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Anyone have an anxiety disorder, or get panic attacks, or just feel like everything is scary? How do you deal with it? What should I be doing to combat it? I've started listening to CBT audios and found them pretty helpful so far.
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[For college] I just imagine the people that I am not afraid to be myself in front of is with/watching me. It may sound fucking ridiculous, but it personally works for me. Srry if this isnt helpful, but it's great that you discovered something that is currently helping.
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>>18709855
Ask people questions. It will sometimes come across as annoying, just accept that fact, but for most situations, putting the onus of conversation on someone else is a good way stop worrying about your own awkwardness and to mutually warm up to one another.
Accept that you're probably awkward. Give someone else the mic.
Imagine you start hooking up with someone. They say they aren't interested in a relationship, you don't care and say its fine.
Then they say they want space so you give it to them. Following this they start acting out, reaching out over and over, pestering you. You've begun moving on and ask wtf the malfunction is. They say they're sorry, they messed up, they want a relationship eventually but things are fucked up right now and they want to be friends.
Okay, whatever. You're friends. You hang out, they start being dramatic, picking fights, lying constantly. As far as implying you sleep around. So you cut it off.
Then they fuck a coked out hoe close to you in the most obvious way possible.
I'm fucked up because this is clearly a special brand of crazy, but i'm more fucked up because I'm really hurt it happened and pissed off and sad that they decided to screw the craziest person that I knew.
I guess I just want to know how to get over someone when I know they're clearly insane but I can't help the feelings that I have. At the time that we were hooking up, I had many people asking me out but I refused because I knew the person I was with was insecure about me fucking around and would mention shit about disease. Now they're fucking the biggest whore I've ever met and I've suddenly no one to talk to
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>>18717080
Well, you made your bed by engaging in hookup culture, now lie in it.
Who knew such activities encourage broken, fucked up individuals? How could this have possibly happened?
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>>18717088
Fair point.
Still not an answer to my question tho
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>>18717080
move on?
Do people dislike me because I'm fat, or is it my miserable personality?
How do I be likable as a fat guy?
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>>18716825
>miserable personality
I know many fat guys that are well liked. Some have hot girlfriends.
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>>18716834
How do I change my miserable misanthropic personality?
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>>18716836
>How do I change my miserable misanthropic personality
Find out why you act that way. I know this sounds lame, but a good psychologist can really help.
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hello /fit/
I will meet a female friend of me in a short while. She wants to know if I'm gay or not.
Truth is, i'm kinda gay, but I still want something with her. Any tips guys?
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>>18716693
Say you're bi?
Why the fuck does she want to know anyway
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>>18716693
Ask her to check for you
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>>18716694
yes, I'm bi.
I don't know I've been acting kinda gay lately. She asked me if I'm gay or not since we've known each other for some years already.
I told her she should get me to drink something first, and she did it.
/adv/
help me get this girls attention
what should I say
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>>18716562
>first message is begging for her approval
You don't even know but you're already dead.
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>...how was you weekend
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>w-was it t-too s-strong..
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Is he trying to get at my gf? 2017-09-12 11:15:02 Post No.18716533
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Is he trying to get at my gf?
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Long story short, I was never the cool kid. People always thought I was kind of weird so I never really had any friends. But I finally got a girlfriend and all of a sudden, one of my acquaintances (guy) started being friendly with me and is trying to start hanging out with me. I never really liked the guy either.
Is this guy trying to be friendly to me to try to flirt with my girl? Am I crazy? Do people do this?
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>>18716533
yes and if you dont like him. Dont hang out with him, if he's a naggy cunt and u have to reject him then dont be nice just fucking tell him like "I dont like you, youve annoyed me quite a bit please never text me again."
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>>18716538
It's not like i hate him or something. I just don't see myself being friends with him, but I don't want to be direct with him about it either. I wish he would just leave me and my girlfriend alone.
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>>18716557
Well this is what im telling you. Try to be nice to him and reject him like tell him your busy and stuff and don't text him back. If he doesn't take the hint then you're going to have to tell him straight up like "sorry I don't really want to your friend I have to much stuff right now." But since he's trying to fuck your girl and you had to go on the internet and waste time to reject this kid and get him out of your GFs ass probably I would say "leave me the fuck alone"
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how do you respond or take it when after you text someone you get no reply?
so both times I texted qt from work I got no reply
1st time she was at a concert so I guess it was understandable.
2nd time I don't know she was most likely on public transport since it was shortly after work
should I just let it go and not look too much into it and take it too personally? and not bring it up or pretend I never texted her.
should I take it as a hint to probably not contact her out of work unless it's work related stuff.
I mean I thought we were pretty friendly at work and talk dumb shit. and the stuff I initiated was basically a continuation of some funny stuff we talked about at work
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What exactly did you send her? Was it just a statement that didn't really require an answer? I wouldn't contact her until you have an excuse to now.
I like opening with a question, or asking their opinion on things. Even "Hey, how's your day been" is ok.
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basically she knows u wanna fuck n she doesnt.
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>>18716259
This. I like baseball, so sometimes I say IDC if I just got pulled up from AAA and this guys pitching a perfect game I want my 3 strikes.
But after that u gotta just put ur head down and walk away. Trust me girls try to do this so you get the hint, happens all the time. It'll be a lot better if you just leave her be, she might even text you you never know. But if you continually hit her up she'll be angry and if she has to tell you im not into you please leave me alone she'll be less happy.
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I'm so fucking bored. 2017-09-12 08:58:52 Post No.18716144
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I'm so fucking bored. 2017-09-12 08:58:52 Post No.18716144
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I'm so fucking bored of being bored. I'm a 22 year old guy, marginally above average looks/charisma/intelligence (marginally, not trying to be cocky here), but I can't seem to fucking nail down what I want to do in life.
Just graduated last May and spent most of the summer seeing friends a few times a week/the rest of the time playing games I don't enjoy much and bothering my LDR ex that I don't even like much anymore.
I don't know man, I don't know what to do. I'm in no huge rush to get a full time job (got funds saved), but that'll happen before 2018 probably. And I don't want to get a full time job before I find some fulfillment in life. What should I do with my time?
I'm very social but somewhat shy, so I enjoy hanging out with people but have some trouble breaking the ice, I like acting so I guess I could do community theatre again, I enjoy music but I'm not great, and I'd love a relationship but I'm a bit difficult to impress... I don't know what I should do with my time.
I just feel so bored and unimpressed with life.
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I had depression as a teenager and pretty bad anxiety for around a year after that, but now my headspace is pretty alright. I'm just so fucking bored now, I feel like I've conditioned myself to do nothing with my time.
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>>18716144
>I just feel so bored and unimpressed with life
Literally do anything.
Once you start doing something, you will break the ice and start doing many things.
If I was in your place, I'd buy a motorcycle and see as much of the country as I could.
Friend invites me over to house.
Friend has another friend over.
They are eye fucking each other
They head to bed
I get to stay in the living room watching TV untill my taxi arrives
Text her next morning asking her to not invite me around simply to be the unnecessary wheel at the party.
Get text back "oh, did it come across like that?"
What the hell do I respond back? Don't want to be a whiny bitch creating a scene, but on the other hand I find her reply rather incredulous, how the fuck wouldn't it come across like that?
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>>18715753
maybe it was supposed to be a threesome but you didn't get the hint?
tell her next time she needs to be more direct about inviting you in on the action.
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>>18715764
no, i dont think that's what happened to OP
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>>18715753
do a sarcastic no i was the life of the hangout or smth, at least that's what i'd do
I've had terrible self-esteem since I was a child and became promiscuous in 2010 to ward off my loneliness and feelings of worthlessness. I want to change for many reasons. Recognition is the first step. Now for the second step... how do I change?
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>>18715617
Post more context.
>I want to change
And what is preventing you from doing so?
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>>18715628
Sex is fun, I'm lonely and enjoy the intimacy, and feeling sexy temporarily staves off my self-hatred. However, I have gained a few stalkers in the process and often feel cheap and gross.
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>>18715637
What about stopping sleeping with everybody around you and get regular bf instead?
Psycholog?
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I'd be more worried about the acne.
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>>18715610
Backne---> ackne on the back
Btw when i lay on that side it fucking hurts
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>>18715591
see a fucking dermatologist, it's not that hard to figure out
How to develop a system of making up after fights in a relationship? Especially when you feel like you haven't made a mistake so groveling and apologizing isn't an option?
In this case, it's because she encountered some disgusting and illegal behavior, and my response was to agree with her on how it was totally unacceptable and sort of go along with blowing off some steam. That turned out to be a bad call and now she blames me for not comforting her instead. Now I get the silent treatment.
Basically, I need something we can fall back on to resolve this sort of fuss about nothing. Because such situations horrify me like there's no tomorrow to be honest.
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>>18715582
Context pls. What did she witness and how did it pertain to her?
Also it's not up to you to read her mind and know exactly what to say. Letting her blow off steam seems like a good call depending on the context.
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>Giving attention to children every time they throw a tantrum
Just ignore her and she'll learn this type of behavior won't garner a response
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>>18715594
What I got from it is that she saw some dude piss over an escalator she had to use right afterwards.
>Also it's not up to you to read her mind and know exactly what to say. Letting her blow off steam seems like a good call depending on the context.
Exactly, and that's why I can't just go on about how sorry I am.
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My girlfriend died 3 months ago and i've been drinking heavily since. I've had about half a litre of vodka and feel the best way to feel better is help others, so im here to offer advice and help on anything. I've got a lot of life experience so come at me with your problems. I'll try my best to give you advice.
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Others can feel free to chip in with their 2 cents too.
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>>18715524
Your a fucking mess dude. I wouldn't want advice from a weak bitch who can't deal with his emotions. Stop drinking. Have a good cry, talk to a professional or family and friends. Build new skills and move on. Don't be pathetic and put of the inevitability pain. Do you think she would want that?
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>>18715535
Bit aggressive there man, but I see your logic.
I'm not that drunk, having been drinking for a long while has built up my tolerence. Half a litre of vodka is like 2 beers to the average guy for me now. I do talk to people and I do break down and cry now and then, but I just wanna offer some help to others. I'm coherent and not gonna offer stupid or uninformed advice.
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I met a girl recently who is very sweet, very kind. She has a huge crush on me, to the point where I have actually gotten her to give me head numerous times and I feel bad about it because I'm not entirely sure I want to date her. I don't know her that well but I know she has some genetic problems, her hands are really fucked up and she has to wear these big ass corrective boots and sometimes uses a wheelchair when her feet hurt too bad, her face is also round, but she has big eyes, a small nose, and big lips, cute as a fucking button but off, and is legally blind.
I don't think she has intellectual difficulties, like we've talked a lot and she can carry a conversation perfectly fine, but my friends told me she has a care giver and has quirky behaviour (my friends are ultra PC so Quirky could mean bat shit fucking insane).
I don't know what I should do, if I should carry on our friendship with the occasional blowjob, if I should make it just a friendship, if I should ask her out, or if I should just ghost her entirely. What do I do?
I have more details if needed.
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>>18715447
>ive been getting head from a mentally and physically handicapped woman and I don't know what to do.
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>>18715447
Ya your pretty terrible. This girl knows she is fucked up and is probably desperate. Was crushing some one worth getting your pee pee licked?
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>>18715447
Jesus christ do the people around yourself and her a favor and please just kill yourself for real.
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It happened, /adv/ - I broke up with my first girlfriend and I don't know how to feel.
We broke up because she felt that we were no longer right for each other and that we were in different places, and that things weren't the same as they used to be. We were together for 3 months and I at least got closure from breaking up, but now that it's over I don't know how to feel anymore.
I took the conversation well, but I broke down crying for a bit and now I just feel empty and I still can't come to terms with the fact that I'm now single and I'll most likely never be with her romantically ever again, I'll never spend time with her family or go on walks with her dogs or spend hours late at night talking about the smallest details, and I'm going to miss it like hell.
I've already taken the liberty of removing every photo off my phone that's to do with her and reminds me, I've removed all cute nicknames and personalisation from social media and we've agreed to go on a no-contact basis until further notice, which was my idea. The thing I'm most thankful is that we ended on good terms and there's the possibility of being friends (if I want that), but right now I don't know how to feel and what to do. The thing that kills me the most is that inevitably, there will be another guy who she will love and be with and it won't be me. I'll miss all the memories we've had and I'll eventually come to terms with it, but I can't get over that one single fact.
Could you guys share your experiences of your first break up? How long were you together? Who broke up with who? What was the reason? What note did you end on? How long did it take you to get over them? How soon did you find someone else?
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>>18715391
3 months? That isn't very long at all. I'll share a tldr of my first break, of which happened roughly a month and a half ago.
Tldr: 8 years. I broke up with her after she suggested moving in together and her literally telling me she wasn't comfortable moving in a day before we were supposed to(already had a place and everything). After my anger cooled I tried talking about it with her, which seemed to be going fine but she said something that seemed off to me and got me upset again, she hung up the phone and proceeded to ghost me to this very day.
How soon did I find someone else? I haven't. How long has it taken me to get over it? I haven't and probably never will. Count your blessings it ended after 3 months and not 8 years, the suffering is unimaginable.
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>>18715429
Sounds more like bad judgment. You probably overlooked alot of her personality traits that led to this point.
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>meet qt
>she's 'dating' a friend of mine
>they're not serious just messing around
>i slide in them DM's
>next thing I know we're messing around
>few months later
>i kind of fall for her
>tell her we should be exclusive
>we agree and are a couple
>about a year later
>she's doing dirty shit online with other dude(s)
>start cheating on her
>eventually break up with her over it
>we hate fuck eachother for a few months
>get back together
>date for another year
>turns out she's still doing that dumb shit online
>we break up again
>yadda yadda
>a month later, we're back together
>relationship sucks
>question why I even got back with her
>stay in the relationship for another year i'll estimate
>eventually break up for no real reason, just all the shit that happened in the past
Still think about her, we would've been a great couple if she wasn't a closet internet whore.