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>>18713085
Honestly, DXM got me through my depression. It's weird because if drugs help people's depression, it's almost always psychedelics, and it seems like a dissociative drug like DXM would just make shit worse. Started off as something I took to feel weird and cool for hours on end. Over time, that turned into using it for a good time to think about the universe and how crazy and complicated it all is. I started going outside around my college campus while on it, slowly enjoying watching the bugs and birds and stray cats more and more. It was so gradual that I couldn't tell you when I officially got over it. One day I just kind of woke up and realized how different I felt from how I used to be. I'm not encouraging trying drugs to fix your depression, cuz drugs can often just make things worse. But that's what helped me

>>18713085
Back while I was in high school I used to get really depressed and had thoughts of suicide pretty frequently.

One of the things I would do pretty regularly is to go for a walk around my neighborhood in the evenings when twilight had just begun or sometimes just super late around 2 AM when everything was still and quiet. The calm would help me feel better and the physical exertion of walking up and down all the big hills near my house always left me feeling pretty good.

I would recommend something like this, especially with a friend if you've got the luxury of it! An old friend of mine used to join me on walks to a gas station around 2 miles away from our houses and we would walk in silence or sometimes shoot the breeze. Every once in a while we would talk about super serious stuff too.

This is a guy who would whip his dick out in public and get thrown in detention around once every two weeks because he was a maniac, but in one on one he would calm down and be reasonable and both of us benefited greatly from it.

Hope this helps anon! Keep at it! You can overcome this!

>>18713085
Currently noticing Facebook china

>>18713064
How about you fuck off and meet some people in real life rather than online

>>18713074

Why not both?

What's that need for aggression? Geez

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>tinder

>>18713060
then you are forcing yourself to college and even worse: for a subject you dont like

yes, this is me

>>18713066
I'm not forcing myself, my parents will kick me out of the house if I don't study. I'm already 20 yo so there's no excuse. The career that I chose was History but to be honest no career really interests me.

women are hardwired to only focus on the sexual. if you got it then she got it.

>>18712991
Seems more like maybe a date/hang out but I don't think you're quite in the fuck zone yet. Any pics?

>>18712991
I'll bet the police will accompany her. You verbal rapist.

just hang in there please, im sure you will find a person just as great as she was soon

>>18712801
Don't cut your throat, hang yourself or blow your brains out with a gun instead. It's painless if you do it right.

Would she have wanted you to kill yourself? Use her death as a reason to live. Take the pain and use it as a strength.

This is how I would try to rationalize it if I was in your shoes.

Depends on where you live. If you live in a big city it's not hard to meet other gay guys at social events or parties. If you live in a small town you're more likely to find someone through dating sites and apps.

At any rate the two things you can do are: a) we willing to meet new people, because they will introduce you to other new people (gay guys tend to hang out with other gay guys to some extent or another); and, b) don't hide your sexuality from others.

The bottom line is that you have to be social, you won't meet new people staying in your room.

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>>18712808
I live in a semi big city.
It has one of my countries top universities so quite a good sum of young people in the ages of 19 to 25.

But just, how do I even meet gay people when I'm out?
Should I buy a semi subtle rainbow wristband like pic related?

grindr is the classic option but it's more focused on hookups than relationships

2/2

I gave her an ultimatum 2 weeks ago and since than she really changed. She helps me a lot around the house again and is really nice torwards me. However, I am still acting completely cold, treating her like a roommate. I have no idea why. For example, we lay on the couch, I know cuddling up to her and kissing her on the forehead would make her happy, but something inside of me doesn't want to.

Spending time with her still somewhat feels like a chore, although there is no logical reason for it. Same with sex, I am horny and so is she, but I just do really NOT want to have sex with her. What is wrong? She is really attractive and exactly my type. I do still love her and she is a wonderful person. But I am just NOT capable of showing her any real affection anymore. Does anyone have a guess what it could be? I would really appreciate any input.

>>18712718
Pretty simple bro.

You're resenting having to be her caretaker, and that's killing your libido and sense of attraction.

Solutions: Couples therapy, google some shit on the internet about living with a sick partner, pick up a book about exactly this subject (there are tons), talk to her about this shit and how it's making you feel, change up your life dynamics so that you're feeling less of a burden and can re spark some of what made you attracted to one another, blah blah blah

>>18712738
Couples therapy is really expensive, but thanks for the other tips, I will read some stuff about it.
Don't really know how to change our dynamics though desu.

Everyone's eyes are actually blue underneath. There's a procrdure you can do in which they remove the top layer of your iris which essentially changes your eye color permanently to blue.

Not sure of it'll be the same shade etc, but this could be a possibility?

Dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life and I don't believe you.

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Dude, wtf, Natalie Portman have brown eyes and she is a 10/10.

What the fuck people.

>>18712621
I don't think he has the responsibility to inform you about that.
But you asked him directly, he lied. You should be done with him.

He's kind of dim witted if the thought of saying he slept with a taken girl whose identity he would not reveal did not cross his mind. Also I do not typically think that people have the responsibility to spontaneously inform their partner, but this is different. You asked straightforwardly and he lied, plus if he did not get tested he endangered your health. Not all STDs (always) have symptoms.

>>18712629
>>18712632
I agree with these anons

>>18712508

Chill. It's been a day. Wait a bit more and if she doesn't write, you write and try to set up a date. It's no big deal.

>>18712508
You can't be in an ldr with a woman women literally get off exclusively to being sluts women don't enjoy sex they only get off on the rush of devaluing themselves

>>18712508
>tinder
>gamer girl
>bisexual
>long distance roleplaying
Wew lad, so many red flags and I haven't even finished reading your whole post yet

Use your public library

>>18712417
i would but its really shit and doesnt have much history wise

http://gen.lib.rus.ec/

Pretty sure there should be history stuff here. Search the book you want and maybe you'll be lucky

>>18712130
Break out your depression.

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University is great and intelligent people go to university and diversity and equality. Very nice.

>>18712153
Anons, name 5 people in this picture without looking up paypal mafia.

you can be like a pole and work in low skilled labour in your host country.

>>18712122
I don't think your options are limited if you're still an EU citizen. I think you're pretty much in the clear.

>>18712379
>>18712351
what kind of jobs should I be looking for

i'm worried I won't get hired if I only speak english and my native language

Ill answer your question with another

Why not?

Well, you'll never know how talented you could be if you didn't go. I mean, do you have anything a whole lot more interesting to do? Give it a shot, it'll be fun.

>>18712032
You don't need talent, you need to enjoy it enough to do it a lot until you git gud.
You need to like the act, not the idea.
That's how you get good at anything.

>>18712013
First, you should tell your gf what happened and go from there.

Also, oftentimes when we meet someone who could be a potential partner, if our own relationship has its problems, we can easily become infatuated with this new person. We only see the good aspects of them, and the bad aspects of our partner, and we can't help but compare the two. You gotta ask yourself: Why did you cheat? In the end, you were the one who made the decision to search for a solution outside of your relationship instead of working on things with your partner, so I'm not asking you to try and justify what you did because you can't really justify or excuse it. I'm asking what were the feelings going on that led you astray

>>18712024
I think it's the fact that we can't have a normal conversation without arguing, and the thought of cheating gets me going seeing as I've cheated on her like 3 times... but I was drunk and I didn't feel anything for these girls except for this last one. I feel like a total dick

>>18712074
What did it feel like when you were pursuing these other girls? How did it make you feel? What did it mean to you?