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>>18173615
shit man, i feel with you. the biggest thing is relinquishing that control and to stop overthinking everything. I've talked to professional therapists and they all say the same thing. Not having control is a part of life. If you could control every aspect of life then you might as well play god. But reality is what it is, you cannot control everything and letting go is the major part of it. I can't say that i have all that shit figured out but after the break-up i had with my now ex-fiancee literally a week ago i've slowly started to lighten up. But honestly man i can drop my skype and we can have a chat.

>>18173631
I know the whole thing of "Obstacle is the way" or "Challenges make you stronger" - but for me its much much worse. I literally panic, my heart races, my mind doesnt stop thinking - I feel like crying even.

And I don't mean in control as if controlling everything, I mean if things start going against you not according to plan - I just panic. It's not about controlling aspects of my life, but about being in control of myself.

Of course I'd love to chat

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>>18173644
TurntSNACO is my skype
my pic is the one i just posted
(i am a horrible filthy weeb as long as youre okay with that)

Vegan?
I hope you don't enjoy blowjobs.

Fuck, man. What were you thinking? Vegan?!

>>18173583
>I can't deal with other people's diet choices
How autistic are you, op?

>>18173583
My boyfriend is a vegetarian (I'm not) and honestly the only issues I've found after a year of being together is it's sometimes difficult to find restaurants with anything interesting for him to eat. That's it.

>>18173574
Those wont work for so many reasons i dont even care to start explaining them. Got a question though. You twelve?

>>18173574
Stop taking slutty pics and this shit wouldn't happen you whore

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If you can get access to their computer just install a keystroke logger, and have it email you their keystrokes. The log should tell you what sites they visited and should reveal their password if they typed it. Some loggers might not tell you which sites they've visited, in that case, find out when they visited gmail, and their password should match up with the time stamp. Although chances are that if you have the opportunity to install such a program into their computer, you probably have access to their browser which should be logged into gmail, unless their they type of weirdo who logs back in every time.

i'm getting socially cucked by an acquaintance too OP and I don't want to reveal my power level by roasting her yet.
I'm gonna give her the boot.

>>18173570
I couldnt reply due to adblock. Thanks adv
Anyway, good luck to you mate.Do you think they have some kind of pattern for this behavior?

>>18173562
Stop looking for friends. Whatever you've been doing doesn't work.

Instead, look for activities to get involved with. Join a club, join a gym, do volunteer work, go to concerts or shows, hang out at the comic book store, whatever

You'll enjoy what you're doing, which will cheer you up. And you'll be among other people with the same interests doing the same things, so some chatting will be natural.

THAT's how friends are made, not by looking for them, but by finding them while you're doing something else.

"Cousin" is too vague of a term.

Are they the child of your aunt or uncle (mother or father's blood related siblings)?

>>18173541
No

>>18173542
My mother's sister's daughter.

>>18173530
The way you would with a white flatmate who did the same things.

>>18173530

Sorry, I only know how to deal with an asian who is not considerate and dirty as fuck while violating and denying the usage of your own belongings.

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Like so?

>>18173499
Go to places where people your age go out and have fun at i.e bars clubs . biggest thing is don't be afraid of leaving your comfort zone. my ex had the same issue after cheating on me she had no friends because they were all my friends (different circumstances but same point) her problem was not putting herself out there. Always keep in mind that it's okay to leave your comfort zone.

>>18173528
It does feel weird going to bars alone but it feels like if I try to go to any of those places alone I'm just looking to hook up. No one approaches me anyways since it seems everyone comes with other people anyways. I've tried to engage in conversation before like this one time in this small group of people a guy complimented something I had on and I said thanks and told me where I got it but he just quickly went back to the convo in his group. It just seems impossible for me.

>>18173538
It seems impossible only because the lack of social experience. Albeit approaching even a small group is challenging especially if you feel awkward in any sense of the way. Look at people's clothing just like that one guy did. mostly like bands or cool designs if it aligns to your personal interests go off of that. The guy probably didn't mean to blow you off but in his perspective it's a little intriguing how a lone female (or male not trying to assume) walked up to a small group of people who are probably his close or semi-close friends and entered the conversation however A for effort. Confidence is key in that situation since he gave you an in on the group in a way by complimenting your appearance so in that situation you hang back and soak in the conversation and jump in when something sparks your interests. Also it would help to introduce yourself people are friendlier and more inviting if they know your name.

I've been there. Not a day goes by that I didn't wish I beat the ever living shit out of him. Circumstances were different but still should have put him into the hospital. Honestly just leave town sell everything you can find a new life... if you're responsible enough to handle that

>>18173483
Were you currently on of off with her?

>>18173483
Having an attachment to an on-and-off again relationship is the problem to begin with. My two year relationship with the girl i've known for 7+ years just ended with her cheating on my "best friend". Point is if your "friend" knew you liked her a lot then he wouldn't do it if he's your friend. Suicide is never the option. Your feelings weren't made clear so there was never anyway she or he could have known, doesn't diminish the fact that it happened however there's a lot of information necessary to make a better informed opinion such as did you tell her how you felt? did you tell him how you felt? if none of those came up you can't really be upset at them you honestly can only be upset at yourself in which case suck it up and if it hurts that much stop communication with them

friends?

>>18173477
>says s/he has the aptitude
>cant concentrate studying

I hate to break it to you...

>>18173505
I did physics and chemistry in highschool and above average maths, (Surds algebra)

I'm basically doing Marketing, management and accounting 101.

It's not that difficult to understand, I just can't get into the study habit

sports drinks, electrolyte powder, more salt in your diet

>>18173474
You might be diabetic, or at risk for it. There are other medical conditions that can cause this as well.

Seriously, go to the fucking doctor, dude. And in future, go to them first, not /adv/.

Also, this is a blue board, so remove that picture, please.

>>18173478
Doesn't work man. I literally have to chug a straight gallon of water every day when I wake up it can't be anything but water.

>i'm scared of this being found out by my parents or by even "the law" because it's hella illegal but i still do really like him
Nothing will happen to you, he's the one whose life could be ruined by this.

>>18173475
Exactly, because he's an adult and he should know better.

>>18173482
And he's in a position of power. If he has half the brain required to be a teacher, he won't do anything, even going into the future

short girls are awesome, curse you a thousand times for shunning this gift.

>>18173463
What's wrong with the short thing?

>>18173463
I have bad exactly the same experience on my first date yesterday. Im 6,5 and i felt everyone was judging us. She is completely in love with me and i feel fucking terrible to have to say her this wont work out. I also like her but the length difference is not a problem i can ever realy overcome. But i have such a hard time to tell her, cus she keeps saying how much she liked me and how amazing yesterday was.. what do i do? I dont want to hurt her too bad.

CBT is great though. It's all about learning how to challenge your own mindset. In a way, good therapy is a lot like a good debate.

That being said, it wouldn't hurt to vocalize this concern with your therapist in a respectable manner.

>>18173461

Yes. At least for me therapy itself didn't do shit, but admitting aloud where I was going wrong was finally what got me to actually do something about it. Professional shrinks don't do "be positive" crap, because they work with people who are legit depressed so it wouldn't work anyway. They mostly just discuss your life and draw your attention to the problems you try to avoid acknowledging.

>>18173466

I've not had a whole lot of exposure to it, but what I have had was complete shit.

I know I could talk to the therapist, but with how popular and pervasive it is I worry they're going to push for it and I'll cave and end up doing something I don't want to do and hating it the whole time.

>>18173469

I see. I don't think I have a problem acknowledging my problems, so that aspect probably won't be beneficial for me.

>>18173454

If there's nothing, why worry? You'll be dead so you won't know and the world goes on all the same. Seems like an Irrational fear to me, if it's affecting you this much, consider taking with a mental health professional.

>>18173457
I never really thought of it like that, thanks. And also a mental health prof would need a few weeks, I got a lot of shit going on up there lol

>>18173454
This answer is about half BS, half serious: it is not completely out of the question that we'll see serious life-extension technology invented in our lifetimes.

Now, it's also FAR from a certainty. And even if we do see it developed, who knows if it'll be widely available. But plenty of smart people take the idea seriously that people who are alive today might live ... no, not forever, but for significantly longer than the longest-lived people do now.

Part of what's scary about death is the CERTAINTY of it. Even if it's unlikely that people in our generation might get to live to 150, 200, or even beyond, it isn't out of the question, and taking away the CERTAINTY takes away a lot of the fear. For me, anyway. I'll *probably* die sometime between ages 75 and 90 like almost everybody else, but it's a comfort that that's not beyond question, even if it's a longshot.

Of course, even crazy sci-fi life extensions just postpone what you're afraid of, but honestly, I think after a couple hundred years of life, almost anybody would be exhausted and the concept of just ... nothing ... would start to seem almost attractive and not terrifying.

>>18173435
>living in commiefailia
You brought this on yourself

Lmaoooo

>>18173435
Do what you came there to do. Get a job, go to school, whatever.

Save your pennies and move out.