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Boyfriend suspects me of cheating even though he 'trusts' me 2017-08-07 12:51:27 Post No.18598102
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Sorry if this is long, it's a messy situation.
For context, I'm a shy, timid, principled person. I loved my best friend for a long time, but I decided I'd rather have two good friends and be their bridesmaid than be the person to try to break up a relationship for their own selfish gain. She then cheated on him and they broke up, then we got together afterwards.
We've been together 4 1/2 years and things are great. However, I think things are bumpy where trust is concerned. At the start of the relationship, he straight up asked me if I liked one of our friends, but he'd just been cheated on so that's understandable. A few years later, a different friend made a threesome joke and I played along with it to keep the laughter flowing; my boyfriend got angry at -me- for continuing the joke, not his friend for making the joke.
This week was the worst it's ever been though. I'm good friends with his best friend's girlfriend, so I travelled to hang out with her. My boyfriend and I were then going to travel to spend time with the best friend as his girlfriend was flying to London to see a friend, so they told me to stay overnight on Thursday to save me money and hours of travelling. That meant that on Thursday, it was me and his best friend home alone. Here's what happened:
>Thursday: Boyfriend keeps asking what I'm up to. He's dropped kisses in his texts and he's a lot more abrupt. Later tells me he's having panic attacks, but it's just work.
>Friday: Boyfriend tells me he hasn't slept, still short, unromantic texts checking up on me. He arrives at the best friend's house and confesses to me he thinks I've cheated on him. He uses the line "It's not rational and I trust you, but the thought of you two together makes me panic". We talk it through and I think everything's okay.
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>Saturday: Boyfriend gets shitfaced drunk and passes out for 20 minutes. During this time, I tell the friend he's passed out and I go to take my makeup off. When my boyfriend wakes up, he demands to know what I was doing in the 20 minutes he was passed out - he didn't trust me. Also says other miscellaneous hurtful shit to me.
>Sunday: Confront him about the way he treated me. He cries for two hours and I catch him looking up ways to kill himself.
I don't know what to do at this point. He knows how principled I am. He knows how loyal I am. He knows how much I love him. Yes his girlfriend dicked him over nearly five years ago and that sucks, but I thought that after so much time passing and knowing how much I hate cheating, this wouldn't be an issue.
I mentioned being timid at the start. This is important because I have recurring nightmares where I'm a beaten housewife. I totally have the personality to be one and I can see myself being one one day. Now that I know that hanging out with other guys is giving him panic attacks, I can totally see myself not wanting to hang out with anyone male out of fear of hurting him - that's not healthy.
I just don't know what to do or how to proceed with this situation. I don't know how to win or how to be helpful here. I need help.
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>>18598102
>friend made a threesome joke and I played along with it
Do you have any idea how bad this sounds? You must have a habit of over the top sex speak in public with other men to go here. No wonder your bf worries.
Having said that I see no problem on the surface with you staying overnight with the bf of your friend unless you aren't telling us about the time or times you crossed the line with the guy.
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>>18598116
Our friend came to visit us because he lives out of town and hadn't seen us in a while. Once he got comfortable in the house he said "So...threesome?". We all laughed and I said "Do you think you're here for our witty conversation?". I always found it a bit off-balance that it was fine for his friend to say he wanted to sleep with me, but not for me to turn the awkward joke into a joke about us being boring.
As for the best friend, this was actually the first time we'd been alone without my boyfriend being there. I was pretty nervous about it because I'm quiet and he's quiet, but it worked out okay. We were saying a few minutes before my boyfriend arrived how excited we were for him to arrive because conversation is always natural with him and there's never much dead air.
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Is breaking up via text a horrible idea 2017-08-07 12:34:25 Post No.18598085
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Is breaking up via text a horrible idea
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Seeing a girl who live 40km away from me
Oxytocin has worn off and no longer feel attracted.
Should I be man drive over and manually break her heart?
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>>18598085
pretty rude but how long you going out with her? if just a few times then it's ok, maybe
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Prolly 6 weeks now
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If you want a clean break-up, you'll do it in person.
If you don't care about how much you hurt them and care more about washing your hands of it, go ahead and do it by text. It is a certified dick move unless the girl is crazy.
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How do I get my boyfriend to wash 2017-08-07 12:20:49 Post No.18598059
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How do I get my boyfriend to wash
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2017-08-07 12:20:49
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On the few times it is him that initiates I get turned on to begin with and then the smell is so awful I have to finish by going through the motions and trying not to cry. He showers once a week and when he does he doesn't seem to pay any special attention to his balls, because even after a shower there is this awful unbearable stale cheese smell.
I love him and I'm crying writing this. I've already tried to gently tell him that i'd like if he showered twice a week but he just sees it as me not accepting him the way he is. Also, he's really busy with work and he doesn't see why he should take 20 minutes out of his day to clean himself. I am the most sexually frustrated person on earth. You think you are, because you aren't having sex right now, but I live with an attractive person who I'm in love with and I can't enjoy sex with him because his junk smells like rotting food
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>>18598059
>I've already tried to gently tell him
Not good enough. If you want change then you need to crack the fucking whip and flat out tell him to shower more. Tell him it's disgusting.
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>>18598068
this. and then if he still doesn't, then YOU dont shower for a week or two so he can know what its like.
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But-but, what if you live with an attractive female that's always in pain, always upset, never in the mood, and showers weekly?
At least you can have sex in the shower.
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My Girlfriend is acting like a spoilt child
>Been together 3 years
>In the honey moon phase we went out constantly and did fun things. Moved out together and started to calm down
>I always knew she had a grumpy side to her but it's getting harder to snap her out of it
>I've saved the majority of our cash for a mortgage
>I've told her she needs to learn to drive before I go through with it (she's 25) because we can't afford the kind of place I want in our area
>Only moving 10 miles out
>Keeps throwing a tantrum when I tell her she needs to have a driving lesson...she books them few and far between
>Keeps complaining all the pressure is on her (bare in mind I've been working 60 hour weeks to save £12,000 while she's contributing £2500)
>Went to go open a joint account today and the appointment was early
>She got the hump because she had to wake up
>Was silent in the car the entire time
>Barely spoke at the bank
>Was happy when it was done but got angry again when I bought her food because it wasn't what she wanted
>We hadn't even discussed food I just got her favourite and she didn't want it
>Complaining like a child that she didn't get a choice in food
>Silent on the way home
>Fucking ate it anyway and is now acting like nothing happened
Little things like this keep happening. What's more she's put on weight since we got together and she's self aware of it and gets angry, but doesn't have the will power to go gym continuously.
I still love her, but I do consider just telling her to fuck off sometimes and leaving her.
I feel I spoiled her too much in the beginning and once it all calmed down and I had other priorities in life she's angry when she doesn't get her own way. But when I look at it, she's 25 and hasn't done anything with her life. No ambition to even learn to drive, or learn simple skills like cooking.
I just don't know what to do.
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>>18598045
Read the first sentence, and didn't even need to read any of the rest. Breakup with her OP or enjoy years of a shitty relationship
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sounds like a leech to me, especially when she has no ambitions, got fat and became grumpy when you've been together.
if that's not a leech idk what is
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OP, my good anon, dump her.. It's time to stop..
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>start talking to girl that works at gym
>she ends up being in my uni classes
>we tlak more, add each other on social media, hang out at the gym and uni
>she gets really touchy
>tells me shes seeing this other guy
>not really bothered because I was never really after her
>starts to message me asking me to come to the gym or uni etc
>tell her I have uni work and cant
>she sends a message "your sad."
>ignores me and my messages
What is her motive...I dont understand why she dosen't understand I mean she has a guy...she has showed me messages and pictures of her and him...there videos of her and him
Is there something I am missing here?
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>>18598028
You could be the alpha make here OP. Maybe she sees you as a better potential partner than her current bf, and tries to get your affection and attention, but when you don't reciprocate she goes to her backup, beta make bf
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>>18598028
She's a cunt OP and just wants you for an admirer. Don't play her game she has a bf. If you fuckers would stop chasing girls like this the incentive for them to collect admirers while in a relationship would stop.
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>>18598028
>she gets really touchy
wow sounds like you didn't wanna get laid, so no loss right?
she wanted to get laid you didn't relationship over
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How to not being a beta male 2017-08-07 11:55:48 Post No.18598023
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How to not being a beta male
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2017-08-07 11:55:48
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Were you a virgin beta male? How did you became a human being?
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:(
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im like half beta, half alpha. i became a human being when my mom's egg was fertilized by my dad's sperm
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>>18598023
Are you a "beta"? Why do you think that? Like, what do you to call yourself that.
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>top of my first year undergraduate class
>not socially awkward so get to know the chads
>although i prefer being alone and only with a one or two people not on my course to chill with
>make a group chat with a brainlet and other relatively intelligent coursemate
>we help eachother out
>other people on course also ask for my aid in difficult or just plain basic areas if you actually spend 15 minutes studying
>dont want to help out everyone
>but still do as not to be a douche, but i retract giving out my entire knowledge (but still seen as intelligent)
So my question(s):
1. Do i now just ignore peoples crys for help i could hardly say i hang out with?
2. Hardly hung out with the ppl on the gc (only two ppl, excluding me) but created on understanding that we trade info to get better grades on course- this gc was created by the brainlet. Do i still help?
3. I dont want to help as itll increase my competition and/or create a cycle, dont like my class, feel used (unless i like them/""friend"", or they are just stupid) Is this bad? I want to persue a Phd
4. I got 4.0+ in burgerland. Do i lie about what i got to get off the radar, although some already know my previous work
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Note: im from a UK uni. If it makes a difference culturally..
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>>18598014
You have to reject them in a way that makes them feel good OP. For example, if someone asks you for help just say "sorry anon, but I'm watching game of throws later today. Did you get to the part where X event happens? It was great!". Another example, "sorry anon, but I have to grab lunch. I'm super hungry , and X is on the menu today, one of my favorites, and definitely don't want to miss out!"
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>>18598032
Awesome!
But most of them are via text messenger apps. How do I go about it on this plarform?
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Are they going to sue me for defamation? 2017-08-07 11:46:31 Post No.18598004
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Are they going to sue me for defamation?
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2017-08-07 11:46:31
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I worked at this local supermarket where everyone knows/famous around the area. I don't work there anymore but i'm wondering if i can expose my experience and what's going on inside the business in google review or somewhere. The owner tried to discuss my sex life, asked me if im a virgin. The manager pulled my leggins to see my underwear. All employees were making rumors about me That i slept with customers/ owners sons.
Are they going to sue me for defamation if i post my story about them ?
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You can post anonymously, right? And if you accuse them do you have any proof?
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Well fist, keep in mind that the truth is an absolute defense to any claim of defamation. So long as what you're saying is true, and you're not making things up that aren't true or never happened, then there you go.
Now, that being said, while the truth is an absolute DEFENSE to a defamation claim, it doesn't prevent the lawsuit. In other words, they can still claim defamation, serve you, and drag you through the process of having to defend yourself. So you might want to think about this one...
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Let it go... Let it go...
>"anon, you better get a job!"
>"what about subway?"
>"you won't be able to handle there"
>mfw
so, where should i get a job? i live in australia, if that helps
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>>18597992
Don't fucking listen to your cunt parents get a job at subway mate it's not that hard to make subs. They train you and all that good shit.
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>>18597992
Supermarket, hardware or other big store stock clerk
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Wrangle crocodiles. Just avoid stingrays and you should be fine.
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Do women want to be gangbanged? 2017-08-07 11:37:28 Post No.18597982
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Do women want to be gangbanged?
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To my male brain, that sounds like a great sexual experience. I'd love to gangbang some drunk whore on a pinball machine.
But what if women want it? What if my current GF wants it? Isn't it obvious that 5 dicks are better than one?
How can you be an alpha male who's confident in himself when you know that your gf always wants more dicks and is not satisfied by you?
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Sensuality is more appealing than senseless debauchery for most girls
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>>18597982
Some do, some don't. I don't because I think it's filthy, degrading and degenerate
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>>18597982
It depends on the girl
Those who do aren't worth shit
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In love with best friend 2017-08-07 11:24:45 Post No.18597968
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how do I deal with being in love with my best friend? shes currently dating someone he seem to make her happier than I could so I'd feel bad for breaking up their relationship even thought I probably could because theirs always been some chemistry between us
what the fuck am I supposed to do? I'm in pain everyday
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>>18597968
cut off all contact.
never in the history of mankind has a girl dumped her bf to be with a 4chan regular.
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>>18597978
happened to me, but she was in crisis with bf and i hadnt started /b/rowsing yet
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>>18597980
Unfortunately for OP, she seems to be pretty satisfied with her current partner.
Something will come to brighten our shitty lives, r-right?
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I met a guy back in February I started seeing recently (June), he's very open and honest about his life with me, including a lot about exes. However, he still has a lot of them on facebook and instagram and interacts with them. (Mainly stupid videos or photo likes.) The most recent one I think texts him on and off (general at shows since she does photography), but all of that is making me really uncomfortable. We haven't made anything official yet, should I take this as a red flag or ignore this?
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nu male who keeps his harem around in case of emergencies
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Have you talked to him about that yet? I have a friend who's a bit like that, but still very loyal and caring to the girl he's currently dating. Definitely talk to him before anything else
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Talked to him one time, i forgot the exact situation but he basically said I only see one girl and then said he understood my paranoia based on my previous boyfriend. I don't know if this would bother me less if we were official, so far we're doing the see where it goes thing.
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/adv/, how do you figure out what career is right for you. Everything except for video games is really boring. Right now I'm 20. And no, I am not depressed.
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>>18597822
Hey dude! I am 20 as well and dunno what to do forward either. I am joining this boat.
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What career paths have you tried so far?
Video games could be a good choice tho, BUT remember making them is different than playing
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>>18597832
Good to know that I'm not alone, didn't find anyone irl in a similiar situation
>>18597833
I haven't tried much really. My mother is a local politician, so 2 summers I did some paperwork job for her office. I know these kinds of jobs aint for me now.
I did 1 year of an engineering degree, but again, I was just bored out of my goddamn mind and couldn't bring myself to do anything.
Right now I work as a barback in a local bar with some hipsters, that is pretty fun I must say, the pay is ok. It is a little taxing because I work overnight and sometimes feel like shit the next day. I can't imagine myself doing this job till I'm 30 though.
I know that I don't want to keep one job for too long. I know it sounds dumb, but when I keep doing the same thing over and over again it just gets boring over time and I fell like I'm stagnating. Ideally I would like to have an "action" job i.e. running around a bar. Creative jobs such as vidya development sound fine as well, but I never did any programming.
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What's the safest way to torrent things?
As in, best way to avoid legal trouble, and best way to avoid getting hacked.
Any help would be much appreciated.
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You are too retarded to be allowed to torrent anon
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>>18597803
nigger
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>>18597800
Use somone else's WiFi and spoof your MAC.
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I've been to therapy, day treatment (intense therapy), am on meds for depression, anxiety, and adhd, and I still don't feel "normal".
But recently I've been discovering that when I drink alcohol, like enough to get buzzed, that I feel a lot better and the closest I have ever felt to normal. I'm normally very scared to do anything and thats been the biggest source of my unhappiness in life, so many missed opportunities because I was scared. Alcohol removes this.
My problem is obviously I can't be buzzed all the time. What should I do so I can feel this way all the time and actually live my life?
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Also random question but what does it mean if a shy girl you're texting mirrors your texting schedule? IE: If you start responding after a few hours, she does too. And she matches the level of emotion in your text. Does it mean she likes you? And/or is insecure? Or is she just masterfully playing her cards to not overextend.
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>>18597778
I don't have depression or anything so serious but I can relate to what you're saying. Beer is life. Wish I could drink it more often. I'm don't know what to suggest as far as solutions