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Start furiously masturbating. The monsters will go away cause they dont want to see that shit

>>18126054
when you get older you'll learn to sense that you're dreaming and this will stop you from having nightmares

as far as sleep goes, you're young, you don't need it. you can easily get away with 4ish hours of sleep, maybe less.

if you're hellbent on getting more sleep then stay active during the day, dont just bumble around a play vidya. go out side, chop some logs, play some basketball, or better yet work and earn some money. Do something physical and catch some rays. The trick to sleeping is being tired. You wont get physically tired by watching anime and playing vidya

>>18126060
alright, thank you for the advice.

I guess I should be more physical so ill definitely take your advice. Again, thank you.

Weigh up:

- how important it is you be at this event
- the level of regret you would/wouldn't feel for not going
- the ability to go Disneyland or whatever another time and whether its a factor

You haven't given us much info about any of that so figure out what you put first etc

>>18126047

1. Not that important in the grand scheme of things, but it's part of a group of people I've known over half my life...

2. I'd feel a lot of regret, but also regret over money and time I might waste getting out there or not.

3. Disneyland could happen almost any weekend, it's only a four hour drive.

I'm looking at possibly fighting with a bunch of people that really want to get HOME, for one day of drunken celebration for an event with old friends.

But, a group of friends I've known forever, so valid enough for me to care a lot.

Unfortunately that's a sign that the relationship wouldn't have lasted. Otherwise she'd have stayed with you regardless of "peer pressure". While it sucks just be glad you're out of there quickly and didn't leave yourself to get even more attached.

>>18126026
In a similar position man. I think our only choice is to move on. Accept that something good came from it but otherwise fuck these bitches, if they were the ones they'd still be here with us.

>>18126022
pizza delivery

just work rush shifts (3-4 hours) during peak times

You'll probably get $30-$60 a shift and it will more than cover the cost of food/gas if you work 5 days a week

>>18126022
If a part time job is out of the question, check out other universities that offer scientific research studies where they'll pay you for your time. I once participated in a sleep study for an entire weekend and made $500.

What?

>>18125978
Her boyfriend is a loser.

>>18125947
Ehh 17 and 26 isnt that bad. Fuck this girl I dated was with a 31 year old when she was 17, he met her parents and everything and things were relatively amicable(aside from people gossiping about it). Pretty sure the age of consent is 17 in most states so you probably wont be in any legal trouble, if you did date her be ready some awkward conversations.

>>18125947

You're 26 years old. She's a high schooler. Grow the fuck up. Act like an adult and keep your professional and personal life separate.

Don't listen to >>18125970
I have been with women 10-15 years older than me.
A shitload of girls have been with men older than them.

Also, in most countries this is perfectly legal.
E.g. in my Euro country she needs just be 14 y.o. or 16 if you are somewhat responsible for her (e.g. Boss, teacher, etc.)

Nothing fucking wrong.
She is biologically ready and so you are.

What the fuck is the problem with you? Just be discreet because people like to talk behind your back.

>>18125938

>should i go back to windows 7

if you want

>which version should i torrent

the one that best suits your needs, though most any will.

>>18125946
I bet you're giggling right now thinking that you just dropped a bomb

>>18125956

nope, just sitting here annoyed that someone would waste their precious time.

and yet im wasting it responding.

the circle of life.

Cocaine

>>18125902
Work hard

>>18125902
Cocaine and working hard.

>>18125871
If police academy/training is anything like Army/military training its should be pretty fucking easy and intuitive. You'll be told everything and nobody will expect you to know much already. As for physical requirements about 90% of skinnyfat normies will be capable of meeting the req. The U.S. gov. will take almost any warm body.

source: 1 yr in the Nat. Guard

Over here it's a competition. Tucson, AZ. They only take about 25 percent of candidates every quarter

>>18125870

>is it cheating?
leave
>is it not cheating?
you have a kid. take care of him/her. Staying with her is good for the kid, and marrying her is better. I'd try to forgive if it wasn't cheating.

Its probably why you get along with her brother I would take life as usual never bring it up. Give the best life for your children

>>18125880
Yeah its not cheating I dont think he would leave

>>18125860

you just care too much. real man sees woman, wants to fuck woman, goes and fuck woman. thats it.

you need to lead the encounter and stop expecting a woman to "pick up on your signals" or w/e. open up to yourself about who you are and what you want. dont let yourself feel shame or guilt for wanting things from other people, and dont EVER try to adjust your desires in order to accommodate another. there are plenty of women out there.

>>18125892
>you just care too much. real man sees woman, wants to fuck woman, goes and fuck woman. thats it.
This has always worked for me in the short run. It's a bit like: the less we know each other, the more likely we are to have sex.
Yet I hardly bond with one night stands and the like.

I end up having feelings for people who share my life: e.g. Coworkers. If I start working or sharing time with a girl, the crush is almost automatic.

>you care too much
Indeed I do. But I am afraid of how things will go if I stop caring. Also, I have some kind of ego in the sense I hate being hated by people (but that's fucking normal, isn't it?)... Now I have a different mindset and am able to detach a bit more. Yet I still hate being called a cunt or being considered as someone who takes the carpet away from under your feet just because you didn't fuck me.

>>18125899

those things are immaterial. does the way you live help you get the things you want? that is the only question

Not very familiar with calling either, are we, /adv/?

>>18125852
>How often is appropriate to call someone just to talk? Because you enjoy them? Because you like them?


It depends on how much they're ok with and how much you're ok with. Some people are cool with texting throughout the day 24/7. Some are not.

If she enjoys it, there's no reason to stop. If you sense she's getting overwhelmed, back off.

>>18125847
Look at how afraid you are of judgment.

Live your life for yourself, no one else. No one creates their own identity in a vacuum. Everyone is the sum of their experiences.
Nihilism is beautiful. Nothing you do matters, so it doesn't matter what you do. If video games and masturbation are what you desire, pursue them wholly and disregard the world.

If nothing in life has left a positive impression, they are not positive impressions to begin with because you would remember them. Imagine what would be a positive experience for you and pursue it. You want to fuck your cousin? Probably don't go for it, but find dopplebanghers or women that look like her.

Don't be insecure. Nothing matters, so it doesn't matter what you do, good or bad.

>>18125859
I'd like to not be able to care, but I don't know how.

Endless video games and masturbation won't make me happy. Masturbation is a habit and I don't really play games as passionately as I did in my past. I don't think this would make anyone happy, if I'm honest. It's like telling a junkie to keep shooting up.

The problem with embracing nihilism is that I don't know anything I could enjoy if I didn't care.

>>18125847
What's the problem with emulating other people you admire? That's exactly how it works! Don't get entangled in a vicious desire for originality at all costs. That's some media-propelled bullshit.

Rather, try to build on something others have built. That's where you start.

Furthermore, if you got nothing to lose you can just set yourself some goals and see how you travel. And I am talking small goals... e.g. Try to explore what people do and why... Do some fucking research just for the sake of it. Keep yourself in motion.

...and don't try to run marathons before you even tested yourself against a 5 km march. If you try to run a marathon on the first day of training you will.end up exhausted the day after and not willing to continue training. The pro-tip here is that you have to aim for less and do less: setting smaller goals doesn't mean "lowering your standards" for fuck's sake. You are exhausted and want to kill yourself because you have been running marathons all your life long -- or maybe someone made you do that without you knowing.

Finally, take some fucking rest. And I mean: real rest. Breath and stare at the fucking ceiling for one hour or so... Try and dedicate a time frame in which you will not engage in anything -- technology in particular. I have also found relief by putting earplugs and blindfolding myself: reducing incoming data is a way to relax.

Good luck motherfucker!

P.S.: I failed my PhD.

>>18125845
Stay.

At the end of her life, if it is terminal cancer, she will be with the one she loves most. Although it may pain you to lose her, you will have a tremendous understanding of impermanence and you will cherish and understand future relationships better than anyone else.

>>18125862
thank you Anon. The mere thought of leaving her disgusts me, I couldn't do it.

>>18125845
go to church man. Try a Catholic church

>inb4 hurr durr spaghooty

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I really hope I am over analyzing this, and fretting over nothing. I really hope she meets someone that makes her happy.

But I believe its wrong to live vicariously through ones children. And upon hearing that oes children are succeeding, getting good jobs, building meaningful relationships, it shouldnt make one upset to hear those things.

I think the worst feeling I have, is that I have no desire to be around her anymore. I hate hearing her talk nasty things about other people. I have so much pity for her. but i dont want to console her, and to go out of my way to positively reinforce these feelings and attitudes of hers.

How can a child think this way about their mother? This is all very selfish of me. Does this make me a terrible person?

My situation with my mom was like this: she was an alcoholic, when I was able to get away from her, I did. Kept in contact over the phone for years, she always gave me subtle guilt trips, always tried to make me feel bad; I kept up the contact for her sake, not mine. After 9 years of this, I made moves to permanently cut her out of my life. Moved, new phone number, made new email, whatever that gave her a way to contact me. I'm much happier. It was a hard decision, I cried for weeks over it - I still care about her as a human being, but when you have a situation like that, that makes you so miserable, things eventually come to a point where you make a choice.

I always put others needs in front of my own, always bent over backwards for people, and when I started to distance myself from them they started trashing me and telling me I was a bad person.

Now I just live for myself and don't let other people manipulate me. It's an exhilirating feeling, being rid of all that sadness and anger and always worrying about how your actions will affect this other person.

>>18125821
Be frank with her op.

Tell her shes being an unlikable angry cunt. Tell her nobody wants to be around a person like that.

None of this willl help her change however. She is who she is. So maybe dont even bother.

Its a tough situation. I didn't help any. Sorry. This ones tough this makes me reflect on my own attitude as well. I hope im not overly negative.