do you do it because it's a spur of the moment thing/you like calling her that?
Or both, or something else?

Honestly just curious.
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>>16571359
>I find that girls are generally pretty attracted to men based on how they smell.

I mean it was just some deodorant. Cheap Old Spice too. No cologne or body spray.
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>>16571383
Have you asked this before? I think I remember this. Either way, no I just say babe if that's what I normally call you. Usually I do name.
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>>16571394
The same deodorant smells different on different men.
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>>16571336
The majority of people I see in open relationships, arent ones I'd want to date monogamous.

They're extremely vocal about it so they seem more normal and common than they really are.

>>16571209
Strikes me as gold digger tier if they both have their shit together.

>>16571383
If I call her something like that, it's because I want to. I don't put much thought into social pecking order shit.
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>>16571336

Eh, I spoke with my female friends about it last night, we all agreed we'd never share our boyfriend with anyone - if we were to experiment sexually (e.g a threesome), it would be with no feelings involved as single girls. The thought of him or myself with someone else makes me feel nausea. I can see a nice-looking guy and think "he looks good" if I'm in love, but I'd never feel like doing anything else to anyone but my bf. All of my friends agreed, so remember, /r9k/ and /adv/ and cuckold paranoia isn't a very big thing in real life.
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>>16571482
But lots of women cheat anyway, so that feeling is obviously not very wide spread.

Isn't it possible that, right now, you think you would never have sex with a guy who isn't your boyfriend, but when you are drunk or meet a really hot guy...you would feel differently?
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>>16571443
I asked it last night but the thread archived before I could see any possible replies, thank you for replying btw

>>16571473
Thanks for replying.
I've just noticed that my bf tends to call me babe a lot around other people so I was curious about whether other guys do it and why.
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>>16571510

Well, people cheat when they're unhappy in relationships, both men and women do, and that sucks.

Well, I was in a relationship from 16-18, was often drunk, met a lot of good-looking men and never cheated. I never had any interest in other men until I fell out of love after two years - which had nothing to do with other guys, and it even took me 6 months to start flirting with other guys again. I'm in my twenties now, never cheated on anyone, am currently in love - I'm quite attractive, go out often and can get hit on 9-20 times in a night. Don't feel compelled to cheat, never had.
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>>16571517
I have a friend who does that. It sounds odd and forced to me. Are you two young, or is it hit first long term relationship?
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>>16571533
I'm 20 and he's 21, we've been together for 2 years now. We've both had a fair few relationships before, and this is my second actual serious relationship.
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>>16571526
>quite attractive
>on 4chan

mein sides
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>>16571558

I wasn't attractive when I was an edgy 14-year old and started browsing /b/. Old habits die hard, I think it's nostalgic and fun to visit once in a while.
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>>16571566
sure you do hamplanet
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>>16571526
What about women who are in a happy relationship but cheat anyway?
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>>16571517
>I've just noticed that my bf tends to call me babe a lot around other people so I was curious about whether other guys do it and why.
Subconsciously he may just do it to mark you as "not just a friend".

I've caught myself doing things for similar reasons.
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>>16571577
Yeah that's basically what I thought, buy hearing a guy's perspective is always interesting.

Like what?
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>>16571626
>Like what?
Call her nicknames, wrap my arm around her. Nothing too crazy.
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For girls. Or anyone really.

>You work with guy for six months
>During that time, you guys become really good friends
>See each other every day
>inseparable during your shifts
>always talking
>Always making eye contact and smiling at each other
>Always staring when they're not looking, knowing full well they know
>I quit and move away to another state
>Never really got to say goodbye proper
>Hear through the grapevine that girl full on cried and quit a few days after I left

>A year passes
>Your only contact is through instagram >always likes every single picture no matter what it is
>Shallow but it is what it is

>This entire time, girl had boyfriend, that's why no moves were ever really made by me.

I still think about her, an entire year later. It's weird. I can't move on and I know full well I was probably just getting played.

I guess my question is, if you were in that situation, is there any chance you would still be thinking about said guy?
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>>16571674
As more than a friend? Probably not, even if I ever had
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When I talk to new girls, I shouldn't mention I'm in therapy, right? 'Cause I see one every week and I'm sure they'd be curious to know why I disappear for awhile on Monday's.
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>>16571692
When you talk to new anyone, you shouldn't mention it. Unless you're autistic, you shouldn't be making anyone uncomfortable like that, and even being autistic isn't an excuse.
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>>16569364
Girls

Asking female coworkers for their phone number in front of everybody, because it's the only opportunity I get to talk to her- yes or no?

Is asking by email too skeazy?

Additional info:
We've hit it off at a Christmas party but I went retarded and forgot to get her number/kiss her
She may or may not be embarrassed about spending the night together in her motel room after said Christmas party. She kicked me out early so nobody else from work would see.
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>>16571683
Well thanks for being honest, at least.

Given her past behavior, do you think she ever actually gave a shit? Would it worth it to try to get back in touch with her?
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>>16571723
Maybe she gave a shit, but it doesn't make a difference now. And what's the point in trying to get back in touch now if you're still living away? If all you managed to do is like each other's photos on instagram after you had a good friendship, do you really think you're capable of keeping up any type of relationship, platonic or otherwise, a year after you've had basically no contact?
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>>16571735
I don't know, man. I just know that I miss her. I missed the day I got the car and I never stopped. She's like this itch in my brain that I can't scratch, and the only person in that shitty state that made me hesitate.

I just hope that at one point, she felt the same, even a little. And I wish I knew, because if she did, any amount of effort would be worth it to rekindle even a fraction of the spark we used to have.

I know I'm a sap, but she meant a lot to me, and for whatever reason, actually bothered with me, when I was in a place where no one else would, friends, family or otherwise.

I could've loved her. I think I did at a point. It just sucks to lose a person like that.

Sorry for that, I'm desperately tired.
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>>16571767
Now before you doze off, listen for forca bit.

Just chat with her for a bit, ask her how shes doing etc. Not much harm to be done that way.
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>>16571778
She's not on any social media except instagram.
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>>16571705
If she didnt want them to see you come out of her hotel room, then she is definitively going to be embarrassed if you ask her for her number in front of everyone. I would email her as politely as possible. Maybe work it into asking her out to coffee so its not bluntly "HEY I WANNA TEXT YOU" and more "Hey want to get to know each other more?"
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>>16571784
Well i have no idea how Instagram works, does it have an option to send a private message to someone?
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>>16571797
Uh, kinda? I think. But, like only with a picture I think and that's weird.
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>>16571807
Yeah thats gonna be a little weird unless she comments on your pucture.

Isn't it linked to her fb?
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>>16571810
It can be, but you can also just have a separate instagram profile. She doesn't have a facebook, never really told me why except that there's some people on there she'd like to avoid.
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>>16571631
My bf does that too. I actually love it tbqh, I like thinking that he's subtly letting people know that 'this is my girl'.
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(I am not asking this from a sexual point of view)
Freshman (female) here. I am a loner. Is it really odd that so far I have no friends in college?
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>>16571817
Wait till she posts a picture, or comments on one of yours. Start a convo via that.

>>16571848
Yes and no.
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>>16571853
>Yes and no.
So ambiguous
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>>16571858
Her question lacked some information as well.
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>>16571863
Well what info do you need?
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>>16571848
I think its a bit strange, but not horribly so.

I'm pretty quiet, but even I've managed to make a couple of friends in my engineering course. From my perspective, the big question is if its because you just don't put yourself out there, or if there's something up with you that prevents it.
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>>16571868
If you're ok with it.

Better put, if you're not lonely.
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>>16571870
>if its because you just don't put yourself out there
It is this
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Girls, I work in a Walmart doing warehouse and grocery stuff. If you were working on the cash register how would it be best for another employee to say hello, then I guess ask for your Facebook , number etc.

Never on break same time, so other than in passing looks I've never had the chance to talk to this girl but I get the sense I stand half a chance by the smiles and looks we exchange.

Other tha going to her til everyday I have no fucking idea what to do.
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>>16571871
>you're not lonely
No, I prefer being by myself
My mom doesn't like it though. (I didn't live on campus as I live in a city) She calls me odd for having no friends and being so reclusive.
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>>16571875
Still weird, but not a deal breaker.

Also, even if it was, you wouldn't admit to it anyway. So I would take more time to get to feel who you really are.
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>>16571876
>cash register
>the smiles and looks we exchange
You know it's her job to smile, right?
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>>16571882
>but not a deal breaker
Well I mentioned in my first post that I am not asking this from a sexual point of view so I am not asking if this is a dealbreaker for guys. I am just trying to see if the average person sees it as odd.
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>>16571886
>average person
>on 4chan
wat?

Also, you want to make friend with males because?
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>>16571897
I never mentioned making friends with males. Read my posts!
Well, plenty of normies use 4chan.
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>>16571879
Slightly odd as to not having friends (really your call here), i can understand wanting to be a loner.

But as far having not friends from college while studying there that's fine, i disliked most people while studying in college (though i did have friends).

Odd question though, does that also mean you would rather avoid a relationship in general? (with a man or a women)
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>>16571902
>you would rather avoid a relationship in general
Not really
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>>16571885
Not around work and to other employees it's not
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>>16571901
>ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
>Freshman (female) here. I am a loner. Is it really odd that so far I have no friends in college?
This was at the very least misleading, don't you think?

If you're the same IRL, I guess it will depend on your look (yes look matters even for just friendship) and sense of humor.
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>>16571910
I already started five threads in /adv/ and I cannot start another thread
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Girls, why would my girlfriend lie and tell me she had only male friends? Found out she does not really have that many friends at all, the ones she does have, are female.
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>>16571921
Shit test.
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I went to a private school in a second world country. All of my peers are studying abroad except for me and three other guys. One of the guys occasionally chat to me but I don't consider ourselves as particularly close (we rarely had classes together).
Recently he messaged me and asked me whether I want to hang out and talk. I don't think he is trying to ask me out. He probably just wants to meet someone from high school and since almost everyone is studying abroad he doesn't have much choice. I am not 100% entirely sure about his intentions though.
I do not have any feelings for him. Is it a bad idea for me to ask if he wants to hang out/watch a movie? I don't want him to misunderstand my approach - I just want to meet someone who went to the same high school as me and everyone who stayed behind is a guy (I rarely talk to the other two dudes). How can I make my intentions clear in our Whatsapp messages? Should I even ask him that?
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>>16571930
Don't meet one on one. This could be sending wrong signals. Have a friend come with you.
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>>16571933
I don't have a friend staying locally. As I've mentioned, everyone else in my year group (except for me and three other guys) are not studying abroad. We are the only ones who cannot afford studying abroad.
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>>16571918
>I already started five threads in /adv/
Just what are you making all of those threads for
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Is it normal to feel sad after an ons with a girl you just happened to really like, but she just wants to leave it at that? Because I never get sad after an ons except for this time
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>>16571954
yeah
why not?
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sorta friends with this chick, more acquaintances
>she strikes up a convo first yesterday
>she asks me to come join them for a sausage sizzle if i want
>cool, go grab my bro
>her and a friend were waiting but didn't in the end
>alright/good convo at lunch and afterwards
>today was a bit of a downer
>kinda got ignored, ignored her
>she's a bit aloof
>aren't able to do much talking

Should i still pursue?
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>>16571336
I'm completely monogamous. Anything having to do with anyone besides my partner and I repels me.
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>>16571119
I feel bad for your poor wife. Imagine if she was doing that to your brother or best buddy.
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>>16571574
Not that anon, but I disagree that cheating is caused by unhappy relationships. People who cheat are different than people who are faithful, and will cheat regardless. Thankfully they are a minority.
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>>16571921
Maybe she's just insecure and trying to seem cooler to you?

Girls are pretty much brainwashed into thinking doing guy stuff excessively is cool.
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>>16569453

Probably. I'd give me a final "hello?", see if it's just him being lazy/stupid/worried.

>>16569656
Yes: Kissing, hugging, light conversation about her day.
No: Talk about the future, emotional support

>>16570033
Sounds like he's got issues. I can't say which isues, but cheating sounds most likely. I'd say he cheated, doesn't want to break your heart the hard way, still cares about you though.

>>16570655
Why not?

>>16570840
Sounds like he's being sarcastic, bragging how little you demand of him, unlike their gf's, who will leave them peniless.

>>16571243
When the thoughts of a future together brought my anxieties up. Ignored the feeling, I need to not have that kind of long-term stress, flat out state it.

>>16571336
>thoughts
It's ok, but not for everyone. Not even for half the people that say they are for it.
>diminishing
Nope. There's always been poly couples out there, just not as vocal (what do you think swingers in the 80s were?)

>>16571363
>give up
Why? Anyway, to your question, sleeping pills seems the most likely.
But you don't want to give up, you want attention and a pat on the head. So, sure, wallow in misery for a little bit, then start dating again.
>decent one
Plenty of decent guys out there that are single. Yes, you'll have to sift through more idiots than you would otherwise, but still plenty of good ones.

>>16571383
spur of the moment

>>16571848
A bit.
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To both: Can you live without happiness?
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How good is a girls advice about girls and guys advice about guys. When you read stuff about stuff (not necesarry pick up artist crap) they say girls advice on girls is not good.

Do you think this is true? And would it be the same for us guys?
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>>16572094
Generally speaking I think women tend to understate how important looks and being aggressive are when establishing a relationship. That's the big part that strikes out to me anyways.
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>>16572079
>live
>without hapiness
Only for an extremely short time.

>>16572094

Reading the advice given here, I agree with at least half of the (non-trolling) male responses, closer to 3/4. I'd say that advice is good, but you always have to consider where the advice is coming from. Ditto for female advice, exactly the same.
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> can't wait to be in touch with her again
> she has a high workload in the next week

What do?
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Is it creepy if I keep making eye contact with girls in my class?

Today I kept making eye contact at one that I really fancy and I feel like I could've been creepy, specially when in the bus stop. It's like typical 1 second eye contact, not sure if she'd feel uncomfortable because of it.
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Why do you girls tilt your face when you are taking a pic of yourself? Seriously, there has to be a reason.
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>>16572544
So your hair hangs down in a nice way and you can see it. That's why I do it at least. Oh and you can see my cheekbones and dimples better.
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>>16572343
Does she smile when you do or blush? Does she look creeped out or like she's thinking 'what....'? You just have to read her face. Smile a little when you do it not like full on smile but a little one. Eye contact is only weird if they aren't interested.

>>16572079
Yes but I want to be happy. More than money or a certain career I want to just find a place in life where I have some kind of foundation to finally feel comfortable and maybe even happy.
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I just confessed my feelings to the girl I used to date for a while. It seemed like a good idea at the time, because it's been eating me up for a while now and feels like proper closure ever since she got ridiculously busy and much less into me over time.

We've been close for quite a bit and (I thought) leaning more towards girlfriend than actual friend, so it seemed like no big deal to tell her about my feelings.
It was. I completely fwubbed it. She gave me a giddy smile, saying "feeling shy?" Only after continued prodding from her did I manage to mutter how I like our time together, like her as more than friends and want to know how she feels about me. I went full autismo, and it's no surprise that she told me she sees me as just a friend. However, there was no patronizing, no creeped out sort of feeling from her end, and we talked like usual afterwards. I told her "forget about just now", and she just gave me a smile I once thought was flirty, and she said "that's gonna be hard" and "see you tomorrow"

Girls, after being shown a display like this, how would you act towards the guy? Would you make it a grand story towards your friends? Make fun of him?
I'm no longer going to chase her and I'll try to move on, but I'll still see her regularly. Probably.
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>>16572609
I would definitely edit my behavior. Just like how you thought her smile was flirty. I might not joke around as much, cut down on physical contact like hugs/shoulder touches.
Though she might purposefully not edit with the idea that nothing should change. So just because you don't see changes doesn't necessarily mean she's into you.
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>>16572544
it's just some natural reflex i guess, and better angle for most. i've been doing it since i was like 8 years old and never even realise i do it
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>>16572609
When a friend confesses his feelings for me and I don't feel the same way I'm always super gentle with how I handle it and usually just tell them the truth. I give them a bit of space if they need it but I try my best to keep acting the same towards them so they don't have to feel weird or think I think less of them. I cherish the few friends I have and id never make fun of them for that. Sometimes they can handle continuing being your friend and sometimes they slowly disappear because they want more than I can give them.
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I'm not sure if posts like this are frowned upon or not but ladies. Am I attractive at all? And what can I do to make myself look better?

>inb4 skin
I'm working on that
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>>16572701
You just look very young desu. I think if your face was a bit more defined it would go a long way.
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>>16572721
Yeah, I've been thinking that too recently. What's the best way to do that? I know there's working out and loosing fat but I'm already doing that (it was really bad before I lost the 15 pounds that I did) is there like, any facial exercises?
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>>16572750
http://www.livestrong.com/slideshow/1011117-10-exercises-reduce-double-chin/
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>>16571969
I do agree that it is not the ideal situation, but then again I would not forbid it. If that is what she needs at that point in time, who am I to deny her that.
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>>16572079
I've been unhappy and alone for about one year now. It sucks, but not to the point of making me kill myself.
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Been going out with an older girl a few times already, but things doesnt seem to advance and I cant try physical contact. Should I just be an awkward fuck and tell her upfront that I like her or something?
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>>16573137
>I cant
Then she should date a guy who can.
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Girls would you date a currently unemployed guy?
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>>16573127
Just because you're okay being a kuck doesn't mean she is too
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Do girls like it when I send them art and music I think they would like that I enjoy, I want to show them artists but I don't want them to be annoyed. Would this annoy you?
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>>16573142
>yeah, fuck guys for being shy,right? they should have all the work or they aren't real men

Actually, I don't have a problem in being physical, but I love when a girl is more assertive, and I feel for those poor dudes who get shit for a personality trait.
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>>16573172
>>16573142
yeah I know I should be more assertive. I am with girls my age, but this one is 6 years older than me, has a working life, ton more experience so I feel awkward as fuck.
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Is this true?
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>>16573340
I know I think the guy on the right is more masculine, but I don't know if I'd consciously rate him as healthier or a better parent.
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>>16573340
There is som e nice reasurch out there that connects men frowning bearded to the rise of feminism. As it's something women can't do.

See meme like you just posted for the first time kind of make me assume the reasurchers were on to something.
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>>16573340
>appearance affects perceptions of health, parenting abilities and masculinity

More at 11
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>>16573161
I would find it very cute, but if he did it too often i'd get annoyed too.
>>
>>16573340

No. I find hair really gross, and I don't associate it with health or masculinity. The guy on the leftlooks better.
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>>16573340
Yes.

>>16573161
Moderation in all things.

>>16573144
You're not necessarily disqualified, but you are at a disadvantage.

>>16573137
You can try, but you won't. Learn what words mean.
>>
What should men know by age 25?
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>>16573340
Right picture is much more attractive. Too much of a beard though is gross. I also love men with body hair.
>>
>>16573803
How much body hair is too much?
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>>16573842
When it looks unhygienic? I don't know. I like men with body hair as long as they take care of themselves.
>>
All other things being equal, what quantifies creepiness?
>>
hey yo lemme ask you guys a question
there is this girl who told me she is "not ready for a relationship yet." Im cool with that, whatever.

Well, I saw her tonight in a concert my brother was in. I passed her a few times afterwards but didn't say anything to her.

Should I have? Should I text her something now?
>>
Girls:

Going to visit a friend, she suggested sleeping on the couch but then also suggested her bed. Am I reading too much into this?
>>
>>16574091
Man here.

I don't know if in your culture it's common for adult men and women sleep in the same bed in a non-sexual way; but at least in mine, I would for sure read that as "I want to have sex with you."

I think a good way to test it for sure is mentioning "Sleeping in the bed with you? This gives me dirty thoughts..." and then laughing... if she does or does not want the dick, she'll either say it outright or let it quite explicit.
>>
>>16573340
Even in the photo the guy on left is paler and has a "deer in headlights" sort of insecure look while the guy on the right is tanner and kinda has a confident smirk while looking off the camera
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>>16574124
I'm in the states. That's what I figure, but I don't wanna have misread anything. She's a close friend of mine.
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>>16574258
If she's going to be in the bed too. Choose bed.
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is it weird to not be able to get hard during sex? or to not be able to cum?

whenever i have sex i can fuck for like 5+ hours to the point where my dick just struggles to get hard and i have to mash it into her because it's hard to penetrate with a floppy dick..
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>>16574067
you should have said "hey whats up" or something you fucking virgin. just because she doesnt want your dick doesnt mean you can't be a normal human being
>>
Girls, what's the easiest way to make a girl laugh?
There's this girl I like that seems quite shy but when I see her around people she knows she is the exact opposite how do you make a girl comfortable with you and be able to open up to you?
>>
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So this girl just send this to me. I'm glad that I made her day, but it just gets me that HOW can I make someone else day? I hate myself, and it (almost) bothers me that this QT was thinking about me. I don't know her well, but I do care about her. But it just blows my mind that I, ME the loser I am could make someone else's day who lives like 6,000 miles away
>>
Do girls like guys with bigger than normal butts? Like not fat, but more muscular?

I've been doing squats for the last year and a half and my mom and sister keep saying my butt is too big now.
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>>16574512
Yes. You have delayed ejaculation and/or erectile dysfunction
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>>16574613
A nice, muscular butt us always much better than flabby pancake butt.
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>>16574613
i have a huge thing for guys with big, curvy butts.
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>>16574527
for me, it just takes time being around a person. also getting drunk with someone i trust but the new person is also there
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>>16574091
she might be offering her bed without meaning both of you sleeping on the bed. i offer my bed to guys and i'll take the couch, it's the polite thing to do for a guest
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>>16573860
Part of it is not acting in an appropriate manner. Another part of it is being insincere or deceitful, regardless of intentions.

If you don't want to be creepy you should learn to be empathetic and learn how to handle social situations. You should also strive to always say what you mean and mean what you say, never lie just because the truth is difficult and never speak just to fill a silence.
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>>16574091
Don't bother trying to read into it. Even if social norms indicate that it could be an admission of interest, she could instead just be socially retarded or maybe she could just be trying to garner your interest without actually reciprocating the feeling (A.K.A. trying to launch you into beta-orbit).

What you should do, assuming you are interested in something happening, is try and initiate but keep expectations low
>>
>>16574613
Alright, got a vid of me squatting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pcp_9dO0rHc

So while not the best as my butt might look bigger because of the exercise, it's the only thing I have with it right now. So is my butt too big?
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>>16573803
>tfw I have a lot of chest hair
>also hair on my belly, arms, legs, back and ass
>>
Girls, How much acne is a turn off on a guys body?

I don't have extreme amounts of acne of course, but a few here and there due to trying to lose weight and a new diet and stuff.
>>
Why is it that women are always down to fuck me, but never seem to want a relationship? Like we'll have a great intimate night, then when I ask them out they go dark. Even if I've fucked them multiple times, and they know I'm good, its the same shit every time. It gets lonely...
>>
Is asking a girl out on Facebook so terrible? Because it's my only option now

>girl was in my class
>establish some rapport, but I was seeing someone at the time
>classes are over and so is my relationship
>never got her number
>almost certainly won't have another class with her
>no mutual friends or places of interest to run into her
Do I just go for it? How do I make it as least autistic as possible?
>>
>>16574905
Get some Accutane from your dermatologist and you will literally never need to worry about it again.
>>
>>16574913
Because you're a manwhore and not boyfriend material. Just for "pump and dump" and they say.
>>
>>16574913
How soon after meeting someone do you jump into bed with them?
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>>16574928
>Hi Anon, it was nice to meet you in [class], I really enjoyed your [unique facet of her personality]. Would you like to go on a date with me and we can get to know each other better?
>>
Been with my gf for two months now. Married woman in another state who's been my friend for like a year wants me to visit her sometime in 2016 (and fuck alot) I dont know what to do holy shit help me
>>
>>16575006
You visit your friend and take your girlfriend along so she can meet your friend? I don't understand what the problem is
>>
>>16574913
Hey man I had the same problem, I've fucked 5 girls but my gf of a couple months is my first actual relationship. I'm 21.
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>>16575006
>should I cheat
Do you want to stay with your gf?
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>>16575010
Yeah you don't get my problem. I wanna fuck her real bad.
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>>16575006
1.) You're entertaining the idea of cheating.
2.) With someone who is cheating in the WORST way possible; on their married spouse.
3.) Kill yourself for having zero morals.
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>>16575016
Then don't go and visit her. Or break up with your girlfriend because you clearly don't give a fuck about her
>>
>>16575020
>>16575017
>>16575013
Fuck
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>>16574975
I'm not though.

>>16574976
Depends. Sometimes a simple pickup,sometimes recent friends, sometimes long-term friends. Most recently met this girl, we had a great night and she was basically falling in love with me, genuinely, then after she goes and hangs out with her mom and friends she goes cold...

>>16575012
Gives me some hope. I'm 24. Thanks bro
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>>16575154
You are though
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>>16575006
This >>16575017
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>>16575163
Because I like to have sex? Uhh ok. Besides, even if I was, the most recent girl wouldn't have known that. I was drunk and not THAT good that night. TF is up with that. She was totally falling in love with me and dint even want me to leave, so I stayed a couple extra hours, then bam, cold outta nowhere like 2 days later.
>>
>>16573786
How to do household stuff like cooking and laundry, how to drive and he must have gotten over any ideologies based on fear or feeling uncomfortable (racism, sexism, etc.)
>>
>>16573842
Opinions vary from "i hate all body hair" to "the hairier the better".

>>16574589
> how do i make some elses day?
Simply by caring senpai
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>>16574666
I can't believe I didn't even think of that as an option. That does sound fairly plausible.

>>16574799
I'm definitely interested, but I will keep expectations low.
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