sup /adv/ never posted here before but i dont have any close friends that are girls, but i wanted to buy my gf something, and i've never bought her jewerly before. it would mean a lot to her. we've been together for almost a year and a half and want to buy something appropriate. she likes necklaces. any advice?
Yeah. Buy her a fucking necklace.
look at the sort she currently already wears and get something similar
>color
>chain style
>chain weight
>length
>pendant color, size, etc
>simple vs ornate
shit like that
>>18432734
Check out what she usualy wears and buy something similar. IF unsure rather go for the more modest one (plain silber with maybe one small stone on the pendant or shit like that). If she likes it natural, check out nice inexpansive stones (Obsidian if sh's a goth, amber if she likes geology/ paleontologie, with an inclusion if she's into morbid stuff, ...) Check out Etzy.com.
And don't buy silver or gold plated, it will rub off and look ugly and even discolour the skin after a couple months.
Also mind the length of the necklace, most women like to stay at the same length so it matches their style.
How the fuck do you SORT YOURSELF OUT??
What in your life needs sorting out?
Start with CLEANING YOUR ROOM
>>18432678
>figure out your issues
>Sort them out
unless you want to be specific thats all we can do.
>>18432678
You're supposed to find that out for yourself genius
Is it phony to have a small percentage of confirmed chinese descent ranging from 1/16 to 1/8 and all of a sudden be really fascinated by it and want to learn mandarin and really get into Chinese culture. See it feels kinda funny since I'm a rather small portion of it and I always thought cultural appropriation was really stupid like weeaboos who worship Japanese culture but are not in the slightest bit asian. Does the fact that I actually have a recent relative who was actually full blooded chinese make it not phony? I'm kinda conflicted by the whole thing
unless you can get gibs in some form by technically being part of a protected class (say you are 25% native american), then you shouldn't give a fuck
>>18432636
Wait so are you saying i shouldn't give a fuck about being a small portion of Chinese? Or it isnt being phony cause i actually have Chinese
ancestry albeit a small amount?
Fucking americans, I swear to god.
I don't get it. When I first meet women, apparently I give off a good impression because they ask me on dates, think I'm hot whatever. But over time, it's like I become repulsive, or not really repulsive, but just that "weird guy". I don't change my behavior at all(well, I do talk more)
How do I fix this so I don't get a gf who breaks up with me 30 days later.
>>18432469
Are you being too nice? I have a friend who is funny as fuck, but he is fiercely loyal, and genuinely honest. Probably one of the best men I know, and he gets laid from time to time, but usually he gets dumped shortly after. I'm assuming women can't stand being in close proximity to true virtue for prolonged periods of time because they are competitive and can't stand feeling like the pieces of shit they are.
>>18432505
Is this my problem? I'm the same way. Funny, pretty interesting, but I am a virtuefag that approaches sanctimonious at times and loyal to what some might consider a fault.
>>18432469
Hey /fit/fag
I don't know what's your problem
But my problem is that I don't push my limits
Apparently that's what women want
Like, is it appropriate to touch her? I think no, but the real answer is yes
Should I kiss her? I think no, but again, yes.
They want YOU to push the boundaries. So if you feel a bit of reticence, she'll feel like you're dropping the ball.
Also, how much would you kill for Lu's traps?
I have been single and sexually abstinent for 4 years now and I am considering killing myself on my 25th birthday next week. I am aware that women require a man to "pass a test of confidence" and we must initiate conversation (and then they want equality) but this past year my father died my dog died and the rest of my family disowned me, they put me on the streets because I had spent so much of the last few years taking care of my dying father that after he was gone I was not in a position to provide for myself which was annoying them. I was making progress towards independence but they were impatient and ultimately I was homeless for a time this year.
My heart hurts but I bounced back from all of that; I have my own apartment, a nice car, and a good paying job. but these are all obtainable materials.
A woman is a person, she thinks , breathes and feels. I follow Christ and I have respect for women. I see them as equals, but I still have sexual desires towards them that I cannot make go away. I want to not desire the beauty of a woman anymore because the pain has become far too immense on a daily basis of being alone. I've prayed to God to take it from me and he said no.
So what do I do now?
I am not the kind of guy who wants to try to "get a woman", they are people and i feel like phrasing it like that is kind of slave like. But I absolutely neeeed the love of a woman. I really cant live much longer without it. I used all of my energy to make myself what I thought a woman wants: a finnancially stable, strong and independent man whos also in shape.
But I cant be the one to speak to an unknown woman first because of the pain in my heart. It is too great and it keeps me from experimenting with women, their fucked up games that they force men to play and the rejection that comes with it.
What do I do? I didnt used to have the means to kill myself before but I do now, and Ive spent a lot of time fighting the depression of losing my father
>I am not the kind of guy who wants to try to "get a woman", they are people and i feel like phrasing it like that is kind of slave like.
I feel the same way, although not as strong. The love of a woman will likely elude me until I die.
You have two options. Kill yourself, or try, try as hard as you can to fill the void in your life while working on yourself and maybe perhaps finding love one day.
>>18432464
Literally how is this cuck? Shut up
Do you have any friends? It would be better to have some, it is not just about wife, with Christ you will get through this, you can still change something or become monk. I think you should also get help if you can have depression or something, its not your fault if you have this. Hope its understandable, im polish catholic.
So i have been talking to a girl on snapchat for about 2 monts, i meet her 3 times, which 1 of the times we had sex.
Very early in the snapchatting she sent med nudes etc. I told the girl that i really care about her and want to see her more often, she agreed. She gets about 400 snapchat score a day (1 point for sending and 1 point for reciving) She told me before that she thinks snapchat should be used to just send pictures to eachother just for fun.
So im just wondering if anyone have any experience with something simillar, is she just sending nudes to alot of people and flirting considering she snapchats so much, and is she using me?
Btw we met on tinder.
Treat her like a fuck-buddy and nothing more.
>>18432480
But i actually care about the girl, why should i treat her like a fuckbuddy?
Fucking ask her.
Should I let my boyfriend go?
-Been together 2 years. 25 & 24
-we've been through a lot
- since I met him, I've been more sick than I ever have my whole life (serious illness Lyme disease facial palsy mono)
-I was sick on our first vacation last summer and I shoulda been in a hospital but since I never got sick I thought it was smthng that would go away in a few days. I could barely function he neglected me and almost broke up with me Bc everytnknf we did made me feel like I was about to die. He thot I was just being lazy when I had the most pain I ever had in my life. He wouldn't take care of me , said "what am I ur parent? Take care of urself" if I was hospitaliZed then, I would have never had complications from The disease Bc I didn't catch it till aftr
-I got pregnant by accidnt 5 months ago & had an abortion a month later. I was scared, he wasn't supportive of it. He kinda was, but also would say how he couldn't have a kid now, that he would pray that I would have a miscarriage, that he didn't know if he would be there or get a place w me. I didn't feel like taking the chances Bc I was renting a room & I wouldn't be able to work and raise a kid and I would have no where else to live, so I felt like I had to, i didn't wanna risk it. I cry every other day Bc of how much it hurt me
-we have a lot of stupid provlems. 2 days ago he went drinking and asked me to pick him up at 230 from his friends I ignored him Bc he lied about where he was, it's been two days and he hasn't tried to call me or anything, I asked his friend if he heard from him, he said he left his phone In the uber he took home that night. he didn't even try to call me on someone's phone since,I'm literally breaking down
I feel so old and like its hard to break up at this point. after an abortion, all I want now is to have kids& a family &before I was more focused on myself. I'm scared I'll never have a normal life.Idk If he even cares about me given what's happened&how he reacts
Your boyfriend is a douche. You should definitely move on.
Anytime you have to start a reason to not break up with "we've been through so much" you should know its something you should have left a long time ago.
None of those are positive things. All of your relationship associations are painful. Thats why it feels like all relationships will be.
But its not the case. Youre just in a really shitty one.
Walk away. Dont let yourself ho back. Dont listen when he says he will change.
He wont.
When people show you who they are, believe them.
>>18432433
The thing is that he doesn't even admit when he's wrong ever rally or says he will change either.. When I tell him my issues he just reveres it back on me, and I'm at a point where I feel like nobody will ever love me. I don't know if it's Bc of
The abortion of Bc I'm older or what, but yeah it really hurts . :( I think it's hurting extra becaus he hasn't tried to talk to me for two days. I know he doesn't have a phone but he could use someone else's or stop by. The reason I didn't pick him up is because he wouldn't do it for me, he doesn't even answer his phone in the night, and because he lied and asked me to pick him up hours before that and j said ok then he disappeared and went to a bar and tried hitting me up at 130AM. I hadn't even seen him for 9 days now. It feels so shitty.
I hope ur right.
It sucks to be single at 25, and I dropped out of college and quit my
Job because I had a pregnancy, abortion a month later, and mono during all of this, and then moved back to my moms Bc I couldn't afford where I was living after not working for so many months, now I'm at rock bottom and I feel so worthless and hopeless.. I don't even know where to begin to try and fix my life..
>>18432410
We all make mistakes, we're all human. When he said he didn't want s kid with you, that's where you know how much he loves you. Dump his ass and focus on your career and life, right guy will come along when you figure your life out. And it will be a perfect match with same aspirations in life as you...
I'm good in bed, but most girls I've been with have been pretty tame so they've been just fine with some pretty vanilla stuff. This girl I'm seeing now likes to get tied up and handcuffed and stuff like that and she's coming over tonight (we haven't had sex yet). I feel like I'll be able to adapt and make her happy, or even do my normal thing and make her happy, but was looking for some tips to make it extra special for her.
Slip your finger in her booty while you're doin doggy.
>>18432316
ass slaps as a jumping stone ?
dirty talk and foreplay
Everything around me feels fake, like I'm watching my life through a television screen.
I don't understand.
>>18432072
All around me are familiar faces
Worn out places, worn out faces
Bright and early for their daily races
Going nowhere, going nowhere
Their tears are filling up their glasses
No expression, no expression
Hide my head, I wanna drown my sorrow
No tomorrow, no tomorrow
And I find it kinda funny
I find it kinda sad
The dreams in which I'm dying
Are the best I've ever had
I find it hard to tell you
I find it hard to take
When people run in circles
>>18432072
It sounds like you've got some dissociation going on.
>>18432072
No, its perfectly fine.
[spoiler]You have been living in a holodeck your entire life. There is no way that you could disprove this fact. End transmission[/spoiler]
My doc told me that I have parkinson's last week (I'm 34, it's rare to get it that soon I know).
I thought long about it, but since my girlfriend and I didn't engage yet I waited for some minor reason to break up with her.
I didn't want her to have to go that path with me and of course told her nothing about the diagnosis.
She's a nice girl and I love her really much so it's better if she lives a happy life without having to deal with that shit.
Still I feel devastated, lonely and empty all day.
I don't really know what to do or whom to talk with.
I feel like the disease destroyed my future and I can't get it back anymore.
hey at least you can shake bottled drinks more efficiently
>>18432044
>and of course told her nothing about the diagnosis
Don't be a cunt. Let her decide based on the actual info.
>>18432053
I can't, I don't want to see her being sad because of me. She doesn't deserve this.
Is smoking as bad as (((they))) tell us? or is it just a meme? I can't see how different a light smoker is from someone who lives in a third world big city.Any articles or theorys proving it are welcome.
this has to be bait
>is inhaling carcinogens as bad as they tell us?
Gee I fucking wonder OP
>>18431998
Yes, it is as bad as they say, but if you want to do it to look cool or as a stress relief, go for it. Just be willing to spend a decent amount of money on it.
Hey I was wondering if anyone has proven methods to get over things in the past and not let it dwell on you?
Bump help me please
>>18431899
Get new things in your life. Do new things. That's how you move on.
Suicide is always an option
Seriously though, you gotta find new hobbies or refocus on the ones you have. I find that I only dwell on things when I'm at home and not doing anything. I'm not bothered when I'm practicing guitar, or lifting, so I try to do those things more often. The only way to go is up OP, you got this
I need something to do thats fun and can do by myself
>>18431809
programming
masturbation
>>18431821
Not a bad idea actually, can be quite fun and can be a great future career investment.
My cousin tried to get me to make a Tinder account.
I refused.
I is fucking annoying how he keeps bothering me about shit like that. He knows that I have never had a relationship with a woman, let alone sex, and I feel like he is trying to not so subtly get me there.
It is annoying as fuck.
Some years ago he even went ahead and suggested that he and his friends would pay for a whore for me.
I was fucking insulted by that shit.
What should I tell him to make him knock that shit off?
I have told him many times already that I have absolutely zero interest in casual relationships or just getting laid for the sake of it but he doesn't seem to get it.
Our morals and values are wholly different and there is basically nothing I find as disgusting as the sort of loose, casual sex that modern world is full of. I have zero interest in having intimate relations with anyone unless I actually love the girl in question.
Am I broken in the head or just born in a time where my views are no longer acceptable or something? I hate how it feels like I am being egged on to engage in the wanton degeneracy that I find absolutely disgusting.
a key that opens no locks is a worthless key
>>18431811
And?
>>18431814
I'm saying you are worthless
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A girl I like posted some silly joke in a whatsapp group we are in. Do I have to comment something witty under it? Or can I let it pass? I kind of feel bad also when someone posts something and no one acknowledges it in those groups but I can't think of anything witty to comment.
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how do i 'escalate' things with a girl?
recently ive been trying to be more friendly with women after i used to be more overtly flirty with them. theres a couple of girls i like but im not sure how to introduce the idea of me as a boyfriend effectively. im not particular close with either (theyre new to the group) but we've talked and hung out a few times before. what should i do?