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How do I start finding good relationships? 2017-06-18 12:51:44 Post No.18429063
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How do I start finding good relationships?
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I used to tell myself that I couldn't love anyone until I loved myself. That came from a combination of what I heard from therapists, as well as being a justification for avoiding the anxiety of sex or romance entirely. So I never did. Over the last 1-2 years my self-worth has improved quite a bit and has left me without a real excuse for continuing to avoid something that I have great interest in. I'd like to not have any more excuses, and I want to give escaping loneliness a real shot.
A bit of backstory. A few girls have come onto me. I half dated a couple of them. Didn't fuck either, and I broke up with both of them. Parts were good, like I finally escaped my lifelong loneliness, but then it just ended up feeling like it was more about them than us. One went crazy and got pretty obsessive (I'm still dealing with how weird that was), and the other wanted me to chase her, to shower her with platitudes all the time and boost her already over-inflated ego. Both are pretty shitty people in the end.
People are surprised when I tell them I'm a virgin. So I assume I must be desirable in some way, considering that those last two girls were the ones who made the move too. How do I start making the move myself? It's a shitty anxiety. I know I'm some kind of catch at this point, I just don't have enough motivation to try I guess. I hate being alone. In fact I almost went back to those previous flings out of sheer loneliness a few times. I want to share my life with someone, even if just for a short time. I don't really care about fucking anyone, I want to make real connections. I want a balanced relationship, I don't want to just be doing everything to please this girl for maybe some quick fuck. I want someone to be myself around.
How do I start trying? Where? How do I put aside my weird pride and just fucking bare myself to people? I'm not awkward, I'm even pretty charismatic. Just enough to avoid all of the subjects I am super anxious about. Any thoughts?
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>>18429063
I don't feel like reading your blog, but I wanted a good relationship too. I just jerked off, and my yearning went away. Go figure.
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>>18429063
And another thing; should I go nofap? I didn't fuck those girls because I didn't really want to that much; they did blow me, but to no avail (however I got them off really easily just a moment to brag). I think it was my masturbation habits honestly that made it hard for me to cum in those situations. I'm wondering if maybe I stop masturbating that I'll get sexually ravenous enough that I might have even more motivation to try and find a relationship, in addition to being able to actually orgasm with a partner.
Have people done this? Would it help?
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how old are you? you sound 23 or 24. Let me guess you miiight be as I and not approach the opposite gender but rather go for who approaches you instead. This is not necessary bad but will leave you with limited options such as girls who think they're all that or women who have nothing to lose and are desperate. Am I right? Just gotta ask is your birthday toward the end of this month?
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My boyfriend is really depressed and self-defeating and self-loathing. He's only a couple of years older than me (I'm 21) but he already feels like his life is over and opportunities have passed him by. He's got a lot of debt from college that didn't work out and is stuck living with his mom (a classic helicopter parent who takes every opportunity to put him down) a few states away.
He really believes that it's going to be impossible for him to move over here and be able to find work - but really, I'm more than willing & capable to help provide for him. Living on your own and away from abusive and harmful parents feels wonderful and I'm amazingly thankful that I was able to do that at an earlier age for myself.
I care for him very deeply, and get incredibly disturbed and stressed out when he puts himself down and talks about how he's going to end his own life before the years pass before he's able to come here - but I'm always careful to not show discomfort on my part because I know he can't help his depression.
He's a really sweet guy and I love spending time with him, but how can I put a little more hope in his life? How can I make him believe that it's possible for him to leave what he's got and that he actually deserves better?
What are some useful ways to aid someone's depression and bust through to get to him? What would YOU like me to do if you were in his situation?
Thanks in advance.
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>>18429053
Why not just sleep with someone else? No point in sticking around with damaged goods
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>>18429055
That's a pretty simple response and it does answer my question, but I have a genuine emotional connection with this fellow and would really like to exhaust all options before leaving him in the gutter. Thank you for exercising your concern though.
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>>18429053
Break up or tell him to see a therapist. You can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.
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So has anyone managed to successfully run the 'plate' dating/hookup lifestyle? I see all this red pill shit on /pol/ and reddit but I haven't met anyone in real life who actually plays that kinda game.
What do you have to say about the red pill, adv?
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That it's basically a bunch of dudes who are so tired of having girl
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>>18429049
Y'know, I was going to edit this post, but I think it's pretty true just the way I left it.
>bunch of dudes who are so tired of having girls and girl-related issues that they're practically encouraging other men to give them up completely before they've even tried
>and I honestly have a hard time telling if it's for a good cause, or if it's just a bunch of mind-warped guys thinking all women are evil despite having only met a handful in their lifetime
>I also wonder if it's to have more guys like them around so that there's more encouragement, and possibly homosexual romances that blossom from their bromancing
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>>18429051
>and I honestly have a hard time telling if it's for a good cause, or if it's just a bunch of mind-warped guys thinking all women are evil despite having only met a handful in their lifetime
They actively encourage sociopathic traits and manipulating people for personal gain. It's all about control of people and paranoia about being controlled by people. So I'd say they're pretty fucked in the head.
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How does the world work? 2017-06-18 12:29:41 Post No.18429005
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How does the world work, because I do not understand it
> Went to uni
> Studied in the field of STEM
> Got a stable job
> 6 figure salary
> Got time off, I do not work 24/7 like some freak
> Got a house
> Got a car
> I'm a great cook
> I dress well
Yet, I'm still single and a kissless virigin.
I thought women wanted a man who's stable, not some Chad or Brad dude.
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>I thought women wanted a man who's stable, not some Chad or Brad dude.
Boy do you have a lot to learn. You sound like the perfect beta male.
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>>18429005
Do you regularly interact with women of the right demographic, in situations where it wouldn't be weird for romance to happen?
Do you ask them out?
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Getting a girlfriend is not something that magically happens when you tick enough achievements, you fuckwit.
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Fags, how many hours do you waste on /pol? 2017-06-17 11:55:03 Post No.18428950
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Fags, how many hours do you waste on /pol?
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I pretty much waste all of my weekends on /pol. I think I need counseling. I really am not getting shit done. I'm just here... shitposting away my weekends. Now, that I don't fap anymore what should I do?
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Watch Jordan Peterson videos.
Read the bible.
Most importantly clean your room.
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>>18428950
Well jimmy-bob I'd suggest getting a hobby. This place is full of shitheads and you aren't going to improve it staying here. Go to /fit/. Get /fit/ and find a hobby.
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Have you cleaned your room yet?
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How Do I Stop Watching Porn? 2017-06-17 11:58:40 Post No.18428946
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How Do I Stop Watching Porn?
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2017-06-17 11:58:40
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I thought it would stop after I started going back to church. It didn't.
I thought it would stop after marriage. It didn't.
I thought it would stop after having my first baby, and a boy to boot. It didn't.
Now I'm sitting in the bathroom in shame. My toddler started pounding the door asking for me in the middle of the deed, shouting "dada". I told him I loved him, heard him cry and walk.
Then I finished.
What the fuck is wrong with me? I've been addicted to porn for nearly 2 decades. I have an incredibly high libido but my wife is rarely in the mood (she was sexually abused and raped as a child).
I quit WoW. I quit drugs and drinking. I lost 60 pounds. But I'm still as addicted to porn as ever. How can I quit?
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It's not hard dude just don't be a bitch, if I can quit the H cold turkey anybody can quit anything
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shouldn't have married the first landwhale who crossed your path
classic turbovirgin mistake
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>>18428946
You can wank without watching porn you fucking degenerate.
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I panic every time i have text with a girl.
I think way too much about what i should write and the results are lame. I have the feeling every message should be witty or exciting with subtle sex references but then i also feel its too forced and tryhard.
So how do i know what to write to girls?
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>>18428921
Just write the first thing that comes up in your head no matter how sexual, ludicrous, or stupid in may be.
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How do you overcome going blank and not having anything to say
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>>18428921
Been there son. Texting sucks because it makes a lot of sentiments seem way more harsh than I intend while making most humor come across really lame. I think it's best to reserve texting for practical things when you can
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So /adv/ this girl wants to fuck. It's awesome but we're completely out of ideas as to where to actually do it.
We're both college students that live with their parents with very minimal amounts of time that we're home alone. Best idea we've come up with is a car but obviously that has the issues of being uncomfortable and a lack of privacy so any ideas /adv/?
Pic related, car we'd be using
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This might sound gay, but maybe you two could go hiking somewhere in a secluded forest and go off the trail and have sex there?
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do it in class
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>>18428914
Cmon don't be so dense, she wanted you to spend money for a hotel room.
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planning on trying cocaine at a festival
any first time tips or things i should know about? i.e. best time to use, how i should prepare for comedown
i don't ever plan on being a regular user (don't have a stable connection or the money), just want honest advice
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>planning on trying cocaine
don't be a fucking idiot
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>>18428786
When you take the line hold your breath, a lot of first timers blows everyone's lines away.
Comedown varies from person to person to be honest, for most people you can't sleep and your body feels tired from partying, so take some sleeping pills if you can
At the end of the night sniff some water to clear all the residue cocaine in your nose, not only will it give you a nice bump, but it's also essential to have a clean nose (reduces damage to your nose)
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>>18428819
cool thanks
only thing i'm particularly scared about is future cravings, if I only have 1 gram throughout the entire festival I'm not going to end up thinking about coke for the rest of my life right?
i can socially smoke without craving nicotine, only thing i ever particularly "crave" is low doses of codeine when im hungover
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>be NEET
>live with mom
>don't pay for anything
Ok let's see my choices:
1) Go to college or trade-school, acquire over $20,000 of debt, might not get a relevant job anyway
2) Get a low paying menial job like fast-food, be treated literally worse than slaves were in Ancient Rome, way worse than serfs in feudal Europe, get paid practically nothing, certainly not enough to move out, and no woman will start a family with me because I don't make enough money
Even if I did go to college and got a successful career, enough to afford a house, wife, and children, anytime my wife wanted she could divorce and steal my kids, get half my house/money, and force me to pay alimony/child-support. This would ruin my entire life, and everything I worked for. Women are rewarded for divorce like this, and it's practically a guarantee that eventually a younger woman raised in today's feminist liberal society will eventually cheat or divorce. Women are all practically ruined.
Really my only motivation for even working is if I could get a girlfriend/wife, and have children. I'd just rather be homeless than be a wageslave today. Why work?
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>1) Go to college or trade-school, acquire over $20,000 of debt, might not get a relevant job anyway
wrong, you can get a 2 year associates degree for free with your pell grant if you go to a community college. trade school is about $8000 for your "degree" depending on where you go.
>2) Get a low paying menial job like fast-food, be treated literally worse than slaves were in Ancient Rome, way worse than serfs in feudal Europe, get paid practically nothing, certainly not enough to move out, and no woman will start a family with me because I don't make enough money
wrong again. I suggest you learn more about the way the world works firsthand before you continue your adventure called life.
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>>18428744
>Even if I did go to college and got a successful career, enough to afford a house, wife, and children, anytime my wife wanted she could divorce and steal my kids, get half my house/money, and force me to pay alimony/child-support. This would ruin my entire life, and everything I worked for. Women are rewarded for divorce like this, and it's practically a guarantee that eventually a younger woman raised in today's feminist liberal society will eventually cheat or divorce. Women are all practically ruined.
A few key rules to follow:
1) Never get married under any circumstances
2) Be careful if you live with a LTR, common law marriage is a thing
3) Get a fucking vasectomy, kids are shits and passing your genes to the next generation is an overrated concept. You will be dead one way or another so why give a fuck.
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>>18428767
>wrong again
Wrong. I would much rather be slave in Ancient Rome, or a serf in feudal Europe.
Why don't YOU learn about history, and how these classes of people actually lived, because they actually had it better than male wageslaves today in the US.
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Girlfriend Going To Vegas for 21st Bday 2017-06-17 11:01:40 Post No.18428743
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Girlfriend is going out to Vegas with her one scandalous slut friend for a 21st birthday. This is going to be a whole work week long trip 5 days.
A lot can happen, what should I expect? Give me your thoughts on this.
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She's going to sleep with a bunch of dudes. Get over it. Or don't. Like you know what she's going to do. The question is if you're a cuck or a man.
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Clearly you don't trust her, so why are you dating her? Why are you wasting her time and yours?
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>>18428753
Took the words from my mouth. She is monkeybranching off of you OP, break up and go no contact.
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My trans gf just went absolutely mad to the point of almost breaking up for no reason after being in a good mood. ls this fucking normal becouse of hormones or whatever? l'm honestly so pissed off she said pretty harsh things and l kind of held back becouse l love her and don't want the relationship to end but at the same time l'm still very angry and don't know if l should break up or not
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>trans gf
Why are you doing this to yourself? Are girls not crazy enough for you? Did you really have to go after a man who thinks that he can be a girl and now wonder why he acts like a mentally unstable person?
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Why are you dating a mentally ill man? He belongs in a psyche ward. Anyway, break up with him and go no contact. Since you are gay you should have no problem finding a new, hopefully sane, boyfriend.
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>>18428740
when will you dumb fucks realize that transgenderism is a mental illness and people with one mental illness often have more than one.
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Ive been dating muslim boyfriend for about a year. he says he doesn't believe in anything when his family is muslim, and also he has tattoos everywhere on his body. He was a drug dealer and has some criminal backgrounds. And somehow... i ended up falling in love with him.
And my problem is.. there's something odd about him.
I'm seriously in love with this guy but something is really fishy about him. When he doesn't even have decent credit score, he let his sister buy a car under his name. (We discussed about buying another car since my car is only transportation we have.) My bf and his sister wear same rings and his family members (parents,sister) call him everyday about something in arabic. My bf asked me to get married several times already and ... i just don't know what to do...i love him but i can definitely tell he is hiding something.
I confronted him about it he said lets get married then ill tell you everything. .. im sorry if theres any typos..
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>i love him but i can definitely tell he is hiding something.
>I confronted him about it he said lets get married then ill tell you everything
Hmmmmm maybe he is part of a cult.
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>>18428699
>in love with someone with criminal past & criminal background
You are retarded and deserve whatever bad things are coming your way. Use your mind sometimes, Op.
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>>18428699
>I confronted him about it he said lets get married then ill tell you everything
"Look, I know you have some questions. Here's the deal: I'll give you the sort of information that would directly weigh on your decision to marry me or not AFTER the marriage. Sound good?"
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>get baptized
>slowly but surely have a total meltdown of faith
What do?
I don't feel like talking to my bishop about it. I think he'd be biased.
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I feel like I'm open to ideas but I'm closed off to them fooling me.
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Isn't part of faith struggling with it?
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>>18428641
Look for other religions, look for logic and reason options, just don't fall for stupid shit like Scientology.
Obviously he is biased, his life depends of people's faith
Also being baptized as a toddler means nothing, because it was not your choice, to be truly baptized you have to accept it and choose it by your own will of accepting God.
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I have this white spots on the back of my throat. More numerous than in the picture
I also had this sore throat for since Thursday and it's been one of the worst sore throats I've ever had. Usually it's gone by now but it's still there
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>>18428590
Possibly strepthroat. It will pass with time, but if you want a sure diagnosis, go see a doctor.
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>>18428596
Will it pass with time? I went to the ER for a stomach issue a few days before the sore throat. I really don't want to go to the doctor again
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>>18428590
maggots or mango worms.