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he is probably afraid of ruining what u got.

>>17474188

If he opened himself up to you, he will be less attractive to you.

Despite being told this, you will not believe it. When you get him to open up, you will decide he's too much of a wimp, and need a real man, who doesn't have feelings.
You will not learn from this.

When you get a "real man", you will come here to ask why he does not open up to you.

You like this one despite the fact he doesn't open up to you. You like him because he is who is is, and not opening up to people is a part of who he is.
If he opens up, then he is not being the man you fell for.

>>17474205
This is really legit advice and something I remind myself about my partner often.

>>17474111
Here, have a (you).

>>17474111
>*snickers* I hope they bought it.
What an odd slogan for a candy bar. And what an odd place for a random commercial.

Girl here, can confirm OP is right.

>>17474078

Because it's easy.

Working to make yourself feel better is far more difficult.

>>17474078

Because your brain is more powerful than you. Unless you change that.

>>17474110
Do you retards even think about what you're about to post?

You could check out the Google+ Communities. Ye, people dont like googles social network. But the communities you can find are often very active and way better than any of that facebook shit.

>>17474063
Good thread.

Facebook has become too bloated. It used to be fun when you had only like 150 friends, and you could post funny stuff on it without worrying.

Now your boss, coworkers, professors and their family have added you on facebook, which means that if you even only like a post, ALL OF THEM will see it in their timeline.

Because everyone now has 600+ friends, everyone's gotten too scared to post things, making your timeline just one big shitfest of "Hurr Durr liked this photo by TheLadBible".

I visit facebook about 50 times a day, scrolling through my timeline, then realizing how I've just wasted 10 minutes of my life looking at the same old regurgitated garbage memes some fucking guy from high school liked.

I just use pidgin to chat on fb so I never have to visit that cancerous website.

>>17474003
Do you want to be friends with her? Or are you only friends with her because you hope one day she will change her mind?

>>17474003
I'd say it is a poor choice.
I don't see any point to sticking around her, your friendship was on the line either way that moment you asked her out.

What do you gain from being friends?
Why do you think your friendship will be the same after being rejected?

>>17474008
The former really.

>>17474009
She and I were friends long before I developed any kind of feelings towards her and she was pretty cool about saying she wasn't interested. Overall I really enjoy her company regardless. I'm just kinda afraid of it going to shit when she or I find other people.

Sorry about the poor writing, I'm compressing a lot of shit in one psot because I find that this board doesn't really do tl;dr. For example take the lack of replies to this thread OP which despite my best efforts still became a wall of text...

>>17473996
Also some more information which might be relevant to your /adv/ice.

She does always greet me very warmly with even a bit of excitement, but I don't know that might just be her trying to friendzone me.

>>17473996
The first advice I have on this subject matter is stop overthinking things. Seriously, stop. You honestly probably did not fuck things up by texting back quickly. You did blow her off after with how you handled the moving on part (which you clearly didn't or we wouldn't be having this conversation). She may have honestly been trying to make you jealous or she may have just been looking over there to see if you were going to still be friendly. You gave her some serious mixed signals (in all fairness it sounds like she may have towards you as well) so she may very well have moved on. She could also equally be sitting there pining for you, wondering why her approach got her rejected, just like you. I'd suggest trying to spend some time with her. If she is positive towards it, try to calmly bring up the topic of how you've been feeling about her if the mood seems right.

Sorry anon. It's part of life. We've all been there and yes, it's very hard the first time. Doesn't really get easier, but you are more accepting of it as part of the process the more it happens.

Everything your feeling is completely normal, it will go away in time.

All you can do is avoid her completely and make your occupied so you don't think of her as often. Talking to other girls should help, too.

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Dude, are you me? These were my exact thoughts when my first girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago.

But yeah, that sorta pain is normal, and the first cut is the deepest. It's worse since she was your first everything, and she'll probably always hold a piece of your heart there, but if your relationship ended for a reason, it probably ended for a reason.

What I'd recommend you do is do what I'm doing, and try to make yourself a better man. Work out, join social circles, and find hobbies that make you happy. At first, it'll help keep your mind off things, but later on it'll make you a more attractive and well-rounded person.

And then, you can look back at the memories of your ex and think: "she has no idea what she's missing."

Stay strong, anon. It's going to be a hard few weeks (might even be months). I'm still not over her, and waves of depression still come now and again, but we're all gonna make it.

>>17473986
Start not hosting to see if you enjoy the whole experience before bringing it up to roommates , but if you do enjoy it I'd just say , I'm gonna have a guy over later so make yourself scarce , act the same about it as they would be towards you with a girl

>>17474007
Totally agree anon , if you don't act awkward about it then they won't receive it awkwardly

>>17474007
>>17474012

I have done it before but only once... Trying to branch out and explore myself a little more.


Thank you both anons, your feedback is appreciated.

>Okay I have never been gay. When I was around 14 I had my dick sucked from this gay kid few times

You have never been gay...yet you literally just said you had your dick sucked by a guy...

>>17473856

just tell them to leave you alone. you dont need to change yourself.

>>17473927

oh come on, getting ur dick sucked as a teenager is not gay, i fucked a fucking dog, doesn't mean im a beastliaty.

i mean hell as a teenager you mjay fuck another teenager, doesnt make you a pedophile.

>>17473856
You did it once do it again and let them suck you off

>>17473764
Don't be yourself.

you just live and learn sometimes its a hit sometimes its a miss.

What did you say?

You don't, apparently. No one cares about guys right now, and if you have simple problems like this, just wait until you're full-blown wizard.

Just listen to people and be an ear for others. Don't burst into any conversation, repeat what others say when you think it's clever and the moment is right. People love silent listeners and only care for another's input when they're infatuated with them or that person is very humorous/clever. Just listen more OP and pay attention in conversation.

so let me get this straight.... you want to hang out with other people, but you refuse to actually do anything about it?

you said so yourself, you refuse to talk to someone unless there is something important to talk about. if you want friends you gotta show people you want to be friends.

>>17473700
>doesn't really address the problem.
The problem being self-pity and a desire to not have to take care of yourself? I'm not sure what the issue here is.

"Oh, this person is really nice, but she's not pretty enough". Oh well. If your idea of what love is revolves mostly around physical appearance, I can see why you're having trouble.

we live on planet earth, in a universe that seems to be governed by logic and rules. it is common knowledge that animals select mates (romantic love is with a mate) based on appearance to a high degree. if that butthurts you, then go shitpost somewhere else.

>>17474266
this was directed at
>>17474084

also

>you seem to not want to take care of yourself
I have no idea where you got the idea that wanting love and having difficulty with it means one has no desire to take care of themselves, but eat my ass cunt

Why don't you want to be with her OP?

>>17473678

Set aside an entire day or evening

Man up and say it like it is, it's not you it's me etc etc etc

She will break down and you can comfort her gently, but in a suddenly brotherly fashion instead of as boyfriend, let her know she is a good person, but that you are not 'right' for each other etc etc etc

Breakup sex is a maybe, works better for men who can aggressively pound their broken heart hard into the shebitch ruinor of happiness
Also, it sends wierd 'maybe' signals

So just spend an afternoon/evening comforting her and being gentle and letting her go.

The longer you let it drag out, the worse it gets, believe me, I broke up with my bf 2 years afterI realised I didn't want the relationship, still get pathetic drunken texts once in a while, and it's been three years!

>>17473704
You're a piece of shit

>>17473652
Rape her

I'll never understand this. If you didn't have a relationship with the guy she cheated on you with, who cares? If you should be mad at anyone, be mad at your exwife.

Jokes on the new guy. She will just cheat on him at some point.

>>17473652
did the guy even know about you at the time? id say more often than not, the girl in those situations does not tell the guy shes cheating with that shes involved with someone. its the girl you should be mad at, if anyone. i say just write her off like that trash she is. then get rich and live well and make sure she sees/hears about it. trust me, they hate that shit. ive had several girls break up with me because i was broke as fuck, and since ive started making retarded amounts of money, each and every one of them has hit me up. naturally, i laugh at them and send them on their way.

I don't evencare enough to try killing myself anymore.
It's this weird transcendant feeling of supreme apathy. I get no reactions out of myself with anything.
Any idea what's wrong with me?

I'm not suicidal but I also don't want to continue living if that makes any sense. I'm just too lazy to do anything to improve myself so I don't want to end up homeless.

>>17473600
helium exit bag, is easy and painless