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>>16606467
Why did you say fuck it all to counting your calories?

You should know that many Anons, including myself, just hide threads relating to mental disorders. You have one. You don't need advice, you need therapy. Advice is "soup or salad?" It's not "fix me." We can't fix you over the internet. Your way of thinking is unhealthy and you need to have someone teach you new ways. That takes support, time and training. The only thing you will accomplish here is to reinforce the normality of your issues by talking about them for minutes/hours.

advice on what? no one else can change your eating habits for you and it doesn't seem like you even try. you want to be rewarded with losing all the extra weight you have for not eating one treat you want. it's not and it never will be easy and real results take hard work.

>>16606376
They don't work and it's not a real relationship. It's more like symbiotic parasites.

>>16606376

I don't think so. To this day, I haven't been able to win an argument about it with my hoe friend.

My real argument is "You don't love your bf and you want to sleep around but don't want to leave him for other reasons."

Basically, when you are in love, the idea of the girl being with someone else pains you. My friend's argument is that this is insecure and possessive. I can't debate that, it's just the way it is.

But in short, one person gets to be a pimp and others are their bitch.

If everyone in the web of relationships is wired for it, then it can work. But the difficulty of this increases exponentially with the size of the web, and if even one of them starts to have doubts, the resulting dramaquake can bring the whole thing crashing down.

If you are having doybts, then it is best to stay away. You just aren't wired for it. Most people aren't.

>>16606299
Also have about 10 dresses, some casual some more formal. 12 pairs of tights/nylons. And around 7 pairs of shorts. And 6 skirts.

>>16606299

If you are male and have more clothing than you need for 10 days, it's way, way too much shit.

As far as college assignments/books - you may want to leave a few noteworthy essays, but fact is that you will never look at them again.

Also, I helped a few friends move over the years - they just drop most of their shit and take what they can pack in a car.

>70 shirts, 20 jackets

This is fucked up. 10 shirts is starting to push it. 20 jackets, why?

I'm assuming you're a femanon, so I'm not sure how much more clothing you ought to have than an average male such as myself, but I have probably 2-3 weeks worth of clothes that I can wear without repeating too much, and I honestly think that's too much. I'd say do a sweep of your closet and keep like 2 weeks worth of clothes, plus any clothes for certain occassions (i.e. workout clothes, formal clothes, warm jackets etc.)

So how do I fully move on and get over this girl without having complete closure first? I'm just so confused because since the couple days after our breakup it seems as though she's an entirely different person, and as I've said she refuses to explain anything to me.

I can provide more details if need be, just ask.

>Tl;dr: gf and I broke up a month ago, she said she loved and cared about me still and wants me in her life, now she acts as though she wants to have nothing to do with me and won't explain what happened between us. How do I move on without complete closure, or how do I get complete closure?

>>16606257
>>16606251
You two broke up; there's no obligation for closure. It'd be nice and probably better for the both of you, emotionally, if you could come to terms with the end of your relationship, but that shit doesn't always work out.

It's pretty safe to say she's still feeling upset, and is trying to distance herself from you and her sentiments. It was a mistake to suggest that you two should be friends, since you already had a deeper emotional connection between yourselves and that's always going to be an issue. Recognize the fact that she wants nothing to do with you, skip the melodrama, and go find something productive to distract yourself with.

>>16606257
>So how do I fully move on and get over this girl without having complete closure first?

>needing complete closure

Just move on you fucking cuck, it's that simple.

Oh, and while you're at it maybe you'd better move on to reddit too.

You handle it by...minding your own business.

I fail to see how this is of any concern to you. Even if your morals are offended, you would be out of bounds to try to involve yourself in any way.

Go read a book or something.

This is not any of your business nor is it your place to meddle with a relationship that doesn't concern you. The only way I would think it would be ok for you to let the boyfriend know is if you were close friends with him or something. If not, fuck off.

Why do you feel you need to "handle" this? Stay out of her life and out of her business.

If you feel bad for the guy and what you feel is best for the guy is to leave the relationship, then tell the guy this is happening.

If you feel bad for the kid, then alert social services that the kid's mother is an illegal sex worker (cam girl).

If what you're aiming for in your high horse is to "shame this whore" or some other ludicrously stupid shit, please stop. All you are doing is putting everyone associated with the woman through unnecessary emotional turmoil, and most likely, because of more deeper running and complicated reasons than you as an outsider can see, those people will now be enmeshed in an even unhappier relationship.

You mean getting shit on your dick? Then don't have anal sex. There is ALWAYS a risk and if you can't cope with that it's not for you.

>>16606122
How so? Other forms of sex are just as clean/dirty. Abstain if you find sex gross. Don't even touch yourself. Become a cat lady.

I'm scared of him getting shit on his dick. In porn nothing like that ever happens. So I wonder like what porn stars do to prevent it.

suck him off you cumhog

>>16606045
Fuck his mom and post pictures on his fb page.

Be the bigger man and start complimenting his mother. You'll guilt him into stopping.

read an infographic written by a non-English speaker who is big on capital D Disipline and victim blaming.

>>16605988

A person can be both, it's the environment and the company you keep that will eventually bring those behaviors out of you.

Choose to be in a good positive environment and cut off negative influences instead.

Nice flow chart for a nonexistant boring individual btw. It's idealistic but it's not realistic at all. People will just walk all over the disciplined person and eventually they'll be the opposite out of stress. The opposite can happen to the non disciplined person if put in the right environment with the right people.

The most disciplined and succesful aren't living like monks in this day and age. There are people who know how to be social, spontaneous and creative as well and still be disciplined to make the right decisions.

Some people don't deserve respect after their smug facade of being "disciplined" wears off. It's just smugness lol.

Discipline comes from self motivation to either compete or achieve. Happiness comes after you win or reach your goals.

People who aren't discplined don't exist, you have been disciplined in one way or the other by society.

Bad habits and how you cope with stress is what's being contrasted here.

>>16605988
this picture needs another brake at negative consequences where someone may choose good behavior to avoid negative consequences in the future

>>16605930
Honestly I do love her, she is beautiful, intelligent and everything I want in a GF and even a future wife. But I don't know what to do to fix this relationship.

>>16605930
>met my current gf on omegle
This doesn't look good.

>we developed an E-relationship as faggoty as that sounds
Damn right, son.

I would just let this die if I were you.
If you're the kind of person who finds relationships on omegle, you're not emotionally stable enough to keep this relationship alive and happy.

>>16605938
You're getting the picture wrong

Essentially I met her on omegle. But she ended up being everything I consider a 10/10, we would talk to each other everyday for months at a time. Thousands of hours etc, etc.

I wasn't going on omegle for the objective find a gf it was just a random act where I met someone I considered perfect.

lower your standarts or better yourself
it'll be either of these two

Do you ever have sex with people you're not completely attracted to, if that's the case you're not too picky.

Do you feel like you keep being rejected by and don't have sex with the people you deserve, then you are too picky.

>>16605934
This. And quit whining.

Being rejected always feels bad, for everyone.
The worst I felt was when a woman who was 10 years older than me with flappy cheeks, big eyebrows and bad acne stigma rejected me after flirting with me. It was supposed to be my rebound bitch, I cried a little.

Not fucked up at all. The average 19 year old has little control of their life, due to lack of experience, family life, and limited mobility.

Your 20s are meant for traveling, working, independence,exposing yourself to as much as you can. At your age, you just have to start thinking about what direction you want to go in, try a few, and remain 'present' in the experience.

Most people are in the same mental/emotional spot as you, they just have their own specific struggles. Educate yourself on how to get what you want, and be proactive.

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Up to you. So far, you're describing like 10, 15% of the population of men.

You're also describing the foundation of many fabulously successful men and also of some homeless junkies as well.

So, yeah, it's pretty much what you make of it.
My own thought? Finish your compulsory basic education, and go pick up a trade or do something interesting that will help you figure out what you want to do with yourself.
I was in a similar situation, except for having a couple of good friends, and I ended up getting a job on a commercial fishing boat. I got into better shape, toughened up and figured out what I wanted to do for college after 2 years of that. Can't say that will work for you, but a radical change, learning how to do something useful and toughening up a bit really can help anyone.

>>16605897
I don't know, it's just i started recently to develop a serious social anxiety, to the point where i consider i am losing energy every time i speak with someone. I feel a constant pain and emptiness that i didn't have things people usually already had at my age.

>>16605863
WASH YO MOTHERFUCKIN FACE NIGGA

I have big pores and tons of blackheads as well. You're just going to have to deal with exfoliating your nose everyday, using those blackhead nose strips, and properly moisturizing so your skin doesn't dry out. As long as you can scrub a few out and you don't get any pimples, you'll be fine. Try to rinse your face with cold water to close your pores a bit.

The upside to having oily skin is that you are less likely to have wrinkles. I'm 29 and people think I'm 19.

I have them too OP. Mine are pretty gross actually, due to their size.

I went to a dermatologist and she basically told me: "Cleaning your face with this product here will take care of oily nose and make your face cleaner, but to remove those blackheads you will need a professional to remove them for you"

I cleaned my face twice a day for months, and my blackheads are in my face just liek before. Maybe there's a different product that would actually work, but maybe my dermatologist was right, a professional needs to remove it.

there are people who did it for sure

it's like a snowball effect

i have seen many people making comments like "I miss my old nerdy days", implying that they were nerdy before but changed

>>16605859
I did it. I was socially a fucking mongoloid in high school, i had a decent reason or two but what matters is that i got over them in time.

I moved to a new town in 7th grade, knew no one. On the first day of school, I ate lunch by myself. The next day, I picked a dude in class that had a cool t shirt on, started talking about music, and then asked if I could sit with his friends for lunch.
They were kind of assholes at first, but I kept showing up and cracking jokes, and eventually we all became very close. That's how I got pretty popular in high school.

Same thing in college, just picked random people to find a connection with, and just stayed consistent. I work now, so I'm always traveling and being surrounded by strangers. You just have to treat people like you have known them for years, and that wall of tension dissolves immediately.

>>16605856
Si

>>16605856
>>16605860
>>16605862
But like, why?

I dunno but I grab my gfs ass when I please, due to the pleasure I get from grabbing her soft fat ass.

She has a nice ass for a native girl.

that was predictable from the start man, she wouldn't break with her bf for you

now it's time to suffer

>>16605848
we spoke about her breaking up and she didnt say it was impossible, and also her bf is making her sad since a couple of months...
i know it was predictable, but i couldnt do anything, i liked her too much, i had to try

>>16605852

>we spoke about her breaking up and she didnt say it was impossible

that's because she is stringing you along, she knew she would try to keep you both

there's probably no good way of killing your feelings, the only thing i can think of is the way she behaved

her relationship was not working, instead of breaking up or fixing it, she decided to cheat

if you two had a future together that outcome could happen again