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No, alcohol has a very high octane number.

>>18123735
Are we talking AKI or RON here? Either way, you'd need a cut above regular unleaded so if we're talking RON, you'd be fine running unleaded 95.

I'm sure it can, but is it optimal? If your engine has a compression ratio of less than 8:1 then it is within specs for 91 octane. Whatever fuel you use, running your engine at a moderate load (not flooring it in high gear) and regular oil changes, does more for its longevity than using the best fuel.

>>18123708
Submit your two week notice before you go on your trip, that way you can leave your job right before your vacation.

Are they paid vacations? Is your employment technically at will?

If it's paid vacation and at will, you should wait till you get back so you can be paid and not fired on the spot so your employer can save on 2 weeks pay without work.

If it's paid vacation but you can't be fired at will, tell them 2 weeks before you actually intend to quit.

If it's unpaid vacation, just quit before the vacation because it gets you nothing to wait, and your employer has more time to find a replacement.

>>18123713

Forgot to mention, I'm paid the 15th and 30th of each month, and because of certain circumstances I'm paid a sizeable bonus each paycheck that falls on the 30th, that's why I'd wish to leave after April 30, since I'm doubtful it will be taken into account for my severance. If I submit my notice right after arriving I could leave by May 5th/8th.

>>18123717

It's paid vacation and it's not at will, but I'd rather leave after the end of the month.

what a stupid phrase

>>18123750
What a waste of a reply, 2 can play the petty game

>>18123700
>Sliding in a friend's DM's

What does that mean?

But over the break up period, she pushed the notion to become full friends, platonic and all, but, I still had feelings for her and I just couldn't be friends with her at the time and still can't. I told her I didn't want to be friends right now (this was January 10th.) We began no contact, but, she gave off this perception that she didn't care about me whatsoever, I was wrong. The other day, A's concerned friend told me that A actually took the break up worse than I had.
A and I go to the same community college and apparently, A cried multiple times at the college and home the first week of school. After that, each time A saw me (I didn't see her) she would go cry somewhere at the school, once cried during class, and then at home.

I told her I didn't want to be friends right now (this was in a text after the call) and that was it, nothing else. She won't talk to me because she wants to respect that in the hope that I become her friend. She still wants to be friends, but I don't. I don't know whether to care or not that shes depressed about the break up she initiated. Should I tell her I don't want to be friends so she isn't hung up on this anymore?

I'm willing to answer questions if there are any. Either about the breakup or about my own psych.

>>18123687
So you don't want her back as a relationship?

>>18123673
Do you go on dates and stuff/hang out socially, or do you mostly just meet up to have sex?

Yes. You haven't defined the boundaries, You should have asked him if he's comfortable with you seeing other people while you're 'together', and gone from there. Even if there is no reasonable way either of you could misconstrue it as more than casual, he might want a FWB to be monogamous. Whether it be for the sake of minimizing STD risks, or some other more complicated reason. Or even if he's starting to get feelings and thought you were going the same way.

This is a little different from a one night stand, even if casual it's a regularly occurring thing, so you and he should have had this discussion somewhere along the way. Otherwise you're just operating off of assumptions about what is okay and what's not.

>>18123681
Sometimes I've gone to his place and we hooked up. Sometimes he's come to my place and we hooked up. Once I went to his place drunk and passed out on his bed and we didn't have sex, but I was planning on it.
The only time we've met up not to have sex was when he helped me fix a friend's phone, but then we went back to his place for the night to have sex.

As for conversation, it's pretty sporadic. But it's generally generic friendly conversation.

Is that a capybara? Interesting...

>>18123679
King Capy will all his bitches

>>18123659
also, sounds to me the beginning stages of depression cause you have no passion or interests. I'm in the same boat, either something is holding me back or I'm afraid to take a leap to something I may enjoy

Anal sex helps

>>18123645
Work out

>>18123649
WITH STARS IN HIS EYES

Have you tried being gay? :^)

>>18123621
You get older, 30-31 or so.. and you realize that accepting her as she is, is the only thing that might give you an opportunity to truly impress her, with all the love and frustration you've bottled up for years. She may see something good in you.. but no guarantee.

>>18123621
>WHAT?!

Dude you need to chill...my God. I can tell why your single

>>18123605
You're fine, dude.

I'm serious. It's only been a year. Life is long. A year can feel like a long time, and it sorta is, but you've got a while yet before you're in "woahshit, get this guy some therapy" territory.

Focus on other stuff. Don't have sex til you want to, don't go looking for a relationship right now either. Before TOO long you'll meet someone and fall head over heels for them again and then this won't be a problem anymore. You don't want to try and force it before that happens, trust me.

>>18123638
Exact;y anon, I don't want to force it, I want to focus on other things until I forget then maybe, maybe it will happen.

But I was so, so compatible with my ex. (not one fight for two years until the very end) that is seems impossible to think I could ever find someone better.

>>18123646
Well, I can't promise that you & your next partner won't ever fight, but I CAN tell you two things that might help (you probably know them intellectually already, but sometimes it helps to hear other people say stuff anyway):

1. You were almost certainly gonna fight with your ex eventually, if you hadn't broken up. Two years without a fight is pretty damn good, but I really doubt you would have made it two more. Almost certainly not if you'd married her.

2. "Not fighting" isn't the only or even the best sign of compatibility. It's nice, but that's just one possible relationship dynamic out of, I don't know, hundreds. I've had really amazing relationships (actually, I'm still in one) where we fought all the damn time, and it was OK, because they were low-grade fights that didn't damage the relationship or matter at all, really. It was actually a comfort knowing that our relationship would without a doubt survive a major fight, and ultimately I realized that all the squabbling was just a sign that she was still highly interested and invested in the relationship (and me). After all, you don't argue about things you don't give a shit about.

Obviously I'm not saying that you personally have to be OK with a relationship like that. Maybe you really don't like fighting, that's fine. I'm not saying your next relationship won't BE like that. That's just another example out of, again, hundreds. I'm just saying, even if your next relationship doesn't make it to the 2-year mark without a fight, that doesn't necessarily mean it'll be a worse relationship, or a sign that you're "less compatible."

All of my advice will be moot, honestly, because as soon as you're ready your subconscious processes will take over and you'll be back in the game whether you like it or not. You don't have to worry about "forgetting" anything, as soon as you hit the infatuation phase with a new major crush all thoughts of your prev. relationship will be blasted straight out of your mind.

>>18123601
>what's the point of socializing and building relationships?
What ISN'T the point of socialising and building relationships? They make you a happy, healthy person. Without them, you're going to be mentally unhealthy; humans aren't built for isolation.

>>18123601
None of those things happen, or at least not very often, if you find someone good for you. And ideally, we all will.

But love is worth it.. it is even more worth it to be surprised by how good someone can treat you. That is worth looking for. And the possibility of marrying such a person is also very special.

>>18123601
Some people are worth friendships and others aren't. When it's worth it, it's usually because you're on mutual terms not to betray or hurt one another - and if you do, you work it out and learn from it. I guess growth is part of it, but it's also nice to have someone you feel safe around.

On a side note, you were probably raised to be social and build relations - otherwise, what is there to motivate you?

>>18123555
have someone you can call who knows your situation and can ground you.
therapy.

>>18123566
but my mommy is dead!

>>18123538
It's not hard for a girl to find guys imo. go to the states or canada.

You sound like a very interesting girl. Go ahead and start trying to put yourself out there. On dating sites, bars, clubs, gatherings, whatever. Just meet people. Upset with your physical appearance? Exercise. Work on it. Life is a process. You'll find love eventually. You just have to put in the effort needed.

>>18123548
things can't be that easy, if i took something else for university, something like biology or finance, i would definitely go to the states or canada right away without any hesitation, it's stupid that i had law instead, because of my major, there's no way i can sustain my life if i go there right now. chances are, i can't even get a visa to theses countries, i have no specialty, my skills are not extraordinary, and there's no hope for me to find a guy that can help me with it.

Check the fuse, dummy

>>18123496
The buzzing is the fan motor trying to run but blocked by something. This is not a job for an amateur.

the black buzzing thing is the switch that is broken. it is neither open nor closed. as long as there was power coming to the switch/relay the switch stayed closed. the power outage drained whatever mechanism used to keep the circuit closed and opened it. since the switch is broken and stuck kind of half way it is unable to close the circuit. overheating in that switch can cause a fire. if you have a wall switch that overrides the ceiling switch and cutting the power from the wall switch silences the buzzing that is fine, else i suggest you remove the fuse for that circuit. the buzzing is caused by a loose connection that is conducting some current. the parts in a switch are not made to handle a loose connection and will overheat.

>>18123489
Bottling up emotions is never a healthy thing to do Anon. I too struggle with major depression and speak from experience. If you're angry, go for a run or sparring with someone. Meditate. You can even email me at [email protected] if you want to share with someone what's going on. I'll listen and talk with you. You're not alone Anon and you're not always going to feel like this.

>>18123489
its probably because they think youre stupid or weird. i dont see why someone wouldnt be friends with someone else other than those reasons. and ive had people tell me those two things in a non joking manner.

>>18123478
accept, it's what she wants. respect that.

>>18123478
as someone who has had two brothers pass away, i may be able to offer some insight. time, support, and understanding are the only things you can offer to help.

time. it will take time for her to process this traumatic experience. it will take time for her to get back to anything that resembles the woman you knew before her brother passed away. it will take time for her to learn how to live with the gaping hole in her heart that her brother filled. i'm a guy, and it took at least six years for me to come to terms with the loss of my brother. women are emotional creatures by nature. i'm not saying that she'll be a complete wreck for that long. i do suspect you will be seeing her cry more often than you have in the past though.

support. there is no way you can make her feel better. giving her your support though, will be helping her to get to a better place with dealing with her loss. support can come in many forms. from holding her and letting her cry on your shoulder, to telling her a funny story about her brother that she didn't know. support her and let her know you are there for her, and want to be in her life. for both the good and the bad.

understanding. understand that everyone grieves differently. most people are never the same on the inside. they put on a brave face, because that's what is expected of them. understand that things will get better, but they'll never be the same as before. understand that she needs to do what is right for her, right now. looking back she may regret telling you to stay away from the funeral. understand that attending a funeral is not that important in the grand scheme of things.

i'll hang around a bit in the thread in case you have more questions. i'm very sorry for the loss you and your girlfriend have experienced. there is no preparing for a situation like that. i hope you both come out the other side of things stronger.

>>18123478
Respect her wishes. You've only been dating for one year. Just be there for everything else.