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You're a ticking time bomb and a danger to society. Go seek help before you hurt someone. Takes a lot to disgust a Psych

>>18597747
You should indeed see a psychiatrist OP.
Some of them won't work with your condition, as some of them won't work with others. But no one is going to say to your face wow "you're sick" they'll most likely just refer you to someone in their healthcare network.

Honestly OP, I'm proud of you knowing that it's wrong, and I hope you get help.
I'm rooting for you.

>>18597747

hmm. teenage girls are objectively kind of attractive, in the sense that are are sexually mature or pretty close, so they are shaped the right way. they're just not legal to have sex with until usually 17, or look at photos of until 18, so try to go look for older girls who look a bit young for their age.

the majority of men find teenage girls _attractive_; they just don't _do_ anything about it. in other words "ephebophilia" is normal. it's not hard, and it's not pathological. the law just drew an arbitrary cutoff point somewhere so this is how things turned out. it's not you, it's society, so adapt and deal with it. nbd.

You should do what you want and ignore the naysayers. They don't control your life

>>18597737
Thanks senpai

>>18597739
TIL: 4chan translates f a m to senpai

>>18597729
why does she have to meet your religious criteria? plenty of people who aren't the same religion are happily married
if you love her op which it seems you do then stop being a pussy

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>>18597729
Interesting how religion didn't help you through the rough times yet you feel she will? Consider that OP.

>2017
>still beliebing in jeebus

That's really inappropriate of you to even consider asking of her. If you're not together, you need to let her move on. Become independent from her and find someone new to fill your emotional need for connection. You're using her as a crutch and she gets nothing in return.

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Decent paint job on that space marine with power-fist

As for advice, maybe get a hobby that is physical and will let you vent.

It's a rough deal, man. And I can sorta relate to where you're coming from. I've had some anger issues in my own past and it's a tough balance to maintain.

But hey, that constant worry can be a really good guardian to your anger. You can take some strength from knowing that you are so adverse to hurting another being that it has to count for something. But also be careful, don't worry yourself into a deep frenzy and make the rest of your life worse because you can't cope. That said, don't give up therapy anytime soon because those professionals can help in leaps and bounds if you stick with a good one with a good program. And it never hurts to just have to someone to vent to emotionally.

So that leaves the physical problem. I suggest a hobby that not only will let you get out your excess energy but also learn to control it. For this, I suggest martial arts. It's such a killer workout and you learn infinitely valuable measures of control and balance and if you stick with it you should see major improvements.

Have faith in your ability to walk the line. You will need to find a good balance for everything and each day you'll have to do it for yourself but REMEMBER each day that you're also doing it for the people close to you.

Best of luck, man.

>>18597877
Same dude here with a few more thoughts.

Some time in the near future if things are going well I would suggest opening up to the girlfriend about this stuff because if she cares about you properly even a little then she should be understanding and even helpful. Plus if she knows what you're fighting against each day she might be able to help you through it. And... if not? Then I'm sorry to say that she might not be the one for you. And that is important. If something challenges you every day then you're gonna need the person you'll end up spending all your days with to be able to deal with it as well as you, maybe better than you depending.

Don't rule out medication from a therapist either. It doesn't work for some people but it can save lives with others. At least give it a go when you're comfortable with the idea or you think that you might still need that helping hand each day.

Keep a routine, man. Routine can annihilate some of our biggest faults and draw backs.
Cut down on mood destabilisers such as alcohol and drugs but that should already be obvious to you.

Seriously, look into doing martial arts on the regular. As someone who's done it professionally for over half a decade it is outstanding what kind of effect it can have on ANYONE.

Lastly, the moment you find yourself in the worst situation for your anger-management or mental health, fucking leave that spot, find somewhere and count to 10 (or bloody 100 if you have to), alone and slowly and get yourself together. Do your best to reinsert yourself back to where you were and try to build some confidence just by being in control.

Go for gold. Laters.

Don't wear them after college unless you're just chilling at home or something extremely casual

>>18597659
8 years old is the age limit.

mid 20s for band shirts, early 20s for everything else

I'm a civilian medic. Just man the fuck up and jab them in the arm. Its not hard. Enjoy palpating everyones arms when you meet them too.

>>18597654
Is it really not a problem? Like is it different than getting an IV on yourself

>>18597657

No. Throw that band on. Palpate that vein. Shove that 18/20 gauge in the arm. Occlude it. Throw whatever shitty j-loop or iv line on. Taoe it the fuck dow n. You got it, bud. I believe in you. Id be in as a military medic if I wasnt barred permanently from service.

What about studying something useful that'll help you contribute to society?

>>18597629
That's why I'm considering a trade and am having doubts about university.

But at the same time my dad was an engineer and never earned more than average wage his entire life. I don't know if the trade meme is true or if I'll just be destroying my chances of ever making 60k a year by not going to university.

P.s. It's too late to learn medicine or science at uni because none of my A-levels fit that path. I bought into the "follow you're passion!" meme.

>>18597622
A BIG difference between UK and USA society is that UK employers really don't care what you studied in university, just that you had the brains and discipline to get through it. I personally know of English/history/psych majors working in banking, management, retail corporate office, civil service and politics.

In effect, you have a luxury US students don't have - you can study what you want, and get all the pleasure out of it, without affecting your job prospects at all.

(And UK student debt is about 20% of US costs)

>>18597620
cheat on him and make sure he walks in on you.
or
take him to the "best" in your town. like best burger spot, best fries or best whatever. six flags or disney if you like that and can afford that. make him a "nerdy" cake.
or
offer to have a threesome with him and someone who is hotter then you and dont get jealous.

>>18597647
But anon, I'm his first. I think he has oneitis and doesn't want anyone else but me now. Food could be a good idea, yeah, but don't people generally tend to take a whole day or something to do multiple things? A good dinner is just a part of the day, yes?

>>18597656
maybe make his favorite meal if you can cook breakfast, fuck him, take him to the best lunch in town, dave and busters, get back to his/yours place and his cake and gifts are there. eat, open up gifts, and fuck again

Sounds like you're just bad at blowjobs. Show tits.

Believe it or not, this is how it is for most guys. 5-minute BJs aren't really realistic unless he's a quick shot.

Most guys use that kind of speed and pressure because it's a quick way to get off. Doesn't feel as good as a slow teasing blowjob (not to me at least, anyway). Don't assume you have to have that kind of speed or that you're doing a bad job, trust that he's telling you the truth. The internet has a LOT of misinformation, after all.

>>18597592
my girlfriend still cant get me to cum

>>18597586
Damn, that is pretty autistic

learn the laws of power and use it against him

>>18597586
Tell your boss he's making everyone uncomfortable and not pulling his weight because he's justifying his laziness by some weird book he's been reading.

Your boss will check it out if they're worth a damn. If they do nothing about it, seek another job because this one is ridiculously retarded.

It means you caught the gay, and became a faggot who lets women walk all over him. There's no cure, I'm afraid.

Uhhmmm... you're in love?

>>18597578
Its not love its called an obsession, look it up.

classic mistake. You gotta jam at least three fingers in if you want her to feel loved

>>18597572
that's cause you listed the planets in some shitty random order.

Dude...

That's autistic

They're called freckles....

Don't do weird shit.

>>18597557
What triggered her?

How old is she? Has she ever been to therapy?

>>18597566
stress

>>18597567
she is 29, and no, she has always been normal until now

>be me
>a little while back
>just had sex with girl that I'm trying to not fall super quick for
>we're cuddling on her couch
>she says something I didn't catch
>I ask her to repeat it
>she goes silent
>now it's like she's mad at me

everyone that knows her is telling me to not fall for her cause she's not looking for what I want right now, but its like she likes me like that maybe. what if she said it? what if she said it, I didn't catch it because I was too comfortable and kind of drifting off and now she thinks I'm some asshole that only wants to fuck her. I mean I really want to fuck her, but she makes me feel good. I want to make her feel good. I want to be with her. I want to do stupid cute shit with her that makes other people roll their eyes.

yeah, you're an asshole. you're wasting something nice in a world that isn't nice.

>>18597574
except the more I think about it, this line of thinking is just my heart trying to justify falling for this girl to my brain and not facing facts that she's just not that into me.

>>18597543
>l
You're not obligated to feel anything for her. If you lied to her to get her in bed (lead her on, promised her affection, etc), then yeah you're a fucking asshole and need to seek therapy for being a destructive shithead. But if you did no such thing, then there were no terms attached. You had sex. That's all. Two consenting humans had sex. You owe one another nothing. Move on if you feel nothing for her.

>>18597483
If she wanted to go out with you or talk to you she probably would have she chose to act like that, let it go

>>18597483
Well, since you both already "confessed", I guess there is no point in not to be straightforward now.

Ask her what's the deal in her being evasive when the very previous day she said she wanted you and continue from this. Try not to be inquisitive while at it.

I'm not saying it's gonna work, but personally i'd rather prefer a direct answer than to deal with all the yes/not/maybe bullshit situation you seem to be getting at

she probably sees it as a closed issue now that its out in the open, and really doesn't feel like its ethical.

deal with it.
try and fuck other women.