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I can understand it bother you. First of all I don't think it's a good idea demanding him to delete it. Him deleting it doesn't mean he doesn't still want to have it. Ask him why he has it in a non-confrontational manner and discuss it and if he would get rid of it because it bothers you. If he's not willing to delete it that does suggest that he at some level values her/her picture more than you. that being said you'd be smart to find someone who values you a bit more than that or stick with him and resent him at your expense.

but now if he deletes it after you've seen it, then you know he deletes things off his phone...

>>16608427
I wasn't necessarily considering demanding that he delete it, I just really have no idea why he wouldn't. I don't keep my ex's picture just sitting around on my phone...that would be weird to me.

I've never actually mentioned it to him past that first time, always just saw it and passed over it while we were looking through those pictures together. It's always just struck me as weird that it's always still there even now up to a year later.

I'll probably just have to ask him about it. It's just bizarre to me.

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>>16608323
Would you consider a bad dragon product to spice up your life

sorry OP

im going to bed now but have a better night i guess

try doing things that will improve your depression
Protip: you probably never will

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>>16608329
Hell yes. I've always wanted one, but sadly, I'm not quite... capable... of fitting anything more than a couple of fingers inside of me yet. If I had my choice, I'd like either a David or a Kelvin.

>>16608336
Thanks, y-you too...

socialize

>>16608310
I went out with them, tried to talk but our conversation is short. They shift back to ignoring my existence after my attempt to get into it.

>>16608321

omegle

learn how to talk to strangers first

I'm always afraid that I'm either doing too much or too little in basically every aspect of my life.

Things tend to fall in place for themselves most of the time. Think about it this way, whatever the fuck it is you want in this life, it is something that most likely hundreds of millions of people are also after. Most of the time we are playing this invisible tug-o-war game against the world and there's no fucking chance you'll ever win it on your own. Most great things in life you get by pure luck.

You can win the small battles for the scraps that go unnoticed by the majority, but are they really worth going after?

This is dumb. Both are massive generalizations, and either one could correctly apply to any number of situations. Rather than this fortune-cookie bullshit, it's much more helpful if you actually describe your specific situation and what you need advice with

So you two are still dating ?

What age is the son?
How offen you babaysit / was she going out with said guy friend ?
Do you think she is being honest /has she ever lied before?

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No.

Look, you did the right thing. Open relationships tend to favor the woman. By standing up for yourself and saying no, you showed her that you have value and know it. This is wholly positive.
Look, and open relationship efectively means that you're going to have to taste another man's semen sometimes when she kisses you. If you agree to that, it shouldn't come as a surprise that you don't garner enough respect or love for her to not cuckold you.

Now, do NOT let her know that you're having guilt or second thoughts, if you value her respect and your self-respect. Put that shit out of your mind.

If there's a red flag here, it's that she asked you about that. If you expect monogamy, are you sure she's able to fulfill your desire? She's already asked about fucking another man, and shaming you by trying to keep you there for comfort or emotional and potential future fiscal security. The trope about alpha fucks and beta bucks is a real thing. Thus far you've done well. Do not change that. Demand that the respect you offer her be returned. That's how you maintain a long-term relationship. If you set a high bar for yourself, demand one from her. She'll admire and respect you for that, and if she doesn't, she's fucking poison, anyhow.

>>16608201
>she admitted she was scared of commitment
>A couple.weeks later she asked me.to be her boyfriend
>I help her babysit her son a couple times a.week
> her best male.friend
>she asked about an open relationship

Red flags galore.

>>16608037
>>16608037
The root of most jealousy, I find, is insecurity. The way I am working to overcome it is increasing self confidence. Also, knowing that she chooses to be in a relationship with you- you can't control if she cheats or not, but if you find out she did, then it's not the end of the world, you can just dump her. But meanwhile, try forging a sense of trust and see what happens, because you might as well just trust her rather than letting your insecurity sabbotage the relationship. At least this is what I am trying.

Im not worried about cheating just what other people will do. I am insecure but i hide it well and have come an extremely long way in terms of self confidence and such. Jealousy has crossed my mind but im not sure what i would be jealous of in this situation, also i appreciate the reply

>>16608055
Maybe a "FOMO" (Fear of Missing Out) type of feeling?
Hopefully those other people would respect you! I know my boyfriend gets upset if I hang out with people that don't respect him/the relationship, understandably. It's important to confront that kind of behaviour if I want to keep spending time with those friends.

She is not 'yours', but the people she is around should still respect your relationship.

>>16607537

you are the common denominator here.

Not all women are cheaters
but all the women you attract have cheated
something about what you're attracted to, the type of woman, the similarities between them, that is the issue

this isn't to say you're a bad person, you just have bad taste and you're not realizing it.

>>16607561
/thread

>>16607561

>trusting to woman to have self control

They cheated because to them he wasn't fulfilling one of their expectations. So who's fault is it really?

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these are the flaws of capitalism, comrade.

>>16607456
Yeah, no shit. But it's also something bigger than economics, you see the same behavior in the law of the jungle, and in sex/reproduction.

Is this just what evil is?

it looks like you are seeing relationships and life around you as a competitive environment filled with pressure

it may be true to some extent, but there are different ways of perceiving the world that makes it more pleasurable to live

>Would you assume they are not marriage or long term potential?

if they behave in a way that I don't like, then yes

>>16607301
Could possibly be some future infedelity issues with that SO.

It just means she is easily influenced by others and is not true to herself. She seeks to validation from others and so she will say anything to get it.

Personally a person like this is at best an acquaintance and nothing more. Move on and find a girl who doesn't jeopardize her morality just for some people to like her.

Depends on the diet of the person, it could taste tangy and sweet if you a regular fruit eater.

>>16607259
I've only ever been with one guy, so maybe I got lucky, but his is absolutely delicious. Not a hint of bitterness at all.

Maybe try getting him to eat more fruit and drink pineapple juice every day.

>>16607264
>>16607261
Thanks a bunch, I'll start sneaking more fruit into his breakfasts and stuff. To be honest fresh produce is kind of pricey here, will canned or dried stuff do?

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don't go

>>16606608
Go and have a few beers with friends. Why you'd want to be rock hard around your friends is beyond me.

I've been to several clubs for business functions, and the women are more or less just scenery. A few singles to the girls that walk up to the table here and there, and you shouldn't be spending more than $20/hr.

>>16606621
That's kind of how I've been leaning on this, but we're going to see the new Star Wars first and I don't wanna miss out on seeing them. They're in the military and in the next two weeks they're all slowly shipping off to where they're stationed. I probably won't see them again until next Christmas or something. I gotta spend what time I can with them.

>>16606626
I hear ya. I don't drink personally, so what I end up doing when I go with no money is sitting around being bored and pissed I can't get any dances. When I go with money and such I get to sit back, scope the girls out, take my time, enjoy myself talking to my friends about the females, then pick one out and get a dance, maybe two if she's really good. By the time I've done all that it's usually around 1am or 2am and we all bail. I just feel like a fucking loser when I go without money because I'm kinda wasting the girls' time. Not only that but if I'm not horny af I'm not as good at being flirty.

Shut up and leave the crazy drunk alone.

>>16607923
I was drunk also, I wasn't myself. She didn't do anything to make me stop, btw. Now I have two rules since the begining of 2014, don't stick your dick in crazy and don't get drunk. I don't have any pleasure knowing I was drunk and I did X to someone, I don't find that really funny.

I cried when I read what she told me.

Does anyone have any other opinion about this?

>>16607752
You know that if she does get pregnant, that's at least 18 years and 9 months you're tied to her, right?

vasectomy and a clean bill of health with a recent date

She can go on the pill, if she can't for whatever reason tough luck; it's not paranoia.

Just ask. If you got such a strong urge to ask now, it'll probably happen again and it's way better you know now than when you're married or whatever.

>>16606661
you sound insecure as fuck, believe me, you don't want to know..

People on /adv/ will tell you "ignorance is bliss" and "don't ask don't tell", but I fully agree with you that a relationships is about intimacy, and intimacy comes from being as close as possible. You can't know you actually truly love someone if you don't even know them fully, and a past is definitely a part of them.

I just think you should have asked earlier.

>>16607768
No one said it was easy, kid.

Would you say the girls in the two scenarios are equal? How are you asking them in each circumstance?

Women prefer it when you approach them without an agenda in mind.

Also, you probably just suck at flirting.