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I feel like whatever I do will go to waste
I keep getting these thoughts about death and loss and it's all just fucking depressing, just storms my brain at random times
what can I do?
I just feel like whatever I do is useless and my future plans would bring nothing of worth
please debunk this
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>>17292184
Sounds like a textbook case of depression. Off to a doctor you go
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>>17292192
wow, seriously?
you don't think it's some kind of teenage existential crisis or something
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>>17292184
I know that feel I know that fucking feel every time in my entire life and it is increasing as the time passes.
In my case it ultimately develop strong anxiety I cannot even eat or drink sometimes nor do anything is like something is crushing my throat
IT is even harder when you have a lot of dreams and things you want to do but that fucking feel and insecurity dont let you go
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3 months until I'm homeless 2016-06-25 17:42:21 Post No.17292162
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So I moved from Hawaii to Georgia because of reasons. I cannot get a job to save my life. I have been applying. Thing is most places advertised online are for jobs that require experience which I lack. I have until October to move out. No family can help.
I have HS diploma no college experience. I know once I get some dough I can get a cell phone and a car then be a lyft/uber driver to afford a place to live in this state. Even have a future roommate to split rent with. So it's looking up but I cannot get my foot in the door anywhere.
Currently no money, no License(will have soon), and no car. Any advice or tips? I'm not used to this GA lifestyle I miss my island life. Thank you in advance.
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>>17292162
Apply everywhere.Want Ads are wishlists, descriptions of the ideal candidate. But if that exact person doesn't come along, they#ll choose from whoever does.
If you are at all like what they might settle for, apply. Cover your weak points if you can ("Though I have not worked in the field I got As in all the relevant university courses, and can very quickly learn your company way of doing things") Or just ignore the gaps. Present yourself as if who you are is exactly what they're looking for.
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>>17292210
Thanks. I've been applying. I'll follow your advice. I know how to do interviews. Normally I can walk up to a help wanted sign and be hired in the same day. Just no luck here.
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>>17292162
Usually there are temp agencies that you can work for. factory work for ass pay and brutal hours, but it kept my boat afloat during crisis before.
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I'm turning 20 this year; would it be wrong to lose my virginity to a guy who isn't my boyfriend/who I'm not in love with?
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Yes. Stop freaking out about being a virgin.
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Just get it over and done with.
If you haven't lost it by now then you must be fat/ugly.
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>>17292152
No, it's not wrong. Just don't give your partner the wrong idea of a relationship.
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I'm usually the peacemaker of my group - or at least capable of turning situations that could cause a scene into awkward tension, at the least.
Today is one of my best friends' 30th birthday, it's a surprise thrown by her parents at their very expensive home. Her sister ended up inviting this guy Mike, who used to be one of our best friends, but we've (especially me) had a complete falling out with him until recently. Now he and I are "cool," and can have a civil conversation, but yeah. He's dealing with alcohol issues and the past three times I've seen him, he's gotten loud, drunk, obnoxious, and has caused a scene. Our other friend, Steve, is on roids or something and can't stand him anymore.
So I'm anticipating they're going to make a scene and really cause a problem at my friend's parents' place when they get drunk today.
Still, Mike doesn't really like me, I feel like there's nothing I can do. Should I give up on peacemaking and just watch the world burn today?
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>>17292117
Well, Mike already doesn't like you. Just contact him and tell him that you'd rather not have him there.
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>>17292117
Give up on peacemaking and just let the world burn. When it's over, regroup with your closer friends and tell them about your concerns.
If you let your suspicions out early or to the wrong people, you will likely be blamed even if right. It's easier to wait until it's over without getting involved, claim foreknowledge, and hope they believe you.
Basically, if they would cause a scene, pointing it out or warning them beforehand will not stop it, but they will blame you for getting them worked up or stressing them out. In reality they never should have come because they were asking for trouble, but no one will ever accept that answer.
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>>17292130
I didn't extend the invite. It's not mine to rescind, it's her sister's. We talked about uninviting him once I told her what was going on, but realized that it may end up to be more trouble than it's worth now that he knows about it.
>>17292138
My friends don't really need to be regrouped with, we all kind of feel the same way. We don't want to abandon him at a rough time in his life, but bringing him to a really upscale house with a bunch of free booze wouldn't have been our first plan. But still good advice.
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I have a wonderful girlfriend, but I can't get excited about the relationship. She's crazy about me, but even after a year and a half I'm not sure if I'm satisfied.
Our sex life is good, we have a lot in common, we communicate well, and we've stuck together through some tough times, but I'm always unsure of whether I want to stay with her.
I've struggled a lot with depression and anxiety, and I think that may be the heart of the issue. I also tend to feel repulsed when I feel someone is attached to me, and by that same token I'm attracted to people who are distant and witholding (which is how my girlfriend was when we first met). This is the result of some childhood bullshit I'm working towards resolving, and I know it will cause problems in all my relationships until I fix it.
Recently I made a new friend who I have kind of a crush on. I don't think a relationship between us would work, so there's no point going after her, but it's a painful reminder that I don't feel much passion or excitement in my current situation.
I've told her all of this except the bit about my crush, and she says she wants to work on it together and help me get therapy (which I'll admit I do need).
The relationship is so great for a lot of reasons, and I feel like it's not her that's the issue, but I still can't help but wonder if our love is a lost cause at this point. What should I do?
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>>17292064
Honestly, I went through something similar (minus the depression and anxiety). I stuck with her and I only ended up hurting her more, but that was because what was causing the disinterest for me was something completely different than what is going on with you. I think that if you really feel like things will be different when you get help and you honestly feel like she will help you through it, you should stay with her. Someone who is willing to go through so much just to help you and be able to continue dating you, is someone who you should really value and hold on to. Someday, with the right kind of help, you will probably be able to really get excited over what it is that you have in front of you and the relationship will work.
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Sounds like you might have the mentality that the grass is greener on the other side. The only way to truly find out is to go and taste it.
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So recently in a sort of relationship with this girl for about a week. Three nights out of this week we've ended up naked in bed together.
First night I didn't have any condoms and I just thought, oh dang, whatever... I'll buy some soon. So no intercourse.
Couple days later, I bought some, we ended up in bed together again. I tell her I have some condoms, she looks nervous then confesses she's never had sex before. I was a little surprised, but I told her no pressure, and only when she wants to. A bit of time passes and she tells me she wants to try. Sweet! I condom up and she laid back. I make sure she gets nice and wet, then try to go for it.
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She won't relax and it's impossible for me to get inside without just forcing it. Realizing she's really nervous I sit back, and finger her until she relaxes a bit. Problem is, during this time I start losing my erection. However, manage to slide in a bit for a while, but now I'm the one unable to keep it together, lose my erection and we decide to stop.
Last night we end up in bed together again. She gets really wet, and I get really hard. I ask her if she wants to try again... and the mood shifts, she tells me she's afraid to try and fail because she thinks I'll be disappointed if it doesn't work out. I give her lots of reassurance, but we spend the whole night together again, just naked, no sex.
I'm a bit frustrated because naturally I want to sex her, but I also want her to feel comfortable, safe, and not pressured. I don't think I can spend many more nights with her, where we strip down to nothing and there's no actual sex though.
On top of this problem, I am also not sure I want to continue the relationship with her for completely unrelated reasons, but fear if this isn't resolved she will think I am uninterested because of this reason and I don't want that plaguing her mind and cause her future problems with this.
Please feel free to weigh in, call me faggot, share your own sex problems, etc.
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I don't know if this helps you decide the correct code of action, but let me put it this way:
She's a virgin. Even if you plow her first then break up with her she's STILL going to be fucked up because she'll STILL assume it's sex related. Either she'll think you're a fiendish make who only used her, or she'll think that her puss sticks so bad you must decided to run for the hills.
IMO your best bet is to have a sincere, serious conversation explaining that you don't want to lead her on and that she should look for someone who is a more compatible fit.
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If you don't want to keep seeing this girl you probably shouldn't take her virginity dude.
She probably likes you enough to let you take it but I don't think she'll appreciate it if you dump her after, popping our cherries is a big deal for most of us girls and we want it to be with someone special, not someone who just wants to fuck us then leave us.
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>humblebragging on /adv/
Git out.
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Relationships between a saver and a non saver
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Is a relationship between a saver who doesnt want to spend a lot of money in travelling and a person who spends all his savings in travelling posible? I understand the saver should slightly adapt and travel a bit more more I do not think it is fair that the non saver asks the saver to be with him in all the travels so the saver would eventually not save
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I think spending money on travel is better than spending money on a lot of other things. Try to maybe find a middle ground and find good deals and inexpensive places to visit, you just gotta know where to look. Travel doesn't have to be super expensive.
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>>17292076
thanks pal!
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>>17292076
Agreed with this anon - there's not a reason you need to fly in first class, or stay in a perfect resort each time you travel... be keen on experiencing places in different ways.
I agree that spending money on travel is one of the best ways to use your money, especially when you're young.
My parents saved up a bunch of money to travel and to be safe in retirement, and now my mom is sick. She refuses to go anywhere because it's too taxing on her, which is halfway true, but also she doesn't take care of herself.
My dad's job is going to force him to retire in the next 6 years and then he's just going to end up sitting in the house all day watching Fox News with her and losing his mind.
You never know what things may happen in the future, so reasonably use your money while you can.
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How do the cynicals of the world date or have relationships?
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by dating or engaging in a relationship. im not sure what you're even asking here. cynics date all the fucking time how would it stop them?
everyone calls me cynical and pessimistic and i date fine
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>>17292022
I was considering making a thread asking how to get rid of my bitterness, but this thread seems to work fine; dub confirm this is the thread to lurk.
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>cynicals
>date
Hahaha that's funny.
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How to get rid of self-defeating behaviour?
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>>17292026
It's gotten to the point, I suspect my subconscious is implying it
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why do you want to get rid of it ?
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I am seeking something, I don't know what it is.
I met a foreign woman recently and we shared the most romantic week together while she passed through on a road trip. I have never felt this connection with another human, even the one that i married. I felt young, like i discovered a part of me that i lost.
I am divorced now - I dont know what im seeking, should i fly to her and travel with her for two weeks? should i just continue to work my job and be responsible and let the universe tell me what to do??
my father is dying, I almost lost my mother this year, and my niece attempted suicide a few weeks ago - yet im still fairly normal feeling, but something is missing in my life.
is it feeling for another woman? is it the urge to travel? is it a mid 20s existential crisis?
why do i feel like this? I need to do something
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>>17291985
Are you the guy with the Miata?
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>>17291990
Okay then get a Miata.
It will give you confidence.
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TL:DR What are the negatives of smoking dope once a night to help sleep?
Hello /adv/, I don't have much experience with pot, but I started vaping with a small Magic Flight Box about two months ago. The reason is because I finally started taking medication for my ADHD (won't go into all of it but basically I did fine in highschool but now being a junior in college I need an extra push for those strenuous days of work, internship, and school). Anyway, the only downside I find to taking my Vyvanse is it makes falling asleep a bitch. The first few days I didn't get to sleep till about 4AM, and seeing as I have to wake up at 6:30AM, this wasn't working. A friend gave me his MFB and some weed and told me vaping before bed would help fall asleep.
Lo and behold, it works perfectly. I can smoke a bit before I'm ready to go to sleep, and doze off like I'm not even on my meds. However, I was wondering if there's any kind of negative side effects to smoking dope I should know about. I don't feel any different, but I could use some outside input. I usually am on my meds 5 weekdays and take a break on the weekends, so I usually vape 5 times a week. Usually it's just 2-3 tokes (I know that's probably not the cool word for it), I don't smoke otherwise. Input is appreciated.
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As long as you don't combust you'll avoid almost all of the negative side effects, except for a little bit of fuzz around the edge of your short term memory. I'd reccomend upgrading your genetics to a heavy indica designed for facilitating sleep such as Midnight Kush, Big Buddha, Blueberry or a similar strain. Kush genetics are especially good in my opinion. The Magic Flight Box is a great vape but if you're serious about the medical aspects of cannabis get a desktop vape like the Arizer, Volcano, or for portability, the Pax 2, Crafty or Mighty.
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you just wake up foggy if u go overboard but since u pop stims i think you're fine
inb4 conservatives try to make u quit by calling you degenerate
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>>17291934
>inb4 conservatives try to make u quit by calling you degenerate
You know it's true.
How do you distract yourself from physical pain when painkillers aren't helping?
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My ear has been aching like a motherfucker for several hours now. I took a few painkillers, going to get medication on monday because it's a national holiday right now and all the stores are closed (fucking folk hippie shit drowning over the summer solistice) and I just have to hold out until then.
The pain isn't the worst one I've ever experienced but it's inside my fucking cranium and there's no relief from it today. A part of me wants to throw up in hopes of relief but I know it's not happening.
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I have found that leaning forward or turning my head upside-down increases the pain and having my ear canal full of water mildly reduces it, but other than that, there is nothing, and the pain intensifies.
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>>17291979
>I have found that leaning forward or turning my head upside-down increases the pain
Well, probably stop doing that then. What kind of painkillers do you have?
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How to handle epic failures, anons?
When your image of yourself doesn't match reality and won't ever.
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just be yourself ;^)
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How to want to be yourself then?
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How do I handle being around a girl that used to bully me in high school?
>been with bf long time
>his friends are somehow mutual friends with girl that bullied me
>we hang out with his friends often, they like me, I like chilling with all of us
>she used to follow me home from school with her friends, threaten to jump me, talk shit about me, etc.
>i told my bf that I know her and we had shit in high school
>bf was drunk one night and told his friends (when I specifically told him not to)
>his friends told her about it
>she goes up to me one night at their house
>asking why I have shit with her
>i was so pissed and thrown off
>she didn't remember me
>told her if she doesn't remember then fuck off because I don't give a shit anymore
>she brags to all bf's friends that I'm such a hater and she can't believe anyone would hate her
>recently, I was taking friend home when we were at friend's house
>she goes up to my bf, greets him, says "Where's your hater ass girlfriend at?"
>rambles on to even more people about how she can't believe I have shit with people
And the cycle of bullying continues. We're grown ass people now. I really didn't want to make this a thing. I got upset with bf for telling people. He sincerely apologized. But there's nothing I can do to take that back.
Every time I see her she puts on a shit show of how I'm such a bitch for "hating" on her. I don't even know how to handle it. What I definitely will not do though, is stop hanging out with friends. They're neutral on it. They don't want to be involved and they don't respond to her bragging about it. It's just a weird situation that I wanted to avoid. Do I confront her? I'm just annoyed with how arrogant she's being about it. She's always been so holier than thou attention whorish. Loves it when people give her negative attention because it makes her feel like a bad bitch.
What do?
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What you should've did back in school, beat that bitches' ass.
She tests you because she knows she can get away with it. Your friends and bf are pretty shit for not having your back too. Fuck'em.
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Well, if she's acting the way you described, she probably won't stop anytime soon on her own, so I'd confront her if I were you.
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>>17291807
this makes me glad i moved around so i wouldn't need to deal with my past bullies lol.
she sounds annoying as fuck, i would try to ignore her or tell her you're over it and hope she cooperates. she'll probably throw more shit at you, but maybe you can have your boyfriend step in and tell her to fuck off too.
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I am ruining my relationship with my insecurities and don't know how to stop. The pattern is like this:
> worry gf will leave me because I'm a shitty person
> lose control, fight about it, accuse her
> Can see her get closer and closer to leaving my ass
> worry more that gf will leave me because I'm an even shittier person
This is generally what's happening and I don't know how to the loop. I have anxiety and attachment issues.
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How many relationships have you been in?
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Talk to her about it. Tell her how insecure you feel and how your anxiety is driving you to do this. She will understand and together you can come up with a solution that will benefit both.
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>>17291772
When has this ever worked ?
I'm in the same boat Op , my insecurities are fucking me up and there showing , not sure whether to fuck off or keep going at it.... I've slept with her once so far , she lives hours away, I haven't gone again.