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OP, your problems aren't simply that you can't commit and that you never mastered anything. Firstly, I don't recommend being in a relationship as you are, because to master being with someone, you have to master being on your own.

Secondly, I want you to describe your day to me. When you get up, what do you do? Tell me everything. Even when you eat.

>>18128159

I used to be the same way when I was your age (32 now). Don't get into a relationship, if your not happy with your life as is then work to change it. Find things that interest you and do them at least once a week. Actually find a couple of things, the more the better. Even simple shit like learning to cook, find ways to learn things. It's also not just trying new things, but trying to have a more positive attitude in general. Work into it, don't go overboard or you'll just stress yourself out.

You'll have more things to talk about and you'll actually feel good talking about them.

I wish I had taken that advice, I wasted years feeling like you do. Plus all the not great relationships I lingered in because I wasn't happy but couldn't see a better way.

>>18128172
>>18128222

I get up, I shower, usually bike to uni to go attend lectures. I eat breakfast on weekends or if lectures begin late. When I'm back I usually work on assignments. If not - I'm working on my current game project. Or if I'm really tired and nothing works I kill some time watching letsplays. I know how to cook and like it. Before this semester I'd often spontaneously meet with my friend and go to cinema, but lately amount of uni work drained us both and we just don't meet much outside of classes. I attend extracurricular lectures, am learning python and soon I'll be having a group project to work on. I'm a coauthor on a research paper and generally have my days pretty busy. It gives me satisfaction and I don't feel like I don't have enough to talk about. I'm looking into things that interests me. I'm learning new tricks for gamedev, learning new coding languages, trying out new recipes in the kitchen. I think I'm doing pretty good being on my own. I have been on my own for a year now and I feel happy about my days. It's just that I am not really happy about my past that I cannot change. I sometimes wish I was someone completely different, my life went another way, and so on. But when it's not one of those episodes I feel pretty good about myself and how my life is going. I just want to stop coming up with reasons to delegitimise myself

Get the fuck out of there you useless beta numale.

>>18128150
>Can I trust her again
No. Cheating destroys relationships. Shouldn't have married.

>>18128150
She came out, but did not try to rebuild the trust? Fuck that, get out.

>>18128083

Because on the internet you have an anonymous shield that protects you from the effects of saying mean things to people - such effects include being punched in the face and having the shit kicked out of you.

Because they feel bad about themselves, and they put others down to feel better. It says more about them than about you. Unless you like, angered them or something. There's no context here. But yeah, it usually says more about the person insulting than the one being insulted. Don't take it personally

>>18128083
fuck off idiot

>>18128071

Dude you literally look fine. I would kill to have your hairline.

>>18128075
Thanks homie. Just to be really clear about it the two on the left are earlier pics and the two on the right are from now. The temples have clearly changed if you look at pic 1 and 3

>>18128087
You look like a twat in all 4

>>18128054
What kind of doctor did you go to?

>>18128064
some normal family doctor.
I ran into him at carl jr's last week and I told him his jew cream burned me

>>18128054
bump

>>18127944
Also trying to get into the graphic design industry here. After screwing up a few interviews so far, I'd say rehearse the interview beforehand with commonly asked questions and bring a portfolio of work that is targeted specifically to the job.

>>18127990
Yeah, it's nothing big but I may like it.

>>18127944
A change is good, depending. But being that you are pursuing, and seeking more, shows that you are willing to pull yourself up. This change can help very much.


Check out some interview videos on youtube. Mock interviews and strategies on.

All the best and good luck!!

Hi, how are you?

>>18127917
I'm actually having a really bad day. Can't seem to shake my anxiety atm and it's leading me down a really unhealthy brain path. I'm looking to change it through meditation but I can't focus either. I think its a watching movie day.

>>18127929
I can relate, I have hardcore social anxiety and it's really hard to live with.

I don't drink caffeine or do anything to make sure i don't get any more anxious than i normally am.

I also have ADD so I took medication (Adderall) since like 8th grade (this is my 2nd year of college) and only I recently put it down because it only makes me more anxious, doesn't let me sleep, and kills my appetite which lead to major weight loss.

But now my grades have gone to shit since i put it down last summer and that only makes me more anxious and makes my parents mad.

I skipped Class just today because it's my birthday and I didn't feel like going and being in a room with so many other people at once for 3 hours straight.

I was supposed to take my parents to dinner today too but now my mom won't talk to me because i skipped class :(

sorry for blogging or venting, but i wanted to get that off my chest.

Why are you feeling anxious today?

>>18127878
>this girl.is my world.
Change this. Its why she fell out of love with you and its why you feel like shit right now. Learn to love yourself and the rest will come naturally.

>>18127852
Seeing the relationship as a competition of who's the most awesome isn't a very productive perspective and will only lead to jealousy and resentment. Rather than seeing it as you vs her, try and view the relationship as the two of you vs the world. It's a team effort, and you both have strengths to bring to the table. But, more importantly, in a relationship if one of you succeeds, both of you succeed. It's not a competition of who can win the most

>>18127867
Do this and stop being a little bitch. Otherwise someone else will take your place who'll appreciate it more than you or just pump n dump your princess.

>>18127867
I'll do that. but how do I gain more confidence? even when others like her say i do do good in something I have trouble believing it. I'm even afraid to try things because I think I'll fail, even when it's important, like a job application (I have trouble doing it quickly, it takes an eternity because I'm unsure of how to write things to make myself look smart and perfect). I always tried to make myself perfect but I hate that it's impossible

>is that bad

in my case it is, at least, what I've discovered from reading over the years.

if you end up in a relationship with someone you aren't absolutely 100% sure of, you may end up unhappy as hell when you finally do find the girl that you're 100% sure of. It's either that, or you don't know just what you already have.

people come here bitching about being married with kids, unhappy in their marriage. but nobody can truly say they understand these people, so they resort to namecalling, insults, belittling, but nobody really understands the spiritual thirst of the other..

I have hit on plenty of girls in the past that I then think...what if she actually liked me? how difficult would it be for me to reciprocate that feeling in the future if my attraction is purely physical? like, there's no substance, no compatibility, just visual attraction.

so I realize again and again, the things I do impulsively out of desperation, are the things that later hurt me, or backfire on me.

Imo, it is better to be alone, than in bad company, or in a weird sort of mediocre situation, very unfulfilling..

better to prevent than lament I guess, but not everybody feels that way.

>>18127880
>if you end up in a relationship with someone you aren't absolutely 100% sure of, you may end up unhappy a

What I mean is . is it wrong that I ask this girl out knowing I will definitely probably dump her after three months?
I would be so committed, and you know I have done but they did it to me. So why not go for meals and films and things but then so as they don't get too swept up say "no, that's the relationship over now"

that's not wrong is it? Girls always did it to me.
I think it's a case of "only if they know"

>>18127923
You could just say that you're not looking for anything serious?

just try to be stupid. stupid people are happy.

>>18127856
That really isn't a solution considering the only happiness I get is from succeeding.

>>18127767

Success doesn't even require much intelligence. It's more about hard work and effort. If you're smart you can succeed, but if you're smart and lazy, you'll probably end up being a total fuck up.

>>18127717
bump

If you like singing and want to sing, practice.
Don't do something because people think you should.

If you do want to start; find your range.

Are you this low? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eh9WayN7R-s

Or this low? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTnw_MmVptQ

Or this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNdBLBleO90

Or this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8rpm0Eue-o

>>18127776
I guess the first video you posted, classic ol man river. ironically I used that song for one of my school auditions last year and didn't make it. for reference here's an old video of my voice https://youtu.be/IaoLsbDfpps

>>18127655

Put two tylenol gel tabs up her vag before going at it. Substances absorb faster in there.

>>18127663
Ya don't do this. Her vag will thank you.

>>18127663
Wrong hole bro. You put them in the ass. No kidding. Plugging things is one of the quickest ways to ingest a substance.

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I'll bump, OP. This is one of the few legit /adv/ threads.

It's a tough decision saving everything. On one hand, you can remember the sweet memories, on the other, like you stated, it only provides misery, but I think that's because your wounds are for fresh.

Give it some time, sober up, then you know what to do.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, OP. I couldn't even begin to imagine what pain you must be going through.

If it were me, I would definitely save the conversations. Put them somewhere safe. (hidden folder, Flash drive/external HDD, etc) When you feel that you're ready to read them again, you'll know where to find them. A widower once told me the best thing you can do is to keep the memory alive.

In terms of actually saving it, you could save the conversation to your SIM card. You could also lock the conversation so it doesn't auto-delete. Should be as simple as holding down the conversation and hitting "lock".

One more thing. Don't forget to take time for yourself. Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things to work through. Give yourself time to grieve, then start working on getting better one step at a time. My condolences.

>>18127477
you might be able to clone your phone on to a phone emulator. IDK what one you would want to use though. I have never tried to clone my actual phone.

Masturbate more.

>>18127188
can't fap anymore dude, my cock is broken.

>>18127194
What are the chances that you act on these "fantasies"?