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You sound like you have issues. He's probably better off without you, to be honest

>>16936489
solve your mental issues with professional healthcare

get a new job

get money

get apartment

i actually have gotten professional help, and wont need it for much longer. and no, he really isn't better off without me. as to getting a new job, i'm working on it, but it's hard to even get part time anywhere right now. i'm hoping to get something near the college i want to go to, to get an associates degree in a medical feild i've been looking at since i was 10.

I've been working on it. IM schizophrenic so I've decided I'm not going to have children and probably wont even have a girlfriend just because of how crazy I can get, unless a miracle happens.

Ive been taking some anti depressants 1 citalopram a night but I don't really feel happy. More so I just don't feel depressed. I would like to find something to make me happy. Would a different anit-depressant or more anti depressants make me happy?

>>16936439
Can't. You are a human with a necessary social and sexual instinct. Without such an instinct societies would never have formed. Your parents had it, and subsequently you have it.

There are those who practice extremely rigorous spiritual lifestyles who are able to reject the temptations of flesh and defeat their instincts, but I have a feeling you are only trying to pick and choose which temptations you want to indulge in, not reject all pleasures, so that won't work for you.

It can't be done the way you wish. At least, there is no known way.

Honestly I am most likely making things worse than they should be. I know there would be nothing awkward about going up to a girl that is in my class and asking for some help on the homework but I still psyche myself out.
I guess I am putting the pussy on the pedestal and probably making sex something more special than it truly is. what can i do? approach until eventually i get better at it? I end up psyching myself out at the last second by overthinking things.

>>16936418

Are you looking for just sex, or a relationship?

>>16936445
friend ship, sex and a relationship i guess. obviously more on the last 2.

>>16936404

Right off the bat, your concern with sex makes you sound like a 15 year old. I don't think you're a flawed person, as much as you're someone that hasn't figured out his priorities in life.

If sex is that big of a concern, just pay for it and get it over with.

Sex should be the last thing you're worried about when you still have to figure out the fundamentals to a relationship with a woman.

>>16936436

There's a lot of growing up that I've never done. I'm not about to treat sex as a bridge to manhood. I'm a man without it. I'm a man because I handle my business and answer for my fuckups. If I have to throw away the idea of sex and relationships completely just to get where I want to go, then fuck it I will. I've watched people I know get fucked over and I'm not about to be the next in line just because my crotch itches. Pussy be damned. The jerks can have all the problems.

>>16936404
See I am 21 a virgin and I think sex is an important thing in life to have done. I don't speak for everyone I know but to me it being a virgin means no one ever cared about me, no one loved me, no one ever wanted to make a bond with me, try to get to know me whatever. It means in life I am failing because I can't do what other people do so easily, I can't make a relationship I just failed so far.

>>16936398
maybe shes making you into a dank meme

>>16936431
Well, it was a flattering picture, so that would be okay.

>>16936398

Wierd... just by opening an image in the browser, you're downloading it in your browser's cache

>>16936388

all of them? You just need to be a soulless drone.

I know I could barely keep up at some of the manual labor jobs I've had Its like why cant we just slow all this shit down why does it have to be so stressful

>>16936410
Even trade jobs?

>>16936386
I think I am. That or I dont want to be in a relationship because I like to be alone alot. I cant tell which, ideally Id like a girlfriend who I hung out with 2 times a week.

>>16936992
i used to be ok with being alone, but not so sure now

hadnt wept for a couple of years(grief) but have cried myself to sleep for almost a week now

starting to lose motivation for basic things and interest, feeling pathetic

i really do not want to burden someone else with my problems

Hell was created to manipulate people's decisions. When you die, your body decomposes and those particles eventually spread elsewhere.

Hell is the same as being promised 72 virgins. We both know it's a lie told to dumb people to complete someone elses agenda.

Hell on earth.
There are few atheists or Christians today that believe in a literal hell, unless your a career criminal who harms people for a living op I really wouldn't worry either way.

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>>16936381

Listen to Alan Watts

as someone with seasonal affective disorder, there's no such thing as seasonal affective disorder.
Sometimes shit is the worst during February/early march due to the "buildup" of the lack of sunlight, but never past march.

take vitamin D regularly. if it helps, you have SAD. But if you're the worst in summer, it's something else.

>>16936435
sorry, disregard that I suck cocks: no such thing as "*reverse" seasonal affective disorder.

I hate the summers to op. Have to struggle trying to find a job and eventually give up and feel like shit all summer long. When fall comes around classes start and I don't feel so bad. I fucking hate this cycle. It started in middle school and now I'm in college. Sam's shit every year

>>16936338
Do you even cry?

Do you main R.Mika in SFV?

>>16936338
Stop seeking attention you faggot.

The idea is cool, but ultimately you cannot do a whole horror movie with that idea, there has to be some sort of escalation.

If you really want the man to be harmless, I suggest you escalate by making Marc increasing paranoid and delusional. Provide some auditory hallucinations, eventually visual.
You'll also need a way to end it in a way that is satisfying for the audience. Marc can end up hurting himself, or someone else in his delusion.

Good luck

That sounds boring as shit, you should be ashamed of yourself

>>16936306
this. there NEEDS to be death and violence

It's a personal issue, as sex isn't a necessity
I can't read your mind

You're not missing out on anything. If you both truly love each other, that is the question. Sex is just one of the things you can do without anyway.

Not sure if this answers you question but, I met my fiancé at 18, I'm 21 now, turning 22 in a few months, and we're still together, still very happy, and the sex is still fantastic. We don't have as much time now with school and work, but we find a way. I've personally never once in these 3 years asked myself if I've missed out on anything (all that late teens early 20's bullshit like partying and stuff). I'm just not that girl. I think that as long as there's immense love in the relationship, good communication, honesty and respect, you'll always feel very fulfilled in your relationship. I do.

You shouldn't concern yourself with the sex life of those you are not sexually involved with

>>16936251
K thenks

>>16936242

When I had something like that happen to me it was because I had some level of feelings for her and I was envious when she was doing this shit with other guys.

It sounds totally pathetic and I generally don't give a fuck nowadays but it sounds like you have the feels for this girl.

Tell her how you feel.

1) No one knows but you
2) No one can tell you but her

You don't understand yesterday I mixed up being sad and being angry, secondly that sounds like a really risky strategy I mean anything could happen what if she hugs me without warning?

>>16936236
>yesterday I mixed up being sad and being angry
That's fine. Emotions sometimes are not clear cut, even if you don't have autism

>I mean anything could happen what if she hugs me without warning
I didn't mean to imply you should ask her directly.
You should ask her out, though. If you're worried about her hugging you without warning, you should be open with her and tell her about your condition.

I don't think it's something you can teach yourself. It just happens.

I don't know brah. Sucks to be dependent on other people for your own happiness huh. It's even worse when you think it requires the opposite sex. It takes time to figure it out how not depend on other people. Frankly some people can't do it and will always depend on other people. Kinda pathetic if you ask me. Just hope you aren't one of them.

I'm just chillin' on a Saturday night alone at my house watching Netflix. Pretty content if you ask me. How did I get this way? Not entirely sure. In my early 20's I probably would have to go out to a bar right about now to fill this void but now there is no void to fill. Like I said I'm pretty content just hanging out by myself tonight and relaxing. Recharging my batteries till the work week starts Monday. Not everyone has the mindset to be this way.

>>16936189
thanks for this girl anon
it's jess hannah, for your research