>need to stop smoking weed
>as soon as I'm sober all I can think about is smoking weed
Anyone got any tips, I was planning on staving it off with binge drinking and cigarettes but I wanted to see if there were any better options
There's really no option except forcing yourself to quit cold turkey and trying to fill your free time with something else.
Weed addiction is real and weed withdrawals are real. It just takes time to rewire your brain to enjoy things again w/o pot. I know >leddit but try /r/leaves
>>18148535
i like to smoke but i dont do it when i cant
>>18148550
thats what I've been trying to do, been hitting the gym harder/ ordered some new parts for my car and stuff. I always feel like it would be funner/easier if I was baked. I've been to leaves, but I almost find it depressing.
>>18148573
That's how it started; first its was just a g on the weekend, then an 1/8th or so I could smoke at night then before I knew it I was rolling up 2 blunts every morning to bring with me when I go to work.
So my gf that I have been dating for 3 months but I have grown extremely fond of and close to. She was previously sexually promiscuous but swore she was over it and wanted a serious relationship. She sometimes gets high with this one guy but it doesn't bother me as long as they are just friends. She has told me that he has tried to get with her multiple times while we were dating. She acts uninterested but he also took her virginity before we started dating and one night she saw him at work and cried and said she missed him but the next day she said she was only crying because he brought bad memories and she didn't want to be with him in that way. I never confronted him about trying to get with her as I trusted her to say no and I'm not super confrontational. She got very high with him the other night and a mutual friend asked if anything happened between them in which she responded "idk". The mutual friend does not want me to confront her about it yet and is trying to get more information about it. They don't want me to confront her until I'm sure. What do you think I should do? Just break up with her now? I could wait for more info but every minute that passes of this guessing game is making me an extremely agitated person. Do I confront her anyway? What should I do?
Mate for the love of God leave that slag.
>>18148463
you dont trust her, may as well dump her
>>18148463
DO NOT DATE GIRLS WITH EX PROBLEMS
>realize that my parents have been hiding the autism diagnosis from me since I was diagnosed with it when I was 4
How would you react if you were in a similar situation?
>>18148460
id have trouble believing it, doesn't make sense to hide it.
that being said if you've been functional all this time then go along iwth it.
Just try and understand that they did what they thought was best for you, and had really no idea of how to handle it properly.
I'm autistic and have never gotten a diagnosis. Literally went 20 years thinking I was just a little different, and yet, that is essentially all that autism is (unless it's incredibly severe).
>>18148460
It would explain a lot, actually, but I wouldn't let it hinder my current social life, because I've built a pretty good one.
I started training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu at the beginning of the year and am steadily trying to get better at it.
But ive got a problem. See after class me and like a bunch of people sparr a bunch of times to try stuff out and to generally have fun.
In the 2.5 months ive been training, ive gotten 1 peerson to tap... Once.
My win loss ratio is retarded and I genuinely feel like im shit.
Anybody here got an idea wether maybe im just not cut out for this?
Hmm, maybe.
I suggest you try a completely different type of martial arts. Maybe Capoeira.
If you're not that flexible for martial arts yet you need to make some exercices to build up your body then you can practice some style of fighting.
Don't give up tough.
Wtf dude that's barelly time to survive the warmup... you'll still take a lot of time to actually improve, it's quite common for people to stay like two years in the white belt...
don't even stress OP
try to have a good time and listen to your teachers
training your body on the side can always help
it's important to note that you only start to get the grasp at something that requires skill after around 1000 hours of practice at that activity. That includes sports, a craft, art, driving, etc. after that you're no longer a scrub, your brain has reflexes and a method of thinking warped around the "meta" of what you're doing.
I'll say you should give it an year before you start worrying about your fight scoring. martial arts is discipline, that's a fucking given but to actually do it for real is the real challenge there
good luck
Today, I was out doing errands when a well-known (at least in the bay area) Oakland rapper approached me and asked me to be in his upcoming music video.
He said he would pay me $1,700, and I won't need to get naked, or expose myself too much. The most I'll need to do is be holding fake AK-47's in a bikini top & short shorts, and pretty much pose and look good.
Should I accept his offer or not? I am currently an undergrad college student attending one of the UC's in California, and plan on getting my doctorate, or master's at least in microbiology. Although the easy money is tempting, I'm wondering whether this will affect my future career aspects. I am also wondering; would guys be put/turned off if they find out I appeared in a music video? Thank you for the advice.
pic kind of related
I want to believe. Just do it.
Yes. He will think your impressed and try to seduce you, also ask for a contract that says no nudity. He gets no women in his life so he has to make it look lile he dose so he can validate himself in his rap video. Insecure narcissust with money to blow. REQUEST FOR A CONTRACT the states you dont have to be nude and that states the price he is paying you.
>>18148458
If you're not white, go for it.
someone i know in Pennsylvania got charged with a dui, and they also may have had oxycodone in their urine when they got tested by the police. He didnt have anything in his possession, only in his urine. the pills were legally prescribed to another resident in his house, but were left in the cabinet when they moved out.
For a first offense, what would be the worst outcome? hes getting a lawyer, and is greatly uncertain about what will happen. He doesnt have any priors accept some traffic violations.
Advice, tips, and facts are greatly appreciated.
Something to consider, is that he wasnt using anything for recreation, but as a lack of options from his doctors. Addicts make it impossible for people that need pain relief to get it legally.
>>18148450
>stole pills from someone else
>i-i'm not an addict!
lmao get fucked druggie
>>18148483
the person that moved out was made aware that he had left them. He didnt want them.
>>18148450
They should get a lawyer. 5k to get a dui lawyer and not have licensed revoked or lose license and lose 10k of earnings.
If this 'aquaintance' has rich family, this would be the time to ask for help with legal stuff and substance abuse.
So, tldr;
How can i feel more relaxed with women?
Last year and a half i have started to feel more and more uneasy around women, that it is becoming ridiculous. Im 27 years old, and i can remember that i used to be less afraid of approaching women (even older ones) when i was significantly younger.
Last time i actually had sex was in September, and it was with some trashy milf i met through work. Needless to say, it was horrible. But what i didn't realize at that point is that for this period i felt more and more... Well... The closest description be "afraid". Afraid in a way of being judged, or shunned, sentenced to complete isolation from them because of what i am, or how i feel i am around them.
That's the closest description i can get about this.
well i guess this one break up of a long relationship has something to do with it, but still, i have never felt so isolated from women since my teenage years.
>>18148432
talk to your doctor about low T
>>18148449
well, i expected a more constructive answer...
ok, could alcohol consumption have anything to do with this?
>>18148432
Vacation in Bangkok, Thailand for a few weeks. You will be approached by so many girls/hookers who are trained from a young age to approach white guys, that you won't fear being approached by women again.
What's the most efficient way to make friends through the internet?
>>18148421
efficient? what does that even mean in terms of friendships? more friends per second? more friends per post?
>>18148421
Some hobby forum, which involves actual meetups?
>meetup.com
>your city's subreddit (inb4 lmao 'le leddit banned xD'
Make real friends, it's easier and more fun.
Online friends probably by playing steam multiplayer games and co-op.
can a person functional without having a "voice?" By voice I mean having varying informed opinions on issues, having ideas for writing e.g. papers/essays, an ability to argue effectively, etc.
I realize college weeds these people out via Comp I and II
>>18148399
Um, yeah. What do you call the average American?
>>18148399
go into STEM
>>18148404
how do gay males fair in stem?
I always have liked science + math
>Meet girl
>hit it off with girl
>kiss and mess around with girl (no sex)
>start dating girl
>find out she was also messing around with another guy before we were official
God fucking dammit. I really want to dump her ass right now. But I dont want to do something I regret. And my anger is blinding me and I know the conversations I imagine won't be anything like what actually happens.
Scale of 1 to fiddle how hard was I played.
>>18148381
I mean if you guys didn't talk about exclusivity right off the bat, then you should just let it slide. I've been in that position though and it does hurt because I'm sure she was all "You're amazing", "I really like you", bla, bla. And it's not so much that she was seeing someone else and chose you over him(congrats), but rather knowing that she was likely saying and doing the same things with him. Either way, she chose you. Feel proud and do your best.
>>18148381
Why are you angry, OP?
She didn't have any obligation at all to be faithful to somebody she wasn't dating.
Just chill out. Not really a big deal.
Ok you computer experts, does this Facebook stalker trick actually work?
last time I checked, it just gave you the person you texted with last.
I just checked the page source and "orderedfriends" returned nothing
Yeah, you wish.
On another note, it seems the system orders your contacts based in multiple parameters and rumors say that one of those parameters is "people who check your fb often", it's only a rumor though.
I do get the people I often talk with but sometimes it displays people I don't even follow next to my frequent contacts. One time I had the chance to see something strange.
>walking around
>see friend I haven't seen in a while
>greet and talk for a while before saying goodbye
>the next days she started to show up in my chat contact list on fb despite not chatting with her for years
never checked her profile or anything related before or after meeting her in person
starting college in ten days
im going to fuck this up
i dont want to fuck this up
im an older student, i dont want to be an older student
i dont want to be around kids and stick out like a sore thumb
im so fucking fat and stupid, these kids already know way more than me, i struggled to get my fucking ged
i thought i had one more month and i decided to ignore all this as much as i could because i didnt want to think about it
i cant fucking handle stress, it eats me up
>>18148324
I really cant help with the stress situation. I get that too every time im going to be in a new situation and it will fuck up my stomach :(
How old are you?
>>18148333
24
it wasnt hard getting my ged but every time i tried i got these massive panick attacks and hid in the bathroom because i couldnt stand being over 20 in a room with better, younger people than me
it wasnt hard as in content, it was hard as i couldnt stand it
If you're doing what makes you happy and what you believe is right, it doesn't matter when you do it. Just because you found a certain path doesn't make you less than those that found it earlier than you. Try not to compare yourself to others, because your life is not theirs, and their life is not yours. All trees try to grow towards the sun, yet you see all kinds of crazy shapes. Some trees are perfectly straight, and some take drastic turns. They're all great to look at because they all took a great journey to get there.
Rejected 7 times in a row.
I wanna die
>>18148285
Stop making moves on the same girl, OP. Also, I fucked your mom 7 times in a row.
>>18148290
Different girls
I'd rather have you fuck my mom than someone with dick
>>18148299
So what's the adv you looking for, champ?
Tomorrow I have to make a huge decision on whether to go active or reserve in the Army. Could any former soldiers please give their input. Anything they didn't tell you or what have done differently.
Go reserve. People who go active generally KNOW they wanna go AD
>>18148356
not sure how they KNOW active is for them when they haven't experienced it yet
Have you ever watched a wounded warrior commercial
How do I become rich? I'm talking at least a couple million. I don't want to work for anyone else, I want people to work for me. My traits/stats:
>18
>about to go to university to study law for 3 years
>socially introverted
>can give excellent formal speeches but suck at everyday group motivation and group work because autism
>am a wordsmith but shit at thinking on my feet when arguing
>good eye for when a fanciful idea will fail and not make money
>no real knowledge of current market trends
>no significant technological knowledge
>£11k starting capital
I've got oodles of motivation but no idea where to start. I was thinking I would use the cheap labour of the developing world to procure natural resources and sell them to the West. Another idea would be to write a book. And not a shitty one, it would be one that academics study.
I think my main problem right now is my limited capital. How much will a bank loan me to start up a business? Is getting a startup loan a good idea?
I think your main problem is your autism. Last time I checked there is no cure.
>>18148243
18
You're 18 and you think you know so much shit because you've learned a couple terms. You don't know how things work friend. Go through college and then think about it.
>>18148280
If I knew how to do it already I wouldn't be asking here.
It can't be impossible. Otherwise there would be no millionaires.