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This probably sounds pathetic but I'm just genuinely curious as far as what happened .

I know girls have so many guys hitting them up so they always have plenty of options but this is just so random to me.

Especially when she was texting me hearts and cute shit like that before she went to bed last night . Given this girl is kind of crazy and has a lot of fucked up things in her life and she doesn't want to expose me to them . Is it possible for a girl to like you so much that she doesn't want to be let down so she just never meet you ?

>>17475057

So you went to the place shes meant to work at and found out she doesnt actually exist. . .

How did you bring that up to her? Did you's discuss it at all ?

Or did she block you as soon as you mentioned it?

>>17475139

So basically she gave me some story about how she was in the hospital due to some sort of problem she was having. So she was taking a couple days off work. Then she said she was also working at a different store or transferring.

It's really odd because I feel like she knows I'm super into her but she has such low self-esteem herself that she rather just break off contact now instead of getting hurt down the road.

Obviously doesn't make any sense at all but then again it is women we are talking about .

>>17475040
>Do I *really* need Adderall?
What the fuck kind of stupid ass question is this?

My close friend let me try some of his Adderall. I've taken 15mg and 30 mg doses. 15mg didn't seem to do much, since I was expecting to get 'high'. When I first took 30mg, I just felt like sitting down and focusing on something. I sat down and had a marathon vidya session. Usually I'll lose focus every so often and do something else for a little bit (go on my phone, pick up my guitar, eat out of boredom etc.). Not because the game is boring. I just couldn't handle it for too long.

Fast forward to today. I took 30mg, had a cup of joe (20 oz., or about 6 deciliters for you foreigners) and went into the garage to play music. (I'll link a song I did if any /mu/sicians are lurking). I was in there for over 4 hours, never stopping just to do something dumb. The only reason I stopped was that I realized that Adderall might really help me in college, and I came here, of all places to ask for advice.

Cont.

Should I talk to a doctor about this? I mean, I can't just tell them I took someone else's prescription, can I? Plus, when I was a kid, a doctor told me I don't have ADD or ADHD. I don't believe that, but still. Am I just a shithead who needs to stop being lazy and apply myself? Would I benefit from medication? I know there's more than just Adderall, it's just what I'm familiar with.

Holy fuck she's hideous.

>>17475009

Depends on him. If he's not in a place where he's willing to consider something serious, there is absolutely nothing you can do to change that.

If he's open to it, you need to be someone he'd want to consider being with. Someone to complements and contrasts him in a way that makes you both work together, and keep each other entertained and intrigued. Someone he genuinely enjoys spending time with.

Notice I said BE, not BECOME.

All the desperation in the world will only ever work against you.

>>17475020
She's gorgeous

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>>17474974
>Fembots

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>>17474974
at 18 I was having to deal with PTSD, poverty and facing homelessness. must be tough having a pussy

>sage

>>17474974

Guy here, it's not as bad as the fear-mongering makes it out to be.

I've only ever said one girls has "lead me on" and that's because she straight up told me she was in-love with me and arranged a date with me (only to tell me two days later she was seeing someone else).

As for being insulted by rejection. It's more of a "how you reject" kinda thing.
Most women are downright cruel about it (maybe it's just a white/british girl thing though) so naturally it would feel insulting. A "Sorry, you're not really my type" would be a fucking relief compared to how alot of women treat men when they reject them.

That said, I know this guy, kind of a sociopath who does act that way (in fact, I find that most guys with similar personality types to him get that way). I would suggest avoiding people that;
>Get into relationships too quickly or too easily.
>Are too outgoing (they can literally talk to anyone, zero awkwardness).
>Big ego's, hyper competitive - for instance, they'll believe they are the best at whatever they do (No one plays video-games with my friend anymore, not even me. I can only revive someone so many times while they keep telling me "NO, I GOT THIS, STAND BACK I'M BETTER").
>Anyone too charming or popular. As a general rule, I don't trust anyone who's too well liked. It means their are alot of people who'd be blind to any shit they pull.

Stop hanging around with men.

For some reason, I almost never see you guys get along with each other. And even when you do, there's always some passive-aggressive jabs or competition being thrown in the air.

It honestly sound more like you're drawing arms for an argument more often than not and that's why it devolves into one.

I have a friend who sounds a lot like what you've described, it seems like she's always ready to deffend her point of view like a goddamn gladiator. On the one hand it makes her fascinating to talk to but on the other it can get tiring when you just want to chill out.

The moment you raise your voice is the moment the argument ends. You have stopped listening and the other person won't be able to hear. It's odd that we raise our voice to be heard and it actually has the exact opposite effect. The person you shout at cannot hear your words only your raised voice. They will mirror your behaviour. You then stop hearing their words. There is no longer a discussion or argument only two people shouting and neither of them is listening.

no guarantees in life bro

>>17474922
This is /adv/ not a magic 8 ball, friend.

She's nothing great so sure

I have no idea whether your boyfriend is justified in not trusting you, but certainly it's obvious that trust has not been repaired.

For what it's worth, I've dated a girl or two whose trust was so badly broken from previous relationships it left a permanent scar on them, that's what they call emotional baggage and it really poisons the fuck out of a relationship.

Who knows what's going on with you. But it's certainly a possibility it's really the end.

>>17474909
You are leaving something out here, probably the circumstances surrounding you saying you may be going to watch this move with this guy.
Speaking of this movie, why exactly are you going on a date with this guy? Because that is what watching a movie 1 on 1 with another guy is.

If you honestly want advice, give the whole story. You're leaving out something big and unless you're just looking for someone to tell you you aren't that bad, you're making it impossible to give useful advice on your situation.

>>17474909
Something I should mention is that my boyfriend is not at all overbearring, it's just that when I mentioned the 1 on 1 hang out, that's what prompted him to launch into his criticisms.

For clarity's sake the initial lie was as follows;
I went out with some friends and slept over at a guy's place.Nothing happened during that night but the day after I didn't call my BF. He ended up calling me, and I panicked and told him that I'd slept over at a girl's house. However he had contacted one of my other friends the night before and found out that it wasn't true.

I've never had a history of lying to him on this scale (or any other scale to mention for the record). I was legitimately depressed during this period and when the lie happened though i fully admit that I truly acted horribly at the time.

I'd confront early if you're gonna do it. Don't let it sit, you'll freak yourself out even more.

>>17474888
He is captain red flag and you are miss red velvet.

>>17474888
You could talk about your fatish with him and maybe he tell back what he likes and perhaps he tell about this craiglist mail

You already spy on him, why you do that? In my opinion a real relationship is based in confidence, you have permission to play games not to see his mail, he maybe know you already see it

Took me a while but try to make the sound Chewbacca makes in Star Wars (haven't seen it but everyone knows the sound) and just practice more with that getting that same sound into words. Best of luck.

>>17474870
thing is i can make a rumbling in the back of my throat but I'm pretty sure that's incorrect and it doesn't connect to any actual sounds easily. i can get a tiny short vibration at the front occasionally and i can already tell that's easier and better to say words with.

i think i just need to practice with that muscle

>>17474863
You don't REALLY need to roll your r's for spanish. Most people will understand what you're saying based on context.

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>asking /adv/ for pharmacological information

I can't believe people can be this dense. Don't you know about drug info sites? Even Wikipedia is better than asking a bunch of strangers.

Look here, real easy. Only thing you have to do is type "Isotretinoin" in your searching site of choice.

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>>17474852
I had severe cystic acne, the type that gets deep under your skin, hurts like hell, and never fucking goes away. Parents did nothing when I was young, still have it in mid twenties and finally decided to do something about it. Took Isotretinoin for several months and cleared up my skin completely. Skin was literally baby smooth, was pretty amazing after a lifetime of acne.

If you're going to take it, your lips and eyes will dry out like crazy. Avoid the sun, heavy drinking, and making babies if you're a girl. Skin was completely clear about a year after I finished, acne came back but much less severe couple of years after. That being said, my eyes are still somewhat dry. Same with my lips. Also, I got some psoriasis on my hands, feet, etc. where I never did before. Would I do it again?

Yes. Fuck acne. It's a serious drug that will likely have permanent effects on your skin and body but it was worth it to me.

>>17474944
That doesn't sound like a good exchange

get drunk on wine and paint with you in your little artsy apartment

>>17474831
Museums, street festivals, Walk in the Park, Watch a kung fu movie.

>>17474831
FUCK, IT'S TOO BAD THERE AREN'T ANY MUSEUMS IN NYC WHERE YOU COULD GO LOOK AT ART OR SCIENCE STUFF

How do you guys handle it. I'm thinking about hiking or something, but I'm really busy atm and soon I'll be moving to a very metropolitan area.

I'm having trouble keeping my mind off it. I'll probably just spend the rest of the night playing guitar and vidya, but sometimes it creeps up on me. Now I'm thinking about the possibility of us meeting up in the later years, and catching up / rekindling. I don't want to be hung up. I need someone else I think.

>>17474828
It's just a fact of life anon. People come and go in life. They come and leave, over and over, until one of them chooses that they like where they are and stay.

If your ex has moved on and you haven't yet, you know it's time for you too. Try to focus on the present and not obsess over the past or the future. In time I'll bet this will all seem like a bad dream.

you don't

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>>17474811
look for the most miserable person you can find playing a videogame outside at a walmart

>>17474815
Why? I'm looking for a relationship that is' n too strict, since I'm kinda atm

God no don't grab her hand at the concert.
Just hang out with her as a friend, and talk a lot. Learn about her and let her learn about you.
At the end of the date tell her you had a good time, and that you'd like to do it again. You telling her you want to see her again, and her (I'm assuming) agreeing, is all the sign of attraction you should be after at this point.

Well how did you ask her out? You should have made that that you were interested at least somewhat clear when asking her out. Otherwise, don't try so hard to overthink it. Seriously. Not even meaning like "be yourself" but just try to be cool, and don't act like you're trying too hard. Just try to have fun and get to know the girl. I'm nineteen also, haven't been on a date in fucking ages but I always found that once I actually hungout with anyone I'm talking too it comes together easily. I'm funny though, not like a telling joke funny, but I'm really confident and honest and say what's on my mind and everyone thinks it's funny. I wish you luck. I should note that even if you're super fucking awkward and drop the ball on everything, if she's into you she'll find it cute and not weird.

dawg the whole idea is for it to flow natural you cant go through life over analyzing shit, just life that day when it arrives and the rest will fall into place..

You don't.

Everyone knows that the people who perform these approaches are genetic dead-weight.

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>>17474777
>don't approach random girls
>approach random girls at work
>don't shit where you eat
>just go out and talk to girls
>just
>do
>don't
>just be yourself
>fake it till you make it

Nobody on this board knows a fucking thing about anything

>>17474733
Honestly, just approach with whatever. Have a joke ready, just say "Hi" and introduce yourself. Tell her you think she's pretty/cute/beautiful/sexy. If you want the ability to approach a person, practice your approach. Just don't except pussy to start raining from the sky and work on brushing rejection off, no matter how harsh.