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Hi /adv/, looking for advice on how to talk to this girl at university fast since we are soon leaving uni. So we are both offered to do extra stuff for university since our professors had been great all year. We both did open days where we would represent our subject to potential new students. I had always liked the look of her but i know she had a bf (i dont think she has anymore). We spent the whole day together, eat together and got along really well she seemed to enjoy herself too. Tommorow will be our last meeting unless i pull this off. In the holiday im going clay pigeon shooting with 2 close friends and i was thinking of inviting her and then getting her number to organise the day then if it goes well invite her to other things through the summer and then asking her to be my gf. So how do i approach and invite her out? or other general stuff since i have never done this before

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>I lost arm wrestling to a girl

Should i kill myself?

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I want to kill my ego. It's a wretched thing that's caused nothing but pain for me. The question is how I live the rest of my life without it, I need help to understand this ego/id shit and how I can basically stop caring about stupid shit.

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21 year old college student here.

I’ve applied to many wagecuck positions around my town (in the US) but received no phone call yet. However, some lady told my mother they are opening a position at their local company. The job title is “Database support specialist”. I’m currently pursuing a Computer Science degree but I’ve never had any experience with databases. That lady mentioned that no experience is required but I don’t trust that statement. The job description says:

>Duties include matching lists from conference leads, partners and clients to subscriber lists, pulling information from data resources contracted by %company_name% and preparing reports and email lists.

And some of the key responsibilities:
>Assist in matching lists from conference leads to hospital sites in customer database
>Work with 3rd party lists (ad sales, partners) to customer database; including list matches and import of data.
Etc.

It also mentions a desired experience of using Filemaker Pro, so I assume they primarily use this software for databases.

I don’t what should I do. I understand what all this stuff means generally but not specifically and I’m deeply dreadful that even if I get hired by some miracle, I won’t be able to perform well and I don’t know If they provide training (if I even need that at all).

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I'm having an introduction day next week at my new college and I am probably going to have to introduce myself to the other (15 or so) students. This bothers me a lot and I feel sick just thinking about it, I don't know what to do and I don't want to go through two whole weeks feeling like total shit.

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I'm throwing a party for the first time this saturday. Is it a good idea to invite people from many social circles or will it get awkward?

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I want to turn my life around and start being healthy.

I'm not fat dude, but I've pretty much lived off fast food and little physical activity since high school and I often feel weak, shitty, and just generally unhappy.

Problem is I'm literally retarded when it comes to understanding body health, never been to a gym, I don't understand things like carbs/calories and things you should care about when it comes to diet/food. I'm afraid to go to a gym where there are people as I don't know anything and I'd be wasting someone's time or having people stare at me while I try to work a strange machine and fail to lift something.

And then there's my diet. I eat fast food, ramen, and other shit I probably shouldnt be eating everyday for years. I hated vegetables since I was a kid and cant remember the last generally healthy thing ive eaten. I just tend to like plain things, I hate things like dressing and anything remotely tart/bitter which most healthy dishes look like to me.

If anyone can point me to a good resource for fitness for someone who is a basically retarded but has a want to be healthy I'd appreciate it, or if you could give me some advice. I'm afraid to ask this on /fit/ because they'd shit on me, I have read the sticky on the board but I still honestly feel like it's for someone with at lease some knowledge and I literally dont know a thing about healthiness.

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Why is there no psyhologie board?

Anyway, I hope this fits here somewhat.
I noticed that almost every single one of my pictures I reblog on tumblr that contains humans hides its face or doenst show it at all.

What could that say about me? Any wild guesses or ideas or something you noticed about yourself? Just genuinly interessted, I dont wanna draw any dangerous conclusions

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

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When i was a kid i never got to socialize with other kids (my mother had severe anxiety at tine and literally told me how i should only trust and be friends with her) or learn how to perform some basic tasks like swimming, riding a bike, i never knew the rules to games other kids were playing, never learned how to do any chores. Now i'm 18 and i'm only learning now how to behave like a normal fucking person and talk to other people without them thinking how autistic i am. I still have to hide from people i know at the beach so they don't see me swimming like i'm disabled or some shit. I have to pretend how using a bike is somehow inconvenient for me in situations where it's clearly a good option because i'm ashamed of being unable to do something fucking 6 year olds can do. Even now, i wanted to find a summer job and my father started yellng at me saying how i have no idea how difficult it is to work 8hrs a day, and basically stating that i'm incompetent for any kind of job. It's almost as if they want to make a retard out of me on purpose. I guess i don't have any particular questions to ask, i needed to went somewhere without being pitied. I welcome any advice you might have and i wish to hear if someone had a similar experience.

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>Get kicked out of class for a stupid reason and shitty management
>New class
>Can't fit in
>All bunch of stuck up snobs
>Suddenly feel anxiety. Which is new to me. Never felt it before.
>The only reason some of them actually meet me after school is for weed.
>ANXIETY ALL YEAR
>Air escapes the lungs, heaviness, heart rate sky-rocket, my whole body shakes. I just got to school, the first hour isn't even upon us.
>Same feeling becoming intense and intense with each passing day
>Only two class mates making me feel welcome, both usually don't show up tho
>Depressed with anxiety until the end
>SCHOOL IS FINALLY OVER I CAN STOP FEELING ANXIETY!
>mindfuck.jpg
>Still feeling anxiety
>Anxiety +1
>Suddenly having a crush on one of the classmates who accepted me
>Anxiety +2
>Can't stop feeling anxiety despite school being over
>Anxiety kicks in even when I'm home for no apparent reason

Tl;Dr-
Kicked out of class into a new one in which i didn't fit despite trying to fit and it gave me anxiety, which I never felt beforehand. Now, even after school is over, I keep feeling this shit. And I started to like one of my classmates which just makes the anxiety worse, which is also a first.
I never got anxiety this easily and for no actual reasons.
I already finished school, BUT THE FEELING WONT LEAVE.

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I have been prescribed by my doctor some meds for anxiety and mood stabilizers some years ago, and I do still take them to this day.

The thing I want to know, does it remain medically recorded each time I go to the pharmacy to get my fill?

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>4 years ago
At a family friends funeral I met this girl. We hit it off pretty much instantly. We have very similar interests, musical tastes, etc. Apparently the chemistry was so great that even today I cannot bring up her name without getting gleeful reactions from family members.

>intervening years
We kept in touch. We met only rarely (different provinces, school systems, etc.) In the beginning we wrote often via IM. But these became rarer as I noticed that she was generally not responsive (a IM every 4 weeks or so). In the beginning I tolerated it and at some point I also only replied occasionally.
What struck me odd was that her IMs looked more like real letters than IMs and were extremely long (you had to scroll for a single message bubble!).


>Now
I moved for uni, while she is an au-pair in Paris. Since then we have Skyped occasionally and her messages still are extremely long but rare. But when we do Skype it lasts for hours. But she doesn't tend to reply to casual messages. She always brings up how she still wants to visit me, but has been busy etc. Recently I received a hyper-dense post card from her again about her wanting to visit...

>What is up with this behaviour?
>Does anyone have experience with such hyper long IMs and letters?
>And her wanting to come over. But also never replying?

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I suffer from severe OCD. My mind, all day, is constatly flooded with hundreds of useless thoughts, tiring me physically and mentally. If i stop the medication for 3 days because sometimes i don't have the money for it(I take Luvox), all symptoms lunge back to me. Life is hell.


Will i be forever shackled to these meds? Will ever get some peace of mind? Death and Suicide are becoming recurring thoughts more and more just because it could probably rid me from all this noise in my head.

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I feel like a fucking failure.
Currently juggling between a demanding as fuck web dev internship working 24 hours a week and 4 uni classes, and I'm failing every single class left and right. I have three exams today and just got out from the first which was an absolute train wreck.

I'm so fucking depressed. This is my fourth year at uni and I need to take 15 more classes in order to graduate, not including these.

I was thinking of taking a break, but taking more than 5 years to graduate makes me feel nothing more than a failure, and it's utterly soul crushing. Not to mention the disapproval I'll get from my parents who are already scolding me for not having graduated in 4 years.

What the fuck can I do? I feel completely defeated...