For anybody who's been diagnosed with anxiety, what is the diagonisis and what happens during therapy sessions? How do you get back on track?
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I was never "diagnosed". But I do occasionally go see a therapist for it. During the talk therapy I do with him, instead of just having me vent, he actually tries to teach me different ways to counter the issues I'm having.
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And how do you counter them?
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Housemate is a hideous parasitic cunt whose mum kicked out and has attached itself to us for the past 6 years. Didn't even start paying rent until about 2 years in. (landlord's friend). When I confronted it about bills, it got sassy and mouthy. The levels of entitlement are sociopathic. It relies on people being too polite or awkward to confront it, and it's this attitude that allows it to get away with a lot of shit in life.
It has a penchant for stealing and acting dumb when confronted about it. Leaves piles of dirty shit around and doesn't replace stuff when it breaks them. I've tried to convince the landlord to kick the cunt out but landlord caves after it grovels and grudgingly agrees to chip in for rent.
It also likes to blast its shitty games/music loud as fuck over its shitty ghetto sound system it probably jacked from some car. Legit noise pollution. Hard to relax, hard to concentrate on anything.
When I confront it, it will turn down the volume, but passive agressively turns it all the way back up the next day. Don't want to have to go over everyday to ask this dipshit to stop being a dipshit. Landlord thinks it's not a big deal. Moving out in the meanwhile is not an option for me.
Entertaining fantasies of finally giving this cunt a taste of its own shitcake after all these years.
Any suggestions to do so in stealth?
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kill him
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Why can't you move out?
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>>18122922
Does he ever leave the house? You could short out the power in his room.
You could also fuck with the speakers in his sound system.
Also maybe subtly scratch his video game discs slowly over time.
I need help chilling the fuck out. Lately I've been feeling really on edge. Like I overreact to small things, raise my voice, get into pointless arguments and have thoughts of violence.
What do, /adv/?
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First off, you should rule out any physical reasons for increased grumpiness.
It might be as simple as you're sleep deprived, or you're simply not getting enough vitamin D or B12 or something.
Otherwise, there is an underlying issue you need to address. Something is bothering you, and making you stressed, even in the back of your mind, and it's causing you to have a short temper. So, you need to identify that. Are you stressed about.... lack of a girlfriend? poor grades? family life? your job? worrying about the future? etc etc.
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not op but dealing with something similar. I'm overall very disappointed with how my life is going on. I'm 19, my GPA is bad, never had a job or got in a relationship, no driver's licence and I can't get any joy from doing certain hobbies. I've tried making music and drawing but I can't seem to stick to it. I want to change my diet but I'm not sure how to.
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Me too I'm just getting so mad at the small basic shit it's killing me
First off let me say i think its a good thing when a man has a GOOD relationship with his mother, I think its a good indication how he will treat you. but HOLY SHIT man.. We been together over 1 YEAR, And this has been bugging me for awhile and getting on my nerves legit every time his mother comes calling i am dropped like a piece of trash, even when we have plans i get stood up. He can't even tell his mother "another time" when we have plans. It drives me crazy.. HE IS 21?! She goes through his stuff in his room & looks through his things and i found this so weird! I am younger than him and my parents would never dare invading my privacy & going through my things, So i finally said something to him and he said it is weird and irritates him but he doesn't stand up to his mother? She is so attached to her son & what pisses me off the most HE is so attached to her too! She babys him like no tomorrow! & he listens on every single one of her commands like a puppy dog. He will ditch me just to go to the grocery store with her or to his families gatherings (no special occasion, because that would be understandable) Or just to go to a bunch of stores for no reason, When he ditches me i ask him, Where are you going, "IDK" what are you getting? "IDK" then why are you going?? "because my mom told me to" Ok, so i always lose to his mother is always #1 in a mans life i get that... But this is hurtful when it happens like ever fucking day lmaoo. Or when we have plans. It doesn't even bother him, i feel like he loves it, if i mention it or gently hint hes letting his mother baby him he gets angry. He is grown i just wish he would cut the umbilical cord with his mother. This just pisses me off and makes me so jealous of his MOTHER, nothing i ever wanted to be. I really want his mom to like me.. but idk how im going to do that when my boyfriend is still on her tit, and picks their casual occasions over OUR special plans all the time... He has never told his mother "NO"
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Maybe he just doesn't like your company that much. I can already tell you're an inconsiderate person just for posting that wall of text with no paragraph breaks
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Run, do not walk, away from this "man." He will still be like this when he's 30, 40, until she dies. You CANNOT change him.
She didn't raise him to be independent. She raised him to be emotionally enmeshed with her for whatever her needy reasons are. This is deeply a part of him since infancy and now for 21 years. IT WILL NOT CHANGE.
Save yourself a lifetime of pain by enduring the pain of ending the relationship NOW.
Best wishes.
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This, from a dude that could be considered a 'mama's boy' I can tell you we are no good and stay away.
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So I was at Original Joes last Friday for lunch and the waitress was the most beautiful creature I have ever seen. When she walked past the table she made eye contact with me a few times. I have never felt this way about anyone before. Not even my last girlfriend. I know its a long shot, but how do I go about asking her out? How do I do this without being a creep? Do I go back and eat there regularly? How do I strike up a conversation with her and then transition it into asking her out? Please, my life would be 100% complete if I had her.
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okay friend,
the key is not overdoing it! (initial contact time)
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>go Joes preferably after peak hours
this creates familiarity, she will be like "oh that guy who sat at that table". seating at her table is your choice but i must say i will help if you sat where she works(waits?) and in a quiet spot too.
>Big Genuine Smile
when she comes close or comes to take your order have a big smile waiting for her, NOT a smirk don't half ass it! think of something funny while having your seat to get that genuine smile
>your First words to her
don't say hello, hi, or what you want for dinner, be different than the rest! look straight in her eyes and ask her how she is doing or how her day was, if you have a good simple joke it helps! no mumbling only clear loud voice
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>ban the Negative
if you are seating at her table DON'T complain, when she brings your food thank her warmly while looking at her eyes and smiling, say something like "i appreciate..."
>Eye contact
while enjoying you meal try to get eye contact time with her. i don't mean staring. but just subtle brief eye contact while you both are doing your thing, yours being, eating slowly in civilized way. and when you make eye contact smile at her a little and shyly look back to your plate. im not staying you should by shy, but playing thing eye contact game will make you seem nice and friendly
>about to Leave
okay you ate you food, you had a bunch of eye contact, you friendly asked her about herself...now she thinks you like her but she doesn't know which like! Friend or Lover! this is the time you show you are man enough to go for what you want. Timing is key! if you are at her table wait until she is not running around waiting other people <i assume you already have the bill with you>. when she seems fairly free pay your bill with large notes so she comes back with the change or something <you want her coming back> when she comes back accept the bill/change from her hand and standup. now you are standing face to face.
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cont.
in a clear but discreet voice say the following.
>"I really find you attractive"
she might say thanks or something...hear her out! if she say i something in the likes of i have a bf you should put your self in a position to get hurt. if she say thanks and shut up or doesn't say anything cont.
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The story is the usual. 22 and no friends or girlfriend. I always felt like social milestones just fell into other people's laps and life just left me out despite trying. Recently got my asperger's diagnosis. Due to my current incel status I thought about paying a hooker to get the virgin stigma and sexual frustration off my back. Would this be a good idea? It's very frustrating to see all these beautiful young women everyday and having no idea on how to strike up a conversation in order to get a girlfriend otherwise I'd try this first.
Any fellow autismos or social experts with some ideas? How do you usually meet a partner? I don't have any friends or meeting avenues currently so I joined a guitar course. If I had some rules or guidelines on striking up a convo with a girl I'd take the cold turkey approach and just talk to them on the street. I'm not sure though what I could offer to a normal girl. It seems like they all live in a different world with their hundreds of facebook and phone contacts.
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Yes it's fine, once you go through with it you'll realize casual sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Anyone who says otherwise is a douche.
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stay a virgin forever and dont be insecure about it like you let society make you, youre desparate and creepy and post memes on 4 chan
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Fuck knows man but you're 22 so you're still young. Join clubs and shit, but specifcally in things you're interested so you have things to talk about.
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How do I go about actually caring about something in my entire fucking life? As of now I don't seem to be able to give a shit about literally anything.
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Trick is to find something worthwhile. You can't force it. It happens if it happens.
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Well, start with the base needs, and work your way up.
You're obviously concerned about your ability to care. Why does this trouble you? Why do you want to know how to care? Why not just continue not caring?
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Start with yourself and your well being. You will inevitably die someday. You have limited time left in life. Make best use of it as you can.
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Does anyone here have the "want" to be miserable?
I don't know how else to describe it. But, you actually make choices knowing it'll make you miserable, but it feels like the "right" thing?
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that's called delusion
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Explain
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Yeah I kind of get what you mean. When you've been living miserably for too long that kind of becomes you, it becomes your comfort zone. I've been trying to get out but there's always something pulling me back in, I often self-sabotage my own attempts of being more outgoing, facing my fears etc.
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>Bought a ticket for vacation in April
>Want to stay an extra day
>Fee to change my flight a day later is $200
>I have travel insurance from Allianz for my flight
What do you think is the best way to get my insurance to pay for my claim
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Get hit by a car.
Really, did you look at what your insurance actually covers? It doesn't cover random cancellations or flight changes. Just emergencies where a doctor says you're not capable of flying
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i just sent a copy of this post to Allianz's fraud department. They'll be on the lookout for any April clients trying for an extra day.
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Is there any way to deal with premature ejauculation?
Anyone had this problem?
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Try fap 1 hour before the act.
Try to practice.
Try to eat some antidepressive pills.
Try to eat her multiple times so it doesnt matter you last 5 seconds.
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>>18122694
no no one in the history of the world has ever had this problem except you.
Try googling it, and get lots of advice.
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>>18122694
Lol no
Wew i am glad i'm not you
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My gf asked me "if we break up, can we still be friends?" 2017-03-13 12:04:45 Post No.18122644
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Is she planning on dumping me or something? She said to me there's no way she's thinking about breaking up with she just cares a lot about me and wants to still be friends if we break up.
Should I be worried? Also, if she does end up dropping me should I have any contact with her still?
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>if we break up, can we still be friends?
If the dog dies, can you still keep it in the house?
Same question. Same answer.
>She said to me there's no way she's thinking about breaking up
Horseshit.
>Also, if she does end up dropping me should I have any contact with her still?
See answer #1.
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My gf asked me this once when we had been dating for a year because she's serious insecurity problems about people leaving her (long story about dad and some father-like uncle).
We have been dating for 4 years now, so maybe there's that.
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shes about to drop you
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Girlfriend calls me pathetic and sad because I spend my money helping my parents and family out rather then saving it to visit her in another country, who's in the wrong here?
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Break up with her.
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She is for not visiting you
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>LDR
failed before it even began, jesus fuck lol.
glad I only thirst for women near my area instead.
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hi
I'm a very young assistant manager for a popular grocery store in my area, this particular grocery store's labor force is mostly young adults and teenagers, who are in college or high school. Generally 16-20. I'm barely 18 and landed this job, I think to be an ambassador, or a person that can establish common ground between the middle-aged upper management and the highschoolers. Or maybe they just like me or something.
Anyway, I'm close work-friends with majority of people, and honestly don't give a shit if they do stuff they aren't supposed to be doing as long as it's victim less (ex, hiding drinks on a checkstand, talking to much when it's slow) but however if upper management notices this they will smite me and the people doing it. And obviously, I assign jobs, projects and assignments to kiddos when I need stuff done as well.
I'm not afraid of telling people to do shit, but I'm not quite sure how to go about doing it, I'm usually cool about it and they are usually cool about, "Hey man, we gotta take down this display and put this shit up, can you help me?". This works fine mostly and people always listen but I'm picking up a vibe that my friends aren't seeing me as a friend but as aboss now.
1. How do I stay respected and liked among friends that I am now the boss of?
and also, I'm literally half the age of many of the part time adults, maybe younger and it's not really a problem for them that I give them assignments, tell them what to do but I noticed a few people resent me in a sense of like, "why is this infant telling me what to do?"
2. How do I gain the respect of veteran employees that I am now the boss of?
help
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Pick one
1) Be a good manager
2) Fraternize with lower staff
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Be professional but don't be afraid to crack jokes when there's down time. Invite your co-workers to do something outside of work every now and then so y'all can bond.
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This.
You don't have to be a full out dictator, but you need to put professional matters first. So follow orders of your company, but don't do it in a dickish way.
See a guy with a soda on the checkstand?
Do say - "Hey man, <name of upper level manager> has been getting on my case about the Cokes on the checkout stands...please just drink it during your break."
Don't say - "Throw that junk in the trash before I write you up."
You can be a manager without being a complete dick and losing friendships.
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18 year old here. my dick is 7 inches. is it small? my dad is 8 inches and I'm jealous.
also what condoms would you recommend me? I've only had sec once, and I was scared so I went an inch
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bump
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how is this bait. I want to be redpilled on condom size and dick size
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I am not sure if this is depression or autism. It's a strange line of thought, but I've been rolling this around in my head for awhile now. For starters, I have depression, as in actually diagnosed clinical depression and bipolar on top of that, which I've been dealing with my whole life. However, I honestly think I might actually be autistic to some degree, which isn't out of the realm of possibility because my brother is an aspie.
I'm 27. I've never had a girlfriend, I've never had sex, and frankly I just sort of freeze up in those situations. What's worse is even my brother has a girlfriend he has had for 3 years now. I'm totally oblivious to hints and flirting, I sperg out about stupid opinionated shit, and I never feel like I belong in social situations. I just pretend, and its tiring. I don't have many friends, and the friends I do manage to get, I usually end up completely ghosting, and it doesn't bother me.
Recently, a friend I grew up that I hadn't seen in like 8 years got in touch with me, and we hung out today. He was excited and I could see it, but I felt nothing. Sometimes, I just felt weird. I'm currently waiting for him to finish up with something at his apartment, then we're going to hang out at a bar, and I'm not really looking forward to it. I'm not actively against it, but it's just kinda neutral I guess.
I don't know. This shit just kind of floors me, and I don't know how to react.
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I fully relate to this - unfortunately I can't be of any help desu
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Sorry to hear that.
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>>18122572
You need a change of acenery. Meet new people, go to new places and try new things