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I think you're gay anon

>>18597788
Fuck the trap, obviously. If it's cute than it's not gay.

Do god work and fuck the trans

>>18597695
step 1 don't smoke in ur room

>>18597695
You can't. It's very pungent.

Yeah no shit, but any places or things i could put it in

I kind of have the same problem as you, to be frank. I saw a Jordan Peterson video a while ago where he briefly talked about this problem, and it helped me a bit. He said something along the lines of when you're in a group situation, you're not supposed to talk to the whole group, just talk to someone in particular, and that person's reaction will reflect the whole group's reaction. If I find the video in question I'll post it. But try to do that. I don't mean isolating someone and starting a 1 on 1 conversation, but direct your attention to one person at a time. If you can make that person laugh, chances are other people will also smile, even if they don't fully understand what you're saying.

>>18597520
what i usually do in groups is stick to the person i get along with the best and just casually talk to them, when something could be interesting for other people aswell i kinda pick a moment where nobody else is talking so they'll naturally just start listening to you and your friend talking and kinda follow your story if it's any good

hope i helped even a bit and maybe try different groups that share same interests as you, i mean you have to have something you can talk about

>>18597520
if you accept the way you are not talking much and the friends are saying you bore them then you won't have friends for long.

Don't pretend yourself incapable of excitement.

>>18596413
Fuck her

>>18596415
This. Just pull up her dress and fuck her.

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>>18596413
>but you can't just drink all the time

That's where you're wrong, kiddo

I ghost a lot, but it's because I hate sending messages via text and prefer phone calls and voice chats.

It just feels less genuine

people tell me I left them on read all the time but like does every conversation have to last forever say something worth batting back if you want my attention you are words on a screen competing with my life

>>18594573
My read receipts are set to OFF.

>>18594325
>Sometimes you wanted your partner to dressed nice and all but since he's hated fancy stuff it seems like he won't be changed anytime soon.
Have you actually told him this?
I'm pretty thrifty myself and usually buy everyfucking thing secondhand, but if my girlfriend wanted me to look sharp for a date I would do it.

>>18594332
I don't know how to talk to him about it since it could offend him? I thought so for a really long time and I don't want to sound like am judging him or others for the way they dressed

>>18594341
"I would really love if you wore a suit on this date" the next time you go out to dinner

Try and tag along to one of these numerous that your parties always go to.


Also, consider that you may just be an introverted person who doesn't need to go out to have fun.

Society has a tendency to demonize people who stay at home all the time when in reality there's nothing wrong with it. You're just getting manipulated by supposed societal norms that have you thinking there's something wrong with you when in actuality your normal and there's tons of people who are homebodies.

I was the same way op, still kind of am. My problem was that I always felt unwanted, that if someone invited me out it was out of pity. Recently I have been able to shut that mindset out and just learned to say yes. In the past couple months I've been happier than I have been in the past 2 years. What I'm trying to get at is to do anything with anyone, even if you don't find it fun, and eventually you'll be invited out more and more. Also try drinking some alcohol, it always helps me ease up and become more sociable.

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>>18594123
how do i tag along without seeming like a needy weird loser
>c-can i come

>>18594147
what if i dont get invited places?

i have no friends, and the only people i see regularly are coworkers. none have invited me anywhere

i do go to the work socials, but often don't talk to many people. i dont know what to say to add to a group conversation

>>18593115
Do not go OP. No fooling and I have been to Mexico dozens of times and as a white male won't go now. Doesn't matter if its a tourist area or not and especially only knowing the guy 3 months and never met any of his family or friends in Mexico.

Once you are an hot away from the border it is a mostly normal place. The border towns can be full of crime and ghettos though so be careful.
If you fly then you probably wont have any real issues. Be smart and be safe. Dont do anything you wouldn't do in you own country, and make sure you know some Spanish at least. There are plenty of tourist towns that may know English, but ut will help a lot

>>18593115
If you're not attached to your head then by all means have fun

I actually have. It's not very common. The smoke was very harsh. It's not a pleasant herb to smoke. I did feel relaxed from it, slightly, but I find that drinking the tea is all around a more pleasant experience.

Look up herbal smoking blends. Those tend to be way better for smoking.

>>18599206
Do you know any other herb to smoke?

>>18599216
Marshmallow

get into a fighting sport
i recommend grappling

>>18599132

No matter where you go, there you are. You are the problem, not your circumstances. Change who you are if you don't like the circumstances that develop around you because of who you are.

>>18599132
i'd say join the military. the mma thing only makes sense if you actually know how to fight. otherwise you'll just get hospitalized after your first fight and then what

Self Bump

Self bump 2

Last bump

>>18599012
>How do I meet someone like me? Where are places you can go to meet like-minded people?

What do you like to do? If the answer is "stay at home", then it will be hard to meet people like yourself, as hey don't leave their homes either.

Find some activity to do outside the house.

Join a club/ get a hobby
Like model trains or hunting some shit that's how you meet people.....or hard drugs

>>18599020
The main reason why I am asking is because I really don't like staying at home but due to my father I've been practically forced to up until now.

However, I do like seeing movies and playing games. I also enjoy reading

>>18598962
Customer service or food industry, not retail. Nobody seems to like working retail

Working in retail or customer service will make you hate people but it is a good thing to have on the CV, if employers can see you can deal with the public than you can deal with anything.

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>>18598967
I already found a job though, but it doesn't involve interacting with people. On the one hand it's fitting for an introvert like me so I'm not complaining, on the other a job seems like an almost perfect way to put yourself out le there among people and train your social suaveness. Is there another effective way? Maybe clubs? Is toastmasters good?

pic obviously unrelated.

>>18598917
If he's not willing to service you in times he isn't horny, nor to go outside of his comfort zone in bed, then he sounds like a shitty lay. I would create an ultimatum, since you are already considering dumping him, and I would hedge your bets for the relationship.

>>18598932
Fair enough.

>>18598830
They're not meeting you half way because they arent pursuing you irl, either because they aren't attracted to you or because they just don't know any of your irl qualities.

The answer is to make a better dating profile and to start meeting people in 3D more

>>18598830
Oh and if they're complementing you then they're meeting you more than half way. They must be interested in you a bit if this is happening.

You just answer them like you wouls anyone else. Don't be an anxious stand-offish little boy. Just think of a hypothetical cool dude and do what you think he would do, then like magic you become that cool dude

I bullshit out the wazoo with girls. Literally make insane shit up all the time to say and sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't but at least it's me.

Do you have the same problem or only over text? I'm much better in person than over text, and what I've found is that my biggest problem is second guessing. I can't spend all the time I do agonizing over what to text when I'm in person, and so I just go with what I think and be confident about it. I usually force myself anymore to not overthink it and just send.

To a compliment? Compliment back. Say something out of the ordinary, let her know you're paying attention to small details. Sometimes I even do an ironic confidence kind of thing where I get a compliment and I say things like "I know" or "Not even among my best qualities" but for real just bullshit. If you aren't smooth don't try too hard to be it'll only come off weird.