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>>18186792
Find another girl. If you are asking why a girl is being a cunt, you are getting your answer of what to do: find another girl

>>18186799
No I totally have no chance nor do I want one, I just want to understand this behavior

>>18186819
It's females man. Move on

I should also note that I don't have any history of anxiety/panic attacks.

sounds like my experience having a panic attack. you think people are being dramatic when they say it's happening, but to the uninitiated it feels like you're going to fucking die. sounds like you might have some anxiety leftover, as a main factor is that "tight" soreness of chest. i recommend a visit to your pcp. stay good homie.

>>18186747
Are you fat?
How old are you?
Did your heart feel like it stopped at any point?

The ASVAB if you're not confident go to asvab bank. Com and keep doing the practice questions to refresh your mind of math and shit.

>>18186725
You have to understand that the ASVAB is a test that is taken by the most illiterate, boarder line retards in the United States. Like everything in the military- resources (even intelligence) is distributed evenly across MOS, so in the end the military will put you where they need you, regardless of your intelligence. You can spell, and read- you won't be even near the most ignorant person in the room.

>>18187011
This. Holy shit people are fucking dumb. I never studied for it and ive been out of school for years and aced it at 93.
My room mate was fresh out of school. Stayed up all night studying and still barely passed.
If you passed high school youll pass the ASVAB.

>>18186648
>so I was considering asking a friend if he could ask a girl to go to the movie with me or if that would be weird.
Do it yourself, letting a friend do it will probably not lead to success

>My other choice is to ask a girl I like that goes to my high school to go, but I've talked to her more casually about the movie and she seemed to not be interested.
Do that. Tell her you'd invite her for a drink to a bar afterwards. You'll have some time to chat. That would be what I consider a good evening

Wew lad the way you write makes you seem incredibly autistic, if you talk in a similar fashion you'll be hard-pressed to "get too close with girls romantically".
Also, are you seriously asking whether a friend should ask a girl out in your stead? Are you fucking serious?

>>18186681
>Do it yourself, letting a friend do it will probably not lead to success
This was kind of my thought, but I don't really know many girls in that area, so if I choose to do this, should I just ask if he knows anybody who may be interested and ask myself? That seems like a good idea.

>Do that. Tell her you'd invite her for a drink to a bar afterwards. You'll have some time to chat. That would be what I consider a good evening
I'm sorry, I'm in burgerland, bars are, in large towns, 10 times out of 10 21+, and even if it was 18+ I'm not sure if she is 17 or 18. So is there another casual place that people could talk at, similar to a bar?

Thank you for your thoughts, they have helped.

>>18186588
Shit I'm going through the same thing rn.
Prom is this weekend and I don't know what to do, never had gf and dont know if anyone would want me and mom wants me to go.
And yes I as well don't want to repeat when in collage.

>>18186588

you usually dont know someone well enough to invite them to your birthday until you invite them to your birthday.

people invite near strangers to their parties and social events, you dont need to be best friends first.

>>18186615
That's fascinating. I implore you to explain further. How do I know if it would be acceptable to invite a casual aquaintance to go do something?

you using condoms? that's the problem, not that you jack it

>>18186574
The fix to this shit is easy. Buy a fleshlight and masturbate like crazy with it. Or just fap by barely touching your dick.
>abstain for 2 weeks
KEKEKEKEKEK
Kid it takes 3 months or longer to fix an issue with your body. 2 weeks will never do anything.
I'd say if you can successfully masturbate with a gentle touch within 3 weeks it might be enough.

>>18186577
Did without also, more stimulation however no luck

Suddenly, she started going into more detail about the troubles she had with her husband. She mentioned that he drives her to work some days on the weekend, for no other reason than "you're not a good driver on the weekends." That seemed a little fishy to me, but she didn't say anything else about it, so neither did I.
A few weeks later, she told me that her husband told her to send him a text every time she left the store to head back home. Those two things instantly put up a red flag in my mind. Does that not sound like he's trying to keep track of her so he can have an affair?
About a week or two ago, she went home on vacation for a week. She had told me a long while ago that her father has cancer, and that nobody else seems to want to help him (her brother, mother, and anybody else who was there with him). She told me that she'd been sending him money since she left, and he now owes her over $5,000. Because of this, her entire family is beginning to cut ties with her. They kept saying they were busy the entire week she wanted to spend time with them her only week home. They stayed with her husband's family instead.
She told me that she wanted to be a nurse, and was even going to school for it back home. She dropped out to move here with her husband. Just before she left for her vacation, she told me that her old college offered her an all-expense paid, 4-year scholarship for nursing; something that they obviously don't just give away. She talked to her husband about it, and she told me that he was "fine with it." In other words, he acted like it was okay, but mind-fucked her into thinking it was a bad choice. She turned it down.
Cont. (Again)

>>18186509
>her
no, don't

We were working in the cooler about a week ago, and were talking about how things were going. She almost instantly spilled everything to me. She told me about her family, vacation, how she wanted to leave her husband but was afraid to because she felt she had nowhere to go, then she told me something I thought I would never have to deal with. She told me that he gets physical with her. He headbutts her a lot. She even said that once he almost broke her nose.
If this didn't get across, we are actually really close. I want to talk to her outside of work, but I'm afraid trying to text her would only cause more problems between her and her husband. Her husband rarely lets her leave the house on her own, so she can't do anything outside of work. She's told me that right now, I'm really her only friend. I'm terrified for her.
As mentioned before, I do really like her, but right now the priority is helping her escape the situation she's in. If we could be together in the end of it, it'd be a plus, but I just want to help her.
Should I try to text her casually? I think it would help while she's not at work, since she can't leave her house much. The main problem, though, is obviously her husband. How can i help her get away from him? She's already told me that there are plenty of times that she's thought of leaving him, and she should.

>>18186483
> In what small ways can I find joy?
Goals, hobbies, volunteering, basically anything that adds dimension to your life beyond a work drone. I am almost impressed that you lasted so long with such a lifestyle.

>>18186483
I was in a similar situation. I bought a dual-sport motorcycle and occasionally head off into the mountains for half a day (It is about 10 miles from my house to National Forest). Originally my wife gave me a mild amount of crap for buying a new motorcycle and occasionally taking off.
I looked directly at her and said "If I was single, I would live in a much smaller house and spend my non-working time riding." she got the message.
Since I'm always happier when I get back, she has come to support my hobby. I even heard her bragging to a friend about how "real men" need to go off into the wild on occasion.

have kids you enormous tard

>>18186446
I'd need to have had one.

Joke's on you, I'm still with her.

No. We were together for eight years. Our relationship was terrible and it was impossible for the two of us to grow as people because of our past together.

last bump

anyone experiencing anything similar, or anything remotely insightful appreciated

Just set tasks and reward yourself when finishing them by going into fantasy land.

>>18186433
Maladaptive day dreaming, possibly. I do something similar to you. Almost constructing a socend reality within.

>>18186392
>Is going to uni to be a teacher worth it in this day and age?

Its a shitty paying career that has among the highest rate of burnout syndrome in the working world.

Some people end up loving it though - and in some cases it is the only option you have when it comes to putting some degrees to practical use.

>>18186392
I mean, i personally would prefer suicide to working with a bunch of ungrateful brats, but you do get a strong union, government benefits, long vacations, and tenure that makes you practically unfireable. Low pay though.

>>18186400
How bad is pay?
I looked around and salaries for middle/secondary school don't look that bad. $45k is the median in my state and that's fine for me but I understand that's probably after years of tenure. Benefits seem to be OK as well.

Plus I like working with kids and helping people and history is my big interest so it looks like the best route for me as of right now. I don't want to be a code monkey or accountant my whole life and engineering is a little out of my league.

>>18186326
Ask if she wants to come over and hang out.

>>18186326
stab her 37 times in the abdomen and wear her intestines like a gangsta chain

>>18186343
Maybe it's my virginity talking but I'm having trouble with the logistics.

So I suppose I should wait until Friday so we're both free. Is this right?

What time of day do I text? Too far in advance and it would seem weird/needy. Too late and she's either asleep or already in the middle of a party or something.

We're in college (so we live within walking distance) so do I just tell her where my place is and wait for her to come over or do I go to hers or what idk.


I'm not autismo so I can handle conversation and escalating (probably lol) but I've just never done this before idk the proper procedure.

I've had girlfriends but never done any kind of hookup so I'm lost.

>>18186256
At least you'll be sharing everyone's else opinion of you.

>>18186256
Shit question, shit advice
>bee yourself

>>18186256
You're too young to use terms like 'never'. Get the fuck over yourself and your self-pity, it's aggravating as shit.

I'm in my 30s and still know I could restart everything about my life and change who I am totally.

You little shit.

>>18186140

They'll be barely noticeable and people will pay no attention unless you bring it up. I've had the same procedure done, though not on my face, and I have facial scars (thanks to dangerous hobbies) and no one I've ever met has paid any particular attention to any scar I've had.

>>18186140

from what google images shows me the scars are highly preferably to the moles.

at least with scars you can lie and say you got them in a sexy way.

my ex had a scar on his navel, not really sure where he got it, long ass scar. told a differnet story every time i asked. last i remember he said he got it while saving a bunch of orphans who's orphanage boat was on fire and sinking into the river.

either way

>>18186140
It works if you look manly anyway. You don't have to be hot, jut manly and rugged. So get in good shape and grow a beard if it suits you.

thats really rough. you can try posting a voocaroo of you humming it, and then clarify in a post the instruments you think were used, where you heard it, and post to /mu/ or even /b/

Post the video here and I'll tell you what it is.

>>18186142
>>18186172

im so stupid i somehow forgot that he has a video