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Should I ask her to be my girlfriend? 2017-06-28 01:55:49 Post No.18464853
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Should I ask her to be my girlfriend?
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I've known this girl for around a year now, but it wasn't until recently that we began to talk more and more on a daily basis, now we're talking every day whether it be through a call or through texting, and even IRL when we have the chance.
We go to the same school and she sometimes hangs out with my friend group, however we keep it on the down low to the others that we talk so much. Whenever she's not with my group at school she's always sending me Snapchats and what not, so as we're with our other friends we're still talking if that makes sense.
I've been to her house a couple of times, and she's been to mine 2 or 3 times, and just last Saturday we went out to the shopping center cause she wanted new Pop figure thingys and then she came back to mine after that, and once again this Saturday coming we're planning to do more shit
She's pretty touchy feely with me when we're alone with each other I guess (e.g. right up to my shoulder when we're walking, putting her hand through my hair, the occasional hug etc)
Whenever we're on my friends Discord server, whenever she would go silent or not talking she is sending me texts and stuff talking to me while everyone else does their thing
Whenever she has problems I try to help her or make her feel better in any way I can, she's told me some really big shit about things from her past and what not so I know she trusts me a lot
She always tells me how funny I am, how I'm a good brother (she said this when she was over while I had to babysit), how nice I am and stuff like that, how she would love for their to be a shit ton of me's in the world
All this makes me feel as though I should go for it, but I just idk still doubting myself thinking she would say no to me? Can any of you guys give me the green light with this info, and give me any advice or anything to if I should ask her out?
Thanks
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>>18464853
you dont ask her and just fucking kiss her retard.
then if you hang out are touching eachother again you are bf/gf
> asking to be my girlfirend
what the fuck, I didn't even do that when I was a 12 year old
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>>18464875
Isn't that kindda how it works?
You know, "Do you wanna go out with me?"
Thanks for being straight forward tho lmao
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I wanted to write some things but I'm a virgin, idk how she will react when you ask her out to go somewhere together (I did that shit and the girl didn't even realize I was doing that, infact she didn't even consider it a date because I'm not vegan, probably was for the better in that case) it doesn't sound like she friendzoned you if she's touchy feely, also doesn't sound like she's just using you for an emotional tampon, unless the majority of what you talk about is her problems.
Like the other anon recommend hanging out with her alone more and talking, feeling if there's sexual tension building up and if you're getting closer then just kiss her.
I know that this isn't exactly a relationship central board but what the hell, I need to clear my head and figure out my next step.
I met this girl through her friends. She's 20 and stuies to be a doctor.
We had a fantastic first date where we talked for hours and looked into each others' eyes.
Right after it was over she told me that it was her first date ever. I couldn't believe it, she was so beautiful and nice I could hardly believe my luck.
And when I came home she told me that she's very sensitive and is very prone to beurotic breakdowns (i.e. she cried after our date because emotions were so overwhelming).
So, I met her the next day and it wasn't so nice anymore. She said that she's very stressed because of THIS and because she's never had anything like this before: she can't eat, can't sleep and is always very nervous (which is bad, because in 2 days she'll have her exam on anatomy).
So, the mood was less than pleasant, but we still hugged, held each others' hands and smiled a shitton.
Enter yestoday.
She wrote that she now can't function normally and is afraid of me and this whole thing. She says that she doesn't feel the same way I do about us hanging out together (I'm sort of a romantic type who's very serious about relationships) and she thinks that she needs to run away from everyone and everything now to keep her sanity intact.
I am beyond devastated.
I told her "Take your time, I won't bother you until your exams, but let's meet this Saturday at Park at 3 p.m. I will be there. You can come or not, up to you."
And her response was "I will not come. I've made up my mind."
So, /adv/, any ideas? What the fuck is happening? What should I do? Give her space? Comfort her somehow? Insist on staying? What?
It was the best two days of my life. She said at first that everything was amazing and she wants me to be close. But it all changed in a span of 2 fucking days.
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It's been a day since we talked last. Tomorrow is her exam and I'll call her after she's done with it and ask her out again. I will tell her that I want to take this slow (as she seems very erratic with her emotions) and won't rush into anything.
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>>18464578
Sounds to me you latched on to quick and too tightly and scared the girl. Back off and if she wants you she'll reach out. Guys like you are scary and she already told you she was afraid of you.
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>>18464578
She sounds batshit crazy. Even if you can calm her down enough to go on a few more really nice dates, it seems like she will always be crazy just below the surface.
Either that or she has realised she isn't really that into you and she is faking to scare you off.
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Can't reach female orgasm 2017-06-28 11:20:33 Post No.18464520
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2017-06-28 11:20:33
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I feel like such a /adv/. At my 25 years of age I haven't been able to orgasm in any way. I had to fake them in my last relationship because my boyfriend at the time felt so insecure and unaccomplished as a man I felt incredibly pressured and I decided to just fake them.
Now this new guy I've been talking to knows this because I decided not to ever resort to faking it again and be 100% honest and open about it. He thinks it's just that my ex sucked at it. I don't want to go through another guy who has sex with me and feels like shit because I can't cum.
What are some ways to maybe force it out of me since I'm pretty sure I have FSD. Been reading into some supplements as well as hormones that are used, I just don't know where to start. I dont want to fuck myself up either.
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I feel like such a disappointment*
For some reason it deletes some words when I hit enter.
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>>18464520
Are you not even able to climax when soloing?
Are you under stress?
Things that come to my mind:
- Maybe you are climaxing, but you do not realize it because you think it must be way more intense from what you have heard.
- Get a little drunk (just a tad bit) because it makes those kind of things easier.
- Go to a doctor, if it really bothers your. Maybe there is something going on with your hormones.
- Mental attitude is more important than the body-work. An orgasm comes to a huge part from yourself committing to it and building it up in your head, while fucking. One can practice this.
I kind of fail to imagine how it feels to not cum when getting licked/fingered/fucked for some time and commiting to it. Is it starting to hurt you, or is it feeling bad? What happens when you get stimulated over several minuted? It can't be nothing...
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>>18464520
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p04ht7dr
This really helped me, give it a listen.
It's 4 :50 in the morning I woke up 3 hours ago, I went downstairs to watch TV cause I couldn't sleep and started playing with my girlfriends tablet. She had a whatsapp message wich is weird because she doesn't use whatsapp so I checked the conversation, I know I shouldn't have but I did and she was talking to this guy who I assumed is one of her ex. They were remembering the last time they fucked and then the guy told her they should go out some day... she said we both work together but there's the off day I have to stay late so maybe one day like that...
I'm 27 and my girlfriend is 32, yesterday we were thinking of getting married and we've been together for 4 years... should I say anything? I don't want to be alone...
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Just throw the tablet in front her and tell her it's over. Better to be alone than with a cheating bitch.
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>>18464490
She's sleeping right now, should I wake her up?
I've never broke up with anybody before...
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>>18464497
Pack a go bag as quietly as you can, take as much of your stuff as you can and start planning. Do you have somewhere to go? Just keep it inside until you can make a clean getaway. She will make this hard for you, she will make it your fault. Do not fall for it, it's just basic manipulation.
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How do I tell my dominant boyfriend how to please me and what positions to use?
He's very inexperienced, but sweet and obviously enjoys being dominant
I have a bit more experience and love him a lot
all I want to do is help us have amazing sex and enjoy his dominance
How do I show him how to properly be a dom without ruining the sub/dom dynamic completely?
How direct is too direct?
I've tried to gently show him and tell him what to do
>be fucking in missionary
>tell him we're trying a new position
>he doesn't understand what is happening because we went from him choking me and calling me his little whore to me bossing him around in bed
I felt like I ruined something nice and I just don't know how to approach this situation without ruining it again
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shut up and do as he tells you dumb whore
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>>18464423
You bf isn't dominant if you have to coach him so I suggest you find a man that truly is.
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>>18464423
Talk to him about that after sex, or before. That way during sex the dynamic isn't broken.
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So here's the deal: I have two kids. I used to be somewhat close to my son, and very close to my daughter. Now my son is 18 and my daughter is 16, and I'm not even close to either of them. Don't get me wrong, things aren't sour between us, I guess they're just 'moving on'. I've tried to get close to them again but they're not interested. This has hurt me and continues to hurt me to this day.
I have some friends who say that they've become full-blown teenagers and are pre-occupied with what it is to be a teenager. So that means that by their mid-20s they should relatively be back to normal. However my gut says we'll never be as close as we were ever again, and that those ships have sailed. What are your thoughts?
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>>18464216
They are just becoming independent individuals.
Children form strong bonds with their parents when they are little because they have to in order to survive. Teens and young adults start to pull away because they have to do so in order to survive in the adult world. This is why man children have opted out of society, their mothers never let them become independent adults.
Do right by your children and let them distance themselves from you in order to gain self sufficience and independence.
This does not mean ignore them, but it means that you need to avoid suffocating them. I think it would be good for you to hang out with them as if they were your adult friends rather than being the little girl/boy you used to know. Go out to a concert together or do something related to what they are into like you would do with a friend.
Bonding with teenagers is way different than bonding with little kids because they require much different stimulation.
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give it some time, they usually come back
let them know you are happy to answer any question they have and never try to make fun of them
they are trying to find who they are, its your ultimate test of your fatherhood, your examples, behaviour, morales, controversies will all have an effect of how they turn out, guess the worst part is at this point you have little to no power over it, the seeds have been planted a looong time ago
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>>18464259
I guess I'm just pining for the days when I was their "hero", but I guess those days are long over. Time to be on my own again, free again, in this regard.
As for bonding with them, I am trying. I just feel... hurt... all the time with them. I'm certain I have my own issues, maybe the fact that I'm a step father doesn't help, but I haven't found a good way to assuage the hurt.
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how do i go about it.... 2017-06-28 07:21:52 Post No.18464093
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how do i go about it....
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2 and a half years ago, i married the man i loved. I met him when I came to England for my higher education. (i'm german). My husband uses a crutch to walk, but i was impressed by his vocal capabilities and his outlook towards life and after a year we got married. Things were fine, until he started working from home for his software company. And i'm a graphic designer who works for private firms. And he's becoming more homebound and he's reducing real human contact except for a few people. He tries to shut me out, at times when his parents come home. Well, if i wasn't there for him i can imagine what a deranged person he would be, but i feel i'm taken for granted. And i feel i'm being something like a maid rather than a companion to him. If i wanted i could kill him, push him off the stairs ,etc, but i didn't i held on to him hoping he would look back to me. And our physical life has become almost zero for the last 2-3 months. I told what it means to me and the importance of it in marriage, but he uses his disability as a way to evade, even though it was something we had before. I feel stupid at times for my decision. And in terms of development he's 0 . His parents had to buy a house for us, why? Because he said he was saving up. I really can divorce him, but the people around us will have a bad impression about me. But if i have to, it doesn't matter, i'll do it. But how should i go about it and should i start my next chapter.,
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You should maybe ask yourself if the problem is within you rather than him. Who the fuck even thinks about the possibility of killing their husband.
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>>18464093
He's like that because he knows he will always have you, leave him for a couple weeks and watch him change
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>>18464139
so it's better to stay is that what you mean
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I can't handle any negative criticism.
It makes me upset because I'm trying hard and my best isn't good enough for them.
It makes me mad because they're right and there's nothing I can do about it since I'm already trying my best.
It makes me want to give up because I'm clearly not good at the thing and I'm tired of getting yelled at.
How do I fix?
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>>18464092
Provide concrete details. What activity? Who tells you? What do they tell you?
>and why do you care what others say?
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>>18464098
Work, my coworkers and sometimes boss, I'm not fast enough/careful enough (basically I'm trying to be careful or I make mistakes while trying to go at the speed they want) and I care because I don't want to lose my job because then I will die because I don't have money for food and things.
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Theres not much else to say if you are trying your best and its still not good enough. Maybe try to look at your work from a different angle, is there some creative way you could work to get eveything done on time? Is there other classes or training that could help you? Is there music/atmosphere/zen that can make you feel more comfortable at work?
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How does one pinpoint mental illnesses?
Is talking to a psychologist the only way? How do you find a good one?
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>>18464090
Psychologist is a good start. Self diagnosis doesnt work for certain stuff because you as crazy person cant tell you are crazy.
But i bet you think you have depression, but in reality you are just sad, lost, 0 friends introverted neet.
>find a good one
Go to your practical doctor or search your insurance company to see what doctors are covered and just pick one, call him and make appointment.
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>>18464110
I've self diagnosed AVPD because out of, say, 20 symptoms I have about 16.
But other than that I'm not sure. I believe I'm on the autism spectrum somewhere. Check check and check but not neet.
I don't have a doctor and I don't have insurance.
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>>18464090
It's like finding a good doctor, you'll have to go off of reccomendations from friends and family, or neighbors.
Also, seeing a general physician is a good idea as well. S/He can help you and recommend a therapist if you need one.
Just remember that mental illnesses are usually just extreme forms of normal parts of or psychology. Try not to be too critical of your mental quirks and only go to a doctor if it is actively causing a problem in your life
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How can I stop being a lazy fatass, stop watching porn/wasting my time surfing the web, and actually start to study?
>wasted a whole year, asking this question
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>>18463986
Live in the streets. Then You will be forced to take an initiative
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>>18463986
Ayyyy in the same boat. In debt too, due to my mistakes.
I've made goal sheets, read books, and tackled depression but I still can't get things done. Atleast I don't want to kill myself anymore
I have all the time on thr world too, I'm genuinley my own enemy.
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Whatever it is you want/need to do, do it now, not tomorrow.
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I'm gay and demisexual (say what you will about it as an identity, but it accurately describes how I feel). I've never desired someone sexually without knowing them well and having romantic feelings for them, and it's often kind of off putting to imagine. I've only had sex with three people, but have had a lot of other chances. On the other hand, I'm really fucking kinky. In high school when I started to have any sexual feelings I was only interested in weird fetishes, and thought I was basically functionally asexual (and neither straight nor gay) because I was only interested in the objects of the fetishes
I eventually started talking online with fetish communities (loose definition maybe, depending on your perspective- a major one is the furry fandom), and by now they're a big part of my online and offline social circle- and dating pool in particular because almost all the gay people I know are from those circles.
Does anyone relate to this at all?
And what do I do? I wonder how to (or if I even should) pursue specific obscure fetishes, if the only way to meet people interested in them is by meeting them (at least primarily) for the purpose of sex. I also wonder if I should just stop identifying and hanging out with those communities, because I feel sort of alienated and at-odds with everyone. There are a lot of other obvious reasons I should leave, but still, my actual sexual interests are mostly defined by fetishes, so pursuing relationships without that common ground seems weird. Even if the sex in a relationship is generally vanilla, it seems important to at least relate to something substantial sexually. Plus, I know it's cliche, but I have no idea how "normies" (or "prudes") date.
So yea, what do?
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>>18463977
>demisexual
Here's your (you)
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>>18463977
>fetishes
I have read a definitin of real fetish as something you NEED TO cum. So if you cant orgasm and enjoy sexual activity without it, you cant simply ignore it. It would help greatly if you werent so secretive and simply wrote what gets you off.
As far as dating goes, it is really easy.
1. Meet anybody you are sexually interested in.
2. Make sure thry feel the same.
3a keep seeing them making sure you are compatible and they are nice person
3b have sex with them
(Some do 3a and 3b in different order with different escalation like handholding in public first, other go for sex and handholding only after few months of sex)
4 repeat 3 for few months
5 move in together
6 decide they arent crazy and stay together doing stuff
>>18464047
Also this. Demisexual is just special snowflake syndrome.
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>>18464047
>>18464058
>demisexual
it's not something I identify with, it just describes how I act and how I feel. There's a difference between defending a word and using it
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I want to start over in life, run away from my family, and move over to where my girlfriend is. Problem is, my parents will most likely track me down (I'm 23 btw), and I can't keep living here, even if it's free. I don't want any alternative methods to deal with this, I just want to leave without leaving a trace. Help /adv?
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You're 23, even if they do track you down, what are they going to do?
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>>18463795
Delete social media. If they don't know the street that your girlfriend lives on, and she doesn't give you away, your parents would have basically nothing to go on unless they hired a PI to find you. Don't tell people where you work unless you can trust them beyond all doubt; don't have people that used to know you over to wherever you live unless you have absolute faith in their ability to keep it a secret. Get a new phone, consider changing your name, but realistically, unless you have a unique name, you can easily just disappear in to the urban sprawl of any city and never be found again, so long as you lay low.
I'd also recommend that you consider not getting yourself in to job positions that would likely end up having your name plastered on a website somewhere, I.E Management. If you work through the internet, you can just use a fake name.
but if they do track you down, tell them to fuck off, and contact authorities if they harass you.
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>>18463802
Oh shit, I forgot to mention, I'm legally disabled. They still have custody over me. I have anretrograde memory loss from a car accident.
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Every morning for the past 2 months I haven't seen my dick hard in the morning I've just began to notice this, am I okay?
Just needa know what's wrong with my I'm petrified
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>>18463755
Forgot to mention I'm 18 and I masterbait once a day if not twice
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>>18463757
Probably cancer. Sorry
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>>18463757
For a Master Baiter, it doesn't seem you are getting the rise you were looking for
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I'm 18 / f and I'm a kissless virgin. I have horrible self-esteem that makes me say no and uncomfortable when guys ask me out, to hook up, or even compliment me. It's not that I don't want to, it's actually the opposite. I'm extremely lonely and would love to be something with someone. I just can't believe that someone would actually want to do anything with me and get paranoid. Sometimes I am able to move past this and then I get anxious that I have no experience. It's embarrassing and pathetic and even when I tell friends I'm still a virgin they're always shocked so I get even more embarrassed I've never kissed someone. I just don't know what I would do if I said yes. Would I tell a guy that I've never kissed someone, or say I have no experience, or explain I have issues. I don't even know what to do.
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>not even an adult
>a kissless virgin
>this is somehow a problem
Your friends are whores. Continue being better than them.
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>>18463617
The problem is that I don't want to be and have said no because of my own issues, although I do feel embarrassed that I am a kissless virgin, it doesn't make me feel pressured to do something I don't want to.
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>>18463606
its only 'embarrassing and pathetic' because you are inflating its importance.
it's not that important, and you won't realize that until you get it out of your system.
trust me
sex, and even making out with someone can go from amazing to absolutely terrible.
Also, I don't think most guys will have a problem with you not having done anything, and if they do, then they aren't the right guy for you. Seriously, a negative reaction to 'I've never done anything' is a big red flag.
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Convince me to break up with my girlfriend. It's what's best for her and me. I just don't have the courage to hurt her or feel that hurt. She's my first gf. 2 years. I'm 21.
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>>18463575
Im on the same situation, same age as you.
Except that im not breaking up with her because lack of courage, more like i feel ill regret it later on.
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Reasons?
True love is accepting someone for who they are and working with it.
Are you ready to ruin your life and be alone again? Ready to find another female that isn't your girlfriend? What were you looking for in the first place? Has those ideals change? So many questions. I personally don't think you guys should break up ha.
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I was in a toxic relationship, broke it off, hated my life, went back to her, now for some reason things are working out. It's like it snapped us back into reality and things are a bit better