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>>18652253
Don't think about what might or might not happen later that night, focus on the date itself.. you'll see it then and there

>>18652253
Implying normal people use tinder.

Ok you have a chance.
Drinks usually lead to sex in my experience.
She has definitely considered sex with you. It is either a yes or no.
If she is willing to meet for drinks assume yes.
So it's is all yours to fuck up :)

>>18652251
OP here, I was thinking about volunteering to do something to help the environment. I really like the mountains so I was thinking about finding some volunteer work along those lines.

maybe this will help my depression.

>>18652251
Yeah man, volunteer. There was a time in my life where I had the same things, only incredibly less successful. Had a job, had looks, did classic "stuff with friends" stuff. Work seems to think everything I do is great and gives rewards and praise and promotions, but I couldn't be anything other than hopelessly depressed.

Found a trash girl and made her mine, and I'm more depressed than ever. However, I get to volunteer once or twice a month and its the best feeling going for me.

I'm not gonna say it will be a cureall, or provide any long term relief, but its a damned good start. Doing things for other and expecting nothing but the good vibes in return works wonders for the soul.

>>18652250

Everyone here is an autistic virgin. You didn't know that?

Working out doesnt solve all your problems. No one ever said that. What it DOES do is make your healthier, stronger, better looking, more confident, and overall happier.

You can wallow in your own shitpile like a pathetic faggot and do nothing. Or, you can take steps, even small ones, to better yourself. Your call.

What a lot of people here don't wanna hear is that not all problems are solvable. If you've followed every piece of advice possible, there's only 1 answer left.

>>18652236
L O N D O N
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Then stop trying to get alogn with people, Accept yourself.

You don't hate people, you hate some of them. That may be the majority but you most def don't hate all of them. Keep searching. You've been on like five dates and decided dating sucks? Give it another chance

Make sure you have enough arguments, read a lot.

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>>18652217
What kind of opinions?

Also:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KMj9wsrPE5U

>>18652217
That is a good thing, don't change it

>>18652197
I'm not the kind of shit that harasses women I can't get, nor will I pretend to understand them, but from what I can tell they're expecting to be ignored and are just looking for a rise. If she ignores them, all is as it should be and life moves on. If she gives them what they look for, and react to their shittalk with a little hate of her own thats when those fucklords lose it and do nasty things.

Yeah I really dont get it.

If a girl is even slightly attractive, then this is gonna happen when going out alone.

I didn't realize it because I was with someone for almost 4 years, but after we split and I started going out by myself dudes started harassing/making passes at me left and right.

She has her pepper spray, and most of the times the harassment doesn't escalate beyond cat calling. As long as she's careful and especially alert if she has to go out alone at night, she should be fine.

>>18652197
You're a fucking loser.

By getting a girlfriend.

>>18652186
Pros and cons to both. What are you looking for in a gf?

I've struggled with this myself sort of. Do you want sex, or a gf?
You see, for a long time I thought I wanted to casually sleep around with a variety of women, but then I realized,
I don't want to sleep with someone I'm not close to on at least a friendly level, it was the idea of being wanted that I liked.
I don't even like most people, let alone most girls. But when I got a girlfriend, it was amazing.
We shared something special with each other, our world views, our emotions, our bodies. Time together. All of those things.
I don't regret it in the slightest, even though it ended. I'd never share myself in that way unless I'm sure I wouldn't.

What you gotta ask yourself is: do I just want to be desired, or do I want a relationship? They're different.
Maybe what you should be asking yourself is: is there someone that I'd like to share my life with?
I'm not saying to meet people with the intention of making them your gf or some weird shit like that.
Just go out and make friends in an honest manner. If someone ends up rubbing you that way, be up front about it though.

>>18652175
>>18652175
Any time I suggest that she's been emotionally and psychologically abusing me she doesn't take it seriously and just laughs and sometimes sarcastically asks if I'm a girl. She's deny this if she read it too but I fucking have a good memory. I'm not fucking retarded. She constantly fucking denies everything, I don't know if she's legitimately trying to convince me it didn't happen or it's some sarcastic rhetorical device she thinks she's entitled to in the moment due to her being upset or something, as if she knows that I know it's bullshit and she knows that I know she knows it's bullshit but she says it anyway because she thinks she deserves to for something I did in the past or for how I'm failing to handle the situation or something

Honestly the most I think about it she's fucking beyond psychotic but she denies it because she can in an instant stop being psychotic and start being reasonable and factual when it comes to enforcing things I'VE done against HER but NEVER the other way around. It's like sometimes she acts like she's LITERALLY an 8 year old spoiled brat arguing with her dad, and then other times she's a poor innocent little girl who I've wronged and I feel bad, and other times she's a strong independent woman who can fuck anyone she wants and she doesn't owe anyone any niceness, especially me.

What the FUCK was going on in her brain

news flash - you will never get closure from a manipulator. you will only ever get more manipulation.

cut your losses dude and move on. any other tactic will only fuck your head up more.

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>>18652175

Closure is a myth. Its a myth our brain creates to avoid facing the reality that sometimes we will never understand the genesis of our pain. Every day people's lives are completely turned upside down with no warning or explanation and regardless of that fact our only option is to do our best to overcome it.

What you need is therapy, not closure. You need therapy to undo not only the effects of the emotional abuse but whatever happened in your life to make you attracted to someone like that. Understand her or getting and explanation is not going to get you any less closer to healing yourself. Finding out why she swung the knife won't close your wounds.

Sometimes suffering remains a mystery, anon. Focus on protecting yourself from evil, not trying to dig up the root of it. Nothing will be more disappointing then waking up one day and realizing that you never moved on with your life because you were waiting for an answer that never came to a question that never mattered.

>>18652148
Go to a job center or find aide in your city. Learn what it means to be a pleasant person and find a job. Pursue an education. Take up a trade. If you start now you will make good money, but you have to be willing to take action to change your life. Are you willing to do that or are you going to sit in your basement eating pizza all day?

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>>18652161
>Are you willing to do that or are you going to sit in your basement eating pizza all day?

The picture just represents what I've basically been doing my entire life, I do have my own place.

I know for something to change I have to venture outside, which I haven't done since late June, except for when I need to get groceries to not starve. I feel like I can't connect with people, I've struggled with depression for most of my life and been to a clinic for about a year for it. It hasn't helped me beyond getting settled on my own.

When I go and look for a job I've been denied on the basis that I look depressed, people don't recognize my capacities because they're not validated through any diploma or certificate, or just ask questions about my past. I can hardly put in there that I've been depressed most of life and been to a clinic for it and wanting to look dependable at the same time. I'm really starting to think frauding my way out of past is the only way. Ofcourse I'm going to have to validate myself through official channels, but I have to have something to occupy myself with each day.

>mfw I wrote out a whole post, but the captcha fucked up and I lost it.

>>18652237
>The picture just represents what I've basically been doing my entire life

No one cares.

>I know for something to change I have to venture outside

Then stop putting it off. You could have been applying for jobs the last two months. Every day you stay inside is a day wasted you lazy parasite.

>I feel like I can't connect with people

So does everyone else. You're not special. They still go to work and you need to do the same.

>I've struggled with depression for most of my life

Not an excuse to be lazy.

>When I go and look for a job I've been denied on the basis that I look depressed

Smile. Be pleasant. Friendly. Fake it like everyone else. It's not hard to do it 8 hours a day.

>people don't recognize my capacities because they're not validated through any diploma or certificate

That's tough shit. Unless you have something to show for your education why should they hire you?

>just ask questions about my past

How did you respond?

>I can hardly put in there that I've been depressed most of life and been to a clinic for it and wanting to look dependable at the same time

No one can dipshit. They want someone reliable, not emotionally unstable who's going to call in sick because he's too sad to go into work.

>I'm really starting to think frauding my way out of past is the only way

It's not.

That's still a good idea. It's morally reprehensible but use it as a last resort.

>Ofcourse I'm going to have to validate myself through official channels, but I have to have something to occupy myself with each day.

There's tons of things you could be doing. You're lazy, have no motivation, and don't want to make the effort. Is there any job centers nearby in your state or province?

You could be writing or improving upon your resume and CL. Brush up on your social skills. If I see someone's depressed I wouldn't hire them because it's an obvious sign they aren't serious about doing what it takes to secure the position. Go job hunting. DO something.

http://www.healthline.com/health/nose-fracture#causes2

Be less of a fatass

>>>/co/
>>>/g/

they might help too

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Rest of that shit would be better done in photoshop and would vary comic to comic if not page to page. Do your research on how to physically scan things and the rest can be done whenever

>>18652094

/g/ usually tells me to fuck off to /a/. I'll give /co/ a try, too.

>>18652095

I had a feeling this was the case. But an online scanner class (lynda.com) claimed it always better to have the right settings when scanning versus fixing a million mistakes later (such as dust filtering).

>>18652050
maybe hit the beach or something?

Make white children and don't be a dirtbag

>>18652050
Fart on the Armenians in Glendale.

quit weed

fill your life with something that's not weed

get out of the house

>>18652240
I don't think you understand addiction

>>18652036
Pretty sure there are like programs on how to stop smoking like smoke a bit less everyday until you stop completely etc if you want it bad enough and with a good program I'm sure you can do it

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>>18652032


1. Whatever guilt or anger she feels about not liking you is irrelevant to the fact that she doesn't like you. You like her and she doesn't like you back. Internalize that information and act accordingly. You can't help her deal with the guilt of not liking you and you shouldn't even try.

2. Not liking you is not called being friendzoned, its called being rejected. I'm sorry you got rejected but if you're sticking around and pretending to be her friend in the hopes that she eventually changes her mind about you is no one's fault but your own.

3. Lastly, if you're confused about what she meant then you need to ask her, not a bunch of virgins on the internet that know nothing about either of you. Get in the habit of being direct and concise with the women in your life now before you grow up to become a full fledged doormat.

She's a dirtbag

>>18652032
>What does it mean when a girl says she feels bad that she doesn't the same way for me as I do for her?

What else could it mean, you fucking putz?

"Hey I like you"
>I'm sorry I don't feel the same way :(
"So... does that mean you REALLY REALLY like me back? :D"

Get a fucking grip, lol.