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I see that you guys are replying to almost everyone, so here I go (sorry for bad english)
I recently got dumped, she was my first gf and I tought she would be the only one, she already had like 7 boyfiends before me but claimed that nothing serious, she said she was a virgin an so was I, so i gave her my virginity, I tough she wanted a relationship for all pf our lives, at least I wanted that and she often said that i could be the one to settle down with, but things were hard, she started to imply that she wanted to be in an open relationship or that she could not know if i was good at sex because she had never been with anybody else, It seemed to me that she was saying that she wanted to experiment and had sex with others, but i was blinded to the idea that we would never lovo anyone but one another. She lives in another city, so we wouldnt see each other for months and she always said she was very anxious and she wanted to have sex but i wasnt there so she would have to wait. I am a guy filled with insecurities, so we discussed so much about what she wanted from me and to define the relationship, she just said "Just enjoy and dont ask" but i wanted something for all my life and i couldnt jjust enjoy, i wanted to have things clear. So, our discussions went from bad to worse and she dumped me. I was devastaded, i cried for weeks, i tought she just needed some time so i didnt insist, i let myself believe that she would come back after clearing her mind, but a month later i heard from her best friend, who is also mine, that she was fucking every guy who would ask her to, and that she likes a girl now, so she discoveted she bisexual. I haven't had sex with anyone else, i could not believe thar she had forgotten me so fast and that now she is out there making out and shaing a bed with whoever she thinks is hot.

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Hi all. I'm living a difficult situation and i need an advice. I stayed with my boyfriend for 2 years and 6 months and we are in a long distance relationship. I'm studying for a well payed profession and he works in the same field and is quite well payed. The problem is that we're planning our future and since i'm an immigrate in the country i live, i wanted to buy an appartement for my mother since she gave me all and more than she could in her live to raise me(i don't have a dad). The problem is that my boyfriend doesn't want me to do it , because he says all we earn when we'll be a family will go for the family. I strongly disagree with it to the point i told him i don't want to stay with him anymore. But i keep on feeling love for him even if everything else says i have to quit this relationship. The best decision will be to leave him, but i can't. How do i cope with my feelings? What would you do in my situation?DO YOU THINK HE IS RIGHT ABOUT MONEY FOR THE FAMILY? p.s I think i will have to give for a mortgage 1/5 of my money. He is saving for his own appartement and we were going to live there. But since i told him about it, he told me "as we are going to have our money separated you'll need to pay me rent"....

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Please help me, I've got a moral predicament. I recently moved into a new apartment that is easier to commute to my day job from. Everything has been pretty good so far and the neighbors are of a lot higher caliber than what I've been dealing with since I moved out a few years back. About a week and a half ago I got a knock on my door by the women across the hall from me, she looked upset and asked if she could help me find something she misplaced by mistake in her living room. This seemed odd to me at first but she scooted over to her place and told me she lost her shit somewhere by her couch. I found her little remote thing and went on my way back to my place. I thought it was weird but thought maybe she had some phobia or couldn't bend over or some shit so I didn't think much of it as I went on about my business. So fast forward a day and I get a knock again, same women, this time she dressed up a bit, being a bit friendly and apologizing about bothering me the other day. I invite her inside my place after we start chatting it up outside the hall and I find out she is fucking BLIND, has been for like a decade. Can't see shit, now her actions make sense, I was honestly a bit weirded out but I was friendly and went on our way after some more small talk.

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for the first time in my life I am actually feeling suicidal. I had to put my dog down yesterday, and he was my world. I have no friends or family. Now I am in my quiet apartment with nothing. I keep looking over at his bed expecting to see him. When his dinner time comes Im still expecting him to come up to me and nudge me towards the kitchen. I cannot function without him.

On my way to work today, I saw multiple brick walls and thought of unbuckling my seat belt and flooring the gas into them. I had to leave work because I could not hold it together. I cant do this anymore. This shitty existence is no longer worth living.

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Hey /adv/, I'm on a sublease of an apartment which I haven't been even a month in, and because there was barely space in the fridge (sharing with 5 other guys) I had to put some grape juice I bought in my room, but it happened that the bottle had a leak!!!

I only noticed it a couple days after because I completely forgot about it. The stain is completely dry now. I know grape juice stains are the worst to deal with but I wonder if there's any hope but to replace the carpet.

My room is like 9 feet per 12 feet with some stairs. Replacing this carpet will be way up in the 5 thousand dollars just for my room (because there are carpet with stairs as well).

What would you suggest?

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at one point she told me she wants to turn me into one of those guys that are so fat they cant move. just thinking about this makes me feel like i'm going to pop a blood vessel

I'm fit(ish) and shes cute and seems normal otherwise and its so hard for me to find a girlfriend but this feels like a betrayal. like her normalness was a lie to get me into some kind of relationship that's literally some kind of sick trap. I dont know what to do.

thoughts?

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So there's this rather heavyset girl around my neighborhood who apparently must ask people for money a lot, because I just ran into her again, and she asked for money again. I said no, but I'm thinking... next time I run into her, I want to tell her she'll have to earn it first. I always carry a condom or two, anyway.

Should I even? Is this too scummy? I consider asking random people for money all the time scummy too, so...

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Well, don't laugh at my behaviour. As soon as I turned sober, I realized what kind of mistake I made.

Brief description
>girl obviously likes me, very flirtatious
>i once took an initiative
>she wanted me to be FWB, i refuse and we proceed into relationships
>she says yes because she wants to try, wants me to stay friends if everything falls apart
>i answered "sorry but i cant"
>two months fast forward
>constant nagging, conflicts, etc
>feeling that i walk on eggshells
>i cant be honest anymore, i start to lie, i suppose it's felt
>she says she doesnt love me anymore, it wasn't love for her but sort of game
>i say "ok fine"
>two weeks forward
>wants to be friends
>i refuse, saying that i can't be friends with someone who is still very attractive to me
>she says that now she is a friend with her ex (not me), people stay friends even after disasters
>"so you just forget everything and you're done, YES?"
>"so you only need sex from me, how can we be fwb for now even if we are not friends"
>"you are ready to tolerate humiliations just to fuck me"
>"i think you just want to fuck me and drop"

And the final is
>"i really missed you, but by your replies you fell in my eyes"
>"you're pathetic"

Then I went really fucking mad, being drunk at the same time. I told that I don't want to be friends with someone I find attractive, neither I think I'll be a good friend. Told that at this point I don't care if you think I am complete asshole who only wants sex, I offered -- you just agree or disagree, accept or decline. If you disagree -- please, find new friend and boyfriend, don't involve me, I am sure you have lots of friends. I am 150% sure you'll do completely, absolutely fine without me.

Honesly, sometimes I feel she's very sensible about my wrongdoings. I fucked everything up, yes?
I don't know. Am I bad human being for that? Am I an asshole? Should I just tell that I am sorry for my emotional outburst and go no contact?

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So I started a YouTube channel and it's supposed to be a commentary channel. I uploaded my first video on sunday and by friday I'm uploading a second one. I have 0 subs.

I'm not asking to be followed because I'm not trying to shamelessly self-promote. The problem is that I just finished recording my voice for the second video, and looking at all the popular and funny YT vids that genuinely make me laugh like "Where's my Super Succ?" make me feel like my videos are shitty and unfunny. I already feel discouraged and it hasn't even been a full week since my first upload.

I'm afraid that the videos I'm making are not funny and are just forced in general. How do I overcome this feeling?

Like, I enjoy making them. The thumbnail, the editing, and even the recording (and that's my least liked thing to do) But when I'm done and I look at other content that makes me laugh I feel distraught and start thinking that this channel might just be a huge waste of time.

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Hey Y'all

I just graduated school with a bachelors in Political Science.

I have a few questions:

What jobs should I apply for?
How are my jobs prospect?
What have been your experience with the degree?

I am just kinda nervous, been like a month, and no call back.I have applied to some jobs to work with the Federal government (USA) in addition, I have applied to other jobs on Indeed.

I understand its not a high end degree, but figured a degree will open more doors, then without.

Thanks!

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How can I beef up my Australian internet condom so the feds dont catch me looking at teh lolis. Im already using Tor and a shit VPN.

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>24 years old
>FDNY firefighter
>Did a tour in Afghanistan with the Marines
>All about that /fit/ life
>Good looking
>Really hot girls hit on me
>Am REALLY REALLY nervous when it comes to sex for some odd reason
>Most nights end with me making out with a chick for a while before cutting it off saying something like "We should save this for when we aren't so fucked up on beers".


How do I fix this, I'm afraid my cock isn't big enough (it is), I'm also afraid I can't keep it hard (I jerk off to a ton of fucking porn, so I'm afraid the death grip kills it for me), and just general anxiety

How do I fix this, I've been in firefights and have fought fire inside a burning building, this shouldn't be as much an issue as it is. Thanks in advance. Not to be confused, I've had sex, but when I was in a relationship. Fucking randon chicks at a bar is so anxiety inducing.

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How do I get over a girl that I loved for the last 9 years of my life while living with her and her ex whom she got back together with before I moved in? I now live 3 states away from where I moved without any form of transportation of my own and having to watch them together is sickening.

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Hey adv. How do i tell my parents that I'm happy being single. They are making comments and asking questions.

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Ok so my little brother went on vacation for two weeks. He left me in charge of his two parakeets while he was away, it was the standard water/food monitoring deal. Well, ive been gone for the past two days and got back to find them dead. I picked one up and took a closer look, you know, like maybe they had just passed out or something. I knew I was fucked the moment its limp head fell back. I know for a fact they died of dehydration since the water dish/bowl was bone dry. Im from the southwest so the recent increase in temp along with the lack of water was a death sentence. Its 8:22pm as Im posting this and his flight lands at 10:00 tonight. The nearest pet store is closed and Im already late for the airport as is. I plan to tell him I had to take them to a bird kennel to keep them happy since no one was home while they were away. Im also prepared to tell him that this specific species changes color from time to time due to environmental conditions, (its summer, they turn a summer color..) to explain any differences between the replacement birds and his old ones. If you have any better ideas please lemme hear them. He's only 8 and he looks up to me alot. Help me /adv/, your my only hope.