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1) get a job

>>18188505
This does not help me to get a job. Nor does it help with my other problems either. Thanks for the reply though

>>18188497
Find work.
Pick up a new or old hobby.
Start exercising, just walking around helps.

Finding work is a difficult thing depending on your circumstances and region, it could be your standards are too high and you need to just take whatever you can get until you find something better.

Start chatting with people online, that can help you find friends.

>>18188486
>see femanon on social media
>similar interests
>same school
>want to get to know her cuz ur interested in dat puss
op thats normal. i dont use twitter, or any social media, so i cant really help you there.

I'd hire some dudes to stand look-out for her, and follow her around all day. Then arrange a, "Chance" encounter.

>>18188508
Smart idea, but no thanks

Eat good, take supplements.
No, it's not too vague, your hormones are fucked up. Fix it, now. You have acces to a computer, do research.

>>18188468
You have to tistinguish between
>happy
>normal
>unhappy / sad
and if you really want to help, you start by making thread about yourself filled with constructive criticism about what have you done, what didnt and what you even want from life.

>bee yourself

currently on drugs and alcohol and feel ok
for now...

Fake being considerate and receptive, even if you genuinly are already.

Thanks for the blog, asshole.

"Letting people in" is pretty easy. Stand up straight, slow your roll a bit, and if you meet eyes with somebody, give them a greeting. A nod, a smile, whatever, and just relax.

It's easy to come off cold if you act like you're on a mission for every little thing, and people think you're more liable to push them out of the way than wait.

You just have to learn how to read people. Learn when other people are being open, and learn when other people are being cold. Treat them in kind.

>>18188438

Yes, I have tried faking it and I have improved! I no longer speak agressively or in a monotone voice, but I still get told the same things. Some of my aggressive behavior, the way I speak or the way I think, I can't seem to change no matter what I do.

She's being a bad friend, because she won't set clear boundaries with him, and she's being a bad girlfriend for...The same reason.

>She tells me she asked bestie to join us for a game of pool at the snooked center in town
>???Him again?
>I understand people in general like to have their best friends around, but the man liked her, like, a lot.
>We play pool
>He touches her back
>Touches her leg
>Makes jokes like ''Oh im touching your gf''
>Not sure if he's fucking testing me or
>Laugh it off, but annoyed af
>We go outside, he tells me he needs to sleep cause of work, im like, yessss
>GF wants to eat and bestie joins
>I drove with my car and he with his own car
>She fucking steps in his car
>Pissed
>Go to Mcdonalds
>Pissed af
>Not talking much, not eating much
>They ask things about food, not really open questions just a yes or a no kinda question
>Then theyre talking about fucking teachers about theyre old middle school
>Then they both say ''why are you so quiet''
>She then tells me to go home via a quicker route, she drives home with bestie
>Were not doing anything after this?
>Pissed
>Timeskip 1 day
>I talked to her about all my problems
>Tell me I dont trust him, but I like him a lot as a friend
>Its just that I think he still likes you, and you're allowing a lot
>She tells me she doesnt know what to do, that when theyre hanging out theyre not even allowed to do anything together
>I tell her thats not what I want
>I want them both to understand that I feel shit
>That whenever we hang out, it feels like she has a relationship with him and not with me
>She finds it hard to find a solution, doesnt know what to do
>I make a reference
>What if he gets a gf and keeps on touching you like that, picking you up from behind etc, would she accept it?
>''No I guess not''
>And what if the previous girl I liked touches me like that and I just laugh over it, would you be cool with that?
>No I wouldnt
>I finally think things are cleared out
>Next day receive message she is chilling with best friend drinking alcohol
>Is she ignoring my problems?

>Im cool with them hanging out and stuff, but only after Ive confirmed he really doesnt like her anymore
>Until then, it fucking annoys me as fuck everytime they hang out, because I know he allows him to touch her, and she sucks at giving clear boundaries
>I understand he position tho, she doesnt want to lose the friendship
>But it feels like my feelings are less important than that and she just keeps on doing what she likes

Im going to talk to him too about it all cause he's a good friend of mine too.

What would be the best solution for this all /adv/ ? Because I dont want to be too demanding or too dramatic.

>>18188380
That is essentially what she means
It means she wants you to be ondemand backup but look for other options first if she can get a better guy.

>>18188383
doe the specifics not matter?

>>18188392
nah

It's 12 to 14cm afaik, depending on your country

7" is already huge to real life standards

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>>18188379
It is all funny with who has the biggest dick until you find out yours too long it hits her cervix or too thick she has pain.

Sometimes the average is the best :-)

>>18188531
>Sometimes the average is the best :-)
In what world is average best? No team or company or work celebrates average as a win. Average is average. You don't get a trophy for participation.

>>18188313
You sound like a creep

>>18188318
Fuck off if you don't have any advice.

>>18188313
>cafeteria
Easy. Go to her, greet her politely and ask her if you can sit next to her. If she says yes, then you can sit down and chat her up.

And when this fails, you can go try online dating because that is where majority of horny single attention looking woman goes.

They ussualy go to caffeteria to drink coffe, post feminazis articles on tumblr or to pretend they are hipsters.

Dont overthink it, you cant do much really. More robust plan is to spike her coffe with rohypnol, but that comes with its own risks as well.

>>18188201
Don't break up with him. But tell him, that he needs to let go.

>>18188207

Break up with him. He's still holding a torch for his ex and she's still the primary thing in his head. He should be thinking about his own preferences, or maybe even yours, but not his cheating exes.

>>18188207
>Don't break up with him. But tell him, that he needs to let go.
I told him twice. He does it multiple times a day.

I honestly am okay if something major happens or if he wants to share things like "I've been cheated on by my ex".
But I don't give a fuck about what his ex's friends did, what his ex thought about feminism, what his ex's dad did for a living or about her preferences for food.
It just annoys the shit out of me that he has to mention her whenever something happens.

>I have to switch birth control after the summer
>"Oh, my ex took this and she gained weight"

>I booked a flight for Spain for a very cheap price
>"Oh, my ex was great at saving while travelling"

I mean.

>>18188164
did you text back "Ya, sure i don't have anything going on." or something along those lines, because thats a normal response for something like that.

I've genuinely cared about their opinions and I don't think I've been rude.

It's just not clicking so much.

I really don't know where I'm going wrong.

I even watched a few quick rundowns of how to win friends and influence people.

They say I'm really in touch, and kind of encourage me, I told them I don't have any other friends.

So one of them introduced me to two of his friends and I kinda fizzled. They were very explicit in saying 'Bye Anon'

It's like they were told I have no friends so I think they're just talking to me out of pity a bit?

>>18188169
Yeah

>>18188174
>It's like they were told I have no friends so I think they're just talking to me out of pity a bit?
The only thing you didn't do tha well was telling you have no friends. Fake it till you make it nigga, it's time you reinvent yourself.

>>18188137
You don't like her. Don't date her. It's not that hard.

Sadly for most people physical attraction is a necessary part of a romantic relationship. It doesn't work for you. It happens.

so, why exactly did you start to hang out with her? that's pretty much leading her on, iow, you already fucked up.

there's no easy way to let someone down since it's basically saying "i can do better than you". rip it off like a bandaid and let her deal with it.

>>18188148
I cant hang out with a girl without it going somewhere? Shes an awesome person who I enjoy being friends with, Im just not down to fuck, which is pretty important for a relationship.

I get anxiety from weed, almost every time. This isn't something that effects everyone the same, so don't feel the need to keep up with your friend. My best advice would be to only have a couple good hits. Me and my friend smoked a 0.2g joint each, I was anxious and stoned out of my mind and he barely felt anything. In my defense, I actually smoked it properly and he barely inhaled.

My point is, take it easy. Some people feel great when they smoke a ton. Other people like you and me feel like shit if we have more than a few hits.

Also being tipsy helps me loosen up. But tipsy as in one or two drinks.

>>18188057
Same desu thats why i smoke hasj

When you are smoking, if you get bad cough after inhaling take a break. From my experience watching friends and smoking myself once you start coughing after a hit or a nice drag better not smoke more, it's gonna hit you soon and go with it. If you smoke more you might get anxious, sick, or in my case low blood pressure that makes me dizzy and I actually fainted once from that (imagine having 2 stoner friends finding you, one was full on panic, thankfully the other slapped me a few times to wake me).

>I'm center, slightly right leaning.
How about you name it "copy+p of every other political commentary page on facebook" Because that's what it'll be.

>>18187999
Actually no. I'm going to specifically talk about politics in a small shitty country, my country. And i'm far more centrist than most facebook commentary pages.
Barely 1% of people in my country think the way i do, if election results are any indicator.

>>18188003
So where are you then?

Most quality girls will not want you for a boyfriend if they learn those numbers. Go with the trap. You'll only get whores and shit at this point.

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You don't have to decide your sexuality. If you find someone attractive give it a go. Don't think it too hard.

>>18187988
boo fucking hoo nigger what are you even complaining about
we have virgins that at least as old as you but here you are crying about not having enough sex

>>18187899
dox, dox, dox!

>>18187899
Obviously ditch her if you haven't already

Break up, go no contact. Don't waste trying to fix it, it'll never be the same again