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Switzerland is nice but boring unless you love nature
France is utter shite (Paris is the shittiest part)
Would recommend Spain for the style of life but I wouldn't trust the economy

Can't tell you much about the rest

>>17291697
I'm Italian. If you have a job, things here are pretty cool (at least where I live, up in the north) - free healthcare, lots of shit to do, art everywhere, good food, mountains and seaside relatively close everywhere.

>>17291697
Iceland is pretty cool but be prepared for very cold weather all the time (sometimes in the summer you can be lucky to get 20 degrees). I don't think Reykjavik is that boring but generally Iceland is boring unless you're into outdoors, walking in mountains and such. Oh and they have great outdoors swimmingpools with warm water. I don't think I could live there though
Australia seems really cool.
I don't know you so it's difficult to say but maybe you'd like countries more that are like your own like Malta, Italy or France? It can be a culture shock when going to a very different place. Switzerland is cool if you like to travel because there's so many nice countries around and lots of things to do

Call your credit card company or bank and submit a fraud statement. Change your passwords, run an antivirus, don't open weird emails

>>17291680
Thank you for responding. I have asked my credit card company to place a fraud alert, changed my password and I am running Norton 360 right now (it's running rather slow though).

Should I contact the police somehow and ask them to "trace" the person who did this... should I contact the website admins and ask them to give the perpetrator's ip adress or something to the police?

I don't know if the person or people who did this live in my country, they could be living in China or Russia for all I know..

>>17291676
banks often have default cover for credit card fraud

if they didn't nobody would use a credit card

so ask the bank what their policy is, and heck your documents until you get straight answer

next block transfers to/from whichever company involved by asking your bank, unless the company used your credit card.

the company it'self should have a credit card policy, and the law probably obligates them to even more

failing that, lodge a fraud complaint with the police, who will obtain the identity of the fraudster (nobody will give that information to you), and the police will find the lost money

so in sort
1. talk to your bank
2. talk to the police

Have you tried asking her?

>>17291666

Satanic trips don't lie

>>17291666
I haven't, I'd feel awkward asking her desu

Are you not ugly?

>>17291639
I'm not overweight and I'm thinking I'm probably a 6/10 so not completely hideous. Some guys have said I'm cute before. However, I don't dress femininely and I have bitchy resting face, factors that probably repel irl guys away from me. My socially anxious nature probably also makes me appear closed off.

Yeah looking at your post and the fact you have some kind of autism I'd say you should get another online boyfriend, because you're never going to be going around dating everyone

Or maybe get a prescription for xanax so you don't freak the fuck out when you have to talk to real people

Dreams are nothing more than your brain attempting to process all the random crap that it didn't have time to deal with over the course of the day. It tries to do this all at once, and so things get mashed together in ways that often don't make much sense to the conscious. Seeing something in a dream only means that that thing has been on your mind, possibly in ways that aren't even connected to the context it had within the dream itself.

Recurring dreams, in and of themselves, mean only that the thing you're dreaming about is on your mind a lot. So for whatever reason, you've been doing a lot of thinking about your dad, abuse, and choking.

I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting. These things in combination must be very frightening to think about. But could you tell us more? Why are abuse and strangulation on your mind so much these days? What about your dad? Is he in fact abusing to, or did he in the past, or are you afraid he might do it in the future? Or do you know someone else who is being abused by their own father? Or is your brain just mashing unrelated concepts together?

>>17291616
>Dreams are nothing more
Dropped.
Dreams are extremely complex things that we have little knowledge of how they work.

Sleep apnea.

People are going to tell you to see a doctor.

1. Hemorrhoids do not last that long.

2. Hemorrhoids in some cases need surgery.

3. It might not even be motherfucking Hemorrhoids.

>>17291546
I know you don't want to, but you have to see a doctor.

If it's been a couple of months then the hemorrhoid has definitely clotted and you'll need to have the clot removed surgically or you risk other really terrible and painful complications.

Seriously just go and do it. I had the same problem years ago and it only got worse and worse until I finally just sucked it up and saw the doctor. Haven't had any problems since.

Also anti-inflammatories like ibuprofen tend to work pretty well in keeping them at bay of you feel them coming back.

>>17291563

> or you risk other really terrible and painful complications

Like what? I thought that only the hemorrhoid could get worse.

Thank you for sharing your experience though, it's appreciated and I'll consider seeing a doctor if what I mentioned in my OP doesn't work.

Just change yours to in a relationship with her. It should give her a notification for her to accept or decline it. If she declines, that's weird.

>>17291541
Are you keeping your relationship a secret from someone? Maybe her relatives or something?
It's probably not a big deal, anyway. I'm a girl myself and I enter facebook sometimes and I can tell you, I could totally forget to change my relationship status. It's not an important thing, really.

It was important in highschool. I rarely even see notifications theses days..

If I were to get in a relationship is maybe hide mine, but honestly whatever

pls?

>>17291533
>Stole my older brothers safe full of drugs, threatening to kill me
Ok first up exactly how did you /think/ he was going to react to this? Were you expecting him to turn round like "oh well, guess I'll just go back to school now then, maybe join the church choir while I'm at it"?

Second, there are right and wrong ways to help people. What you've done is like worrying about a bloke who rides his motorbike too fast so you "solved" the problem by ramming him in a pick up truck - then saying he's being unreasonable when he complains about being paralysied because you think he should be grateful you put him in a wheelchair. The reason he's reacting this way is because he owes his suppliers significant amounts of money for those drugs. Money he doesn't have and now can't get, because he has nothing to sell. When his suppliers find out they're not getting paid (which will put them in the same position with their suppliers) the things they'll do to him are going to be orders of magnitude worse than what he's threatening to do to you.

I'm not coding people selling drugs here, nor am I claiming your brother is a saint. However the impression I get here is that you knew full well this wasn't going to help in the slightest - or rather that you never had any intention to help in the first place. You decided for whatever reason that you were jealous of your brother, and when you couldn't bear that jealousy any longer you decided you'd fuck his life up in the most spectacular way you knew how. Now you're playing the victim card and are unable to understand why you're not being hailed as a hero.

>>17291577
He's gotten them off of a website where you pay and they're posted to you autonomously.He owes nobody, I know he has no buyers or debts to dangerous people.

It is slightly wrong but I'm trying to intervene and break it up before he relies too heavily on it for a living.

Do it as a side thing while working a job, should work out for you anyways

If work is up the street why would you buy a car in the first place?

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>>17291564
I hate walking/biking all the way to work and enjoy having my own means of transportation without relying on others. I was going to start biking but some piece of shit jacked my new bike.

What's important about those years is that you have no obligations and you get away with more stupid shit because people don't expect you to have more forethought and sense of responsibility. And of course hooking up and casually dating a twenty year old when you are also twenty is different from either dating a twenty five year old, or dating a twenty year old when you have five years on them. In that sense doors have absolutely closed.

But
>from a "getting to know yourself" stand point
I don't really agree with. There are plenty of people who spend their late teens and early twenties YOLO'ing it up, and that won't magically give you insight in yourself and what you want out of life. (At most it can cause you to get sick of fucking randoms and partying.) For that you need the combination of experiencing and trying things AND introspection, and introspection is something that many young people lack and don't value either. So don't worry too much about that part.

It's also not true that just because you missed the most cliche period to find yourself, you can no longer do crazy stuff or have those first flutters. You would probably be surprised at how many people are in a similar position and don't follow exactly the same timeline as most. Besides, there is absolutely no point in chewing on regret about this. You made your choices, deal with them, and if you're unhappy use that as incentive to make different choices now. Everything else is useless and a waste of your energy and time.

>>17291496
It really doens' t matter if you enjoyed those years.

>I have never had the spark

It's called flirting, woman will assume you're not interrested if you don't show them you're interrested. Try it.

>>17291538
But flirting with women will earn you their anger. I don't go clubbing so flirting with women in everyday areas seems unnatural.

>>17291495
You should tell her to see someone, other then that there's not much you can do. That's just the sad reality.

>>17291817

This.

You're not a specialist, and realistically they are not even going to know what their problems are for you to help with, you need to encourage them to see a therapist (talk therapist, not pill pushing psychiatrist).

>>17291495
I have had the same problem. My advice is to forget about her before she brings you down with her.

>>17291817
>>17291822
Listen to these anons.

Make some friends

Masturbate read play videogames kill a couple people figure out what you like

It's not, as a college student i'd gladly sleep forever.

But it sounds like degradation and wasting time kind of.
I want to do so many things on my holidays and they all are solitary and require only internet and paper.
Read books, get into origami/papercraft, draw, cook new stuff, sew, crochet, make handmade accessories.

If you didn't mention sitting on the computer all day, you probably don't like activities related. Learning photoshop or some other software is handy. Try fun stuff like Duolingo, Khan Academy, Coursera.
I am a newbie to makeup, so i'll watch youtube for that, there must be lot of things you wanted to know too.

There is a ton of solitary activities you could try.
Videogames, watching tv series and films is nice, but very bad in enormous quantities, keep in mind.

>>17291475

fish oil and limes

You must go on a pilgramage into the amazon jungle
At the heart you will find the sacred tree. Collect it's sap for your mixture.

Be warned-the journey is frightful

Get a vagina and milk the juice from it.

If they think you're lame, they wouldn't have been worth your friendship anyway.

Just try it and see what happens dude. Most normal people out there are more kind than you're giving them credit for.

>>17291509
I am legit afraid of being ridiculed, i already have ugly face.
My solitary behaviour already puts me in "that weirdo" category, i have to lie to hide that the only thing i did yesterday was browsing bulbapedia.
What kind of common ground can i find with normies?

>>17291464
You mean hipsters?

>>17291450
Keep living it up dude.
The security you felt with your ex was a false one.

>>17291454

Thanks for the solidarity. I just fucking feel so down and out some days, like I am wasting my time fucking around. Is that normal?

Forget your ex and get your pets back