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Is she into you as more than just a hook up? Are you willing to date her?

Most female virgins would rather lose it to someone special to them than a fuck buddy.

>>16612013
Yo, just rape her.

>>16612013
>Let's set aside morality for a minute.
No, let's not. This is evil, OP. If you're not satisfied with her, then leave her.

>>16612007
Stop jerking off to porn retard

>I can still fap to porn ok. Im still attracted to other girls.
This is literally what porn does to you. From watching so many different girls have sex you start craving different women all the time.

>>16612007
Yeah it's not going to work unless you can somehow fix that shit.

>>16611953
He sounds like a jerk.

>>16611953
You're both being weird. He's upset at something else. God only knows what it is. Something else in life is currently angering/upsetting him, and it came out today by being annoyed with the dog. You'll need to find out what's causing him to be irritable at a later time, not right now.

As for you, you've got some hardcore separation issues if you can't spend one night alone without your husband. Stop being nutters about this. It's nothing to throw this big of a fit about; and that goes for both of you.

Chill out, go to sleep and talk about this when you're rational again tomorrow. No crying, no yelling. It's not getting anyone anywhere. When you calm down, talk about it like adults.

>>16611953
>pregnant from first child

What

>>16611924
Meh, I think it's normal. I've never really felt that sad from someone dying

>>16611924
Shock, or you saw him suffer for so long you are just numb that it is over.

I am sorry for your loss.

You may still be in shock. That happens sometimes. But I wonder: if you felt what you think is an appropriate amount of grief, what would be different?

Next to nothing. If her/your period is late there's a long list of more likely causes including stress.

>>16611890
Interaction like insertion? Or Rubbing?

Either way, it's almost 0%

>>16611890
100%. The only way they wouldn't get pregnant is if you click your heels 3 times and say you wish you were home. Also, wear red ruby slippers.

>>16611859
You don't.

How so?

>>16611859
let spiders lay eggs in your ears so you combine dna

then you will be allowed in the deep web

Depends. Are you on the hunt or are you just waiting for a girl to fall on you like in some anime

>>16611795
Perused a few girls with no success. Basically like 8 texts in and she stops replying, so I'm probably going to work on myself day by day until girls start coming to me.

>>16611797
How old are you? I think it'd be easier to say if that's known

>>16611771
This has to be bait

>>16611771
Kek nice OP
Bitch can't handle humor

>>16611771

I hope this isn't bait.

For justice.

Asheville, NC

>>16611544
Not bad. Housing is a bit expensive compared to where I am but the area is great, the demographics look good, and the job market is good for what I'm in.

>>16611562
Mostly just looking for ideas at this point. I'm in a field where the job market is fairly expansive and I'm thinking of moving from where I currently am. Right now I'm just exploring.

I was looking for meaning in life and thought volunteering would give it to me.

I realized that helping the weakest, poorest among us would not make my life better. What I needed was to stop pretending that life was supposed to be fair, or ever would be. That was my own naivete I had in me.

Maybe it will be different for you, but maybe not.

>>16611555

Second thought: how much of volunteering is to make yourself feel good about who you are? What you are ashamed of, or what are you hoping to gain? If you go around talking about your volunteer work, or quietly thinking it makes you somehow more moral and pure than a man working to support his children and family instead --- you need to examine deeper

>>16611524
I volunteer and do pro bono work for various non profits. I have met incredible people, both those who I help and those who work alongside me. It's very rewarding.

It's a good place to start if you'd like to meet other people. However, you'll want to research the places you volunteer at to find out the type of people who volunteer. You don't really want to go work for a place where only old ladies volunteer. You'll want to look for a place where younger people are likely to volunteer.

For example, I remember we were talking about washing sleeping bags, and I said "Why would you ever wash a sleeping bag unless you tracked mud into it or something?" And he looked at me with this smile of his and said "You've got to take care of your love stains!" And I remember laughing it off, like "oh, he's just joking around. I make the same jokes with my friends. He's just trying to be one of the guys!" And he invited me over to his house once to look at all the guns he had with his nephew, who was also in our troop. I remember him inviting me back to his house on my own sometime, and I didn't go along with it. I really didn't see any danger at the time, I seriously thought this guy was just my friend. Of course it turned out he'd been raping his nephews in the troop for years, and I never heard anything about him raping his foster kids but, I mean, come on. I still feel like an absolute fucking idiot for ever trusting him. He's in prison right now, if that makes anyone feel better.

I can think of a lot of different friends I had growing up that were raped off the top of my head. Some of them as kids, and one of them by another kid. One of them was raped with a soldering iron when she was fifteen because she wasn't putting out. Three of them were trafficked as kids, one of those killed themselves and the other I've had to call the suicide hotline for one of the others. I don't know, this is off the top of my head. All of them were so scarred by it. I think that's a huge part of it, seeing what people do to each other just to get their rocks off. I'm so afraid of ever wanting anyone sexually because I'm so terrified of hurting anyone. Or even just the stupid mistakes they make, getting pregnant just because you took a stupid risk because you wanted to "feel good." (2/3)

I don't even feel like I deserve to feel this way because I was never raped. It was them, not me, I was just there. Like I'm just this disgusting coward how cant bring himself to even do sex properly, caringly, and consensually with a girl because I'm so afraid of ever scarring them or hurting them. I'm sitting here fighting back tears and the urge to vomit as I write this. I just don't want to ever hurt anyone. And I try. I try to engage in these things, because I know I'm supposed to enjoy it. And it's supposed to be a beautiful thing between two consenting people. But I can't bring myself to do it.

Sorry if this reads like a train of thought post, but thats what it is. (3/3)

>>16611530
Seek therapy. And emotional support.

>>16611449
Short answer: he's being a dipshit.
Long answer: He really likes you and is intimidated by your wealth. He wants to impress you and maybe your family so you'll keep him. If you also really like him I'd say keep reassuring him that he's not required to spend money that he doesn't have on you. If he refuses to accept this, dump him.
Good luck.

He might have had it drilled into him since birth that he's poor and can't date wealthy people, like he's not good enough for them and doesn't deserve them. If the feeling is mutual, ask him out on a cheap date, like a walk in the park with some food or something. Something where you don't have to spend money. Show him you're willing to/are able to have a good time with him and enjoy his company without money being spent.

>>16611449
Look chick, here's the deal. It doesn't matter what the reason is that someone rejects you. It really doesn't matter. The point is, they rejected you. That means it's time to respect yourself and turn your affection and attention to someone else. Find someone who DOES want to date you. Who has the confidence and commitment to date you. This guy doesn't.

>but he likes meeee

Don't care. Doesn't matter. He blew it when he said he won't date you because of his weird money hang ups.

Love yourself and learn to only pursue people who genuinely want you, regardless of any circumstances. You'll fully appreciate this advice in 10 years when you look back.

Schizo here. This is my first question for you: Was she diagnosed with schizophrenia, or is it a self diagnosis?

>>16611488
She was going to go to therapy for it, but I think it's a self diagnosis. Her family treats her as such and it's as reliable as a therapist diagnosis. I don't know if she were professionally diagnosed though.

>>16611496

Alright, schizo here again. First things first, someone who suspects they might have schizophrenia should always see a doctor about it. Therapy is one thing, but they should definitely be seeing a psychiatrist to be absolutely certain its schizophrenia. She may need to be on some medication, for her own sake.

What sparked my question was that you mentioned she'd been dealing with schizophrenia since she was 13. While contracting schizophrenia at such a young age isn't impossible, it's well beneath the bell curve for age of diagnosis in schizophrenia, especially for women. Usually, men begin experiencing symptoms between the ages of 17-25, and women sometime after 20, though I don't know the numbers off the top of my head.

It may very well be that your partner is actually experiencing PTSD. Doctors occasionally mistake schizophrenia and PTSD for each other, and if your partner was exposed to that kind of childhood, then it wouldn't be surprising for her trauma to be surfacing in such a way. But remember, while I'm very experienced with schizophrenia first hand, I'm ultimately a layman. I am absolutely NOT trying to give you official medical advice. This is just another reason for you to find a good doctor to consult. Please seriously consider doing that.

Outside of that, a situation like this just needs trust. Props to you for not being the devout christian who insists her delusions are actually jesus and angels speaking to her, I have a distant cousin whos family brainwashed him and his schizophrenia like that and I can't even bear to look at that family anymore. The only thing you can do is continue to support her until she eventually accepts that you really do love her in spite of her illness. Maybe look up some support groups you can take her to.

Just be yourself nigga

>>16611412
>not attracted to male anatomy
>I'm also aroused in cross-dressing/sissy/trap/femboy stuff

self-hating closeted fag detected

Yes, ignore that Red Pill alpha/beta shit, trust me most girls find that shit ridiculous or downright disgusting. Treat her like your partner, tell her your fantasies and explore then together.

>>16611335
They aren't doing anything more miraculous than what you're doing on their off time. They seem to be having the time of their lives all day every day because they're a lot more camera whore-ish than the average guy.

In reality, while more men will sit around playing video games, watch TV or playing instruments in their down time, women will go on instagram, buzzfeed, netflix, etc.

Don't worry about it.

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Girls are a little bit more social, on average. But their conversations are a bit more boring.

> Be more social

>>16611335
Because people put women on a pedestal and act like they're divine beings when in reality they're just as boring and shitty as men.