Tips on getting fit, maturing, becoming a better person in general. etc.
First step: be honest with yourself.
Second step: stop making excuses.
>>18426689
Be insecure. I'm serious.
People are taught that they are sacrosanct and special. That's crap. You are NOT good enough just the way you are. In fact, if you're past the age of 21 and don't have a university degree and a solid job, aren't visibly fit, don't have a hobby and a steady girlfriend, you're probably a shit person who is just going through the motions in life, yet somehow still failing and falling behind.
Stop the self-pity, stop the excuses and realize that you're not special. We tend to think that people who aren't successful in life aren't putting in any effort, and that's true for the bottom 50% of the population. The top 50% however, is trying their damned hardest to beat you at the game of life, and many of them are probably winning. If you're in high school, kids are competing in state sporting competitions. If you're in university, your classmates are leaving for graduate school. If you're in a job, your colleagues are getting promoted before you. Everyone here has shortcomings, and you need to get off your ass and improve those weakpoints if you ever want to become the kind of person you've always wanted to be; smart, successful, ambitious, relentless.
Learn to not settle for what you have. Learn to work for and take what you want for yourself.
>>18426690
the first one yes.
before the 2nd one, set goals and meet them. start small and short term if necessary.
Hi there /adv/
I am a 21 year old chick who has never had sex with a dude. I am nervous because I hope I will have a relationship soon, but any time I've tried to stick anything at all up there it has been very painful. Has anyone had experience with preparing a loser like me for sex?
Thanks loads.
Just get wet. Did you break the hymen already?
>>18426674
No, I haven't. That is the problem.
>>18426677
nice dubdubs
stab urself in the bussy
Which do you prefer and why?which do you think has the better chance of surviving long term?
Falling in love because you have an intense obsessive kind of connection with someone(may or may not be sexual in nature)?
Marring someone you are compatible with in daily life (but maybe not that passionate about) and trying to make it work?
which is better? Can you give me examples from your life?
like anything it really depends on the people.
some people thrive on passion. some people thrive on structure. the two tend to be contradictory. passion can't have structure, it disrupts it.
if you're a passionate person than passion helps but that passion can burn out.
if you're more into structure than just marrying based on compatibility.
Neither. The first will fizzle out, and you'll always feel like you're missing out on something with the second if you've experienced being passion.
People you have a connection with and who are compatible with exist. Pursue them instead
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA. that's about what I think about romantic love.
How do you find meaning in life? I thought that indulging in my hobbies and having a good job would make me happy, but they haven't. I've long suspected that I'd find meaning by building an emotional bond and family with a partner, anyone able to testify?
Also, how will I know when I've found meaning? Will I feel it, or will I not realise it until it's gone?
>>18426648
do not be overly concerned with finding meaning. even if you understood what sort of definitive meaning you had in life, it would most likely not make you feel better because and could very easily cause you to feel worse than if you had no knowledge of your meaning. not having a set meaning actually frees you from having your path set and predetermined. I'm not sure if you're familiar with Rick and Morty, but there's a scene where Rick creates a robot to pass him butter at the kitchen table. The robot asks Rick, "what is my purpose," to which Rick responds, "you pass butter". The robot, distressed with its terribly mundane and stupid existence, cries out "oh my god". This is a basic yet great example of how knowing your purpose at any given moment might not be a good thing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7HmltUWXgs
>>18426654
You're right, I guess I need to derive meaning from simply being. I'd turned to existentialism to counter my nihilistic thoughts, but I need to find another way.
>>18426648
>I've long suspected that I'd find meaning by building an emotional bond and family with a partner, anyone able to testify?
can confirm
I need help becoming a normie.
I finally got into a good social circle (good friends) but I've spent so long on 4Chan/the internet in general and now I'm a complete autist. I make dank meme references, I'm awkward, and I don't know what to do in social situations. What do I do, /adv/?
>>18426644
Take a cold shower.
>>18426670
wat
>>18426644
You can start by not distancing yourself from the rest of the world by calling people normies
Normies is so god damn cringey it's unbelievable
If you're being heavily influenced by 4chan culture or internet culture and it's effecting how you act in real life it's pretty obvious you need to stop using the internet.
How can a femanon kill her libido?
A few years ago, I started 'self medicating' with ssri's for the purposes of killing my libido. Now I'm starting to deal with liver and thyroid problems broad on as side effects by large ssri doses. I can't keep up my current regime without seriously harming myself, if not killing myself, but at this point I'd rather limit myself to a year more of life before organ failure of limited libido than the alternative. I'd like to find another answer that doesn't kill me in a few more years. What can I do?
>>18426602
>How can a femanon kill her libido?
Why?
>>18426602
you might not be able to tone your libido down, but you can practice self control. I have a really high libido and it's best if I do not indulge in it for some personal reasons I have. Just don't look at porn, avoid NSFW websites, and do NOT masturbate. There was a period of many months where I did not masturbate or look at porn and that was after watching porn daily and masturbating chronically for years. You can do it too you just gotta avoid that stuff.
>>18426606
Because I'm really trying to not be a stupid slut.
>>18426617
I've tried. I've so tried. If I was a man I'd go for castration at this point.
I'm 18 and I have two things working against me and my gf. 1. I'm pretty girthy, 7 inches and I can barely get my tip in.
2. I'm not aroused by her the way I was sophomore year. back then I was extremely horny around her and wanted to fuvk her, but she was extremely reluctant. She waited too.long to be desperate for my dick, because now I can only stay hard around her mildly. Porn and fetishes to satisfy my ever since sophomore year made her seem dull in comparison.
But now I feel pathetic because I'm about to be 19 in 3 weeks and I STILL can only fit my tip in, technically making me a virgin. I can only get hard over dappung and weird porn fetishes
is sex rally Wirth it? Why would society hate 19 year old virgins? is suicide A better option to bring around despicable humans who hate virgins?
pls respond
Bruh stop looking a weird porn and talk to a therapist if you really have problems getting hard to your gf. Use lots of lube and go slow. Also fuck off with that suicide shit, not a lot of guys can say its too big. Your dick touched pussy as far as society should be concerned you aren't a virgin.
>>18426619
I buffed my mom fir a few years now but she has trouble affording it. I fap to more extreme fetishes and kinks to replicate the feeling when I first started looking at lewd images as a 12 yearbold, the feeling of taboo, the feeling of doing something g sorta wrong but sorta shameful yet OK. as the years went by I found more crazier stuff like pregnant effeminate men getting raped by tentacles. A simple nude woman can barely get me aroused, if at all.let alone the fact that I can't find anywhere to sleep with her. can't do it at her house, can't do it at mine, can't do it at a motel (they don't let 18 year Olds book. except for one that allowed 19 year Olds like my girlfriend, but only 19 not 18), can't fuck at a friends house because the last time he tried to fuck my girlfriend (inb4 cuck, she didn't want it. they aren't friends anymore and he resents us both anyway).
we tried at a target bathroom, but neither if us was fully aroused because we were nervous from the people walking. I had to fap my hardest to the pregnant hebtai girl in my head to get hard, and even when I had her sit on my dick it didn't go in and bended a bit. She wasnt comfortable either a d we did not have lube, fir what ever reason she thought lube fekt weurd in her butt.
we got kicked out.
>>18426681
>buffed
meant to say begged
My girl's baby daughter won't be OK with going to bed unless she's with us. If we put her in her crib she starts scream crying and won't stop. My girl can barely set her down without her freaking out. Tonight I managed to get her to lay down and shut up but she keeps tossing and turning and sitting up to make sure I'm still here. For the sanity of my girl and for my sleep, what can I do?
> INB4: "break up with her and her out of there."
Ear plugs (from ebay) are pretty effective at blocking out any noise, with them you would fall asleep if you were tired. However, with no noise you are kind of clocked-out of life.
Does the crib have a mobile?
If not then get one. If so them print out pictures of your faces and glue them to the mobile.
Can you move the crib into your room?
So I am a junior in college this fall an plan on attending grad school later for MS or PhD in Electrical engineering. Right now I am on track to graduate in 4 years, no extra semesters, and was wondering if taking an extra semester might help me get into better programs? Basically, it would be laid out like:
Junior year (research), summer (research?), senior year (research), summer(research?), fall 2019 graduate.
I dont have much research experience at all, so would that extra summer of research help much or no? This timeline would also allow me to take the max credits for my full scholarship and spread classes out for low credit semesters and higher grades.
Summer question marks because will be applying to REUs and some summer research programs at specific schools which is just a hope. I know i can get into research during the fall and spring though.
>>18426468
Some universities will let you take grad courses as a senior if you have the right GPA, and thus get a head start on grad school while your undergrad scholarship pays for it. I did about a quarter of my MA that way.
>>18427059
Ok I will try that, I need to ask if the scholarship covers that first.
bump
Is it weird that I'm not too traumatised by being raped?
It was an unpleasant experience but it hasn't had much of an emotional effect on me
It's been 2 years now
Male or female? And how did you rationalise it?
Whenever I lost a body party, I rationalised it by telling myself the damage was only to my physical body. We, as humans, tend to see our bodies as ourselves because of how our minds and bodies are linked, but what you really are is your consciousness. Your body can be repaired, and with the march of technology, eventually replaced. It's nothing but a shell.
>>18426396
Female
He was drunk and an asshole, he was just an acquaintance so I wasn't emotionally betrayed or anything
Men are prone to behaviours like violence and rape, that's their psychology
>>18426408
Seems like you rationalised it by developing a phobia of men. You ought to lose that. The actions of one person doesn't define half the human population. You'll never get anywhere with that attitude.
Where you drunk? Did you report it or tell your friends?
I'm reaching a low point. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if i need any advice, because i already know the answer. I don't know if i need to vent, or if i just need to talk to somebody.
I've been on the same boat for years.
What do you want to talk about anon?
>>18426377
I don't know, life i guess?
>>18426382
What about life that bothers you?
I don't think my humor is that funny. Is there any good source I should look for to help me with this?
I don't think there is any basic thing you can read that will help you to compleatly change a fundamental part of your personality.
What is your humor like? I guarantee there are at least some people on this site that share it.
A dry, somewhat surreal and sarcastic gallows style of wit works well.
>>18426376
Here is a comic I made. Not sure what but I don't find it that funny.
I am pretty sure my friends are tired of me whining about this shit.
Have you ever been in a situation where you think you are getting over someone and then you relapse and get depressed and cant stop staring at your phone hoping for the impossible? Like bruh, I was over it yesterday and now I miss her. WTF. How do i make this stop?
I'm going through something similar dude. I don't think there's a magic answer, everyone will deal with it in they're own little ways. But you have to accept that maybe you weren't meant to be with her. You may never forget her, especially if it was a significant and long relationship, but over time you'll look back at her with fondness instead of pain. You may never stop missing her, but you will learn to accept that that phase of your life is over and that now you can focus on the future. In all honesty, I wish I could feel the words I'm typing. I know I need to focus on myself, but I always find my thoughts drifting back to her in some form. Most days I'm fine, some days just suck. It's like that. You just have to find the strength to acknowledge that it was never in your power. Letting go is the hardest part, but it will happen eventually, even if you don't notice it. You can do it, anon. Just give it time.
>>18426273
DESU I feel like a little bitch right now. Like females are supposed to be the ones getting caught up with this shit, not us. She probably is over the whole thing already. Fuck man.
There has to be a way to expedite this process. I honestly dont have time to entertain these thoughts, case in point; its fucking with my mind during training earlier today, and my fight is on October! I gotta focus!
Same here lads. It'll get better, it always does. Just hang in there...
So this is gonna sound of pretty pathetic but there is this fictional character I really like, I used to draw them and RP all that jazz. I even have over a thousand different pieces of art work. So my main problem is I think I'm overly fond of them? Because whenever I see someone else post them or heaven forbid post rule 34 of them I actually get sad and my heart sinks. I honestly have no idea why, I use think Waifu and husband was a joke but fuck, I want to get over this. What do?
Now I don't think I'm completely obsessed, cause I keep that shit out of my real life and I don't waste money buying pillows or whatever merchandise. But still it's worrying.
>>18426252
what character, it matters
>>18426280
I don't want to say. It's embarrassing
>>18426629
cant be worse than half the shit ive seen, plus its all anonymous
How do I get my wife to lose weight. She is getting bigger and less attractive every day.
>>18426196
Gents, this is why you don't marry that thicc qt. They're only attractive in their prime, then they balloon after marriage.
OP just work out with her and get her to eat less, if she fights it or gets offended then that's a problem that's beyond /adv/'s payroll.
>>18426217
Whenever I'm horny I have a terrible fetish/desire to pump thicc qt's full and get them pregnant but I logically know that this is a terrible plan. How do stop this?
>>18426226
Pump dump & pray
always wear a condom to avoid the maw of the dependapotamus