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>>18127515
This is a rash of some sort. What kind of soap do you use?

>>18127519
Old Spice body wash

>>18127519
>>18127526
Been using it for years, oddly enough

>>18127508
It's kind of a Catch-22 because if you say no and they find out you're lying then that's it. If you say yes then you're out too. The only away around the problem is to not have it in the first place.

>>18127508
There's no way for them to find out. By law the only thing they are allowed to ask your previous employer is to confirm the dates you were employed by them.

>>18127558
What if you were young and stupid when it happened, and you've held full time jobs for long periods of time since, having good references etc?
Are you still out?

I experienced this and as a girl will never tell you the truth I figured it may be two things:

-She didn't really like you to begin with
-You were to easy and you turned her off somehow

>>18127503
You can't change the game. The rules are set, free will doesn't exist. Do with this what you will

you sound like an autistic faggot. stop acting retarded and insecure about your feelings or you'll always be a virgin. my advice is to move on since u already showed her how much of a incompetent wanker you are.

>>18127514
I am not sure if you are a troll or have miserable life.
Should I text her as it's hard to catch her alone?

That's odd, usually ignoring girls makes them want you more and desperately start talking to you

I'd suggest making your feelings clear in a non-desperate way. Though I know it's hard to do when you really like someone.

>>/wsr/

>>18127417
>>>/wsr/
>>>/g/sqt
>>>/out/

What does /out/ - Outdoors has to do with this?

>>18127394
Hi,

I still suffer from a bit of depression and anxiety but I think I can help you here.

There is no "trick" to escaping depression, and I don't know if that underlying feeling ever goes away, but you can certainly improve your every day life pretty quickly.

You should try the app "Headspace", it's a really good first step in to how to have a calmer mind. It teaches you to try and "rise above" the sad thoughts rather than try push them from your head, or to chase them and feel bad. It suggests you should "observe" emotions rather than try and solve them.

Secondly I would recommend therapy if you can afford it. I only had 2 sessions but getting it all out to someone who knows how to talk to you is important and will help too.

Third is that the only person that can truly help you is yourself. You will have to put in a tonne of work to get to be happier, even a little bit is exhausting, but you just need to stick with it. Try and go out and enjoy things, and when you come back and start feeling bad about it (this happened to me a lot), try and "observe" that feeling and rise above it (again Headspace explains this far better than I can).

I hope this helps you, I'll keep the thread open if you want to ask questions:)

>>18127425
thank you
already am seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist

will check out headspace

appreciate the advice

>>18127394
Just live with it and don't kill yourself and it will go away. It will return periodically, as it does for everyone.

Hey! You're going to be ok. You"ll feel when it's the right time. My boyfriend and I kissed very awkwardly on our third date (first kiss) but now we remember it after a year and laugh!

>>18127380
Best part of being adult is that you can make your own rules. So you can try to kiss your girl whenever you want. There are no rules. Just remember that being adult is also bearing with consequences.

So if you feel uneasy, try practicing comunication skill and ask the girl how she feels about kissing. In the worst case you will make her laught at how silly you are.

>>18127440
Subtle troll, 9/10

are u a fattie?

>>18127358
how fat are you?
how gay is he?
are condoms being used?
is he on any medication?

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What helps me in an existential crisis is reading. Preferably a book with a lot of psychological nuances in its characters. I educated myself and didn't feel lonely at all.

Also, playing complex and difficult vidya helps me coping with depressive phases.

If you're interested in some recommendations I'd gladly recommend you some good novels (or vidya, if that's your thing).

Unfortunately I don't have any tips on how to better your social situation. I live more or less like a hermit and don't really have a problem with it.

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>>18127357
I think the whole whirlwind of changes (new job, graduated school, new area w/o any loved ones, going on dates, being robbed, etc.) is very overwhelming for anyone....

My husband actually had a mental breakdown after getting a high stress job. So it's tough. Remember self-care, and concentrate on your job for at least the next few months. Friends and girlfriends will follow. Your work and your mind is your foundation. Keep that safe.

I mean if you are really lonely I suggest getting a pet. Frequently contact your old friends and family as-well; that's what keeps me sane.

It will get better. Keep trying...I also suggest getting involved in the community. Volunteer! I've met lots of people that way. If you're religious join a church. My husband is, and through his church we meet lots of people.
Keep your head up anon

>>18127379

Thank a lot. I appreciate that. What sort of books do you recommend? And video games are cool, too. I'll take some recommendations.

how about being the better person and get over it?

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>>18127348

Lol no. That's not what I'm asking.

And I'm not 'targeting' her directly here.

She left me on snap. She looks at my stories. Not my problem.

If her jimmies get rustled ts her own fault for not removing me from Snapchat too.

And trust me, she deserves more then rustled jimmies. She deserves a kick in the face for a lot of what she did.

As far as this goes I am "being the better person". She lied to me, manipulated me, and cheated on me. And when her lies started to fall apart and she couldn't keep her stories together she deletes and blocks me instead of owning up.

What I'm asking couldn't be any more for a Nobel cause.

Update for some lulz.

>>18127336

this is why english class is important.

you open with your thesis statement, or in this case question / request.

for instance: My best friend stole money and I'm not sure if i can forgive him.

then you follow it up with some back story, relevant stuff only:
>friends since middle school
>been bros for ten years
>last week he was drunk and took 20 dollars out of my wallet
>:he says it was the only time, but he only ever admitted it cuz a mutual friend saw him do it, and I do believe some cash has gone missing before.

thats it really.

>>18127371
God no, please don't do this. If you link things to feeling bad, you give them the power to make you feel bad.

For example: "I am tired, being tired makes me feel bad, feeling bad makes me depressed and anxious, feeling anxious means I can't sleep" etc, it becomes a massive loop.

As soon as you stop yourself from connecting these thoughts, trying to reason with them so you can "push them out of your head" you'll begin to feel better.

I recommend Headspace, you get 10 free trials and if you really go for it it will help you immensely. I have the exact same problem as you, and this has helped me so much. Please don't start trying to explain every thought away, it'll only make it stick in your head more.

>>18127416
>>18127371
thanks anons, will check Headspace and consider what the first anon said

How's the sex you faggot?

>>18127328

excelent but she only wants to make it 1 or 2 times a week..

>>18127340
Increase that to 3-4.

Sit next to her, and start conversation more than likely. That girl will jump to talk to you

>>18127310
I've had that trouble first. You got to keep making eye contact. That girl was just a bitch nigga. There'll be more girls who will keep eye contact and be impressed that you're keeping it. Check out this link. Two friends thanked me for reminding them of this challenge and one of them got a date as a result.

http://www.pickupguide.com/layguide/eyecontact.htm

>>18127326
should i actually listen to most of this website or is it retarded? read a bit so far and most makes sense, except the seemingly autistic "make her pay for her own movie ticket/food/etc"

>>18127300
She just wants to fuck

get her number and ask if she wants to hang out

she's fucking the other guy too

>>18127300
hat did it feel like when you walked through the faculty?

>>18127431
Not much actually. We walked like 3-4 minutes and we talked about the lecture that we were taking that day and, again, I cracked a joke or two.

I was just quite surprised when all of a sudden came behind and tapped on my shoulder.

>>18127262

he might be gay. or he might just be awkward and wants to make a friend.

hard to say.

he could be both desu.

>>18127266
What would you do? Would you go get a drink with him?

>>18127273

yes. but im gay and awkward so...