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How cliche

If your ex wants to be involved in the daughter's life, I think you let him. He sounds like a shithead, but maybe not entirely a shithead, since there's at least some little desire to see his daughter.

Since your daughter doesn't know him much, I think you need to sit her down and rationally explain who he is, who Y is, and that she's loved very much by a lot of people. As she gets older, hopefully she can sort it out.

If you have the resources available, maybe talk to a child development specialist/therapist about the best ways to introduce your daughter to this dynamic.

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>>17895444
>Don't study so I can be his smile at home

>19
>Get pregnant with his child

>Meet guy at my sister's birthday
>Made me feel like that dumb, naive 18 year old all over again

Also, she was just kissed by another dude last week--but I know certainly that won't work out for many reasons that I'm not typing out. She's also turned down another guy already.

I'm assuming I just drop her if she bails tomorrow? I've never been in a relationship and I don't have any people to talk to for intelligent advice. My friends are all degenerates...

>>17895416
>intelligent advice
>is asking 4chan
kek

Girls are dumb. She probably forgot you said you were going to meet up. Don't try to make her feel better, just wait until she's in a better mood to take future plans. You aren't her therapist.

>>17895386
She's not really a girl, more like a woman. 13 years older, unmarried, no children but pretty youthful and sexy. She has the potential to be a perfect wife material desu

I mean honestly it just sounds like she had a lonely Christmas and you said you were gonna visit her and you didn't.
Pretty shit thing to do

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God is with you always. Open your heart and listen.

>>17895356
check out the end of this thread

>>17895064

you are putting rules on things that don't have rules.

Once you open up and live life as it comes, you gain a lot of energy that was just being stolen from you.

You thought that "I should fell complete/satisfied"

But where does that "should" come from?

Not from reality.

>>17895356
Continuing on, a goal or point of life, DOES NOT EXIST.

We create our own meaning.

We as humans are emotional, and fallible.

But let me tell you this, man to man, adult to adult: You will get a million more satisfaction points from children and family than you get from promotions/wealth;

If you're going through hell, keep fucking going. Don't stop in the middle of your wasteland.

One day your son will be facing a crisis and come to you for help. You will be able to help and he will respect you.

>let me tell you about a tough spot I was in way back when....

Fast forward a bit.
>your grandafter was amazing. Let me share this incredible story he once told me when I was having problems....

Keep the faith.

>>17895344
nigga toss that rope in the trash my man

>>17895318
Don't be honest with us, be honest with her. Holy shit.

>>17895318
Jesus Christ dude. Just fuck her already.

>>17895318
Enjou your oncoming suffering m8

>>17895296
dude, people who "move past" this shit and keep it going 1 have kids, or 2 are complete cucks with a horrible relationship and they're almost always extremely out of touch.

Just break up with her or just start fucking other people. It's not even worth harassing her about it or breaking her down to get her to admit to what she's done.

Once a cheater, always one

the only situation where it could be okay is where she did it once, then immediately confessed to you.

Dump her. She might seem sad, but the fact is she repeatedly cheated on you. She doesn't care how you feel.

>>17895296

she is testing your boundaries you should leave her while you still can . if you don;t she will get pregnant you will have an unhappy marriage which will end in divorce .

>>17895293
I'm pretty crazy so Scientology might be cool, but i think Mormonism isn't that bad. You seem pretty faggot so try out some buddhism shit or something like it.

>>17895317
Faggot? How?

>>17895319
>hey 4chan pick my religion for me

>>17895284
Capital One is a card for people with bad credit. They take a risk on you, but control it by giving you a low limit, and make their profit by charging twice the interest of any other card.

Put another way, they are counting on you paying off slowly and paying a LOT of interest in the process.

The ONLY way to use a card like this is to pay it IN FULL every month. It then becomes just a convenience card, saving you from having to carry a lot of cash, but costing you nothing.

NEVER use it to buy more than you will be able to pay in full when the bill comes.

>>17895284
>, my question is do I blow all $1000 now and pay it back a little at a time every month?

don't do that.

If you want to do something like that, have you considered taking a loan out from a bank?

>>17895284
>Hey /adv/ are there any financefags that can give me some pro-tips on how to not dick myself with my first credit card
Here's my best and simplest advice: Don't use it to spend money you don't have. NEVER be in debt. Especially since this is your first credit card, you should use it as often as possible (instead of cash/debit) and then pay it off immediately. Pay it off the same day, or do it on your walk back to the car after you're done at the store.

The more you use it (and pay it off), the more credit you'll build. In the meantime, try to open an account with a few other credit companies. Currently, my credit score is 842 and I have an American Express with a $45k limit because I used my cards often and always paid them off instantly. NEVER use your card to buy stuff you can't afford with cash, and you'll build amazing credit in no time. That will look good if you're applying for a home loan or a job where they run a credit check on you.

Jesus Christ you are not a man

>>17895273
what? do you want a duel?

>>17895272
The "real" asian girl you are looking for can only be found in japan. China is full of brutish people male or female. Dont know about korea but if you are fine with plastic/non natural girls they are nice from what ive heard. Any other part of asia and you wont find the "traditional" asian girl. You can try taiwan but i'm not sure about them. Definitely nicer than china though. Hong Kong is alright but the younger generation is full of libtards if im not wrong.
Singapore girls are too westernised and slutty. And stupid. (I live in singapore)
Any other place is pretty much jungle monkeys unless you like a villager type of country bumpkin girl.

If you ever took the time to read or learn about the Bible, you would know it's full of decent advice.

>not the answer to your girlfriend cheating on you

It is when the Bible tells you to be aware of the needs of others and you choose to ignore thoseof your gf (e.g. giving her adequate attention). And so on, and so on.

Also, make me.

>>17895252
Don't tread on me bruv. I'm religious (not Christian) and I'm going to keep going in threads and calling you all degenerates and tell you to not engage in extra marital sex. You can't stop me

>>17895252
In many cases, the Bible is the best advice. If you claim that the Bible is never the best advice in any case because it is the bible because it is not the best advice in any case because it is the bible, etc. then you are the ignorant one applying circular reasoning.

>cont'd
Skip to beginning of this school year.
I made the unwritten and unwarranted decision to make my Senior year into something memorable, that I could look back on with pride, or, at the very least, happiness. Necessary tangent, there's this girl that I've had a crush on since Freshman year, but I never had the courage to go anywhere with. However, God gave me a chance, because, when I walked into my math class on the second day of school, this girl was there. Our class size is about 15 students, so this was a very small probability, but, it happened. Long story short, through the month of september, we grew ever closer as we bonded, texted, flirted, etc. I asked her out the second week of October, and I thought that, for once, things might be okay. I could write an essay on each and every day I spent with her, but that's not what I'm here for.
Skip to about two weeks in. I've been talking to my friend who has had a serious girlfriend for about the last three months or so, asking specifically about when he first told her he loved her. He said he waited only a week into their relationship, which is pretty quick, but he said it didn't feel rushed or forced, and that made it okay. I planned a wonderful night for the two of us, including dinner, a movie, casual driving, and the eventual snuggling while overlooking the valley. (Salt Lake City, UT; contains many hills scattered across the mountains in which you can look out over multiple cities within the region) As we were cuddled together, I was about to say it, when a couple of kids from the nearby high school stumbled down the hill drunk, and consequently very loud, essentially ruining the moment. At first I was discouraged, but I realized that it didn't matter, as I had all the time in the world to tell her.
Cut a few days later, sitting in her room as I help her with homework. On her phone, using the quizlet app to create a study guide for her.

>cont'd
I switched over to the safari app to look up dictionary definitions for words, when I'm greeted with an already opened tab. Wikihow, titled "How to Break Up With Your Boyfriend."
My mind went dark. All my personal issues and problems, that had gone away when I began with her, came flooding back. I was scared, I was upset, and I felt sick. Now, rather than explain that she had looked it up to help her friend get out of her relationship, (at least that's what she claimed it was there for. I lost confidence in this answer later on) she snatched the phone from my hand, closed the tab, and handed me back the phone without saying anything. I was crushed. I didn't know what to do or what to say or how to react. I went along with what she was doing: pretending that it didn't happen. I continued to build the study guide for her, and about 10 minutes later, she pushed the laptop off of her legs, and put her hand on mine. I looked up, into her eyes, and she gently took the phone again, setting it on the ground, and kissed me. All of the problems melted away, and everything was okay again. It was all back to normal. I chose this moment to tell her that I loved her. I meant it too. However, I knew immediately that I had made a mistake. People can say a lot through their body language and facial expressions without saying a single word verbally. Her eyebrows furrowed and her smile waned, even though it was slight. This moment, although it felt like minutes, lasted less than a second, before we were back to it. When we stopped, after a few seconds of silence, she asked, "Did you say what I think you said?" I didn't realize it at the time, but she was giving me an out. Unfortunately I didn't take it.
Cut another 3 hours, as I was leaving. She walked me to her front door, as usual, but this time, asked, "Do you want to talk about what you said?" I replied with, "Only if you want to."

She sort of looked off into the distance, before saying, "I don't think you really do." I didn't know how to respond to that. All I knew is that it hurt deeply. I don't remember if I said anything, or waited for her to continue. I don't remember what happened after that, but I wish I would have known that the following goodnight kiss would be our last.
She broke up with me the next night, with the reasoning that she had too much conflict going on with Theater, college applications, etc. I wish I could say I used my debate skills to change her mind, that I asked her to go more in depth, or that I even begged her not to break up. However, I'm trying to be as truthful as possible here, for the best advice. I did none of this. I let her say what she wanted, and a large portion of my brain was dedicated to holding back tears. I'm not a crier at the best of times, and I didn't want to make her cry too. I couldn't have lived with myself if that were to happen. I don't remember how the rest of the conversation went, or what we said to each other. The only thing I remember is trying to give her a final kiss, to which she didn't even turn her head to me. I got the side of her face, inclusive of some hair. It was awkward and I felt pathetic. I went inside and cried for a long time. Hours. I don't know the exact details.
Quick Tangent. I have two uncles that I frequently interact with, the others are my Dad's brothers and I've never even met them. Uncle1 is a car guy, got me into racing, has a BMW. Uncle2 is a Pharmacist, and one of my best friends. We share many deep conversations, and he's the only one that knows the extent of my depression/self-esteem(or lack thereof)/general issues, as do I his. We go camping a lot too.
Around 2AM, after I've been crying for a good bit, I call Uncle1, and humbly ask if I can take the M5 out for the night. He obliged easily, probably sensing through my wavering voice that something was wrong. But he didn't ask for details.

>>17895221
>>17895221
its probably because you dont do anything. Judging by the website you're on, the weeb image, and how often you masturbate, i can infer that you likely stay inside browsing 4chan all day. This is fine but it likely makes interaction with other people more mentally draining. Go do something and stop being a faggot anon.

if you continue 5/day, by the time you're almost 30 you'll be well into male pattern baldness

constant elevation of dht levels via fapping cause MPB, among other issues.

limit your faps to conserve glorious hair into old age

or fap and go bald and kill yourself at 30

>>17895310
>fap and go bald and kill yourself at 30
and what a way to go out it would be

>>17895205
Are you fucking retarded?

>>17895205
Send him the money then post the pics yourself. That'll sure show em!

never negotiate with terrorists

>>17895200
The key word here is discipline

You are relying on motivation, which depends purely upon your feelings

Remember. Discipline.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3z1osk/screw_motivation_you_need_discipline/

You sound hedonistic and egocentric op.
I don't really mean that as an epithet, just that your perspective will logically play itself out.

I can't imagine how what your doing with bring you much happiness, all of your goals are based on social comparitives and in the absences of others, I.e. Others to praise you, envy you, validate you I imagine you'll fall apart.

My guess is you'll keep doing what your doing until you suffer for it, then something will have to change.

>>17895245
but i don't even WANT to be disciplined since i have never found anything i feel is worth being disciplined for...

if i found something i think is worthwile to pursue, i can be very disciplined

>>17895265
that's about it.

but i will never suffer for it. i will be able to get validation that way...

i'm aware that i rely on others to praise, envy and want me. but is there another way and how do i achieve that other mindset that is more intrinsical?