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Why do I feel ungrateful? For this Christmas all my mom got me was 4 long sleeve dress shirts that I didn't like. I didn't have the heart to tell her I didn't like them, or that I didn't even want or need more shirts. I dont know why this is making me feel so bad. Its like I'm thankful for her getting me something but me not liking them makes me feel bad. She's never gotten me a thoughtful gift in my life, only things I've told her or stuff that "picked those shirts up because they were on sale".
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>>16603737
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>>16603737
It can be awkward as fuck with parents trying tongive gifts. The problwm is very common. Dony overthink this
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>>16603858
But I never feel this bad
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Well /adv I'm going through that moment in a relationship where you can't win
>Ask out crush 2 months after she broke up with her ex, she cheated on him
>Would have just ignored her after I heard that but then I found out she liked me
>Go on date to dinner and a movie, she's perfect
>Been going out for 6 months, everything going perfectly, no major arguments and she tells me how happy she is with me every day
>Her guy best friend (who I have never met) invites her to a 4 day boat trip around an island
>These two hang out frequently, more than me and her because of my new job, she's stayed for hours with him without contacting me
>I'm normally fine about it until she tries to avoid telling me
>The guys parents encourage her to come with them, and even suggest she sleep in his bed
>He doesn't object at all to the idea, and it sounds like he tries hinting at stuff in their messages
>I told her how uncomfortable I feel about this, and that they know she's in a relationship and how wrong it is to do that
"I don't see what's wrong with it, Anon, don't worry!"
>She literally doesn't see anything wrong with sleeping in this dudes bed and going away on a trip for 4 days without any form of contact and with his parents that are trying to get them together
So what do I do /adv/? The only 2 options I can think of are either breaking up with her, or just letting her go on the trip, because she's determined to go
I don't know if I can trust her, she's cheated before but her ex treated her like shit, and I feel she wouldn't know what to do if this guy tries making a move onto her
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>>16603733
When girls cheat they typically aren't that up front about nothing going on.
If she cheats her behavior will change sharply and noticeably.
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she's already cheated. she's long gone brother.
it's time to cut contact and move on.
How do I interact with women?
My first girlfriend broke up with me and I have no idea how dating works, specifically:
-I know that any form of interaction with a woman without her vocal consent is harassment, so how do I strike up conversation?
-Even in the event that a girl does strike up conversation, how do I know I'm allowed to be interested in her?
My ex girlfriend was very forward with me, so none of this was a problem, but I'm pretty certain no other girl will ever do that.
How do I go about dating without being a harasser?
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>>16603693
Bump for interest
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>>16603693
You're obviousIy sociaIIy retarded and asking on here is pathetic.
Get a fucking Iife.
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>>16603709
Asking for advice on an advice board is wrong? Okay.
And yes, I do have social problems, mainly that I don't know how to look at a woman without her consent and not feel like an asshole.
I've been taught to be social, to always prioritise the happiness of everyone around me. To do so, I can't go imposing my actions on potentially unwilling others, I don't have that right, even if I've suffered the same (didn't use to be a rarity to get an unprovoked punch in the face. It felt like shit but at least I could help clear someone's frustration).
But I feel that not having anyone to care about/for and not being cared about feels emptier than I can comfortably endure, and other people seem to know how to be happy and make others happy.
So I was hoping someone knew.
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>Talking about titty-fucking with gf
>Ask her if she's done it
>She says yeah
>Whatever.jpg
>She continues to add details
>"It was weird cause I got cum on my face"
I didn't want to know that shit...Now I feel weird as fuck.
Wat do?
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>>16603621
stop shitposting about this.
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>>16603623
I'm not?
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Ahaha that sucks. Really. I've done the same thing, that's the whole fun of hooking up, knowing some poor guy is going to bend over backwards for her later and I've cum all over her mouth and face.
Not sure what to do though. I'd feel bad if my wife ever said that to me.
I don't think the woman would care though. Women aeem to value sex very differently. Lurking to see what others say.
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My ex, who I'm still pretty fucked up about despite knowing she's an awful person and it being almost two years ago, got all of her music taste from me. I don't follow her on any social media or anything but when I was on instagram I saw a post by her and it was her wall covered in her favourite albums, all of which I showed her and most I still listen to often.
I guess it makes me mad that she shit on me but then just took my taste in music, and now I avoid listening to a few albums because they remind me of her. I wish I could forget all about her but I don't know how to. Am I just being autistic or? I don't know what else other than being autistic lmao.
(literally all I have in my life is music and making music so I don't know if that helps showing that it's a big thing to me)
Please help.
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>>16603606
I don't know. Maybe the knowledge, that she just loves the music because it sounds good is ncie for you. She is just some phony-ass-wannabee-fangirl that actually has no clue what that music is about and what it really is supposed to mean. The only thing she can do is post bits and pieces of the lyrics, pretending they apply to her life *perfectly*.
I have the feeling, that it might be Punk Rock or something near that genre. If it is, seriously, just don't give a fuck. That is exactly what the genre tries to teach you most of the time.
Or something like that.
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>>16603652
It's everything from punk (nomeansno, joy division), to like Slint and Death Grips. Really I should just be like "eh, fuck it" but I guess I'm to much of a baby for that, as much as I'd like to.
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I'm curious as to what the music is. What are the albums you avoid listening to now? And yeah I had a similar experience, or a friend who wasnt into music at all, I introduced her to some stuff, suddenly she rebrands herself as this super into music hipster. Just disregard her and continue doing what you enjoy
Soon a friend of mine will tell me he likes me.
I don't like him back.
What should I tell him? I don't want him to get hurt.
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Be direct and honest. It's what he needs to hear. If you sugar coat it too much and make him think there is still a chance he'll just be one of those miserable "she friendzoned meee, is there still a chance?" losers.
The clearer you are about it the kinder you're being to him. It will allow him to move on faster and get on with his life.
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Yeah, crystal clear. It very well may hurt him but you can't really control that.
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>>16603497
Listen to me. I won't mince words with you here.
You cannot be friends anymore. He will stick around you thinking you will eventually change your mind. It's his fault for sticking around because he's weak, but it's also your fault for knowing he's weak and letting him hurt himself by remaining your friend.
Seriously, just back off him once he tells you and say it's just for the best.
How do/would you deal with anhedonia (loss of interest in everything)?
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>>16603287
Why would I? If they're not interested in anything, they're not interested in me. I'm similarly not interested in people who have no interest in me, as a friend or otherwise. Seriously. There are billions of people in the world. I'd much rather spend time/energy on the ones who aren't fucked up.
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I would make it my mission to find something I was interested in and thus give my life meaning. So I'd be interesting in finding an interest. Easy. Next question.
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>>16603291
Nice reading comprehension, champ.
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I think I've fucked up!
I've been seeing my GF for nearly a year. Best thing to happen etc. Lets me play out all my fantasies... bitch be giving me hand in public. Has a job. Like I have no problems with this bitch at all.
I do like to watch the odd porn here and there. GF knows this and has seen some of my 'tame' porn.
A few hours ago I was watching my special porn before my GF came over. Closing my laptop makes my computer go to sleep mode. I left laptop open as I wasn't expecting anyone over. Girlfriend at door with Christmas presents. She walks in leave the presents at the tree. She looks at me with an angry face, and storms out. Confused, I call her. Calls all rejected. I go to the tree and realize my special porn is in clear view. FUCK.
She's been on the phone for nearly 2 hours. I'm going crazy here. Don't know what the fuck to do. DBAN is running on my laptop. Have I fucked up my relationship and life?!
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Define special porn. Perhaps share a few samples so that we can evaluate how to proceed.
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>>16602492
Considering the Michael Jackson picture I'm guessing OP left some cheesy pizza out in the open for his GF.
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>>16602492
Porn that's not mainstream
I cant post samples as the laptop is being wiped?
Girl I like is now a lesbian what do I do to get over her
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Date someone new.
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Become a lesbian yourself.
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>>16601685
I tried, didn't work out
Mom offers boyfriend of 5 years her engagement ring so he can propose. He says no.
He still wants to live together.
I am ready to end the relationship. Am I being too demanding? We have a kid.
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>Has a kid
>Throwing a tantrum because of an outdated symbolic tradition
>Said tradition is all risk for the man
Yes. Yes you are.
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Not at all. He sounds really shitty.
If you have a kid and you're together why wouldn't you marry?
And to embarrass your mother like that, disgusting.
Your own fault for having a kid before marriage tho. Dump him
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>>16601376
If that guy is like me, then you're being too demanding. He is probably not like me though, so you better tie his ass up before he bolts with all his shit.
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Sup guys. Maybe you can help me out. I'm a pretty submissive and masochistic guy. My girlfriend knows that. Currently we are on a long-distance relationship and I would love her to be my online-mistress (making me cum on webcam, taking control of my daily activities, etc.). So far we did not really have any SM because she is a bit afraid of it. So I see it as a good chance for her to get into it without any physical contact.
The only problem is that I don't want to ask her to do that. I might scare her too much with that weird stuff. So do you have an idea of how she could ask me something like "do you know about online-slavery?" or "do you want to be my online slave"?
I thought about that way:
Telling her to check a sm community because it is interesting and she can learn a bit about it to make me happy the next time we meet. Then create a fake account and talk about it with her.
Any other ideas? Writing that text made me realize how weird I am but yeah..
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>>16601307
If she's not naturally into being dominant, you can't really ask her to do something like that. I'll let you in on a hint: she's not afraid, she's just politely declining.
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you poor thing. even if your girl really was dominant eventually she'll start seeing you as less of a man and leave you.
femdom is really rare outside of porn.
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>>16601307
1) BDSM stuff goes to /d/, there's a BDSMGeneral there.
2) If she's afraid of it, may I suggest you stop using the word "slavery"? I'm into this shit, on both sides, as were a lot of contacts over the years, and none of us like the word. It implies no duty nor personality from the sub.
3) Usually we go about it in a format like "What can I do to make you happy?" "How about I send you a picture of me being tied up and you tell me what you'd do.".
4) It may be better to type it out, roleplay it without anything physical, and then, once you get a feel for what she likes, simply do it? If she likes the idea of your hands tied and you kneeling, then take a picture of that.
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/adv/, I consider myself a bit of a 'nice guy', but I'm nevertheless popular with the females because I'm a qualified medfag and /fit/... I've slept around a fair bit, but it's usually one person at a time, which is manageable
But now I'm juggling around three females - two of which clearly want a relationship. However, I'm far too busy for that at the moment and just enjoy the messaging and sex
But I've got a big party NYE and they'll all fucking be there... I invited one, my mate then invited the other and I've no idea how the third got invited
The issue is that I'm too empathetic and I think "I wouldn't like to be in their position" and it actually makes me feel guilty.
I guess I'd just like advice on:
-How to manage the situation on NYE
-Someone to tell me females are equally as shit as I am, and I shouldn't feel guilty
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>>16603520
one bump
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>>16603520
ok. long story short you are not as Nice as you think you are ,anon
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>>16603796
Perhaps... I just meant that I'm pretty considerate of how others may feel, and I'm hardly a Chad Thundercock
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I'm so frustrated right now that it's actually affecting me physically. My blood feels like it's boiling almost literally, my stomach's churning and my heartrate's through the roof. I've been sleeping like shit for weeks.
And it's all because my friend's being an ice cold bitch towards me. Pathetic, I know.
After years of being ditched, backstabbed or otherwise dropped by people I thought were friends, I got my shit back together. Then I finally opened up to someone again. This girl and I had so much in common, and we got along so well for a few months. I finally wasn't lonely anymore. I finally could do social shit without the shame of doing it alone. We had so much to talk about, we actually enjoyed seeing each other, and I had the time of my life.
And then it just ended. She got more blunt, more aloof. She started acting like she didn't give a shit about me. She didn't want to do anything together anymore. Everything we spoke about had to be about her; anything about me gets dismissed. She stopped initiating text contact, and her replies became matter-of-fact and unemotional. In person she always gives excuses to avoid meeting up. She accepts impromptu ideas of mine, then stalls long enough that it's too late to act on them. Multiple times. In the meantime she keeps telling me that no, she's just busy. She does want to be friends. I'm no bother to her. She just has a lot on her mind and doesn't know what to say. And I actually buy it.
Now she's spending the holidays in her hometown. I try to stay in touch, but there's zero effort from her part. I try to plan around it, try to talk about things I know she likes. And what do I get? Fucking "okay". Fucking one-word textbook 'fuck off'-signals. I try so hard to actually keep a friend because everyone ditches and avoids me, and the moment I try again it happens again.
I know this bitch is toxic. I want to unstress. I want to get my mind off things, but my usual activities aren't working. How can I get over this?
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>>16603496
Sounds like you need more experience with women.
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you're insanely needy. emphasis on the insane. get help from a doctor.
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>>16603645
Well I think it's normal if she's his only friend you know, not saying it's right though.
Maybe your friend got tired of being your only friend. Maybe she felt like she was taking care of a kid in a way? It gets tiring being the only support of a friend you know, it feels like you are responsible for them.
To be honest the best solution would be to start not giving a shit and become more independant. Don't put friendship on a pedestal. How old are you?
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My g/f and i recently discussed taking our relationship to the next level and having sex. She told me that she was very tight and it hurt to inset a tampon. I didn't really think a whole lot of it and told her i would use foreplay and loosen her up and it would be fine. But she said she dont think i would be able to get a finger in.
So i started googling and came across vaginismus and it seems like what she has. I this something that that can be worked though in a few months with lots of stimulation and fingering and maybe a dilation set? Or is this something that will take years or may never go away at all?
She's eager and willing but very hesitant because of the pain insertion causes her.
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just fuck her in the ass, anon
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>>16603400
i would prefer a real answer if anyone has dealt with this.
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>>16603405
You're not going to receive a "real answer" to this kind of question anon. The chances anyone here had dealt with this are really low. Use google some more.
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How do you prevent the transmission of STDs through cunnilingus or anilingus? I heard dental dams are cumbersome, inefficient
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>>16603365
That's pretty much the only way to help reduce chance of transmission. I guess there is stuff like latex panties too.
But it always comes back to the best way is abstinence or sex within a committed monogamous relationship with someone you trust and know is clean.
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>>16603376
>tfw socially regressive fogies are trying to use STDs to push their agenda
don't listen to this shit OP
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>>16603393
Wut? I'm just being honest. The only way to 100% prevent STDs is abstinence. There's no two ways about that.
Using condoms and dental dams definitely help reduce your chances but that risk is still present, and it grows with every new partner and every partner your partner(s) have.