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Does anyone else experience resentment at ones self for setting goals? It feels like I'm two separate people, one who is responsible, rational and wants to get ahead in life, and the other who is a stubborn child who always wants his way. The stubborn child within me feels a lot stronger and takes over at times.
When I try to follow goals, I get depressed and frustrated.I always hear anons saying that its supposed to make you feel better, and I can definitely see where they are coming from, but whenever I am trying to make and complete goals (Even small ones) I get incredibly aggressive and wish I was just on the computer. I would do half an hour of work, and then go on the computer for a break, and never return to the task.
I have tried discipline, and I have been able to study for 3+ hours at a time on a very good day, but recently I can barely go 10 minutes without wanting to scream and go back to the computer or do something distracting. This is taking hold of my life and I will never get anywhere at this speed.
How do you not want to kill yourself when following goals?
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I'm with you on this ride as well; even as far as just setting goals seems impossible for me. Bumping for interest
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>>18124045
At least we're not alone in this struggle.
I don't mind difficulty, but at the state I'm at now I have no idea how university people study every say for several hours at a time. At that point I think I would legitimately consider suicide.
I am ashamed at myself for this laziness, and trying to brute through it has ended in me saying "Fuck it" and getting to an even worse point.
I set a lot of goals that are achievable, I exercise, socialize, and do things to get over these slumps but I always feel like I'm wasting my life whenever I feel bored. I have no boredom tolerance, or if the thing I'm doing doesn't interest me greatly, I don't give it any attention.
Work doesn't feel worth it. I can only work 3 days a week before getting burned out.
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Sounds like you self induced ADHD from internet addiction. I'd recommend having some external stimulus limiting your usage so you stop wasting time reading drivel online for a superficial dopamine hit.
You are LITERALLY stealing dopamine from your future self by sacrificing precious time in the current moment.
Otherwise acknowledge your state and just accept it. Try and limit spending and adjust your lifestyle so you can survive on minimal income. It might sound ironic but once you accept this you will no longer compare with others and regain a quiet sense of confidence and peace with ones self instead of berating yourself for "wasting time".
The second tactic might sound ironic but it's a legit tactic if you wanna crush the suicidal thoughts without needing to be a rat race normie or hotshot self-made baller.
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I love being a camwhore and have skype sessions with strangers around the world. I never show my face or provide any sort of real data (fake name, etc.). However, I'm still a bit worried that someone could find out my IP adress or living adress somehow. Is that possible?
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>>18123990
Honestly stop thinking youre so hot shit celebrity because you arent. Youre not pretty enough to have some one go that far to get your personal info
Calm down bitch
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>>18124001
That doesn't matter if someone is into blackmailing
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It's always possible. But your IP address won't give them anything but your approximate location. Far more likely is that you will at some point make a mistake and have something personally identifiable show up on cam.
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Hi there, I am looking for refferences of the pose you see in the Acatar. sadly I can not come up with the proper wording for google to help me out.
know what words would be fruitful or can you upload pictures of that pose you have?
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>>18123972
Fucking idiot. You call yourself an artist? Just google "captain morgan pose"
God damn
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captain morgan pose is not exactly what im looking for and a few different references would be nice.
btw. you dumb fucking piece of shit
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>>18123979
What is wrong with your life that something so little makes you call someone a fucking idiot? Get some therapy for fuck's sake. A good artist studies references, that's how you learn.
Anyway sorry OP, I have no idea. Can you ask someone to pose for you?
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What do I do if my friends are all inconsiderate dip shits?
This is what happens when I sleep
>retard calls me at midnight
>someone messages me at 2 am
>someone sends me 6 fucking consecutive messages at 5 am
Why are people so fucking stupid? They've all been blocked and muted.
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>>18123965
why wouldnt you mute your phone before going to bed
it's your fault
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>>18123971
I was waiting on a girl to call me and sometimes I pass out and forget
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>>18123965
The only stupid bitch i see here is you OP. every smartphone has a "Do Not Disturb" mode where the sound and vibrations for notifications, calls, texts, emails, etc are muted. The only thing Do Not Disturb mode doesnt ignore is any alarms you have set. So it blocks all other shit except the important stuff
Fucking dumbass cunt
Learn to phone
I swear to God if you reply with some dumb ass shit like "i dont have a smartphone" then youre even dumber than i thought not owning one in 2017
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Am I ignoring warning signs?
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Girl I'm interested in has posted an image of an the inside of church and has caption that hints that it was some kind of christian summer camp. We are good friends and she has hinted that shes interested in me. Anyone have any experience with christian girls is it worth it? How should I ask her about it?
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>>18123941
Depends.
- Are you ok with religion?
- Is she ok with still having sex?
- Are you ok with waiting till marriage or getting a mercy BJ instead once in a while IF she is not?
Can you answer 1 & 3 with yes, give it a shot. Can you answer only 1 with yes, be more cautious, but there is no harm to getting to know her better. It is hard to ask 2 early on.
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>>18123944
1. Not at all religious myself, think its kind of stupid, but having a semi religious gf doesn't really concern me.
2.No idea will have to ask but shes not too religious goes to party's and does drink (How we met)
3.Not up up for waiting till marriage
Will ask soon and she what happens.
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>>18123953
>but having a semi religious gf doesn't really concern me.
Then go for it. What bad shall come from it?
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I'm going to sign up for a dating site for the first time; any advice? What sites are good, profile building tips, anything particular I ought to know about talking to women on there, etc. I'm aware dating sites have a ton of problems but I want to try it out regardless because I figure it might be easier to find socially awkward people with dumb geeky hobbies like myself on there.
I'll be honest, I'm not really that optimistic about it. I'm at least 90% certain I'm just going to be disappointed but I want to try anyway. I don't have anything to lose from trying, right?
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Well if you where female and lived where I lived I would date you just for posting a jumping spider.
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>>18123943
Sorry, I'm only a maybe slightly above average guy and not a cute girl at all. Nice to see someone else who appreciates spiders though.
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Tried Asking /biz/, but didn't get a response. (IN CALIFORNIA)
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I work for a restaurant as a server/busboy/waitress. My fellow employees and I all earn tips that are pooled and distributed evenly (I'm guessing) in cash with each pay check. Last week, my employers put up a notice of some meeting minutes that we all had to sign, despite not having gone to the meeting, nor even being invited. One of the minutes said that we as the employees would be tested on what we have learned regarding the job so far. Anyone who doesn't pass with a 95% or higher will have their tips pulled and distributed to the rest of the employees who did pass. I'm not an expert in this kind of stuff, which is why I'm asking here, but is this legal? I live in CA and according to the minimal amount of research I can do via Google it doesn't seem legal, but I could be missing something.
"Labor Code Section 351 prohibits employers and their agents from sharing in or keeping any portion of a gratuity left for or given to one or more employees by a patron. Furthermore it is illegal for employers to make wage deductions from gratuities, or from using gratuities as direct or indirect credits against an employee's wages. The law further states that gratuities are the sole property of the employee or employees to whom they are given."
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That law doesn't actually apply to what they're proposing to do. My advice is to go and see a lawyer, it doesn't seem like something you'll find a law directly relating to.
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>>18123895
Can you be more specific on how the law doesn't apply?
"The law further states that gratuities are the sole property of the employee or employees to whom they are given."
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>>18123908
Because that law is about your boss keeping tips. Your boss won't be keeping them under the proposed scheme, it just won't be going to people who didn't get 95% or higher on that test. Basically, it's about narrowing which employees the tips are split between. However, under that law, it may be possible that they're not allowed to pool tips and split them afterwards.
Like I said, go and see a lawyer. This is an unusual scheme that they're proposing, and I suspect it's one of those things that's *technically* legal but a good lawyer would be able to argue their way out of it.
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Tell me what's the most stressful obstacle in your life right now.
No advice.
Follow up questions guaranteed tho.
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I was cooking with my crush and i accidentally burned her with the pan.
fml
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Lonely
My friend shut down her cafe which was the meeting place for our social circle. I used to spend about 8 hours a week there just visiting and talking about random things.
Now I just sit at home all day alone. In fact I haven't left the house since Thursday.
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I hate college
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Hey guys my GF is into degradation in bed. Problem is im starting to run out of ideas.
Does anyone here have any clever degradation acts? Stuff to say etc.
Im thinking of shoving my finger up her butt and telling her how much her parents are disappointed in her (her parents hate me)
Im also thinking of tying her up and watching me pee in a bowl then have her lap up the piss while shes tied up but im not sure if that goes too far.
Psychological stuff is where she really gets off tho, and kinda running out of steam in terms of just calling a slut etc.
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>>18123864
Firstly, have a safe word. Make sure she understands it.
Secondly, we don't even know what you've done so far.
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my ex gf rented out a hotel room. she wanted me to tape her up with black tape (arms/legs) and then i threw her naked into a bath tub.
left her there for maybe 10 minutes and came back and poured a bucket of ice on her.
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>>18123864
Emphasize how she's allowing this voluntarily - "You proud, strong feminist, college girl, intellectual, and you really get off on this degradation, don't you?"
I hate seeing or hearing my girlfriend masturbate. How do I stop from having this attitude?
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By giving her the d more often.
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Why are you seemingly in the position to only be watching or hearing her as often as you do to hate it? What a punk bitch to hate your own partners ecstasy.
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>>18123855
Uh, fap to it? Tell her you think it's hot maybe
Set the mood, give D
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Hi /adv/ i want to know what would you do?
I'm in a long distance relationship with her for 4 years now. We're able to see each other only in the summer when we both have vacation, but even that's not so easy..nither of us has that much money so sadly we've seen each other only 3 times so far. When we started the relationship we talked on skype for long periods of time and now I talk to her only like 4 hours per week sometimes even less. But i guess that's "normal" for such a relationship. She also has a really shitty working scedule and she likes to go out with her friends and drink.
She has introduced me to her new "friend"(some Serbian guy)that is a lot closer to her than I am..one day she asked me if i wanted to stop our relationship for a bit, tought it was really odd but i agreed.. four weeks later we 3 were in a skype call(i have no clue why) we were talking random shit then he said from the blue if his love could go to the closing party at the end of the high school..i just hang up and called her on the phone..she told me that she was with him for 3months and that they did nothing together..4weeks ago she said she hated him and that after that party she's going to leave him and that she loves me and only me(some time in june). I feel like killing myself and then she even asks me why I'm so depressed..
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>>18123804
Reality check
You're not in a relationship. You have what used to be called a pen-pal.
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>>18123804
Some time before that skype call she asked if I wanted to be in a relationship where we could do things with other people, but no sex..I obviously said no as I have social anxiety and it wouldn't benefit me in anyway.
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>>18123833
What were you getting out of it anyway? Nothing.
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During an interview with a grad school, I sperged out and lied about doing volunteer work because I was nervous. I got accepted, but what are the odds they check up with the place I said I volunteered at and find out I was lying?
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>>18123802
Relax. You were accepted. The file is closed. No one is going to check now.
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>>18123802
You are good bro, they aren't going to go back and look, they probably don't even care. However those children you lied about helping on Thanksgiving will care, every time they look down at their empty soup bowls all they will ever see if your face.
Hey, /adv/. It's my finals tomorrow. Any studying tips?
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If you're waiting until now to study, you're fucked
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>>18123763
I studied a bit yesterday.
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Go over your subject and write out key points of information and then reread them.
The most important thing to remember is do not wait until the day before like a fucking idiot.
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Can fights be productive in a relationship if each fight leads to better communication thereafter?
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>>18123753
yes. /thread
next!
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>>18123753
If others have made things work long after heated discussions, then yes. And surely plenty of others have.... historically speaking...probably millions and millions...
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How do I accept that I will never have a girlfriend?
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no idea still trying to figure this out myself...
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>>18123737
Just stop talking about it. Be alone forever if you want. No one is going to stop you.
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>>18123900
Its not like i dont want to have a girlfriend or a meaningful relationship but i was that one guy that girls would agree to go out with but in the end they would never show up and id get made fun of when id go back to school... now im 19 and have yet to even seriously kiss a girl so if i do id probably fuck that up to out of pure inexperience...