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bulimics are medically documented to have increase in endorphins after purging. its a known component to the disorder.

you need help anon. this is too big a dragon to solo, and you're weak and malnutrition brain isn't going to sustain you as you hope

Doing that will fuck your teeth, throat, and heart.

>>18256515

>why is that

Because it's all in your head.

>I've been bulimic for a while

You attribute throwing up to purging yourself, to make yourself less fat, to whatever it is you like to think about why you feel the need to throw up.

Have fun eroding your esophagus and the inside of your mouth with your own stomach acids. I heard it's a real great high until you can't even eat food anymore, so there goes your bulimia and your self-image issues. Because you'll be so pretty with no teeth in your head and a feeding tube.

Smoke weed. It's a far safer high than digesting your throat.

kek its probably not even yours

Well what kind of differences and belief's do you guys have and what conditions is she giving you

if the same problem that broke u guys up is still there now n with a baby in the pic u guys arnt gonna make it poor kid how can u guys be so selfish to even think about ur personal diffrences idiots

Why do you think your going insane? What do you think is wrong with you?

>>18256466
Yes if you can afford it go for it, i dont like drugs tho.

>>18256535
Psychiatrists prescribe drugs, not psychologists.

>>18256449
>>18256449
sure, none of them pay well though. If you like kids you could be a camp counselor. If you hate kids to could volunteer to create/maintain trails with a team of people. It could be really fun, and I bet you meet cool people. You could also probably be a "fish counter" in Alaska. It's a real job, look it up.

>>18256449
Just get a stable job and go outside on your free time. People think it's important to find a job you have always fun doing but there will be times at any job when you just don't feel like doing it.

>>18256449
You know what they say, 'Do more of what you love'

Become a camp\fishing guide. Get your criminal checks done, start a company and arrange 1-3 day fishing and camping trips.

Why did you think she was cheating?

Did you apologize? Did you acknowledge that you hurt her? Did you acknowledge to yourself that it was stupid to tell her best friend that?

>>18256446

and i just panicked and my paranoia kicked in when she didnt meet up for our date at the time she said she would, i was waiting for her and started imagining her cheating in my mind, when she said she was working

Yes ive done all those things

>>18256458

So you're an insecure moron, got it.

Change your life so that drinking isn't the most interesting part of your day

>>18256421
>Do normal people just lock themselves in their house a predetermined amount of days in a week, or what?

Sorry man, sounds like you're pre-disposed to alcoholism.

Sucks, but is what it is.

I like alcohol, probably more than the next man.
I love craft beers (I've tried literally hundreds)
I love wines
I love making new cocktails (I've got my own spin on a chocolate martini)
I'm starting to love whiskey's.

But I've never really liked drinking alone, nor felt like I HAD to do it (though I definitely have drunk too much on occasion lol).

If it's an issue for you though, just don't do it man.

Find something else to do, find hobbies, start Vaping to give yourself something to do at social settings or something.

You can do the same shit you can without alcohol. If you can't, then you might have an actually problem you might need to deal with.

>>18256456

I do a ton of things that are interesting. I find all of them more interesting with alcohol. That's my problem.

>>18256476
I like drinking alone but can probably survive without it. The thing is, there's always something for me to go do that involves drinking. Every single night. It's probably a part of my city (I live in Vegas), but I never have to drink alone if I don't want to.

I'm always frustrated with the "find hobbies" argument... not specifically at you, but no one ever seems to have good advice here. It's not like hobbies replace drinking - I can still drink while playing video games, collecting comics, or something else like that. You can't always replace drinking with a physical activity, or go for a nice hike or something, if that's your hobby. My problem is, I pretty much know what I like already, so "finding a hobby" is just an exercise in "find something you don't really enjoy that's time consuming."

I know I can do many things without alcohol that I can do with it, but I'd always PREFER to do them with alcohol. Like, going to the bar with pals to watch the game and having a soda instead of a beer is going to be less enjoyable to me, because I'd prefer to be having a beer.

Are you white? Use ur white priveledge.

>>18256408

>how can I get my professor to give me a better grade

Study.

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put on wig and say u am woman nao

Yeah that's something I've never really understood. Girls are extremely immature.

There's already a thread for online dating, but whatever, I'll bite.

My advice is probably shit because I've never even online dated before, but here's what I think:

Get rid of the mirror selfie. Nothing shows you're into photography better than taking a picture of yourself with a camera in the mirror, right?

Get rid of that photo of the mountains. All photos should be photos of you.

It's good to have photos with friends to show you have a social life (so long as it isn't the first picture), but does one of them really have to be a grad photo? It's probably not a big deal, though.

The first photo should probably be one that isn't so over-exposed. Also, more of a sly, mysterious smirk, rather than a big-old smile.

As for the blurb, make it sound less like you're pitching yourself, and more like you're qualifying THEM. Tell what what kind of people are cool enough to roll with you. Do it in a low-key way, not a jerk-ass "if you like country, then press skip" kinda way, that would be too off-putting and transparently self-conscious.

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Take a photo with bullshit gorgeous lighting, with your irises lightened, dress nice, get a selfie stick and take a photo with friends (preferably mix of guys and girls, drinking, on a night out or at a pool).
Instead of the landscape pic try a nice fireside photo at a campfire.
Get a pic of you doing a skill, or playing an instrument, but casual as fuck.

Halve the emojis, it looks tryhard that you picked out so many special ones.
Try something ironic/slightly self deprecative or self aware for the first line, e.g. My name is X but you can call me Street Bone

Don't say something sucks, don't use all caps, don't just list music - try 2 or 3 artists instead of genres, and maybe talk about the places you hang out e.g. Natural habitat/usually found at The Climbing Shack etc


Also, try setting your new profile location at another city, to test the water and see if it brings in more matches, then tweak it further and try your hometown again.

Look, man. Sex is just as important as any other part of a relationship (not more important, equal). If the physical relationship isn't what it needs to be, then the rest of the relationship will suffer for it. It's unfortunate, but it's just human nature.

>>18256366
You're not just supposed to settle. If you're honestly not physically attracted to your girlfriend, I don't see much of a future between you two.

However, it's worth noting that physical attraction can blossom over time - you can start out thinking somebody's nothing special and after you've been together for a year think they're the cutest sexiest thing in the universe. I'm not saying that WILL happen to you, just that it happens sometimes and you should consider the possibility.

My impression is that you're fairly young, though, which means you're probably not going to marry this girl whatever happens. If that's the case, why stick around in a relationship you're not enjoying?

>>18256366
perhaps describe the nature and degree of sexual indifference you have to her.

And it just really fucking bothers me when girls tell me something like "You know ___ we have a lot in common, a ton of the same interests, you seem like a really fit and put together guy, you're really sweet and everything but for some reason, I'm just not that interested in you. Sorry."

I've just heard it too many times. Shit is making me want plastic surgery or something, I don't even know if it will make me more attractive but maybe placebo will help me somehow.

>>18256348
Have you tried cold approaching instead of apps?

I dunno, I'm 22, socially awkward, not a lot of friends, so I never really dated. Then a few months ago, I kind of started making an effort to start hitting on women and getting dates. Never used a dating app. I just approach women at uni.

The way I see it, with apps, you're just a face amongst thousands in a catalog. It already puts you at a disadvantage, because you're in direct competition with other dudes in an environment in which dudes outnumber women. I'd never want to use an app, because it would destroy my fragile self-esteem.

But when you approach somebody? Suddenly you're a real person, not just a carefully-angled photo with a blurb of text that you agonized over, trying to make yourself sound as cool as possible. You're already at an advantage, because most dudes don't tend to approach women in real life, and even the women who aren't interested or have boyfriends seem to be flattered and a little impressed by your guts, so even the rejection isn't that bad. Even after being rejected, I take it like a good sport and still feel good about myself, knowing I did something outside my comfort zone.

I think approaching people in real life will already set you apart from the pack of fuccbois these girls keep on meeting online.

>>18256348
>I have many insecurities
>I don't know why people don't find me attractive

Because insecurity is unattractive as fuck.

why the fuck do you have 300k for a car

No, nobody can tell. Nor would anyone give a shit, they'd just notice it's a fucking Lamborghini you pretentious fuck.

>im being offered a pre-owned 2016 lamborghini aventador for only $300k. what do??
Turn off Gran Turismo and hop back onto the bus so you can go home and lie on 4chan.

stick it in her butt instead

>>18256216
this

also mouths work

>>18256197
I kinda have this problem too. You could try lidocaine as a lubrecant and wear a condom? It takes a few mins to work. You can buy it over the counter, its the active ingredient in certain pain releaving ointments.

>>18256144
We don't get to pick our parents, unfortunately. We only try and deal with the hand life gives us. If you get dealt a shitty hand, remember to not blame the game.

yeah i got something similar

i had a stepdad who used to rape my mom. as i got older i could fight him off some, but then i was getting my ass beat

when i was a kid i was pretty social and happy. i always wanted to go out and talk to people. but then my mom, who was left by my real father, decided we were going to move in with my stepdad

he would just work and come home and drink on the couch and pass out. he wouldn't talk to anyone. he was always mad

growing up i'm starting to become more and more avoidant. all i want to do is work and come home and drink and pass out

i'm starting to practice meditation and trying to let go of all the anger i have inside. it's hard though. i'm like always mad or upset. i made some good progress in the past year though. i'm not as angry as i once was, still angry sometimes but not as much

try meditating. do some light exercise and stretch. the sooner you try and let go of what happened the better. i think

Maybe you can take the fact that you look like him not as some kind of curse, but as a positive reminder to never act like him. The fact that you worry about being a bad father means you're much better than he was. No matter what you look like.

>>18256127
The thing to take away is that life is too short to put up with people's bullshit, and the only surefire way to avoid getting caught in bullshit is to walk away from it.

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>>18256127
Counterintuitivly you can find friends or gf when you stop obsessing over having them, get your family to work with you when you show them you aren't going to work on the problems alone, and just plain be happier when you leave a career or relationship that isn't working out. You can't get these advices from elsewhere except maybe from Buddhists.

>>18256127
>Is there something g useful that we can take away from all of this?
Yes, that 4chan is probably not the place to come if you want actual advice unless you're prepared to wade through bullshit.

No your a typical female wanting attention from anoth man.All women want attention.Try working out your marriage or get divorced first.

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>>18256075

>No your a typical female wanting attention from anoth man.All women want attention

I see you've been reading your handbook.

yeah that's usually a big deal. why do you think people get divorces, it's not fun