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How do I assure myself tonight that tomorrow I will do the things I want/need to do and not procrastinate my day away for the umpteenth time?
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Making a plan helps
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>>17291400
you can't may as well just give on up and go back to the base pardner
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>>17291400
Make a list and after its complete reward yourself with drugs.
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Hi /adv/. Long time lurker first time poster. I cheated on my gf last night with a colleague. I'm currently consumed by guilt and I don't know what to do.
I love my girlfriend but things aren't great. We're constantly on the verge of breaking up and argue constantly. This colleague and I have become close but I don't feel much of a romantic connection. I know I'm a shithead.
Will telling my girl ease my guilt or should I keep quiet as this was most likely just a one time thing?
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Don't tell her and break up. You care about her, which is why you feel guilty, but if your relationship got to the point where you are unhappy and you're willing to cheat, there's no point.
Don't date your colleague either.
Find someone you like and you're happy with.
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You don't love her. You love the thought that you have someone, which means you really only love yourself. Since you love yourself and only care about yourself, the best thing (for yourself) would be to end the relationship and pursue what you really want. Asshole.
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>>17291331
Thank you.
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Not depressed but can't enjoy a single activity 2016-06-25 09:23:24 Post No.17291289
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Not depressed but can't enjoy a single activity
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For years now I've been going around mental health professionals and GP appointments changing lifestyles but nothing has ever made me happy. Doctors have just said I have reasons to be sad but it doesn't help they just admit they can't do anything and let me go. I'm not even that lonely I've dated people had friends that are conservative that I can debate with or outgoing friends that I went to gigs with but its never been enjoyable shit like drugs aren't even fun I gave up after trying them a handful of times. Settled down with just staying inside all day people take me outside on occasion but it just stresses me out and upsets my stability
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>upsets my stability
you're depressed
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anon i feel you.
I think sometimes the best we can do is just shock therapy
to be let alone in a jungle and just survive or die
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>>17291289
Gotta shake things up big time every now and again. Get on a bus and go somewhere random.
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Anyone with experience with long term relationships please advise.
I have been with my girlfriend for just over 3 years now and things have been a little rocky recently, she has felt the need to see friends a lot and drink/party with them time to time to break up the monotony in her life due to work/study and commitment to another person (me). This isnt a problem at all but i feel like she has more fun with them because they are a collective group of people, i asked her this and she responded saying she still has fun with me but its a different kind of fun, like she has a side suited for me and then a wilder more sassy side that she is like around her friends. I have little worries about her cheating or anything so this isnt about that, its more about how people keep things going after such a long time together, eventually you will not be able to keep up super interesting banter and things are just comfortable and familiar, im a very laid back person and love my girlfriend with all my heart and im realistic so things like this dont bother me but i have felt she might take me for granted because of the familiarity. She has admitted she prefer not invite me along to her friend gatherings because she prefer to not worry about how im doing the whole time and if im having fun because obviously she will be conversing and catching up with her friends which i also understand.
I'm not even completely sure what i'm asking here, i just want to know if all of this is normal and expected from long term relationships.
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Well ever since she has started to feel the need to let loose and see friends more than she used to, i've felt a little insecure about our relationship and how she feels about us, she still tells me she loves me and everything so i dont really have a good reason for feeling this way, its like im fearing she will get bored of me at this rate, just wanted to know if these kinds of phases are normal in long term relationships.
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>>17291260
She parties a lot and he isn't invited. He can't spend more time with her to create a stronger bond through physical connection. He feels that there's an inadequate level of bonding going on at this point in the relationship. It appears the relationship is actually transitioning into something he doesn't like. It's possible he fears the worst.
Or none of this is right and he just wants to be a part of her circle of friends and it's weird he wont ever be given the chance.
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Okay guys, I need sexual advice. How can one last longer in bed? Anyone here ever last less than a minute but now lasts longer than 10 minutes? Pic extremely unrelated
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>have sex
>cum within a minute
>wait 5-30 minutes
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>>17291217
Train your PC muscle
>helps you last longer
>if done right you can cum multiple times
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Quick Fix: a *tiny* bit of cortisone anti-itch cream. (There are little potions you can get at sex shops, but they're really the same thing.)
Been at Uni for 3 years, really not enjoying it as much as I should be, don't put much effort into classes and dislike having to deal with so many people. Parents want me to stay and finish, but they don't know I've been struggling with my mental health and have had a few stays in hospital over suicide attempts. Don't want to tell them about mental health because honestly I'd rather struggle to handle that myself than have to hear their judgements (as I have before), but I talked to them about quitting Uni and it just isn't an option. Should I stick with it and just try my hardest or try to find something I enjoy and risk pissing them off? I am their last hope and I think it would just fuck their lives up.
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You fucked up the moment you decided going to something as retarded as >uni
Was a good idea
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I like the idea of furthering my education, and having an actual career as opposed to just a job, I'm just not happy.
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>>17291210
>I NEED to go to uni to have this
>they are one in the same
And, once again, you've proven you are retarded as shit. Even more so for doing things based on social expectations of status and not because it makes you happy.
Unless you're materialistic as fuck and feel entitled to a high paying job, then you have alternatives to uni to accomplish your goals. It's crazy how you're so retarded that you didn't check the statistic to see over 40% of degree holders don't even work in a field their degree was in. Hell, my friend graduated with her masters this summer. I watched her spend years dedicated to something and it seemed like she was well on to a "career" in what she studied. But no, she works at the Salvation Army now helping people, instead of being an accountant at one of the many banks she was courted by. Why? Because she decided it's not what she enjoys doing, and want to find what she loves doing in life. She was misguided in thinking simply going to uni helps her find this answer. If you're that fucking uninteresting that shit like the school you went to or your "career" is all you have to make up for your otherwise worthlessness, do the world a favor and kill yourself now. We need more leaders, less sheep.
I'm suicidal because of love.
I've never been in love before. I don't know the reason for this, I just haven't ever met someone I've been into enough. But this might be changing. I'm really into this girl I've started talking to. She really feels completely perfect in every way.
The following are the problems and reasons that I need to talk to you.
1. She has a fear of commitment. She can't be with me because of this. this would not be a problem to me if not for the other issues, specifically problem 2.
2. She is sexually active. Not extremely, but she often says things like "sexuality can be explored" and other shit. I don't understand it but I'm doing my best to accept it. She's stopped sleeping around a bitsince we started to be "together" but not completely.
3. She tells me how much she cares about me and how much she wants to talk. Anytime I'm upset, she drops what she's doing to come over and help me. When I don't want to talk about it she cheers me up. we hold hands, kiss, etc. we haven't had sex yet, so I know that's not what she's after.
4. She's leaving. Essentially forever. and I'll never see her again.
How can I navigate this situation best? I feel like I'm dying.
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imo based on 1 and 2 she is wasting your time. either that or she just sees you as a friend. maybe even a good friend. but hoping for much more than that seems like a pipe dream.
best thing you can do here ime is be happy for you. it's really not that difficult, although it's a bit hard to wrap your head around. just try to focus on being happy. do what makes you happy, smile when you don't feel like smiling, act happy around others when you're not.
eventually it just feels like the real thing..
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Should I stay with her? I know she cares about me.
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>4. She's leaving. Essentially forever. and I'll never see her again.
I do not think you should. Move on. Loss of first love will hurt, but she doesn't seem to be IN love with you.
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I've talked to family and friends but fear they are not being objective enough because they don't want to hurt my feelings or some shit.
>Barely graduate high school 2014
>Have NVLD (makes school quite difficult..)
>Always have had a rough time in school not exactly autismo mode but not good in social situations constant anxiety, depression, bad grades, etc.
>Dad lives with his sister and isn't right in the head not seriously mentally ill just very off...
>Mom suffers from depression and spends all of her time working or chain smoking and browsing Facebook
>Been working off and on for the past two years still haven't really done anything
>$3 in savings
>0 college credits
>small group of friends probably sick and tired of my self loathing and depressing shit
>After a large acid trip my job seemed increasingly worthless and I just stopped showing up.
>Been a NEET for the past 4 months feel like a complete piece of shit
>Have no direction in life no guidance feel empty inside
Just copy pasted this from a feels thread I posted in it pretty much sums things up.
What is my next step I can take to not being a piece of shit I really do want to get better but things seem so pointless... Should I wait to get in to a doctor and try some new meds and or a new therapists or just go get my shitty job back now? or just take out college loans? I'm so lost...
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>>17291170
what are your top 5 favorite things you like to do?
figure out the one you can make the most money off of and dedicate your life to it
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You're right, things are pretty pointless. Maybe lay off the drugs a bit and get your thoughts together.
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Im not sure if this board is the board i should post this in but i will anyway. What are some things that you regret not doing when you were younger? I just turned 19 and have done fuck all with my life. What should I do to live a more fulfilling life?
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just go to college, and it'll feel like you're doing something. But yeah, right there with you
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>>17291138
>everyone remembers you
no
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This is basically why I went to college.
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I feel like I'm always inferior and too average. I'm not literary, nor am I in a cool band, nor am I super attractive. I'm decent and above average at certain things, but I don't have much to show for it. I go as far as reading through LinkedIn profiles of successful ppl because I want to be great. But at the same time, I know I'm not shitty, and I have a sort of arrogance, too. Right now, the only thing I'm good at is university, but that doesn't even matter much. Just because I'm getting As...that doesn't mean anything really.
How do I get over this? Realize that I'm a special, individual butterfly good at something, or do I have to work harder to be a good piece of shit?
third option?
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Is there anything you would like to get good at? Maybe you could save up for an instrument and learn how to play it. Or become a good at a sport if you're more physically capable.
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>>17291118
It sounds like you are doing well in your current situation, university - so that is your strength, then parlay that into the career you are studying for.
No one is strong everywhere, everyone has strengths and weaknesses, so be strong and confident in your field of expertise
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Fuck, I'm gonna sound like a fag. But shit anon, you spot on.
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I'm in a bit of a complicated situation with a ladyfriend of mine. I'll try to keep this as short as possible while still conveying the full gist. I'm just not sure where to go from here, really.
Been friends with this guy Justin for a few years now, probably one of my best friends. He's been dating this girl May for about the same amount of time. I say dating, that's pretty much it. They have never been intimate at all, pretty odd relationship. Anyway, we all hang out together a lot, find myself developing feelings for May but you know, buddies girl, whatever, suppress that shit.
A few months back now, however, they acknowledged that they weren't intimate and decided to end the relationship and remain friends. I talked to both of them about it separately and May seemed to be dealing with it a lot better than Justin, however Justin eventually got over it as well.
We also all hang out with another guy, Dan. One night, Dan, May, and I all got drunk together. While May was in the bathroom, I asked Dan for advice on the situation. He recommended I not act on it because May and I are not much alike. But May and I are actually a lot alike. She's basically a female version of me, really. The fact that we're so similar is honestly the main reason I'm so into her, physically she is nothing special. That night, May also mentioned she's been talking to some guy on the other side of the state, some agender freaf. Nothing wrong with that stuff, just the guy is a little weird aside from that as well.
So fastforward a few months to the past couple weeks. It's become increasingly obvious that not only Dan and I both like May, but also that May, from each of our perspectives, seems to like the other. ie I think she likes Dan, Dan thinks she likes me. Or atleast that's what I garner from conversations with our other friends. Justin seems completely oblivious to the situation. One night, yet again, Dan, May, and I get drunk together, but this time with several other people.
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So i end up getting drunk enough this night that I blurt out in front of everybody to May that I have feelings for her. She just kind of says "i know", and we all kind of move past it. I was obviously feeling a little put down so I eventually tried to nonchalantly leave. May noticed and tried to stop me, but in my stupor I just wanted to leave, and ended up making a bit of a scene in doing so.
May chased me outside alone to my car and again pleaded with me not to leave. We ended up discussing our feelings a bit more, me telling her in more detail how long I'd felt this way, her saying she feels the same, but is more invested in the guy she's been talking to from across the state that I mentioned earlier. She also told me she had no interest in Dan. Eventually, I do go back inside, but manage to slip away without notice this time a short while later. I just didn't want to be around after all that. Apparently she also confronted Dan about his feelings a short while after, who refused to discuss it with her.
Since then things have been pretty awkward but I didn't want to lose her as a friend because she's cool as fuck, so I just tried to move past it. Slowly returned to normalish. Last night she messaged our group chat saying she was sad and wanted to hang out, around 2 am. Everyone but me declined, so we ended up spending all night going from diner to diner just drinking coffee and talking all night. Apparently things with the other guy from out of town fell through and it had her pretty down. We watched the sun rise from an abandoned building in our area and decided to call it a night. We at some point discussed what happened the drunken night but never really got into our feelings again.
I just don't know what to do from her. I don't know if May is interested in me or not, personally it still seems like she's into Dan, and I also feel like i don't want to be her second draft or whatever. At the same time, I still really like her.
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if i sound like a beta cuck at all it's probably because I am. I don't usually like people enough to even both pursuing a relationship with them, so I'm not used to this sort of thing.
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>>17291116
bump
tldr liked friends ex for a while now and we all hang out as friends, she gave me mixed signals, not sure whether to hold out or moved on
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Can I use my bad condition birth certificate for passport? 2016-06-25 07:42:01 Post No.17291110
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Can I use my bad condition birth certificate for passport?
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Got an appointment at my passport agency next week cause I'm traveling early June, so I need a passport ASAP. I lack a lot of the materials because the US is retarded as shit and make things complicated but most importantly my birth certificate is pretty worn, tares etc, but the pressed seal is still visible and in good condition
Any advice on all I should have when goin to get passport? I wanna make this a one time thing. And it's already $200 for the passport I don't wanna spend more
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I don't even know why I'm posting:
travel.state.gov/content/passports/en/passports/first-time.html
Learn to do the research yourself.
You do realize that you must renew your passport every 10 years right or face the entire process all over again.
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>>17291251
>You do realize that you must renew your passport every 10 years right or face the entire process all over again.
Not OP (obviously) but is that how it is in the US? Where I live, you can just renew it whenever, even if it's expired
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What do "smart" people do? 2016-06-25 07:40:46 Post No.17291102
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What do "smart" people do?
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What are the habits and patterns of people that have a healthy life? Habits that I am trying to accomplish and implement in my life are: 1. Having a health life style with diet, exercise and sleep. 2. Read different material from books to online sources. 3.Save money. 4. Be social. 5. Learn from individuals. 6. Help others.
What advice would you recommend to achieve a happy life?
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It seems like you have already written a list on how to do it for you
Write these things down, like Mon Wed Fri workout day - read book night. Tues Thurs bars class chatroom library, whatever
Scratch things off each day as you do them, and in a few months see what life is like, then change shit up on your list if it isnt working
Dont flake and stop doing the list - you have to do it and cross it off
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>>17291102
Smart people leave 4chan and never look back.
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I've noticed that smart people LITERALLY never use a PC.
Like you may see them active on facebook or whatever, but that takes 5 seconds on your phone. Smart and successful people DO NOT spend even 1 minute on the PC.
At least most of them, I don't talk about like a world class programmer or whatever, but the average successful and smart normie.
I decreased my time at the PC and went more biking and reading, and I literally feel better.
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is giving girls flowers fedora tier? 2016-06-25 07:35:02 Post No.17291091
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is giving girls flowers fedora tier?
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There's this friend of mine who I think is pretty cute and she's staying in my city for a week or so. Would it be good to give her some flowers as a meeting gift or what would be better suited?
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Women love flowers that should work not many if you dont have a place to put them while you are out together
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>>17291095
How many would be suitable? I was thinking it's pointless if she's not staying here 2bh
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Bump. Also is it good to ask a girl if she wants me to give her flowers? I wouldn't want to end up in an awkward situation where it's just being taken out of pity or she doesn't like them.
>started community college last January
>start getting close with one of my teachers
>towards the end of the semester ask him for a letter of recommendation
>he agrees but tells me we should talk about it more
>says he has to go to a meeting first and we can talk after
>invites me, I agree figuring it's probably some teacher shit
>turns out it's a chanting buddhist thing
>stick around, asks if I liked it, say sure just to get my letter
>few weeks later and now he wants me to join at all costs
>introduces me to leaders and shit
>they ask if I'm ready for next step, teacher always answers for me "of course!"
>getting dragged along to meetings because I feel bad saying no, almost miss class
>now I guess they think I'm ready for final step
>keeping calling and knocking on my door past two days
>too austist to say no so just hiding in home and not answering phone
wtf should I do? I don't want to join anyone's religion, but I also don't want to seem like a dick. The guy even bought me some $80 altar already. I'm stressing the fuck out
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Start saying no - stop feeling bad about being polite and going and run your own life - straight up say no im not joining thanks for asking
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every time I even start thinking about saying no I get a terrible feeling inside that just kills me, I don't know why it's so hard. I was so decided on calling him up yesterday to say no, but when I grabbed my phone I just sat there for like an hour trying to get myself to do it.
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I dont get it - you say you dont want to go, but you cant tell him that?
I guess just get the nerve to say it, or be dragged around by someone else and be controlled