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bullet in the head is always an option for cheaters

>>18171880
Shouldn't have cheated on your BF. Just tell him and offer to break up with him.

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I'm looking for male opinions, because female advice has overwhelmingly been "don't tell him" or "break up with him", and I don't want to do either! Please be honest!

try drugs and while you're at it pick up a hobby like video games or something. be careful about drug tests though

>>18171636

I think you know the answer to this yourself. You're losing your interest in life, so you need to shake things up until you find something. Try hobbies, new friends, travel, whatever. You need to shake yourself from the apathy to create the energy you're looking for. Work and rest obviously don't offer you any meaning, so you have to look for that elsewhere in your free time. What it is depends on you, no one can give you answers.

>>18171657
>mandatory drug tests
>afraid of getting addicted
>afraid of bad trips
I don't think I can, anon.

>>18171659
Social things are difficult for now. What would you recommend that's not too expensive and time-consuming?

>>18176955
learn probability? Bayesian inference and Markov model. There are some algorithms that can help you in the long term.

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Confess to your wife/ parents, promise not to gamble anymore, arrange cash from sources they will help you with, pay off the debt, work and live a simple life, pay it off and move on. Quit smoking and drinking asap, walk to work, start enjoying radio, the whole works. It's never too late, boi.

>>18176955
$300 is nothing. quit while you're still ahead.

>>18176922
One night she comes to my, crying, a mess in general. She says she loves me more than anything but she "might not feel in love anymore". She has a lot of things to do, and cant have me as a first priority, she is confused, she has been feeling bad for about a month for it and in general, cant handle all this anymore. I ask her if she wants to break up. She is not sure, but doesnt see a solution (probably said not sure not to hurt me) . I suggest a break of a month, where she can relax (easter holidays with her family) and we can retry things if she wants to later. She agrees very reluctantly, which made me realise that even 1 month later she would still be in the same mental state. So the day after i take her out and suggest we break up. She agrees and we part in a very understanding, loving , and civilised manner.

>>18176922
She sounds like she a has a metric fuckton of baggage. I'm sure you care about her and want to make things work, but to be honest with you, you need to ask yourself why and if it's really worth it

>>18176935
that was chapter B. the breakup. Should mention it was a 2 year relationship

So, chapter C: the aftermath

We dont talk for a week, take our time. I imagine it wasnt easy for her either, but i cried like a little bitch, and all the stuff people in deep grief do. i thought of cutting all contact, asking her to get back to me etc etc. but in the end after 1 week of no contact i very casually sent her a message on facebook, to see if she wanted to meet up, on the pretext that i had to return one of her books to her.

She was actually very happy to hear from me. Told me that she thinks my decision (to break up) was correct, that she misses me from her life but knows she cant have everything. Told me some random stuff on her own (that she would get her hair cut). When i told her that i was also happy that we can talk and that i actually had missed her a bit ( in a non whiny manner) she told me to stop or she ll start crying again. In the end we happily agreed to meet up 1 week later (1 week from now). And here we come to the final chapter. What the fuck do i do

>>18176916

by not going to the party and not letting your friend go to the party.

you'll probably respond saying you can't /not/ go to the party which in the face of potential murder is a pretty stupid response.

in which case we can advise you to talk to the people hosting the party to ensure this person doesn't 'force their way in'.

and if that doens't work, just bring some shovels so you can bury the body

>>18176925
I know it's dumb but we all are looking forward to going and I don't want some stupid cunt to stop us.

The host said he'll try to keep him out but I don't know how much of a guarantee that will be.

Not gonna lie, my friend really fucked up a guy before, but since then he hasn't hit anyone, plus it was over a big issue. This guy really riles him up though.

>>18176936

>i know its dumb, but i dont want the fact that I'm legitimately worried my friend may murder someone to stop us.

then clearly you dont actually think your friend will kill him. enjoy your party.

Save everyone the trouble and just go turn yourself into the cops. She's gonna call foul the moment she gets wind of this. Just fap to some camwhore and then find yourself a new dime to bed.

>>18176814
>would it be weird doing that one thing she doesn't want me to do after FOUR FUCKING years like a crazy fucking creep
At least the thread pic is on spot.

>>18176814

no, it wouldn't be weird, because according to this story, thats exactly what she expects of you.

doesn't make it a good idea though

Stop frogposting for starters.

>>18176780

I just needed an image

>>18176764

bump

>>18176744

it varies from person to person. some relationships are more co-dependent, or at the very least more closely entwined. some friends live together and as a result spend pretty much all their time together.

me, I like to see my friends at least once a week, twice if they're available.

if i ever need to talk they are at least a phone call away and i can rely on them as long as im forward with what i need. were men so we don't really play games like 'I WAS SAD AND NO ONE NOTICED'. instead if one of us has an issue we just plainly say it, and if the other person isn't being supportive enough, we plainly say that as well.

thus far they/I have always apologized and doubled down our efforts to help one another.

>>18176744
>hang out twice a week
Damn. How often do you message eachother online?

>>18176758

virtually never, I do not use social media really. i have one set up that my close friends have access to but they mostly only use it to send files as its actually quicker than email.

for the most part we text. i recently started snapchat as he kept sending me videos from his snap chat but they come out blurry through text messages.

we text almost daily. phone call about once ev ery week.

Learning to be good at something.

mcdonald's

night guard

find another one

>>18176701
but I like her. I guess I could do that, but I want to at least try with her

>>18176684
>>18176749

Try what? You can't talk to her when there is people around, and you can't ask her out.

You have too many problems dude.

Listen
Don't blame anyone
Try to help each other grow
Know when to put the foot down
Pay attention to what makes them happy
Do small spontaneous acts on occasion
Be considerate
Make your experience together special and unique

It's sort of like babysitting.

>>18176687
Except you don't fuck the kid.
Don't do that.
It's bad.

Bad human.

>>18176683
I think just use common sense, don't cheat on her, don't leave her hungry, bath and change of clothes once a day, etc.

>>18176677
>inattentive ADHD
>not just a lazy, undisciplined piece of shit

lol

>>18176704

ADHD is not a personality/character trait, it's a neurodevelopmental disorder.

>>18176677
the reality is that you are just looking for excuses for laziness. There are times when pushing off work is acceptable and there are matters of urgency and importance to your life or others' lives that you need to hold in higher regard.

It's a common strategy to avoid stress by doing some work only when you feel up to it, and that's fine if you make it work for you. If you never feel up to it that's where you really need to bite down.

but desu if you get good grades, hold down a job, etc. what the fuck is your actual problem? not getting it.

Absolutely, not a problem.

Their bites aren't anything much to worry about, anyways. They can cause bacterial infections that if untreated CAN be bad, but so long as you clean and dress it, nothing to worry about.

>>18176631
Hunting spider .. probably can unless the sides of the sink are really smooth/clean. But she's harmless unless you're an insect

Just break up with him.
He's probably a narcissist who has your mind twisted. You sound exactly like my cousin when she was with her sociopath husband.

>>18176630

Firstly, how old are you?

I can relate to your situation in a way.

When you say that you take your feelings out on him - what are these feelings regarding? What is it you're so upset about when you take it out on him?

I'll respond further if you're able to answer :)

>>18176630
>be woman
>be sad, dont want to break up, act like bitch and suggest to break up
>say A, think B, expects C

GG, well played.

No that's a turn off. Just fucking go for it and see what happens. If you get off first be sure to try to get her off with other ways of stimulation. The last thing she needs to hear you say is that you may not be able to satisfy her.

beat off before hand

Come inside her!!!!