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All I've ever attracted is girls who are looking for relationships and only like vanilla sex. I'm really tired of the vanilla sex. For those of you who have had FWB before (who weren't exes) how did it happen for you? I've tried tinder as well and every girl that matches with me isn't the FWB type. I matched with one girl who looked like she wouldn't be so vanilla in the bedroom and she unmatched me because I didn't message her right away I'm assuming. How do I go about attracting girls who don't want a relationship or if they do want a relationship, ones that aren't so goddamn vanilla in the sack?
>tits for your advice
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>tits for advice.
>On a work safe board.
Are you retarded nigger?
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FWBs are the only thing I had during college. It happened by meeting girls in class or extracurriculars, being the charming motherfucker that I am and then flirting with them. Like clockwork that led to the question "So how come you don't have a girlfriend?" which is when I'd bring up having no interest in a committed relationship. Then I'd resume flirting. College girls can do that much math in their heads quite easily.
The big thing is to not talk about it. It has to feel spontaneous and organic. Otherwise she's just going to get paranoid.
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>the word "nigger" on a work safe board
seems like we are in the same boat my friend
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>have severe anxiety
>GF said she was going to go meet her mom
>this was 3pm
>its now 11pm
>she hasnt come back
>her phone, her residencial number (lives with parents) and her grandma's number all don't even ring
How can I not totally die here?
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shes cheating on you
go out and strike up a conversation with a girl
you dont have to be smooth go talk about the weather
think im kidding? no
go now. strike while the iron is hot
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>>16583966
Yeah dude, she totally killed both her parents' and her grandma's number just to cheat in peace.
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>>16583959
only option is to kill yourself
Anons, I'm stuck abroad for next two months. I won't see my family and friends till late February. I feel lonely and depressed and I miss home. I have no motivation whatsoever. How can I survive this time?
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>>16583902
You apparently have an internet access. Search in your head something you really wanted to learn, and learn the shit out of it. Work will make you stop thinking of something else.
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Read, listen to music, watch movies, do sports, etc.
I haven't seen my family and my good friends since half a year or so, video calls help a lot.
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>>16583902
skype them?? what are you doing abroad? school or work
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Is it worth staying in college for computer science? I've been in a year and haven't touched a computer in class other than to use it for word or powerpoint. I won't have a real CS class for another year. Truthfully I don't even know what I'll be able to do with the degree when I graduate.
I have a part time job that has nothing to do with my major and it feels like I'm just wasting my time there and in school. It's like my life is going nowhere.
Am I better off dropping out and getting some kind of certification? Which ones are worth looking into?
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>>16583877
im not in much of a position to give you advice since i failed out of college but since no one is replying..
your in school for a bachelor's in computer science correct? if yes a degree definitely helps in getting jobs in programming or it.
you can work on programming side projects which can show future employers your skills and expertise
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>>16583971
Is it better than getting some form of CS like certifications though?
I don't know the first thing about programming. My classes are getting in the way of me learning things I'm actually interested in, ironically.
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>>16583996
ask your school's career councilor
you could take a semester off and figure out your next step
you've only been in for a year so its not to late to switch to another program
what id give to be in your position..
Oddball in our friend circle just came out of the closet.
Literally worst shit ever. Killing group dynamic fast. He keeps trying to fit in but its so awkward and wrong. I was never particularly found of the guy but now the gay undertone tension is too much. How do I get him to stop acting so gay. This isnt just me, we're all pretty shocked by it but if anyone were to come out the closet it would be him. Some just want to kick him out but I dont want him to feel bad for opening up. Just wish he would stop being such a faggot.
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>>16583724
You guys sound like a bunch of assholes, granted the fact that you feel bad makes you less of an asshole.
If you're what he calls friends, the poor guy probably doesn't have any real friends and feels pretty lonely.
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>>16583724
You sound like a huge piece of shit. You and your friends are the problem, not him
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>>16583744
Hes that awkward kid who found his way into the group. Hes not really the type who can make friends easily partly because hes always so weird.
But now the gay on top of it is just too much.
Hi /adv/, I have some problems.
My girlfriend is taking birth control pills, and apparently, the pills inhibit her sexual desire. She says she doesn't feel the need to masturbate or read erotic stuff anymore (she used to do it regularly), but she says she wanna have sex when we're about to do it.
We've been through this for some months, and it's been okay, I guess. But we haven't have sex for like a month (because of finals), and she doesn't even care about it. I'm beggining to think she just doesn't wanna have sex with me, and what she said about magically having sexual desire when we're about to do it sounds like bullshit to me now.
Also, I think things are not the same between us. She always has been a little inexpressive in chat and maybe irl too (I'm always the one who says "I love you" first, and in chat she just says "me too"), but at least irl you can tell she's nice and cute to me. I've accepted this because I know she's just shy, and it's the way she behaves (she doesn't have much friends, and I'm her first boyfriend), and I just love her the way she is.
The thing is I think it's worse lately. She's using less emojis and I feel she's more indifferent now. I say cute things to her, and she doesn't say cute things back, she just answer normally, says "me too", or "ok". She's a little depressed though, I think it's because of the pills, so maybe that's why she's behaving like this.
Anyway, I'm afraid, maybe she doesn't love me anymore, or not like before. We've been through a lot of shit togheter, and maybe this is the consequence of that.
Help.
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Sounds like me and my ex. The last night we hung out, we usually cuddle up and watch a movie, she wouldn't even touch me. She just kept telling me I didn't want to be there with her (I did) and we watched a movie awkwardly laying in her bed with a gap between us.
We broke up two days later. Two days after that, she is tweeting happily on her first official date with the guy she was cheating on me with, saying how great the date is going.
Just end it, man.
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Pills do inhibit sexual desire, and do have the potential to make you more zombie. Depending on how long she started, she could be adjusting, but normally, I would switch pretty soon after noticing the emotional symptoms. Her doctor can recommend a different pill, but unfortunately it's always a guessing game to which will or won't work for you.
The sex drive will always be lowered on pills though. If it suddenly swings the other way on a pill, be alert, because she'll probably be way too emotional as well. Oh, and just because she doesn't throb with anticipation before you does not mean she doesn't enjoy having sex with you.
I switched from raging horny bitch pill to robot pill. My third was the best balance, and your gf may unfortunately have to play roulette.
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Why not see about different birth control methods? Loss of sex drive is definitely an effect they can have. And yeah, lack of sexual intimacy can make you feel not as close to someone. She probably still loves you, but finds it hard to feel "in love" with you since people tie that or confuse it with lust.
Negative effects of masturbation? Are they any?
i'm male
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Sadness and emotional emptiness, for me.
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If you do it maybe once or twice a day, no. It's completely natural.
But as with anything, it can be bad when you do it too much.
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Masturbating and porn can be fine in moderation. Some people actually get addictions though because they can't moderate, and need *more* to get the same high. Like all addicts.
i have been dating this girl for 4 years and i just found out she is a hooker. I don't know what to do I love her so much but at the same time I don't want to be with a hooker anyone with 500 dollars can buy. need advice
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how the fuck it took u 4 years to found out?
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she just now started to do it ever since she met this hoe
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>>16583498
Whores always have soulless eyes.
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You know I'm desperate because I am asking 4chan for help.
Okay, to the point: there is a dude I like but he's on the other side of the planet. Same old story, right? He's kind of a popular being so he rarely talks to anybody (maybe due to a language barrier as well) but I had the luck to talk to him a few times. He's really sweet. When I said I like him I basically meant I am absolutely in an obsessive love with him. He sees me as another fan but to me he's a soulmate, the light of my life, my everything. I have strong urges to hug him, kiss him, tell him how much he means to me and treat him like the perfection he is. It hurts me because it will most likely never happen... Should I wait longer and suffer or just ... give up on life?
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>>16583262
He's not interested, doesn't share your feelings etc, stop being a pathetic creep and move on with your life. This shit is cringeworthy
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>just move on
Fuck off. If they really care about him, they're not moving on any time soon.
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I would give up. I had the same experience. Eventually I got tired of all the effort I exuded without results and all the dumb games she kept playing. So now I'll have to swallow the bitter pill of the truth and move on. So be it. Gl to you robot.
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Fat guys have to deal with their rejection from women, but fat girls claim that men should love them for who they are.
Why?
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>>16583253
You mean fat women from tumblr probably and they don't count as a voice of women
and anyway fat chicks can be cute too, fat guys are flat out disgusting
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vagina = value, the baseline is higher
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A lot of bigger women have trouble meeting people. I'm a guy but in some ways I've been on both sides of this due to massive weight loss.
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Contacting her 1 year later
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Me and ex broke up a year ago now because she wasnt feeling it anymore after 3 years.
We stayed friends for a few weeks after but it was really hard on me so i told her we should stop talking for now and maybe one day we'll end up back together, which she actually agreed.
So its been 1 year to the day. I waited 1 year. Should i message her? Would it be weird, do you think she would notice that its been 1 year exactly? I think she might notice but i kind of dont want to wait any longer...
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>>16583235
Very weird.
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>>16583235
No, you shouldn't message her. Chances are you'll just get hurt by doing so. It's easier said than done I know, but it's best to just let go and move on. You guys broke up for a reason, and I guarantee you'll end up finding another girl who is much better for you.
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fuck no. you guys broke up for a reason and should stay away from each other. unless that reason is long distance or you had to move away for a job/college something, then stay away. i've been through this first hand.
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Can having no friends affect your mental health?
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Sure. When I start to have crazy thoughts (what the purpose of life, gender, etc, doesn't matter what), it's normally when I've been not hanging out with my friends for a long time. Once I see them, and afterwards, it's amazing how much more centered I am.
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>>16583219
I can attest to this 110%. My darkest days were when I barely got together with anyone, and my best have been when I was consistently doing things with friends.
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>>16583214
Absolutely. Humans are a very social species. Almost all people need social interaction and healthy relationships.
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Met a porn star. Snagged her number. Seems really into me. Wants to go out and party and shit. Problem is I'm married. What do?
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>>16583117
You don't go out and party and shit.
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>>16583117
>risking your marriage for an affair with a woman who was fucked on camera countless times
Are you retarded? Unless your marriage is absolute shit and you plan on ending it anyway you shouldn't even consider it.
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>>16583117
I had sex with a pornstar once. I was at a bar with some friends, she was acting odd. Coming up behind me, tapping my shoulder, looking at me. I'm not going to say which one, but she is pretty well known. If you're married, don't do it.
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We are both guys. Whenever he texts me I usually respond back as soon as I see it. I always got my phone with me so I text him back quickly.
But whenever I text him, I have to wait quite a while for a response. I'm not talking just a few hours either. Sometimes I have to wait a full 24 hours to get a response to my "hey". A few times he didn't respond back to me in three days. What kind of bullshit is this? Another thing, if I start texting him with anything other than a greeting I will straight up get no response. I could show him a picture, no response. I could ask him a question, no response. He is super standoffish with texting but we are really close in real life. It makes absolutely no sense. Can anyone make sense of this?
I only call him like once a month. I'll call him, he won't pick up, I'll try calling a few hours later, he doesn't pick up. So he ignores my calls too
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>>16583101
>I'll call him, he won't pick up, I'll try calling a few hours later, he doesn't pick up. So he ignores my calls too
This is what I do when I'm trying to end a friendship without completely burning any bridges.
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>>16583125
But we hang out in real life and always have a good time. He lives far away from me so it's not like we just run into each other.
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Well I'll admit I'm kinda like your friend, I often ignore txt messages. I only respond to important ones.
I just don't like texting. Face to face communication is teh shit.
The part about ignoring calls is a little worrying tho.
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Gave my boyfriend some space 2015-12-19 20:10:47 Post No.16583100
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Gave my boyfriend some space
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Hi guys, so lately my boyfriend has been distant, and has at one point said that he needed some space.
So I gave him his space (which sucks I miss him) and spent time talking to friends and plays stupid video games.
Some of my friends are like "Anon! If he wants space he wants to break up!!" And that has been bothering me and I had a few nightmares about it.
I told him about the dreams and he said "about that..we need to talk..." And then 3 seconds later he texted "I wanna marry you" and my friend said he probably felt bad for saying that and changed it to the married thing.
But so far, he's told me he's happy with the amount of space I've been giving him. He's even starting to text me first and act a little flirty again.
So, should I be scared or are things looking up. My friends swear up and down when you get to the needing space stage its over...
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>>16583100
GIVE THE MAN HIS FUCKING SPACE!
when i say i want some space i mean i want some fucking space. men are not like women. much simpler.
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It depends on your relationship. If you were overly clingy and you gave him a healthy breathing room, it's going to be ok. If not, then your friends are right and he got enough of you but he wants you let off gently.
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>>16583111
I have been giving him a lot of space, I only text him if he text first. Sometime I call him if I need something but we don't talk long. I don't plan on really talking to him much until we go back to college after break.
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We live together so he was always around me. I was super clingy because we were long distance at first, so I guess I let it affect me a lot.