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Hey /adv/. I'm 19 and my standards are really high for my age. I'm trying to find someone for a long term relationship and I don't know if there's a way I should go about this.

I've been on a lot of dates but I dont seem to be attracting women who want long-term. I don't try to tie anyone down and I don't talk about the future.

Can I get some advice?

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>20 years old
>Have always felt terribly different from other human-beings I've met in this world
>Could only really connect to one person on a deep level back in High-school
>Pray this is all in my brain and due to inexperience, but most people under 40 can't tell what I'm thinking at all

I've never been close to another human being in this world outside of my family, and I have a gripping fear that my life my remain this way until I'm dead.

I can't really talk to either of my parents, and I could only speak with my sister. Even she, despite my intense love for her, started to disconnect from me as time wore on.

Is life just hard for certain people?

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So there was a time when I was about 14-16, my Dad had tried stuff that I don't want to talk about without my consent and even caught him recording me while I was naked eventually I break down and was foolish enough to tell my Mom, and she told my dad and who knows who else and they all think I'm a liar and ""psycho"" except for my Dad cause he knows what he did. This led me to being even more depressed and fucked and that's when I met this guy on a game and I fell absolutely love blind cause I wasn't mentally stable enough to know he's a piece of shit too. That's when he kept asking me for perverted pics as ""proof of my love". I ended up sending him a pic of my breast in a bra and after that I felt so terrible and even more dirty and tainted and I ended up even more depressed and anxious, I broke up with him immediately and I didn't eat anything or do anything for weeks I was so scared and angry and I hated myself so much. (part 1/4)

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Hey /adv/

I'm about to go to a uni where i know no one, one could call it a fresh start. During the first week there are introductory sessions and sign-up stuff etc etc and then there are parties in the evenings. What should i expect from this week and more generally what should i expect from uni in the social aspect (is it any different from high school??)

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A week ago I stopped going to work because I'm an idiot. I've had two job interviews since last week(one of them was exactly a week ago) but I haven't got a reply. I got around 280$ on my bank account and I'm supposed to pay for college tomorrow. Is it possible to get my job back or randomly dissapearing means im fired.

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What's the best way to break up with someone? I'm in an LDR and I've realized that this relationship isn't right for me. I've never broken up with someone before. Should I wait until the next time they come down or should I go to them?

I don't want to do it over text because that would be fucked up. But we already don't talk on the phone or anything so it'd be weird of me to call out of the blue.

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Hey /adv/
been dating a guy a couple years younger than me for the past almost 4 months (im 22yrs, hes 19).
He is in on probation and has a lot of time over his head if shit hit the fan.
He lives with a sort of adoptive father who is the weed plug for the area; uses my bf to sell/run weed (and a few times coke) with little to no risk to himself. At this point I'm moving into this household under the pretense that he stops selling for him so I don't risk losing him. He has told me a couple of times he would stop and has for a good while. But after agreeing with me that it makes no sense for him to sell weed and instead get a steady job he still is planning to sell at the simple request of the dad. I generally can't trust him anymore regarding any of it and after going through his phone on a suspicion (very protective of his while I am very open about mine) I found more plans to continue selling.
I confronted him this morning about it and he agreed to stop again. He said he doesn't want to have responsibilities yet.

I just need help, I want to leave him but I really do love him and really only care about his well-being. I know he loves me too but I can't handle not trusting him and being lied to.

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A little greentext to put my situation into context

> 21
> Male
> In College
(Large college but not known for its social life)
> Generally an average person, looks/personality are pretty good overall
> genuinely socially competant and unfraid of talking to strangers

Now that you get that, onto my cry for help.

Like I said, I'm in college for a good degree and an internship to job prpgram already accepted at an industry I very much want to join. My problem now though, is that i have two years left of college until I graduate.

I'm a good enough person, lazy, but I have a job and do well in school. Somewhat into weed, but more on that later. Only issue here is that I have a TERRIBLE FUCKING SOCIAL LIFE FROM THE PROXIMITY OF MY ROOMMATES.


How do I describe my roommates?

Well, I guess we go to greentext:
> They are the same age, all men and average types
> All in college with me in freshmen year

In the span of two years as we are starting our Junior (3rd) year

> two have dropped out citing their desire to just "enjoy life mane a degree doesnt mean nothin I can get promoted at Whole Foods" or a variant similar
> third "roommate" as I refer to him is just a guy central to our group, and as such he's always hanging out over at our place
> That "roommate" is now considering dropping out as well
> Never smoked weed until one of them got us all into it, I know this is my own fault but all they do is smoke now so it makes it hard to quit fully.

Essentially I've gotten myself stuck in this tiny social circle, I only have acquantinces or vague friends outside of this shitty little circle of almost all NEETS


How do I escape?

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So I've posted on here a little , but this is really my first post for advice , so I was dating a girl for about a year , My friends and hers thought we had a awesome relationship but it was getting kinda stagnant we didn't do anything together much and we decided to break up , I heard that about a week or so before we decided to break up she was talking to other guys and I kinda called her a cheat but that was a lie and I get horrible about it and she hated me for about a month or so and we both moved on , but this year we have a few classes together and she started texting me and stuff talking about us being freinds and starting clean , and we started talking but , it's turned into her never starting the convo or continuing it , almost me talking to a brick wall , and I don't know what to do , she ignored my texts for a week and I was like what gives and she texted back in a few seconds ohh sorry I forgot I think she's trying to be passive aggressive but I do value her as a person. /adv what should I do , should I end it and never talk to her agian or just come clean and talk to her about this ? Any help will be appreciated

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>not been outside in days.
>"hey, I should probably go buy groceries.
>put on the only set of clothes that fit me, I look like shit.
>waddle to the store.
>run into some dude that used to be my friend, simply see eachother and mutually say "hey".
>day fucking ruined, already want to leave.
>try to pay with card.
>isn't fucking working.
>"you'll need to use the machine outside and get cash"
>go outside and get cash.
>cashier has scanned all my shit and bagged it, just need to pay.
>pay for it.
>as I leave the store, the alarm goes off.
>dude searches my bag to make sure i've not stolen anything.
>tells me people usually steal steaks ( i bought two)
>o-oh o-okay.
>leave
>flustered, feel like shit.
>walking home I walk past a girl I used to be friends with.
>and then I walk past a guy I used to be best friends with.

I want to kill myself.

This life has been too long.

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Gonna eat a 160mg edible tonight, what am I in for? Its my first time with edibles but I was an avid smoker in the past and have also done acid twice

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I went to bed last night at 2:00am and woke up today after 3:00pm. When I don't have responsibilities I often sleep for 10 to 14 hours at a time.

Why doesn't my body just wake up naturally after 6 to 8 hours of sleep? Is there something wrong here?

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I love pics like this, anyone have any more?

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Am i fucked for life if I did really, really badly for a semester?

I started off last year and got a 3 GPA in my first semester. My second semester my true self showed up again and I got like a 0.8 GPA. It's obviously set me back a lot already since there's classes I have to retake but will future employers look at it and go "no fuck you" even if I get my shit back together in the future?

Tomorrow I start semester 3 and I only have 13 credit hours and I'm hoping to use that to get my GPA back up. If I don't graduate before I'm 24 though I'm going to just straight kill myself. (I'm 20 now, some people even graduate at fucking 21)

My life is a mess, I was given everything and am so incredibly privileged and I just squander it.

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Guys, I was out drinking with a friend that is also my GF friend and she told me some things while drunk. She told me that I got used as a rebound. My GF even slept with her ex two weeks before we were oficial.
This friend also told me that she was always posting on social media, trying to show her ex she moved on. She took me to places she thought he might be. It was always about trying to makes him jealous.
I'm with her for over a year now, the friend said I should forget It, because now she really loves me.
I don't know how to feel about this. Any advice? Any people with similar situations?